1. The rising number of divorces in Malaysia is something
that is preventable and needs to be addressed.
Why happen of divorces
So, now we know more about divorces but do you know why the divorces happen? There are
several reason that causes the happen of divorces.
1. Lack of communication. Distance is created quickly if you don’t share your
feelings, don’t tell your partner what’s happening, and keep your feelings to yourself.
A successful relationship constantly keeps the lines of communication open.
2. Finances. Money talks and can make your life better or in some cases worse
than you was. If money becomes a consistent topic of disagreement, the road to
divorce is certain.
3. Feeling constrained. You may feel your marriage is holding you back from
achieving goals and taking opportunities. If your partner can’t support you, then
they don’t support the marriage.
4. Trust. Do you really trust your spouse? Trust is one of the leading factors in
having a successful relationship and marriage. Your marriage is unlikely to survive if
you don’t trust your spouse.
5. Quick change in lifestyle. Couples that can’t compromise and meet in the
middle are unable to adapt to new changes and be together in harmony.
Must addressed:
These days, people are taking marriage and divorce very lightly not realising the
consequences following those events, especially the impact on children. Malaysia has a high
percentage of divorce rates. Based on statistics, the divorce percentage reaches up to 20% per
year. Ending a marriage is a long process and it affects the entire family, including children in
every aspect of their lives.
The effects of divorce on children because those innocent beings will have to face the impact
of their parent’s bad decision in marriage and end up being a victim of divorce.
Divorce brings harmful effects on children, as it will cause them to go through
emotional and behavioural distress, create negative insights of their own future
marriage, and reduce their standard of living and well-being as well.

2. As the effect of divorce, children will go through emotional and behavioural distress in order
to adapt to the life after divorce.
Children of divorced parents experience more emotional and behavioural distress
compared to children with intact families. Among the pain that the children will
experience, will effect in their study in poor grades in school.
The child will go through various emotions such as anger towards themselves and the
parent that initiated the divorce, fear, betrayal, sadness, and rejection. So they
difficulty in making new friends and adjusting to the new environment and teachers
are some of the factors that will cause poorer grades.
Divorce will also cause a child to miss out the role of a parent who usually is the role model,
a shoulder to lean on, a helping-hand and a person who corrects them when they are wrong.
As mentioned in, boys and girls have different ways of expressing their emotions
towards divorce. Boys generally tend to be more violent while girls on the other hand,
tend to be more active sexually at a very early age compared to those who come from
intact families.
Preventable:
Make time to connect lovingly with your spouse every day.
A couple can significantly improve their chances of marital success by devoting as
little as 15 minutes a day exclusively to each other.
Take time every day to have meaningful conversations with each other; to listen with
the same intensity as when you were dating; to tell each other how you feel about
your marriage.
Be honest and ask for honesty in return.
Tell your partner that even if they are not in love with you at the moment, the least
you owe each other is respect.
Tell them that you care about fidelity and that you vowed to be faithful to each other.

3. Talk to your partner about your future.
Make time to speak with your partner openly.
Communicate your feelings and your wish to acknowledge theirs.
Be open to change.
Agree to make changes in your routines or interaction if you feel it will help.
Make clear that you will try your best, but it might take you some time to get used to
them.