In some cases, divorce is not only a good idea, but it can be the only course of action. Physical abuse, threats, and affairs are just a few of the more serious problems that need immediate attention.

1. Is Divorce a Necessity or an Excuse?
In some cases, divorce is not only a good idea, but it can be the only
course of action. Physical abuse, threats, and affairs are just a few of
the more serious problems that need immediate attention.
When your physical or emotional safety is in question, or infidelity
came between the couple, it’s understandable that a divorce must
follow. That said, too many couples file for divorce each year
because of less serious reasons that are rooted in selfishness more
than necessity.
The following are a few of those common excuses you’ll hear from a
couple looking to justify their separation. Examine them for just a
moment.
It’s better that the kids don’t see us fighting
Is it better for them to not see one parent at all though?
How will a son know how to be a good father if his father isn’t anything more than occasional visits to
Tacoma, child support, and birthday gifts to him? How will a daughter know how to work through a
relationship if she sees her mother give up so easily?
The spark’s gone from the relationship
If by spark you mean butterflies than that’s understandable.
It happens to everyone, most especially when they start focusing on themselves more than their spouse.
A great way to get them back is to focus on your spouse again.
Find reasons to be in awe of the person you married. What is it about him or her that amazes you,
because those things will help reawaken the butterflies in your relationship?
Of course she’s not the same girl you married twenty years ago. She grew up.
She changed. In fact, so have your children.
Your children have transformed from helpless infants to college intellectuals in that twenty years. In that
time they’ve changed who knows how many times.

2. Do you wish they had stayed helpless infants for life? Of course not, you welcome change in their lives
because they’ve become interesting, better people for it.
Have you ever stopped loving them throughout all the change, even when tensions grew high and you
weren’t sure if they meant it when they said they hated you? It’s not even really a question because
your children will have your love forever.
So why is that different from the person who helped you raise those kids? People change.
They don’t always turn for the better, but neither do kids when they become teenagers. The thing about
change is that it is always happening.
Glory in the ability to change and believe your spouse can change. When you stop worrying about who
they were before and focus instead on who they can still become, you see someone you can love.
You don’t understand our situation, it’s different
How is it different when you look at it from an outsider’s
perspective and see a common excuse?
These are some of the most common excuses you hear from
couples looking for a divorce. At the core of each concern is
a solution that could save the relationship.
Not only could it save it, but many of these couples find
themselves happier than they ever were before. What
changes?
They put aside their selfish excuses and focus on the other
person again. That selfless focus is what helps return love, happiness, and excitement in a relationship.
So instead of paying child support in Tacoma, visiting on occasional weekends, and despising every
contact you have with an ex-spouse, a man and woman can resolve their differences and create a
deeper bond than ever before. Doesn’t that sound like a better idea in the long run?
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