4. Ten Commandments of
Rock Your Family
• Commandment #1: I am the parent and
you are not
• What does it look like to train/instruct and
build a relationship with your teenagers?
5. I Am The Parent
• At 13, teens become addicted to freedom
6. I Am The Parent
• At 13, teens become addicted to freedom
• They are becoming adults
7. I Am The Parent
• At 13, teens become addicted to freedom
• They are becoming adults
• We should expect them to pull away
8. I Am The Parent
• At 13, teens become addicted to freedom
• They are becoming adults
• We should expect them to pull away
• They have to
9. I Am The Parent
• Sometimes the harder we push our values on
them, they harder they push against it
10. I Am The Parent
• Sometimes the harder we push our values on
them, they harder they push against it
• Allow them freedom to choose their values
11. I Am The Parent
• Sometimes the harder we push our values on
them, they harder they push against it
• Allow them freedom to choose their values
• This creates tension
12. I Am The Parent
• Sometimes the harder we push our values on
them, they harder they push against it
• Allow them freedom to choose their values
• This creates tension
• Engage with them
13. I Am The Parent
• This is the age when you start asking tons of
questions
14. I Am The Parent
• This is the age when you start asking tons of
questions
• With teenagers, “Rules without relationship
equals rebellion”
15. I Am The Parent
• This is the age when you start asking tons of
questions
• With teenagers, “Rules without relationship
equals rebellion”
• You enter their world
16. I Am The Parent
• This is the age when you start asking tons of
questions
• With teenagers, “Rules without relationship
equals rebellion”
• You enter their world
• To engage with them means to pursue them
17. I Am The Parent
• If youʼre a dad with a daughter, date your
daughters
18. I Am The Parent
• If youʼre a dad with a daughter, date your
daughters
• A way to cultivate a relationship with your
teen is to listen
