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Beauty isn't an illusion. Perfection is. But for many Main Line women, beauty and perfection are inexorably
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B Y D A W PUBLISHED APRIL .17, 2007 AT 12:00 AM R
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Beauty isn’t an illusion. Perfection is. But for many Main Line women,
beauty and perfection are inexorably linked.
Terri Cohen is five feet, five-and-a-half inches tall and 115 pounds. She’s
got long blond hair, luminous blue eyes, a contagious smile and the
youthful look of a woman many years younger than 41. In jeans, a
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“I always wanted a wrap dress,” she says. “But I never thought I’d look
good in one. I finally went to Nordstrom the other day. It took a long time, but I tried one on. It was
bigger than it should have been. You couldn’t imagine how long I stood there, with my back to the
mirror, petrified to turn around. It took such a process to get myself to look.”
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Her biggest fear? “That I was going to look like the backside of a barn,” she admits. “When the sales
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2. three years of rehab and here I was scared out of my mind to see myself in the mirror.”
Cohen faces moments like these almost every day. An anorexic since childhood, the Villanova
resident has been an “emotional eater” for as long as she can remember, always choosing comfort
over nourishment. She struggled with her weight in high school and college. At her heaviest, Cohen
was 138 pounds; at her lightest, 103. What she remembers most is being teased. “I can still hear
things being said about ‘that fat girl,’” she says.
When she was 18, Cohen stopped eating completely. In 1990, while in grad school, she wound up in
rehab. In 2001, she was hospitalized twice. Cohen was a mother of two at the time and had been
living on a diet of laxatives, sushi and water for six years. At 36, she was diagnosed “with the bones
of an 80-year-old” and required extensive dental work to replace her decaying teeth.
The lowest of lows came for Cohen when she was placed in the psychiatric ward at Bryn Mawr
Hospital, where she was given 11 different medications, including two anti-psychotics. “I was 106
pounds, and that was the diet they put me on,” she recalls.
At some point in their lives, far too many women have felt unbearably large and equally invisible,
when the only clear thought is, “I’ll just stop eating until somebody notices.” Fad diets; days ruined
because they couldn’t fit into their favorite jeans; heartbreaks or arguments so awful they didn’t eat
for days; and the sense of failure that arose when, out of nowhere, the appetite returned.
“For so many years, I didn’t find value in myself or my words,” Cohen says. “I didn’t know how to
get out things I was feeling—how to get rid of anxiety. The only way I could have a voice was to use
my body.”
Today, Cohen conquers these low mo-ments with her feet. “I feel strongest and most beautiful when
I’m running,” she says. “I eat because I need to fuel myself and I need my kids to see me eat so that
they can see I am taking care of myself. I can’t not eat and then expect them to eat. I cook for my
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Kaplan points out that not all eating disorders are solely the result of a poor body image. Typically
there’s an underlying psychological component. And the physical toll can be devastating.
Anorexia, bulimia and binge eating put massive stress on the digestive system and other organs,
leading to stomach, heart and kidney problems, irregular periods (or none at all), dehydration,
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dental problems and more. “Eating disorders affect every organ,” says Kaplan. “But the most
concerning side effects impact cardiac health, fluid and electrolyte balance, the gastro-intestinal
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3. and endocrine systems, the thyroid, and bones.”
While anorexia has been around for generations, the media and other modern societal influences
have accelerated its proliferation. “Kids have an innate desire to compare. They learn very young
that it’s bad to be fat and they get teased if they’re overweight. A lot is subliminal,” Kaplan says.
Kaplan and Terri Cohen share something in common. Not only is Kaplan Cohen’s doctor, they are
both involved with the Jenkintown-based A Chance to Heal Foundation. Started in 2005 by Ivy
Silver and her daughter, Rachel, who suffered from anorexia, the organization has gained much-
deserved visibility for its innovative philosophies and programs. Its overriding mission is to obtain
early diagnosis, financial support and quality care for those with eating disorders, while increasing
awareness of the societal factors that lead people down that path.
