This is the first of an 8-part series o

1. BUILDING THE HOME
A Series of Lessons

2. BUILDING THE HOME
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Consult the Architect

3. Introduction
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Home and family are in serious decline
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Marriages are falling apart
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Difference in “home” and “house”
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Use analogy of building a house, apply to home
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What if your house burned to the ground?
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Lose – THINGS
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Still have home, family, memories, character
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Today – 3 Demands of the Architect

4. Text – Genesis 2:21-24
21 And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall on
Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs,
and closed up the flesh in its place. 22 Then the
rib which the Lord God had taken from man He
made into a woman, and He brought her to the
man. 23 And Adam said: "This is now bone of my
bones And flesh of my flesh; he shall be called
Woman, Because she was taken out of Man." 24
Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother
and be joined to his wife, and they shall become
one flesh.

5. SEVERANCE
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LEAVE FATHER AND MOTHER
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Cut the cord with parents
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Parents – cut the apron strings
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Children – no longer dependent
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Love, respect, honor, seek advice
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At wedding – father “gives away” the bride

6. SEVERANCE
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LEAVE FATHER AND MOTHER
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How old is she, Billy Boy, Billy Boy?
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How old is she charming Billy?
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Three times six and four times seven
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Twenty-eight and eleven.
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She's a young thing and cannot leave her
mother.
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NOTE: She is 85 years old.

7. SEVERANCE
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LEAVE FATHER AND MOTHER
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Problems will arise in every relationship
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DON'T call your parents
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CALL your spouse
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In argument some say, “Do what I want or I will
go home to mama.”

8. PERMANENCE
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JOINED TO HIS WIFE
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KJV - “cleave”
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Cleave = bound, glued, stick together
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Greek word – means “to glue”, join together
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Winston Churchill - “Wars are not won by
evacuation.”

9. UNITY
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BECOME ONE
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Not instant – Work at it, learn to become one
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Blend your:
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Temperaments
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Gifts
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Habits
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Backgrounds
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Values

10. UNITY
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BECOME ONE
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Unity is not a duplicate, a clone
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Uniformity = donut machine, assembly line
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Unity = 2 people who blend into each other

11. The Floor Plan
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Proverbs 24:3-4
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3 Through wisdom a house is built,
And by understanding it is
established;
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4 By knowledge the rooms are
filled With all precious and
pleasant riches.

12. The Floor Plan
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BUILT WITH WISDOM
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Built –
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To construct, repair, assemble, put together
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Building takes time and energy
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Wisdom –
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Seeing with discernment
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Use your “common sense”

13. The Floor Plan
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BUILT WITH WISDOM
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ESTABLISHED WITH UNDERSTANDING
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Establish –
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To erect, put upright position
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Set the foundation and build from there
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Understanding –
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Responding with insight
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Seek to understand each other

14. The Floor Plan
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BUILT WITH WISDOM
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ESTABLISHED WITH UNDERSTANDING
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FILLED WITH KNOWLEDGE
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Filled –
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Overflowing
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More than just “getting by”
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Knowledge –
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Learning with perception

15. Final Thought
Charlie Shedd, author
“Marriage . . . is not so much
finding the right person as it is
being the right person.”