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Discussion infidelity between men and women 4_thb
1. LANGUAGE SCHOOL
FOURTH “B”
Group:
Llamuca Diana
Morocho Carlos
Tapia Jaime
UvidiaMyriam
SKILLS EXPOSE
INFIDELITYBETWEEN MENAND WOMEN
Recent studies reveal that 45 or 55 percent of married women and 50 to 60
percent of married men engage in extramarital sex at some time or another
during their relationship. Do these infidelity statistics seem a bit startling? What
these findings suggest is that approximately one-half of all married men and
women do seek intimacy outside of their committed relationships. But what
does this really mean and why are the number of men and women having
extramarital affairs so high?
This may come as a complete surprise, but most extramarital affairs are not
about sex. What then, is the main factor that causes infidelity? One should pay
attention to the reason most people find intimacy with someone outside of their
marriage is because of their emotional needs are not being met. Yes, it is true in
most cases of infidelity and about wanting to feel emotionally connected to
someone.
One should realize that suggestions might not be particularly popular, especially
among men and women who are on the receiving end of the infidelity.
Obviously, finding out that your spouse or partner has cheated on you is
shocking and painful. Realizing that you are just another number that adds to
the infidelity statistic is not something you would like to flaunt.
2. According to a poll over over 1,100 women conducted by WomanSavers.com,
over 62 percent of women thought that men cheat more than women. However,
in a similar WomanSaver’s poll of over 850 women, only 67 percent said they
would never cheat on their partner.
According to the current infidelity statistics 60 percent of men and 40 percent of
women are involved in extramarital affair. These figures are even more drastic
when the total numbers of marriages are considered. Because it is less likely
that all the men and women having extramarital affairs do happen to be married
to each other. At least half of the women having affairs are married to men are
not included in the 60 percent of men having affairs, then at least one partner
will have an affair in about 80 percent of all marriages. With this study you can
see that many marriages are getting affected and it is unreasonable to think
affairs are due to the failures and shortcomings of individual husbands or wives.
Leave alone the entire world, only in US, 17 percent of divorces are caused by
unknown misconceptions such as infidelity. There exists even strong evidence,
which proves that there is a high correlation between on-line infidelity and
subsequent real-time sexual affairs.
The reality is that there are a lot of unsatisfying and empty relationships out
there, but however, the reason why infidelity statistics are as high as they are is
because people place a higher value on their careers, children, friends or
hobbies and not on their relationships with their partners. Think about it. When
you neglect any of these areas, it is just a matter of time before they deteriorate
and ultimately lead to its untimely death. The failure in the relationship becomes
imminent. The bottom line is that if you want to avoid becoming yet another
case that adds to the infidelity statistic, then you must nurture and prioritize your
relationship with your spouse or partner. As you may have already figured out,
unlike planes, relationships cannot be maintained on “auto-pilot”.
Facts
Fact #1: Most men are still in love with their wives when they cheat.
Men who cheat haven't fallen out of love; they've become unsatisfied with the
current state of it. "Cheating usually occurs in the phase of companionate love,
3. when couples begin to settle down, have kids and solidify the life being built
together," says clinical psychologist AndraBrosh, PhD. While they're fulfilled in
some areas, like being a provider, the romance may be missing. "We more
often think of women complaining about a lack of romance, but men feel it, too,"
says Dr. Brosh. "They frequently suffer in silence, believing they can't get what
they want from their spouses." To avoid this in your marriage, plan nights out
together, set aside time for sex and discuss hopes and dreams—not just
workdays and your son's last soccer game.
Fact #2: Men usually cheat with women they know.
Cheaters don't generally pick up random women in bars. "My first husband
cheated on me with a childhood friend," says Diane* from New York City. "His
family was close to her family, so they never lost touch." Intimacy expert Mary
Jo Rapini explains, "A lot of women think that all cheating women are floozies—
not true. The relationships are usually friendships first." A good idea: Make sure
your husband feels more connected to you than to his business partner.
"Spouses go to work, take care of their kids and do separate things at night.
That has to stop," says Rapini. She suggests always going to bed at the same
time and cuddling.
Fact #3: Men cheat to save their marriages
"Men love their spouses, but they don't know how to fix their relationship
problems, so they go outside their marriages to fill any holes," says licensed
marriage and family therapist Susan Mandel, PhD. Men want it all and have the
skewed notion that another woman will make the longing for something more
disappear. Then, they can live happily ever after with their wife—and their
mistress—without confronting the real issues.