One of A Chance to Heal’s major goals is getting its representatives into schools to talk with teens
and present real information regarding self-esteem, body image and nutrition—a proactive strategy
that’s one of the keys to prevention.
It’s hardly surprising that women yearn to be thin and beautiful—and covet whatever might help
them attain their version of perfection. We’re bombarded with images and messages everywhere we
turn. But it’s not just about Hollywood, fashion and the media.
“There’s more to the psychology of this than wanting to be Paris Hilton or a supermodel,” says
Cohen. “We can throw all the magazines away, but we still have mirrors and we still have each other
to look at and compare ourselves to. Poor body image didn’t just start in 2007 .”
She’s right, of course. But current cultural influences are still a huge factor.
“Our obsession with outer beauty isn’t new,” says Jean Kilbourne, a former model and renowned
advocate for positive body image who also works with A Chance to Heal. “But the standards have
changed. Never before has the ideal been to be skeletal—or homogenous.”
Kilbourne sites many reasons for this seemingly universal obsession with thinness, one being the
subliminal suppression of women. “On the deepest level, there is a subconscious terror of women
being too big, too powerful,” she says. “Go ahead and have your careers, but don’t take up too much
space.”
If that sounds far-fetched, think about this: At a time in history when there are more influential
women than ever, most of us know far more about those who look good than those who do good.
Women who are actually changing the world often are invisible to the ones who stand to gain the
most from their accomplishments. “It doesn’t make sense,” says Kilbourne. “We’re giving our girls
more opportunities to expand their horizons, yet the emphasis on beauty is greater than ever.”
Worse, says Kilbourne, is the increasing sexualization of young girls—and it starts with the clothes,
which are typically more suggestive than sweet. “Plus, everything is geared toward a V-shaped
figure, which most models have,” says Kilbourne. “But 95 percent of women are pear-shaped. Too
many are trying to fit into clothes that aren’t cut for them.”
Kirah Miles remembers what it was like to try and live up to that ideal. An Agnes Irwin graduate and
currently a girls’ lacrosse coach there, she had her own bout with bulimia during high school. “It’s
the hardest thing to convince 13 and 14 year olds of their uniqueness,” she says. “Every magazine
you look through—from US Weekly to Health & Fitness—shows someone you’re supposed to look
like. Even looking at your peers and comparing yourself is dangerous. You don’t see the difference
in bone structure or size.”
Research for Dove soap’s “Campaign for Real Beauty” revealed that out of 3,000 women surveyed
in 10 countries, a mere two percent thought they were beautiful, three-fourths said they were
attractive and half thought their weight was too high. “Women don’t tell themselves they’re
beautiful; they don’t know how,” says Kilbourne. “Instead, they’re generous with critical self-talk,
and the vast majority start the day with a bout of self-loathing. Too much emphasis is on how we
look when it should be how we feel and what our bodies can do.”
THIS NOTION OF body image—how we see ourselves, how we think others see us, and how we
physically feel living inside our own body—is complex. Our physiology, overall health, ethnic or
cultural identity, social experiences and relationships all play a role in how we feel when we look in
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4. the mirror. “Body image is about what you see that others don’t and what you perceive others see
that they don’t,” says Terri Cohen. “It’s what happens when you look at me vs. when I look at me.”
Problems arise when perceived imperfections dominate one’s self-image. For teenagers, that might
mean avoiding social situations, activities or sports; showing a reluctance to speak up at home or
school; or lacking the confidence to express an individual sense of style. For parents, sincerity and
specifics are key when dealing with teens.
“Blanket statements don’t work,” says Kilbourne. “Be specific in your praise. Compliment your
child’s sense of style, their awesome soccer goal or an interesting science report.”
The same rule applies to physical appearance. “Don’t say, ‘You look beautiful.’ Say, ‘I like the way
you did your hair’ or ‘That shirt is flattering; it matches your eyes.’ Too much blanket praise leads
to narcissism, and that creates another set of issues,” Kilbourne says.
