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Seductive Body
Language System

By Steve Scott

Seductive Body Language • www.flirtmastery.com

Table of Contents

Disclaimer ................................................................. 4
Introduction .............................................................. 5
What is Body Language ............................................... 7
How Body Language Developed .................................. 10
Eliminating Weak Body Language ............................... 12
13 Traits of High Status Body Language....................... 21
Three Problem Areas to Monitor.................................. 38
Making Adjustments to Your Body Language ................ 43
Speaking in a High Status Manner............................... 46
Conclusion............................................................... 51

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Introduction
At some point in your life you’ve probably come across an
advertisement which makes large promises about
increasing your success with women. In fact, the majority
of the products in this niche make you think that their
system is the only one that can help you improve your
dating success:

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truth about women and what it takes to get into their
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the type of women that’ll make you the envy of all your
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The simple truth is the Internet is filled with companies
that all make guarantees about their product. (I’ll even
admit that I made a few promises in the salespage of my
product). The truth is almost every “seduction” system
you’ll encounter will give you the guarantee that their
system will work for any guy- Even someone who
wasn’t born with good looks or a naturally attractive
personality.

So why do companies make statements like this? Well the
truth is they say it because it’s actually true! While good-
looking guys have an initial advantage when it comes to
women, the any guy can have lots of success with women.
Even if he has a major flaw that’s prevented him from
doing well in the past!



In fact, there are numerous stories of “no so good looking”
guys dating uber-attractive women. I personally know 3
or 4 men like this.

What’s their secret? The first thing that separates these
men is they understand the nature of attraction and how it
works with women. Next, they have extreme confidence in
themselves which helps them project a powerful vibe.
Finally, they understand how to use their body language
in a way that makes them attractive to most women.

And that’s what we’re going to cover in this report. In the
next 40+ pages, we’re going to focus on what I call the
“seductive body language” system. The truth is 90% of
what you say to women is done through your body
language. If you get it right, you can easily attract them
without saying a word.

It’s my hope that you take the information in this report
and dramatically improve the subtle mannerisms that
you’re displaying whenever you’re talking to a girl. By
making a few corrections to your posture and non-verbal
communication, you’ll subtly show that you’re a confident
guy who has always had incredible success with
women.

Now with that being said, let’s talk about body language
and why it’s important…



What is Body Language?
It’s been said that 90% of our communication is non-
verbal. Without saying a word, your mannerisms tell a
woman all she needs to know about the type of man you
are.

The right kind of body language can display a powerful
presence. And the wrong kind can make you seem weak
or needy. Furthermore, you have about 3-5 seconds to
make a first impression. As a result, it’s important that
your body language is sending the correct message
to women.

Over the last few years, I’ve come to the realization that
body language is one of the most important ingredients
to attracting and dating women. While strong body
language can help you demonstrate the qualities of a
sexually confident man, the weak kind tells people you’re
uncomfortable in social situations.

If you want incredible success with women, you have to
master your non-verbal communication. Specifically, you
need to eliminate all the behavior that delivers the wrong
kind of message to women. Furthermore, you should
understand why women are attracted to certain types of
body language and how to use this information to your
benefit.

So what exactly is body language?

Well, body language is a term that describes all the
communication that’s done through our mannerisms,
physical behavior and spatial interaction. Without
speaking, these actions say a lot to the people you meet.



It can tell people you’re dominant guy. However, it can
also communicate the message that you’re a weak,
submissive person.

Body language includes things like:

λ Eye movement

λ Social and intimate touching

λ Hand gestures

λ Speed, pitch and modulation of your verbal
communication

λ Location and proximity of your hands/arms

λ Posture

λ Personal location in relations to others

λ Facial expressions
λ The way you walk

Pretty much everything you physically do involves body
language. A guy who is in total command of his non-
verbal communication can easily attract any woman. He
knows that a simple look can deliver a powerful message
that’s simply not achievable with words alone.