Fact #4: Men hate themselves after affairs.
You may think of cheaters as men without morals, but while they may like what
they did, they tend to despise themselves after their indiscretions. "If he puts his
ego to the side, he'll feel like a piece of garbage," says relationship expert
Charles J. Orlando, author of The Problem with Women...Is Men. "After all, he's
betraying another human being who he claims to care about, so that takes its
toll on every part of his psyche." A cheater can feel as though he's failed as a
man.
Fact #5: Cheaters often get friskier with their wives when affairs begin.
Just because a husband's touchy-feely doesn't mean his marriage is on firm
footing. "When a man starts cheating, he becomes hyperactive sexually," says
Rapini, explaining that his sex drive has been awakened, and his wife is still the
one with whom he feels most comfortable sexually. If you notice a sudden
change in your husband's sex drive, it should raise a red flag. Be on the lookout
4. for the switch to flip off again. "After the affair is solid, he may begin to pull
away,"
Fact #6: Women cheat just as much as men, and their affairs are often more
dangerous.
An Indiana University study shows that men and women cheat at the same rate.
But "the reasons the sexes cheat are different," says Orlando. He explains
women are more likely to cheat for emotional satisfaction. "Online cheating—
without any physical contact—is the most damaging type of infidelity," says
Orlando. Becoming emotionally invested in another person means you've likely
checked out of your marriage. But if it's just sex, it's less about attachment and
more about a hurtful mistake.
Fact #7: A wife often knows her husband's cheating.
How could Tiger Woods's ex, ElinNordegren, and Arnold Schwarzenegger's ex,
Maria Shriver, not have known what their high-profile husbands were up to?
They probably did, but couldn't bear to acknowledge it. "At one level, I knew, but
my denial was so strong," says Lily* from Toronto, Canada. "The pain, had I
accepted it at that time, would have been too horrendous, so I had to process it
slowly." According to Dr. Brosh, the jilted celebrities were likely doing the same
thing: choosing what they could live with for the sake of their kids or to avoid
humiliation and the fallout.
Fact #8: A couple will never work it out when the husband is in the midst of an
affair.
They could agree to work on things, but it won't matter. If he's still in the throes
of a hot, new romance, nothing a woman does will drag him out of it. "He's got
such positivity happening, without all the drama that exists in the established
relationship," says Orlando. The marriage will likely fail, unless he decides on
his own accord that life isn't better with the other woman. So the key is
prevention. Continue to be the woman he first fell for throughout your marriage.
"Women often turn from a loving girlfriend into a nagging wife. Men aren't
attracted to that." Dole out compliments and surprise him with sex—don't just
yell at him about that towel on the bathroom floor, suggests Dr. Mandel.
Fact #9: Affairs can sometimes fix a marriage.
Is infidelity the kiss of death for a couple? Not always. Although a new
relationship is exciting, "an affair can rekindle the marriage," says Orlando.
"Men realize who they want for the rest of their lives and that the new
relationship isn't as perfect as they thought." But think hard before returning to a
cheater. "Flings can highlight how little self-control someone has," explains
Orlando. Still, if it was truly a one-time slip, it's possible to get back on track.
5. Fact #10: Even after rebuilding the marriage, a husband may still miss the affair.
Sadly, he might love his wife and want to salvage the marriage, but he doesn't
totally forget about the affair. "He might miss the great things about the other
woman—fun, zero responsibilities, sex, the rush or the chase—but oftentimes
he misses how he feels about himself when he was with her, which is more
damaging if he's trying to return to his marriage," says Orlando. Again, acting as
you did when the relationship was new could help.
Fact #11: A cheater knows he's hurting the woman he loves, tearing his family
apart and sacrificing his honor.
A man may realize the negative impact on his wife, family and himself, but still
continue an affair. How? "It's all in the perception of the cheater," says Orlando.
"If he feels unwanted, undervalued and taken for granted, his personal needs of
being wanted, valued and appreciated will win out."
Fact #12: The wife's not to blame if her husband cheats on her.
Realize this: If your husband is unfaithful, it's not your fault, no matter what
people say. "When a man cheats, he's making a conscious choice to do it,"
says Dr. Brosh. "The idea of being pushed into the arms of another woman is
an expression, not a reality." Orlando echoes this sentiment: "Men don't cheat
because of who she is; they cheat because of who they're not," he says. "The
'fault' is that the signs of disconnection have been ignored by both parties."