5. Session 2: Sexual Sobriety Map
• Previous session recap
- Am I addicted?
6. Session 2: Sexual Sobriety Map
• Previous session recap
- Am I addicted?
- Addiction: Turning sex into an idol, which means that we have come to
rely on sex or sexual activities as a source of unconditional love instead of
friends, family, community, or God Himself.
9. Sexual Sobriety Map
Unwanted Sexual Behavior
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White-Knuckle Change Real Change
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Abstinence Understanding of Physiology
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Rela Abstinence
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Acceptance of Conditional Love
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Pursuit of Unconditional Love
11. Sexual Sobriety Map
• Recovering from addiction is like keeping your
balance on an endless tightrope: it takes a
great deal of focus, concentration and
intentional effort.
12. Sexual Sobriety Map
• Recovering from addiction is like keeping your
balance on an endless tightrope: it takes a
great deal of focus, concentration and
intentional effort.
• If you have fallen, or if you are wavering, this
map will help you to get back on the tight
rope, stand up again, regain your balance and
continue on down the line.
14. Unwanted Sexual Behavior
• Just because the secular community might
condone or accept certain sexual practices
outside of marriage, we do not.
15. Unwanted Sexual Behavior
• Just because the secular community might
condone or accept certain sexual practices
outside of marriage, we do not.
• We do not condone sex and sexual activities
outside of marriage, not because we wish to
establish puritanical laws, but because we
want to aid you in discovering a loving, caring,
faithful God who wants to meet your sexual
needs in ways that grow and nurture, not
diminish or shame you.
20. Unwanted Sexual Behavior
1. Masturbation
2. Pornography use
3. Pre-Marital Sex
4. Extra-Marital Sex
21. Unwanted Sexual Behavior
1. Masturbation
2. Pornography use
3. Pre-Marital Sex
4. Extra-Marital Sex
5.Visiting Strip Clubs
22. Unwanted Sexual Behavior
1. Masturbation
2. Pornography use
3. Pre-Marital Sex
4. Extra-Marital Sex
5.Visiting Strip Clubs
6. Visiting massage parlors where sex or sexual activities are
offered
23. Unwanted Sexual Behavior
1. Masturbation
2. Pornography use
3. Pre-Marital Sex
4. Extra-Marital Sex
5.Visiting Strip Clubs
6. Visiting massage parlors where sex or sexual activities are
offered
7. Use of prostitutes
8. Or any combination of these seven
26. Unwanted Sexual Behavior
• Change
- Proverbs 26:11: “As a dog returns to its vomit, so a fool repeats his folly.”
27. Unwanted Sexual Behavior
• Change
- Proverbs 26:11: “As a dog returns to its vomit, so a fool repeats his folly.”
• Unwanted sexual behavior present in your life
is a sign that some real learning about yourself
is needed, whether that learning is about...
28. Unwanted Sexual Behavior
• Change
- Proverbs 26:11: “As a dog returns to its vomit, so a fool repeats his folly.”
• Unwanted sexual behavior present in your life
is a sign that some real learning about yourself
is needed, whether that learning is about...
- Your body and brain and how they work
29. Unwanted Sexual Behavior
• Change
- Proverbs 26:11: “As a dog returns to its vomit, so a fool repeats his folly.”
• Unwanted sexual behavior present in your life
is a sign that some real learning about yourself
is needed, whether that learning is about...
- Your body and brain and how they work
- Your childhood and what it was like
30. Unwanted Sexual Behavior
• Change
- Proverbs 26:11: “As a dog returns to its vomit, so a fool repeats his folly.”
• Unwanted sexual behavior present in your life
is a sign that some real learning about yourself
is needed, whether that learning is about...
- Your body and brain and how they work
- Your childhood and what it was like
- Your present life and how it is structured
31. Unwanted Sexual Behavior
• Change
- Proverbs 26:11: “As a dog returns to its vomit, so a fool repeats his folly.”
• Unwanted sexual behavior present in your life
is a sign that some real learning about yourself
is needed, whether that learning is about...
- Your body and brain and how they work
- Your childhood and what it was like
- Your present life and how it is structured
- Or your idea of who God is and what His love is really about
33. Unwanted Sexual Behavior
• When we have unwanted sexual behavior, we
need to make change in our lives.
34. Unwanted Sexual Behavior
• When we have unwanted sexual behavior, we
need to make change in our lives.
• White-Knuckle Change is change in behavior
without addressing the system or environment
that is causing the behavior.
35. Unwanted Sexual Behavior
• When we have unwanted sexual behavior, we
need to make change in our lives.
• White-Knuckle Change is change in behavior
without addressing the system or environment
that is causing the behavior.
• Real Change is about a complete examination
and alteration of one’s life, how it is structured,
who is in it and what meaning it ultimately has
for the individual.