What’s going to be challenging to you is women are 10x
more in tune with detecting and deciphering body language
cues. Early on in their lives, they learn how to
communicate on this level. So your average girl can look
at a guy and have an intuitive ability to decipher his moods
and general attitude.

Your typical guy, on the other hand, doesn’t have a
developed ability to pick up on subtle body language



signals. In fact, MOST guys were never taught the subtle
nuances of how to communicate without saying a word.

In simple terms, YOU are at a disadvantage when talking
to women. On a subconscious level, most will know if you
are OR aren’t attracted to them. So you must be
constantly vigilant about the message that you’re sending.
One wrong signal and you’ll hurt your chances with a
woman!

The good news is body language is like any other skill. By
understanding it, you can use it in your favor. By
practicing and implementing the techniques in this report,
you’ll develop your non-verbal communication to the point
where you can demonstrate the attitude of a Superior
Alpha Male without saying much to a woman.



How Body Language Developed
There are biological reasons why body language became
our primary form of speaking of communication. Over the
last few thousand years, we’ve developed it as a way to
send specific signals to other members of our species. We
use it to show things like happiness, hostility, friendship,
and fear. Most importantly, we developed body
language as part of an elaborate courtship ‘dance’.

Every animal has its own specific mating ritual. Birds sing
to attract mates. Deer develop large antlers. Lions fight
for supremacy. And humans use non-verbal
communication to demonstrate their availability. What’s
interesting is we developed body language as a way to
speak to one another when we could only use grunts and
gestures. So most of our mating ritual involved the use of
body language because that’s the only way we could make
others understand our intentions.

As I discussed in my Flirt Mastery course, the evolution of
humans depended on females picking the right partner.
Most of the time, they gravitated towards the alpha male
of our species who represented the best chance for
females to produce healthy, active children.

What often happened was these dominant guys had a large
number of sexual partners and were able to pass their
genes to a lot more children. And the weaker males often
had difficulty with finding partners willing to help them
pass on their inferior genes.

Body language was a way that an alpha male could
impress the females. In a way, he would intimidate other
potential partners by displaying a dominant posture and



look. This form of communication was a not-so-subtle way
to show a woman that her offspring would have the same
genetic qualities that made him stand out from other guys.
And as we evolved, females would subconsciously look for
guys with these qualities. Any guy who lacked them would
have a reduced chance of passing along his genes.

The body language of early humans is still used
today to communicate our social standing. When a
man and woman meet, they unknowingly engage in their
own specific mating dance. In fact, much of the “dating
game” is done on a non-verbal level. By understanding
the specific qualities of body language, you can deliver the
same message that helped your predecessors find a
mating partner.

Now that you understand why body language is important,
let’s move on to how you can make sure you’re
demonstrating a confident appearance whenever you’re in
a social setting…



Eliminating Weak Body Language
Now that we’ve discussed the body language of the alpha
male, let’s move on to the other guy…

We’ve all met someone who displays weak body language.
He’s the guy who communicates the wrong message
around women. This is someone who you meet and
intuitively know that he’s not very good with women. He
doesn’t have to say a word, but you’re already convinced
that the ladies are not knocking down his door to date him.

It’s not what he says, it’s how he acts! On some level,
you’ve picked up on his body language and gotten an
uncomfortable vibe from being around him. In essence,
his non-verbal communication is telling you that he does
NOT have the confidence to attract many women.

We’re all different in how we display body language. Some
can command a powerful presence. Others display the
weak aura that’s naturally repulsive to a woman. The
important thing is to identify the parts of your body
language that’s sending the wrong message. Then
once you’ve identified these problem areas, you have to
actively work on eliminating these self-defeating
mannerisms.

Women can instantly spot a guy with low self-esteem. The
Low Status Males of the world exhibit very specific body
language. To improve your non verbal communication, you
have to find out if you’re guilty of demonstrating any of
these qualities. For instance, I’ve identified 7 major body
language habits which often annoy or repulse women:



1 – Leaning In

Leaning towards a person is one of the quickest ways to
demonstrate a submissive attitude. It’s similar to when a
dog rolls on his back and shows you his stomach. When
you lean into a person, you’re surrendering your power
and subconsciously giving an indicator that he or she
has higher social status.

