How to Deal with Critics? "Critisim is something we can easily avoid by Saying Nothing, Doing Nothing & Being Nothing. Aristotle". We can’t control what other people will say to us / about us, whether they’ll approve or form opinions and share them. But we can control how we internalize it, respond to it, and learn from it, and when we realize this, we learn, grow & move on.

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How to deal with
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3. How to deal with
Critics
By Dorie Clark , Tuesday, January 24, 2012
Dorie Clark is a strategy consultant
who has worked with clients
including Google, Yale University, and
the National Park Service.
She is the author of the forthcoming
What's Next?: The Art of Reinventing
Your Personal Brand (Harvard
Business Review Press, 2012). Follow
her on Twitter at @dorieclark.

8. Criticism - -
Act of passing severe judgment, Censure, faultfinding
Act of passing judgment as to merits of anything.
Act or art of analyzing and evaluating or judging
the quality of a literary or artistic work, musical
performance, art exhibit, dramatic production, etc.
Any of various methods of studying texts or
documents for the purpose of dating or
reconstructing them, evaluating their
authenticity, analyzing their content or style, etc.:
historical criticism; literary criticism.

9. Criticism
is something you can
easily avoid by
 Saying Nothing,
 Doing Nothing &
 Being Nothing.‖
~Aristotle

12. Criticism
Afraid of being judged?
Everything, from everyone as condemnation?
Does it always come gently?
Always from someone legitimately trying to help?
Can we control what other people say to us?

13. Criticism
We can’t control what
other people will say
to us / about us, whether they’ll
approve or form opinions and share
them. But we can control how
we internalize it, respond to it, and
learn from it, and when we realize this,
we learn, grow & move on.

14. C – Benefits (Personal Growth)
1. Looking for seeds of truth in criticism encourages humility ( ). It’s not
easy to take an honest look at ourselves & our weaknesses, but we can only
grow if we willing to try.
2. Learning from criticism allows us to improve. Almost every critique gives
us a tool to more effectively create the tomorrow, we visualize.
3. Criticism opens us up to new perspectives and new ideas we may not have
considered. Whenever someone challenges us, they help expand our thinking
4. Our critics give us an opportunity to practice active listening. This means
we resist the urge to analyze in our head, planning our rebuttal ( ), and
simply consider what the other person is saying.
5. We have the chance to practice forgiveness when we come up against
harsh critics. Most of us carry around stress and frustration that we
unintentionally misdirect from time to time.

15. Critisim – Benefits (Emotional)
6. It’s helpful to learn how to sit with the discomfort of an initial emotional
reaction instead of immediately acting or retaliating. All too often we want to do
something with our feelings—generally not a great idea!
7. Criticism gives us the chance to foster problem solving skills, which isn’t
always easy when we’re feeling sensitive, self-critical, or annoyed with critics
8. Receiving criticism that hits a sensitive spot helps us explore unresolved
issues. Maybe we’re sensitive about our intelligence.
9. Interpreting someone else’s feedback is an opportunity for rational thinking—
sometimes, despite a negative tone, criticism is incredibly useful.
10. Criticism encourages us to question our instinctive associations and
feelings; praise is good, criticism is bad. If we recondition ourselves to see
things in less black and white terms, there’s no stop to how far we can go!

16. C – Benefits (Improved Relationships)
11. Criticism presents an opportunity to choose peace over conflict. Oftentimes,
when criticized our instinct is to fight, creating unnecessary drama. The people
around us generally want to help us, not judge us.
12. Fielding criticism well helps us mitigate the need to be right. Nothing closes
an open mind like ego—bad for our personal growth, and damaging for
relationships.
13. Our critics give us an opportunity to challenge any people-pleasing
tendencies. Relationships based on a constant need for approval can be
draining for everyone involved. It’s liberating to let people think whatever they
want—they’re going to do it anyway.
14. Criticism gives us the chance to teach people how to treat us. If someone
delivers it poorly, we can take this opportunity to tell them, ―I think you make
some valid points, but I would receive them better if you didn’t raise your voice.‖
15. Certain pieces of criticism teach us not to sweat the small stuff. In the grand
scheme of things, it doesn’t matter that what is the color of our Shoes.‖

17. Criticism – Benefits (Time Efficiency)
16. The more time we spend dwelling about what someone said, the less time we
have to do something with it.
17. If we improve how we operate after receiving criticism, this will save time
and energy in the future. When we think about from that perspective—criticism
as a time saver—it’s hard not to appreciate it!
18. Fostering the ability to let go of our feelings and thoughts about being
critiqued can help us let go in other areas of our life. Letting go of
worries, regrets, stresses, fears & even positive feelings helps us root ourself in
the present moment. Mindfulness is always the most efficient use of time.
19. Criticism reinforces the power of personal space. Taking 10 minutes to
process our emotions, perhaps by writing in a journal, will ensure us respond
well. Responding well the first time prevents, situation dominating your day.
20. In some cases, criticism teaches us how to interact with a person, if they’re
negative or hostile, for example. Knowing this can save us a lot of time and
stress in the future.

18. Criticism – Benefits (Self Confidence)
21. Learning to receive false criticism—feedback that has no constructive
value—without losing our confidence is a must if we want to do big things in life.
The more attention our work receives, the more criticism we’ll have to field.
22. When someone criticizes us, it shines a light on our own insecurities. If we
secretly agree that we’re lazy, we should get to the root of that. Why do we
believe that—and what can we do about it?
23. When someone else appraises ( ) us harshly, we have an opportunity to
monitor our internal self-talk. Research indicates up to 80% of our thoughts are
negative. Take this opportunity to monitor & change our thought processes so
you don’t drain and sabotage yourself!
24. Receiving feedback well reminds you it’s OK to have flaws—imperfection is
part of being human. If you can admit weakness and work on them without
getting down on yourself, you’ll experience far more
happiness, peace, enjoyment, and success.

20. Criticism
We are all perfectly imperfect,
and other people may notice that from
time to time. We do the same, So ….

21. Criticism
Move forward after criticism,
even if you don’t feel
incredibly confident, & ensures
no isolated comment prevents you
from seizing our dreams.
Think of it as separating t
he wheat from the chaff;
takes what’s useful,
leave the rest, and keep going!

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