This presentation describes the nature of personal growth and its drivers.

1. Personal Effectiveness
Anup K Singh

2. Personal Effective Through
Self-Knowledge
• Self is most important, controllable resource
• Self has a role in everything that happens to me
• Self can transform a threat into an opportunity
• Self becomes what it thinks
• Self can be self-limiting or self- enhancing
• The only way out is the way in

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ASSUMPTIONS
SUBCONSCIOUS
VALUES
POTENTIAL
WEAKNESSES
ATTRIBUTES
GOALS
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4. Principles of Personal
Effectiveness
 It is your responsibility
 It is a conscious process
 Appropriate external/internal challenge is
necessary
 The rewards are often intrinsic
 Others can help if they are more mature
and developed

5.  It involves change in oneself
 It requires personal risk taking
 It entails some amount of
discomfort
 It requires learning how to learn

6. ARENA BLIND
CLOSED DARK
KNOWN TO
OTHERS
NOT KNOWN
TO
OTHERS
JOHARI WINDOW
KNOWN
TO
SELF
NOT
KNOWN
TO
SELF

7. OPEN PERSON
• FRIENDLY
• TRUSTWORTHY
• EFFECTIVE
• TRANSPARENT
• SENSITIVE TO OTHERS
• EASY TO UNDERSTAND
• SOCIAL
• NO FACADE
A B
C D

8. BLIND PERSON
• IMPERCEPTIVE
• AVOIDS OTHERS
• TOP DOWN APPROACH
• POOR LISTENER
• UNAWARE
• AUTHORITARIAN
• BULL IN CHINA SHOP
• UNCONCERNED
A B
C D

9. SECRETIVE PERSON
• UNKNOWN
• MISUNDERSTOOD
• SEEN WITH SUSPICION
• SELF-ORIENTED
• GOOD LISTENER
• UNTRUSTWORTHY
• DISTANT
• RESERVED
A B
C D

10. GROWTH TOWARDS MATURITY
• Dependence to Interdependence
• Behaving in a Few to Many Ways
• Casual, Shallow, Quickly Developed
Interests to Deeper Interests
• Short Term to Long Term Perspective
• Subordinate Position to Equal Position
• Poor Awareness of Self to Control Over Self

11. SELF-CONCEPT AND COMMUNICATION
(PATTERN FOR HIGH SELF-CONCEPT)
• Talk firmly, without hesitation
• Comfortable with others they view as
superior
• Perform well when being watched
• Have assured and open non-verbal
communication
• Expect to be accepted by others
• Listening and empathizing skills
• Open to criticism
• Likely to think well of others

12. SELF-CONCEPT AND COMMUNICATION
(PATTERN FOR LOW SELF-CONCEPT)
• Defensive and hesitant
• Likely to Disapprove of others
• Feel threatened by people they view as
superior
• Sensitive to negative reactions
• Tend to justify themselves
• Apprehensive of rejection by others
• Pessimistic view of their social skills and
outcome of their actions

13. CLUES TO DEFENSIVE BEHAVIOURS
• HOLD TO MY POSITION
• DON’T LISTEN TO OTHERS
• MISINTERPRET WHAT OTHERS SAY
• STOP TALKING AND BEGIN WITHDRAWING
• FEELS THAT NO ONE UNDERSTANDS ME
• GET EASILY IRRITATED
• DON’T WANT TO TALK ABOUT CERTAIN THINGS
• BECOME INDIGNANT WHEN CHALLENGED
• LOSE SENSE OF HUMOUR

14. HEAD TAPES
• I’LL MAKE IT WORK
• I CAN
• THIS IS MY RIGHT
• MY NEEDS ARE AS
IMPORTANT AS OF
OTHERS
• I’M COMPETENT
• I MUST TRY
• I CAN’T
• OTHERS ARE BETTER
• WHAT WILL OTHERS
SAY
• I MUSTN’T MAKE
MISTAKES
• I FAILED IN THE PAST
• PLAY SAFE

15. SAFETY I GROWTH
SELF-AWARENESS
RISK TAKING

16. ACKNOWLEDGE A PARTICULAR PATTERN
UNDERSTAND ITS IMPLICATIONS IN DIFFERENT SITUATIONS
FOCUS ON SPECIFIC BEHAVIOUR
EXPERIMENTING WITH THE BEHAVIOUR
REWARDING SELF