When it comes to women, you have to approach with the
mindset that you have an equal or superior social
standing. By leaning in, you’re sending the message that
this woman has a higher status than you. It basically says:
“You are the leader in this interaction and what you have
to say is more important then anything that comes out of
my mouth...”

What you need to do is adapt a very relaxed posture. In
fact, I recommend you lean away from the person you’re
talking to. This is a subtle way to signify you’re
comfortable with the encounter, and you’re not very
concerned with the outcome.

Now if you’re having trouble with hearing a woman, simply
speak louder. By talking in a commanding voice, you
communicate that you’re a confident guy who is used to
people listening to him.

2 – Awkward Touching

The way you touch a woman can make or break an
interaction. (That’s why I thoroughly cover this topic in my
Flirt Mastery course). A guy with weak body language
often touch women in a way that sends a “skeevy, creepy”



message. Instead of attracting a woman, his touch will
actually make her feel uncomfortable.

Awkward touching should be avoided at all costs. While it’s
important to touch women to build sexual tension, you
should do it in a way where it’s a natural part of a
conversation. So never touch her in a way that’ll make
her feel uneasy or uncomfortable.

When you touch a woman, it should be in the right
way and at the right time. This means never touching
her unless in a nervous or hesitant manner. If you’re
establishing physical contact like you're asking for her
permission, then she’ll subconsciously pick up on this vibe.

So assert yourself, look for an opening, and be deliberate.

One of the best ways to touch a woman is to make it part
of the conversation. When you first meet her, you should
have high energy and talk about fun topics. With this
mindset, you’re going to create a lot of sexual tension.

When you go to touch her, it should be come from a
natural extension of the conversation. At first this will be
light touching on the arm to make a point or a quick ‘high
five’. Later on, you’ll touch in a more dominant manner
like hugging and throwing your arm around her.

The important thing to remember about touching is that it
should be done from a place of high social status. Act like
you’re comfortable around women and you’ll deliver a
powerful vibe.

Now before we move on, let me quickly mention
something…When touching a woman, it’s important to
closely observe her reaction. If she seems uncomfortable,
then this is a clear indicator that you’re being given



feedback that you are not doing enough to build her levels
of interest. Use your touch to calibrate her level of interest.
Not as a way to grope or make her feel uneasy.

3 – Approval Seeking

A Superior Alpha Male doesn’t seek the validation of
others. He moves through life without apology. In a social
setting, he does what HE wants rather than what others
want.

The exact opposite of this man is someone who shows
approval seeking body language. This is when a guy
has such low self esteem that he feels the need to act a
certain way in order to be “accepted” by the group.
Without saying a word, he’s saying that he needs that
validation of other people to feel good about himself.

You demonstrate this behavior by doing the
following:

λ Leaning towards women

λ Smiling too much

λ Keeping your head down

λ Make yourself physically smaller when in a crowded
venue

λ Raising eyebrows to comments

λ Letting others control or dominate the conversation

λ Using self-deprecating humor too much

λ Agreeing with everything a person says

The truth is approval seeking behavior does nothing to
create attraction. In fact, women can sense when a guy



tries too hard to win the attention of others. They see it
as a weak way to show submission to the dominant
members of a social group.

So forget what you've heard about mirroring or
mimicking a person’s body language… While this might
help you during the rapport stage, it’ll only make you seem
weak when you first approach a woman. Instead, get her
to mirror your body language! Showing a high social
status personality is one of the quickest ways to get a
person to follow your lead and make them sync with your
mannerisms.

You don’t want to show too much interest early in an
interaction. Rather then demonstrating an approval
seeking attitude, you display body language that makes it
seem like you don’t immediately care about the outcome of
a conversation.

Face women at an angle, control the conversation, and
take up some space. Be the guy who isn’t afraid to show a
confident, yet aloof attitude when he first meets people.