Modeling is also important. Jane Shure, a Philadelphia-based psychologist and co-founder of
Selfmatters.org warns moms not to criticize themselves in front of their daughters. Saying thing
like, “I’m fat” or “I can’t eat that” sends a message of anxiety and self-doubt.
Parents should avoid the topic of dieting when their daughters are around. Too much exposure to
weight and diet woes can put young girls on a path to an eating disorder—especially if the women in
their lives express similar dissatisfaction and are within their normal weight range.
If your daughter participates in sports, watch how much she eats and drinks. A strict diet can be a
detriment to her performance, and drinking less water to lose weight can lead to dehydration.
Skipping meals isn’t a good idea either—kids are likely to overeat at the next meal just because
they’re so hungry.
“Eating healthy is very different from restricting, and weight is not across the board,” Shure says.
“We need to focus on finding a weight that corresponds to our body type, our food preferences and
the amount of exercise we do. Rarely do you hear people saying, ‘I want to be at this weight so I can
eat healthy, exercise and feel good.’”
That said, teens tend to have a lot of misinformation about what foods are appropriate for their age
group. “Certain fats can be good for hair and skin, but most people think all fats are bad,” says
Shure. “The new craze is no/low carbs. But you have to know the difference between the good and
bad carbs.” Teens should consume a minimum of 1,600 calories a day—and multivitamins won’t
make up for a lack of nutrients from food. General guidelines call for up to 2,200 calories per day
for 11- to 18-year-old girls and 3,000 calories for 15- to 18-year-old boys.
Contrary to popular belief, boys and girls feel similar pressures to be physically attractive, even if
that pressure manifests itself in different forms. For boys, weight-class restrictions in high school
and college wrestling leagues have caused a recent stir—so much so that new guidelines have been
established to discourage crash dieting. And young men are susceptible to anabolic steroids and
growth hormones in their quest for the perfect body—substances whose use and abuse can carry
serious health consequences.
We all want to feel attractive. But more importantly, we want to feel confident, strong and capable
of participating in any activity we desire. And while no one will argue that childhood obesity is a
growing concern, thin doesn’t always equate to healthy.
“Kids need to learn that a healthy mind and a strong body go together,” says Cohen. “The only way
to get a healthy mind is to have value within yourself above and beyond how you look. When you
find that value, then you will naturally take care of yourself and you won’t worry about looking like
anyone else but you.”
Learn more at campaignforrealbeauty.com, jeankilbourne.com and achancetoheal.org.
Charting your Body
Body mass index (BMI) is a measure of body fat based on height and weight, and is a reliable
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5. indicator of total body fat. It’s also helpful in assessing overall fitness and reassuring doubtful
women and teens that they are within a healthy weight range. Assessments are made based on
the following parameters:
Weight BMI
Underweight Below 18.5
Normal 18.5 - 24.9
Overweight 25 - 29.9
Obese 30 and above
The chart below shows approximate BMI and potential level of risk for obesity-related diseases.
BMI is calculated by matching your height in the first column with the weight ranges in the
adjacent columns.
BODY MASS INDEX
RISK LEVELS TABLE
High
Minimal Moderate
Risk
Risk Risk
BMI
BMI -25 BMI 25-29.9
Height 30+
(Healthy) (Overweight)
(Obese)
4’10” -118 119-142 143+
4’11” -123 124-147 148+
5’ -127 128-152 153+
5’1” -131 132-157 158+
5’2” -135 136-163 164+
5’3” -140 141-168 169+
5’4” -144 145-17 3 17 4+
5’5” -149 150-17 9 180+
5’6” -154 155-185 186+
5’7 ” -158 159-190 191+
5’8” -164 164-196 197 +
5’9” -168 169-202 203+
5’10” -17 3 17 4-208 209+
5’11” -17 8 17 9-214 215+
6’ -183 184-220 221+
6’1” -188 189-226 227 +
6’2” -193 194-232 233+
6’3” -199 200-239 240+
6’4” -204 205-245 246+
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