Urban Woot (http://urbanwoot.com/) has commissioned a series of Salons, hosted at Blacks private members club in London. I was delighted to be invited to host the first one. I hosted a discussion around time. I've studied many personal development approaches and I found Zimbardo's work on our orientation to time (whether habitually we look back or forwards, or enjoy the moment) impactful. Urban Woot has a mission of living a joyful life in an urban environment - and for me having the balance of time perspectives has been a significant contributor to me living a joyful life!

1. Getting a
grip of time
Suzanne Hazelton
working with individuals and
businesses to THRIVE!

2. Get a Grip of Time
Suzanne Hazelton
Urban Woot
On the Couch Salons
Blacks Club

3. Accelerate
http://youtu.be/3dDoz_u9H7E?t=38s

4. How do you make progress towards a
deadline?
MBTI: Judging – Perceiving Dimension

6. Getting a
grip of time?

7. You check your phone shortly after
waking tomorrow morning.
There’s a text from your bank
saying:
“Someone deposited £1440 in your
checking account last night. It’ll
only be there today. Whatever you
don’t use will be removed at
midnight.”
What would you do?

9. “Don't say you don't have
enough time.
You have exactly the same
number of hours per day that
were given to Helen
Keller, Pasteur, Michaelangelo,
Mother Teresa, Leonardo da
Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, and
Albert Einstein.”

11. Can time be
„mastered‟?

12. You can’t put your arms around a memory.
The skin you scuffed climbing the black railings
of school, the fingertips that learned to grip
the pen, the lips that took that first kiss
are gone, my friend. Nothing has stayed the same.
The brain? A stockpot full of fats and proteins
topped up over a fire stoked and tended
a few decades. Only the bones endure,
stilt-walking through a warm blizzard of flesh,
making sure the whole thing hangs together,
our lifetimes clinging on as snow will lag
bare branches, magnifying them mindlessly.
Dear heart, you’ve put a brave face on it, but know
exactly where the hugs and handshakes go.
Paul Farley

13. “In order to say
‘no’, you need a
burning ‘yes’”
~ Stephen Covey

14. Time
Perspectives

18. NB: Original from: http://www.thetimeparadox.com/zimbardo-time-perspective-inventory/

19. “I used to envy the friends who
always seemed to have such a
good time. They might be doing
much the same things as I
did, …, but where I found the things
I did always ordinary and mainly
dull, these friends were always
involved in events which were
interesting and exciting. It took me
years to realise that the differences
between these friends and me was
not in what we did, or what we felt
about what we did, but how we
talked about what we did.”
~ Dorothy Rowe (1988)

23. Living joyfully …

24. Passive and Constructive Active and Constructive
“That’s good news.” “That’s great, I know how important that
promotion was to you! We should go out and
celebrate and you can tell me what excites
you most about your new job”
(Nonverbal communication: little or no active (Nonverbal communication: maintaining good
emotional expression.) eye contact; displays of positive emotions
such as genuine smiling, laughter and
appropriate touch)
Passive and Destructive Active and Destructive
“What are we doing on Friday night?” “That sounds like a lot of responsibility to
take on. There will probably more stress
involved in the new position and longer
hours at the office.”
(Nonverbal communication: little or no eye
contact, turning away, leaving the room) (Nonverbal communication: displays of
negative emotions such as furrowed
brow, frowning.)

26. References
Positivity Ratio: http://positivityratio.com/
Time Perspectives: http://www.thetimeparadox.com/
RSA Animation from Zimbardo on Time Perspectives:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A3oIiH7BLmg
Accelerate: http://youtu.be/3dDoz_u9H7E?t=38s
Berne, E. (1971). A layman's guide to psychiatry and psychoanalysis (Extensively revised and
enlarged ed. ed.). Harmondsworth: Penguin.
Boniwell, I., Osin, E., Linley, P. A., & Ivanchenko, G. V. (2010). A question of balance: Time
perspective and well-being in British and Russian samples. The Journal of Positive
Psychology, 5(1), 24-40. doi: 10.1080/17439760903271181
Fredrickson, B. (2009b). The Positivity Ratio. Retrieved 12th March, 2011, from
https://www.positivityratio.com/
Fredrickson, B. L. (2001). The role of positive emotions in positive psychology: The broaden-and-
build theory of positive emotions. American Psychologist, 56(3), 218-226. doi:
10.1037/0003-066x.56.3.218
Zimbardo, P. G., & Boyd, J. (2008). The time paradox : the new psychology of time. London: Rider

27. Contact Details
@SuzanneHazelton

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29. Thank You!
The next salon is on Taste, 23rd January 6.30 to
8.30pm hosted by Shell Grayson, Editor of
Nature Magazine
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30. ADDITIONAL SLIDES

31. Positive Psychology
Psychotherapy Positive
is a general term referring to Psychology psychology
therapeutic interaction or seeks "to find and nurture
treatment contracted is an academic and applied
discipline that involves the genius and talent", and "to
between a trained make normal life more
professional and a scientific study of mental
functions and behaviours. fulfilling", rather than
client, patient, family, couple, merely treating mental
or group.
illness.

32. “When you are courting a nice girl
an hour seems like a second. When
you sit on a red-hot cinder a
second seems like an hour. That's
relativity.” ~ Albert Einstein

33. “Time is the substance I am made of.
Time is a river which sweeps me
along, but I am the river; it is a tiger
which destroys me, but I am the
tiger; it is a fire which consumes
me, but I am the fire.” ~ ― Jorge Luis
Borges, Labyrinths

34. Developing Positive Emotions
Strengths
Savouring
Acts of
Kindness
Gratitude
Balanced
time
perspectives
Positive Emotion
Living joyfully
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35. Negative has more impact than positive

36. You check your phone shortly after waking tomorrow morning.
There’s a text from your bank saying, “Someone deposited $1440 in your checking
account last night. It’ll only be there today. Whatever you don’t use will be
removed at midnight.”
What would you do?
If it happened to me, I would think, “OK, this is no little thing. I’ve got some
options:
•I could spend it.
•I could save it.
•I could invest it.
•I could give it.
But there’s one thing I wouldn’t do: Ignore it.
Would you?
That’s really what happens every day to each of us
But it’s not dollars.
It’s minutes.
Every day, we get 1440 minutes. We start the day with them, and they’ll be gone when the day is over.
At the beginning of the day, we can choose what to do with them. If we wait until the end of the day, those choices are made for us
by default.
The good news is that it happens again tomorrow.
And the next day. And the day after that.
But not forever.
So, we’ve got 1,440 minutes today (less, unless we’re reading this at midnight). What do we need to know to make good use of
those minutes?
1.Time is limited. There will come a day when those daily deposits stop. So it’s important to make sure we use each day’s minutes
wisely.
2.There are no days that do not count. Each day is unique, and provides unique opportunities. If we ignore those opportunities
today, they’re gone forever.
3.Our future will be determined by our daily choices.
1.Good choices today will pay dividends in our future.
2.Bad choices today will make withdrawals from our future.
3.Not making any choices today gives our future away.
4.Nobody becomes an overnight success. Nobody becomes an overnight failure. It’s the culmination of our daily choices.
5.If we’ve been making bad choices (or no choices), we can change that today. One good choice moves our future forward.
Yesterday is gone, and tomorrow isn’t here yet. Worrying about either one will distract us from being intentional about today.
So, how will you use your 1,440 minutes today?

37. Contact Details
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38. Getting a
grip of time
Suzanne Hazelton
working with individuals and
businesses to THRIVE!