4 – Nervous Tics and Fidgeting

One of the biggest red flags for a woman is when a guy
has too many nervous tics or fidgets. This type of
behavior immediately tells her that he’s uncomfortable
around women and doesn’t know how to behave.

When a woman sees somebody with these mannerisms,
she thinks: “This guy is a wreck! Stay away!!!”



Nervous body language can include a number of different
actions. Some are pretty minor, while others can be really
obvious. Here are some of the more common nervous tics:

λ Licking your lips

λ Playing with any body piercings you have

λ Nervously laughing after you speak

λ Using a pregnant pause like: “umm, “well”, “uh” or
“so”

λ Clearing your throat or coughing too much

λ Darting your eyes around the room

λ Scratching anywhere

λ Cracking your knuckles (this one really disgusts women)

λ Smacking your gum or chewing loudly

Remember, the Superior Alpha Male is relaxed and at
ease during a conversation. Unnatural or spastic body
language gives the opposite impression that you’re trying
to make. When you’re in a social setting, you want to
monitor your mannerisms and eliminate any of the tics
that could be holding you back.

5 – A Weak Handshake

Your handshake is a tool that can communicate a powerful
message about your personality and who you are as a man.
If it’s firm, then you give the aura of confidence. On the
other hand, if it’s limp or clammy, then you’ll seem weak,
submissive or just plain creepy.

While you don’t have to give someone a bone crushing
handshake, you should make sure that you at can at least



command attention when meeting a person for the first
time. Simply greet people with a firm grip and give a little
bit of pressure if you’re meeting a man. If it’s a woman,
use the same type of shake without the pressure. And
take her whole hand, not just her fingers.

A firm, single up and down shake says many positive
things about you. Strength, power, confidence,
fearlessness, and authority are all communicated through
this type of solid greeting. While this might seem like a
minor thing, many guys have found themselves in a weak
social position by not giving people the proper type of
handshake.

6- Being a Follower

You can learn a lot about a guy’s social standing by where
he positions himself when he’s talking to others. A leader
is someone who is the focal point of the group. He’s the
one everyone else looks to for validation and decision
making.

You can tell a guy is the leader among his peers by the
way he stands. The guy in charge will generally be in the
center with the rest of the group facing (even slightly)
towards him. When he speaks, the rest of the group will
listen to what he says.

Many guys demonstrate weak body language when they
position themselves as follower, not a leader. A woman
will often look at a group of guys and subconsciously try to
determine their social standing. By hanging on the fringe
and following another guy’s lead, you’ll demonstrating to
women that you’re a submissive person.



When in a group, you must establish yourself as the leader.
Position your body in a way that everyone else has to
direct their attention to you! If you have to, stand in the
middle and lean back against an object. This will force
everyone else to face you during a conversation.

Furthermore, think about the way you move with your
friends through a crowd. A leader is generally the person
in front. He’s the one who determines where to go and the
path to follow.

And if you're ever in a situation where you MUST follow
somebody, don't automatically follow their path through
the crowd. Choose you own route and say hello to others
on the way. Now you aren’t a follower; you are a well-liked
man who takes the time to visit with his many friends.

Followers don’t attract many women! At best they get
the girls who aren’t wanted by the alpha males of a group.
With your social group be the guy in charge. Make the
decisions and show the subtle body language that you’re
used to being in a dominant position.

7- Giving Up Your Power

The final (and probably most important) behavior to
eliminate is giving away your social power.

Guys often hurt their chances for success by being too
needy around women. They hover around a girl, follow her
where she goes and hang on her every word. A confident
guy doesn’t supplicate himself to women! He speaks in
commanding tones and shows almost dismissive body
language to women at first.



If you feel like you are displaying the wrong kind of
body language to attract women, here's what you
should do:

Go out to social venue, and watch the guys with high social
status. (Trust me they’ll be very easy to spot! They’re the
ones who are surrounded by attractive and interesting
women.)

