4. THE ICEBURG: Four Interrelated Human Dimensions: INTERPERSONAL INTER-GENERATIONAL INTRA- PSYCHIC UNIVERSAL-SPIRITUAL
5. COMMUNICATION There are 5 COMMUNICATION STANCES according to Congruence Therapy: Blaming: accuse, point the finger at, attribute Placating: pacify, sooth, appease Super-reasonable:nothing gets to you, turn a blind eye Avoidant:irrelevant, withdrawn, sarcastic, indirect Congruent: attending, awareness, acknowledgement, alignment
7. THE HOUSE WITH FOUR DOORS,HOW WILL YOU GET IN? INTERGENERATIONAL: FAMILY OF ORIGIN INTRAPSYCHIC: PSYCHOLOGICAL UNIVERSAL-SPIRITUAL—YEARNINGS AND QUALITIES OF BEING INTERPERSONAL--COMMUNICATION
14. Circuit 1:FAULT LINES LIMITED RANGE AND DEPTH OF COMMUNICATION (SEE 5 STANCES) OVERFUNCTIONING OR UNDERFUNCTIONING SEPARATE ACTIVITIES EMOTIONAL AND PHYSICAL ABUSE RECURSIVE LOOP LINKS PAST AND PRESENT
16. Circuit 3: Exacerbation Opens up earlier wounds, over and over again Exaggerates imbalance in relationship (superlatives like: ‘always, never, constantly)
17. Circuit 4: Relapse ‘Nothing has changed in my life’ or ‘we are right back where we started’ Fault-lines become engrained and perhaps ‘fissures’ Distress precipitates relapse (crisis driven)