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Perseverance to Triumph
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Perseverance
Tell ya what I’m gonna tell
Dynamics to perseverance
6 things resilient people do
Share the adventure
Take action !
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Dynamics to Perseverance
Not just muddling through
bounce back
persist & endure
achieve success
be better for it
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Dynamics to Perseverance
More than inconvenience
unexpected unhappy
unwanted unprepared
unpleasant uncharted
unsettling unrelenting
unlucky unimagined
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Dynamics to Perseverance
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Take Action:
Considering these
dynamics, write a brief
description of a real-life
challenge, you now wish
to overcome…
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In Summary
6 things resilient people do
1 Grow as a choice
2 Stare down hard reality
3 Find higher meaning
4 Help fellow sufferers
5 Visualize the extraordinary
6 Take specific action
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# 1: Grow as a choice
We do NOT control external world
All other people
Time & events
Economics
Weather & seasons
Harm & illness
Hitting lottery
World ignorance
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# 1: Grow as a choice
We DO control internal self
Reaction to others
Own behavior
Personal beliefs
Plans (not outcomes)
Our preferences
Chosen priorities
Own decisions
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# 1: Grow as a choice
We CAN influence external world
Influence by…
conviction
knowledge
persuasion
passion
example
never by force*
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# 1: Grow as a Choice
Rules of influence
It is ineffective to focus on
things we do not control
External focus decreases
our ability to influence
Internal focus increases it
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# 1: Grow as a choice
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T Action:
ake
Write two lists concerning your
current challenge:
I do NOT Control I DO Control
• That I’mdeaf now • How I com unicat e
m
• I amunem oyed
pl • How I do j ob sear ch
• Job m ket
ar • Asking f or hel p
• Bias not t o hir e deaf • M per sonal int egr it y
y
• Technol ogy l im s
it • Lear ning new skil l s
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# 2: Stare down hard reality
Face it, you gotta face it!
A. Avoid optimism trap
B. Inventory cold hard facts
C. Grieve with passion
D. Ask for specific help
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# 2: Stare down hard reality
A.)Avoid optimism trap
Hard-wired optimism*
is denial in disguise
*People hugely underestimate chances of getting divorced,
losing a job and being diagnosed ill while overestimating
personal achievement, family fortune and life span.
-Time Magazine: The Science of Optimism
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# 2: Stare down hard reality
B.) Inventory hard facts
I lost all hearing; it’s permanent
Miss my children’s voices
Get exponentially less information
I feel isolated; talk to less people
Interpreting visual cues is exhausting
Lip reading seems impossible
Getting a job is far more difficult
Yearn for sounds of music, nature, etc.
Depleting all my money
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# 2: Stare down hard reality
C.) Grieve with passion
Holding back is unhealthy
Pain shared helps all
Allow the process*
*Sadness, anger and depression are sane reactions to great
loss. Grieving is a healthy process with stages that should
be experienced, not denied.
- Coping with Grief and Loss: HelpGuide.org
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# 2: Stare down hard reality
D.) Ask for specific help
Admit it (acceptance)
Do not assume they know
Show exactly what to do
Never beg or apologize
Praise their efforts
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# 2: Stare down hard reality
3
T Action:
ake
List all hard facts; select one item
and describe how others can help:
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# 3: Find a higher meaning
Well, at least…
Nature is more vivid
My eye sight has improved
I have greater insight into others
I comprehend more with captions
I made new friends who get it
I’m inspired by others’ feedback
I am better at sharing my heart
I’m more connected with my kids
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# 3: Find a higher meaning
4
T Action:
ake
Write your own list of lessons
learned or other positive outcomes
that resulted from your difficulty.
Caution: List only firm convictions, facts or actual
events. This is not a wish list or ambiguous hope
that something good will come. It must be real.
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# 4: Help fellow suffers
If in doubt, help others
Motivates to find solutions
Gets you out of own head
Increases network
Feels better about self
Gives perspective (happy I’m me!)
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# 5: Visualize the extraordinary
Nothing heals as vision!
Visualize triumph
by imagining a
specific scene of
hardship overcome
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# 5: Visualize the extraordinary
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T Action:
ake
Imagine your specific scene. Write it
down and replay it over & over.
Caution: Do not dream the physically impossible.
Do not envision a “cure” to your current plight,
(e.g. I will always be deaf).
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# 6: Take specific action
Nothing happens if it doesn’t
Memorized Sarah’s speech
Wrote daughters a poem
Started new blog
Took sign language classes
Contacted HLAA / ALDA
Dusted off telescope
Started networking
Obtained great job references
Created this presentation!
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# 6: Take specific action
6
T Action:
ake
Write your own list of actions that
you can do right now or presently
to either deal with your problem
or move toward your vision.
Note: Include on your list to complete the exercises
suggested during this training.
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In Summary
6 things resilient people do
1 Grow as a choice
2 Stare down hard reality
3 Find higher meaning
4 Help fellow sufferers
5 Visualize the extraordinary
6 Take specific action
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In Summary
BPJ quotes to summarize
Change you; change the world
Face it, you gotta face it!
Grieve with passion
Nothing heals as vision
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In Summary
BPJ quotes on key points
Visualize the extraordinary!
If in doubt, help others
Nothing happens if it doesn’t
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In Summary
Exercises so you take action
1 briefly describe the challenge
2 list what you control and not
3 write how others can help
4 list lessons learned by suffers
5 describe extraordinary scene
6 list your “To Do” action items
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