Pay close attention to how they act. Look for the way they
stand and how they're interacting with others. I guarantee
everyone else's body language gives these guys status (in
other words, they lean towards him, they look for approval
and they're the Betas to his Alpha.) You’ll discover these
men do very little to give away their social power. Instead,
they position themselves in a way that they become the
center of attention.

Remember body language is an expression of how we
perceive ourselves and our core belief system. If you think
badly of yourself, then you'll probably project that kind of
attitude. Conversely, if you eliminate the behaviors I
discussed in this section, you’ll develop a powerful mindset
which will help develop a confident attitude around women.



13 Traits of High Status Body Language
Gaining a confident look is not just about eliminating weak
body language. Actually it’s more important to focus on
developing traits that are attractive to women. So instead
of being overly concerned with what you’re doing wrong,
it’s often easier to concentrate on displaying a dominant
social appearance with your body language.

If you study the Superior Alpha Male, you’ll notice how
he demonstrates a number of qualities that make him
attractive. Without saying a word, this guy tells women
that he’s an interesting guy that they want to meet.

In this section, we’re going to discuss 13 of these body
language traits. These are the most important forms of
non-verbal communication that send a powerful message
to women. (While some of them have already been
discussed, they are important enough to briefly review!) :

I. No Need to Please

The mark of a true Superior Alpha Male is the ability to
avoid seeking the approval from others. Unlike most men,
this guy has enough confidence to never display behaviors
that indicate a low social standing. He concentrates on
what he wants and doesn’t really concern himself with the
behaviors of others. This is the essence of the “no need
to please” attitude you should demonstrate in a social
setting.

My advice is to always hold back on giving approval to a
woman until she does something that warrants your
attention. This shows the woman that you need to get to
know her better, and that you aren’t too eager. As the



conversation progresses you can you start to open up and
adapt a more interested posture.

You can demonstrate a no need to please attitude
through your body language. While you want to be fun
and have high energy in an interaction, you don’t want to
show that you’re overly interested in a girl.

I’ve found you can quickly show this attitude (and build
some serious sexual tension) by doing a little push-pull
with your behavior. One minute you’re having fun and
laughing. Then you’re serious when she says something
that might “disqualify” her from your attention.

Here are some subtle ways to show this behavior
with your body language:

λ Furrow your eyebrows
λ Look around as you’re talking

λ Give her a ‘not convinced’ expression

λ Keep a straight face

λ Lean away from her

Remember you are trying to appear nonchalant, not rude!
You want to make her work a little for your attention, but
not act in an insulting manner. No movements, a subtle
lack of interest, and a straight posture are enough to keep
her interested in winning your attention.

This behavior should say that you are secure in your
abilities and don't have anything to prove. You're
indifferent to the outcome of this conversation. If this
woman doesn't to be with you, it’s no big deal. You are a
man with options.



II. The Confident Look

There is a certain pose that typifies the essence of a
confident man. In a social venue, it’s a way of standing
that commands attention. Even when you're not talking to
a woman, you should display this look. Here’s a quick
breakdown of a confident pose:

λ Chest Out

λ Shoulders back

λ Head up

λ Feet shoulder length apart

λ Toes pointed straight ahead

λ Weight evenly distributed on both legs

λ Hands out of your pocket and at your side (or with a
drink your hand)

λ Eyes centered on the people in your group

λ Smiling and having fun

Furthermore, the confident guy is not afraid to take up a
lot of space. He spreads out and needs a lot of room to
stand.

Be like this guy by widening your stance. Anchor yourself
to the ground and command your space! You don’t have
to be physically large to have a big presence. Women are
drawn to men who boldly assert themselves. The will not
be attracted to men who withdraw and let others to intrude
in his personal space.



III. Strong Eye Contact

Eye contact is a crucial element to developing the
Superior Alpha Male look. In fact, it’s a major part of the
entire dating and courtship ritual. When a man and a
woman look at each other, they deliver a powerful
message about their levels of attraction. In a way, it’s a
subtle way to size one another up and test for sexual
chemistry.

