avoiding infidelity

2. Avoiding t he
Slipper y
Slope

3. “Love is cursed by
monogamy…”
Kanye West, No church in the
wild

4. “I enjoy sex as much as Joe
Namath, only I do it with one
girl.”
Roger Staubach
(best quarterback ever. Period)

5. Secr et
Monst er s

6. Six Fact or s

7. 1. Selfish.
“I did not think about
consequences” is a common
response of unfaithful leaders.

8. 2. Fantasies.
While not every fantasy
results in infidelity, you would
be hard pressed to find
infidelity that was not
preceded by fantasy.

9. 3. Bored/lack of clear purpose.
Many leaders deal with the following
reality: Periods of high stress and
busyness, followed by periods of
doing NOTHING. It’s no surprise to
know that the day that people watch
more porn is on Sunday.

10. 4. Risk taking.
A CEO, an owner of a company, a
teacher, a clergy person, are usually
good at what they do. That elicits
admiration from followers, employees,
members, that admire the “persona,”
but not the person.

11. 5. Social media.
Infidelity used to be a male
problem, more than a
woman’s. That is changing.

12. 6. Pride and low self-esteem.
The combination is explosive.
Many leaders have unresolved
issues from the past that affect the
way they see themselves, almost
craving affection and attention.

13. “Sex education may be a good
idea in the schools, but I don't
believe the kids should be
given homework”
Bill Cosby

14. Thr ee
Danger ous
St r at egies

15. 1. Alienation/Secrecy

16. a. We want to continue doing
what we are doing.
b. We think by hiding it from
people we are hiding it from
God.

17. c. Keeping it a secret leads to
dualism, and that sometimes is
preferred to dealing with the truth.
d. We worry about what people
will say about us if they found out.

18. 2. Compartmentalization

19. a. We have been deceived into
thinking that there are "secular" and
"spiritual" areas.
b. We believe that what we do in one
area does not affect other areas of
our lives.
c. We fail to consider the
consequences.

20. 3. Rationalization

21. a. I deserve this.
b. I'm not getting at home what I
should.
c. I'm always taking care of
others. Now it’s time to take care
of me.
d. I married the wrong person.

22. Five Act ion
St eps

23. 1. Recognize personal
frailty and family
history.

24. 2. List consequences
as visible reminders.

25. 3. Tell somebody. On a
consistent basis.

26. Accountability partner
a. Same sex
b. Discreet
c. Mature spiritually
d. Available

27. 4. Be aware of traps
right after mountain
top experiences.

28. 5. Focus on your
marriage first.