1. MOTIVATIONAL REPORT
Getting Through Your Break-Up
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The end of a relationship is almost always painful and emotionally
challenging. As disastrous as it is when it happens, though, you do
have the strength to put the relationship in your past and move
forward. How can you find this strength?
Consider the following suggestions to hasten your recovery process:
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2. 1. Acknowledge your feelings, at least to yourself. Admit that you
feel bummed out, rejected or incredibly disappointed in how
things turned out. These are human feelings and you're
entitled to them.
2. Write in your journal. Even though you might not often write
about personal things, when you're experiencing the end of a
relationship, journaling will provide you the space and time to
"empty out" your feelings.
• Document everything you feel and why. Record questions you
lack the answers for. After a few weeks to a month of writing a
couple of minutes each day, you'll notice your troublesome
feelings beginning to subside.
1. Recognize a break-up as opportunity. Even though this is tough
to do, view your break-up as a time to expose yourself to
different activities, people and social situations.
• Try a new sport, like tennis, or do Pilates. Take an interest in
the theatre. The key is to utilize your extra time in productive
ways.
1. Learn something new. After you go through a break-up, it's
good to stretch your mind a bit to give yourself something else
to think about. Find a topic that's interesting to you.
• Take that language class you always wanted to take or a
photography course to learn how to snap great photos. Even
just checking out interesting non-fiction books from the library
can be a wonderful intellectual adventure.
1. Focus on your body. Think about areas you want to maintain or
improve.
• For example, you may be thrilled with your arms or strong legs.
Or maybe you have some "trouble spots" you'd like to work on.
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3. Take up an exercise to strengthen or tone those areas of your
body. This is a great way to enhance your self-esteem.
1. Expose yourself to new experiences. For example, maybe
you've always wanted to travel or try vegetarianism. Now you
can concentrate on undertaking such projects.
• When you go through the end of a relationship, avoid staying in
the emotional pain and angst of it. By experiencing new things,
you refresh and renew your existence. Trying new activities
illustrates that you've chosen to move on and be optimistic.
1. Communicate regularly with a close friend or family member.
Sometimes, just having someone to talk to is all you need to
get yourself on the road to recovering from a relationship split.
Find a person whom you believe will listen and give you honest
feedback.
• Share your thoughts and feelings about the break-up until you
no longer feel the need.
• Seek support when you need it, before your mood drops
further. This is the smart thing to do any time you're down,
regardless of the reason.
1. Recognize that in order to get over it, you've got to go through
it. In reality, trying to just "skip over" your feelings about the
relationship's termination tends to delay your overall recovery.
• Once you allow yourself to feel the feelings and express them
in some way, you can then move forward unfettered.
Experiencing a relationship break-up might be one of the most
challenging experiences you'll ever have. If you act on these
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4. suggestions, you'll be surprised at how quickly you'll be back on
track to the healthful, happy life you deserve.
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