Parenting - Creating Standard Bearers of Islam

1. Parenting Creating Standard Bearers of Islam

2. By chance or by choice…… Your child is your legacy to the world Ask: What do I want to be remembered for?

3. To fly, even eagles need a push 3

4. 10 – Rules of Islamic Parenting Live your message Introduce Allah Introduce Rasoolullah Systematic Islamic education in parallel Manners (Akhlaaq), Dealings (Muamilaat) Concern for others, Compassion, Courage, Justice Physical & Mental toughness, Conflict Resolution Scheduling time, Multi-tasking, Networking Accepting responsibility, Communication Drive for Excellence: Being Number One 4

9. Islamic education in parallel Aqeeda Arabic language Tajweed, Qirat & Tahfeez-ul-Qur’an Tafseer Hadith Seerah Fiqh Anbiya, Sahaba, Islamic history focus on lessons 8 Only needs 4 – 5 hours per week

10. Manners (Akhlaaq), Dealings (Muamilaat) Children listen with their eyes: They do what they see Manners are the best da’awa, influence people Demonstrate honesty, integrity, truth, trust The Sunnah is the best guide: Teach Adab (respect) Rasoolullah said: I was sent to teach people manners 9 Teach Islamic manners - Not local culture and superstition

11. Demonstrate concern for: Family members, Environment, Servants, Strangers, Road users, Neighbors Participate in social work, community service, poverty alleviation, adult literacy, disaster relief projects Demonstrate compassion & concern for justice even when you are not personally affected by oppression Teach them to stand up for their convictions and to take up the cause for other’s rights 10 Concern for others, Compassion Courage, Justice Demonstrate concern through service

12. Mothers must stop pampering children Regular exercise, Team sports, physical fitness No complaining: Find solutions to problems Horse riding, swimming, martial arts Inculcate physical courage: Teach survival skills, experience physical hardship & hunger Teach how to disagree without being disagreeable 11 Physical & Mental toughness, Conflict Resolution The difference between falling & failing is the willingness to get up

13. Wake & Sleep early Regulate TV, Eliminate video games Daily account (Muhasiba) & diary writing Punctuality: Keeping promises Choosing friends: Your friends define you Give them a standard to judge their friends 12 Managing time, Multi-tasking, Networking Discipline differentiates between winner & loser

14. Accepting responsibility, Communication Don’t do school projects for them: Let them learn Care for Commons: home, neighborhood, school Respect for the law, duty, nobility Develop intelligent interests: Reading, experimenting, gardening, pets Teamwork: No competition between siblings Teach public speaking, writing, debating, logic Never take sides between children: No favoritism Don’t use children as pawns in your politics 13

15. “Winning is not a sometime thing: It’s an all-the-time-thing. You don’t win once in a while, you don’t do things right once in a while, you do them right all the time. Winning is a habit. Unfortunately so is losing….I firmly believe that any man’s finest hour – his greatest fulfillment to all he holds dear- is that moment when he has worked his heart out in a good cause and lies exhausted on the field of battle – VICTORIOUS.” ~Vince Lombardi 14 Drive for Excellence: Being # 1 To win is to take others with you

16. This is the most valuable gift that you can give to your child Because true love is to make him/her strong Not weak and vulnerable yawarbaig@gmail.com 15

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