Eye contact is even important in body language with other
guys. Holding a lengthy gaze with a man is often
perceived as an aggressive action. With the wrong person,
it might start a verbal or physical confrontation. Typically,
the situation is resolved when the weaker make finally
looks away, avoiding a violent encounter.

What’s interesting is the eye contact that causes
confrontations with other men can help you create
attraction with women.

When you lock eyes with a girl, maintain your gaze. Let her
be the first to look away. You want to maintain the eye
contact just a little bit longer than what is normally
acceptable in a casual social situation. Women find this
very intriguing. This look lets her know that she is dealing
with more than a sweet gentleman. It’s the gaze of a
guy who is a sexually confident male.

Another critical element of eye contact is how it’s specific
to the social context of a situation. Different scenarios
have different comfort levels, and therefore call for
different behaviors. For instance, if you're in an elevator,
or in otherwise close proximity, your eye contact will be
much shorter than if you're looking at a woman in a bar.



So always take your environment into account and make
the appropriate adjustments!

Establishing strong eye contact with a woman is a hard
thing to do at first. Because you’re pushing the limits of
social norms, you may feel a bit awkward. You want to do
it in a confident manner, but also avoid the “creep zone”
that’ll scare her off!

To avoid coming off as the “weird guy”, practice
maintaining eye contact with women. Make a game out
of making connections to the people you encounter every
day. You don't even have to engage them in conversation.
Just lock eyes with women and hold it for a brief second or
two. You’ll find that many will be lock eyes back on you
and give signals that they’re interested in you approaching
them!

IV. Walk with Purpose

The Superior Alpha Male has a unique way of walking.
In fact, you can often spot this guy simply from the way he
moves. His walk is slow and with purpose. Think of those
movies where they film the main character in slow motion
moving confidently towards his purpose. Try moving this
way!

A confident walk has many crucial ingredients. They can
include:

λ A natural, graceful motion.

λ Eyes and head looking forward, fixated on a point in the
distance

λ Chin up and parallel to the ground

λ Relaxed shoulders and posture



λ Arms swinging from the back and shoulders, not from
your elbows

λ Butt tucked into to propel you forward

The essence of a good walk is a relaxed, but confident
attitude. You don’t want to do anything that’ll make you
seem weak. This can include mannerisms like slouching or
drooping your shoulders. It should be similar to the way
you stand… Walk with purpose and confidence!

A good walk tells people that you have a sense of purpose,
but you’re not too concerned with getting it. This is a
crucial attitude to portray when you are approaching a
woman. You want to seem confident without too excited.

I recommend you analyze the way you walk. If you’re not
displaying many of the traits that I describe, then work on
these problems areas.

A great way to improve your stride is to carefully study the
body language of confident people as they walk. Politicians,
actors, and rock stars know how to move. By studying and
mimicking their behavior, you’ll adapt a type of movement
that’s very powerful around women.

Another thing is an attractive walk begins with a strong
core. One of the quickest ways to improve your stride is to
work on your abs, obliques, lower back. Extra crunches at
the gym will strengthen your midsection and cause you to
stand taller and move with more power.

The Superior Alpha Male isn’t afraid to take his time to
get places. Furthermore, he has a confident gait in his
steps which give off a powerful sense of presence. Making
small adjustments to the way you walk can have a
profound affect on how you’re perceived by women.



V. Always Be at Ease

A Superior Alpha Male should be comfortable in all
situations. To make this happen, you need to ensure that
your body language gives off an aura of relaxation.
Even when meeting a woman for the first time, you want
to act in a casual manner, like the outcome of the
conversation isn’t that important. In other words, lean
back, widen your stance, and take up some space.

A relaxed attitude is hard thing for many guys to learn. As
we’ve discussed, neediness makes your average guy too
“outcome orientated”. Often he’s so obsessed with trying
to ‘pick up’ a woman that he forgets to relax. The
successful men are the ones who understand the nuances
of a social interaction and can maintain a casual look.

Unfortunately, it’s hard to demonstrate a relaxed look if
you don’t feel that way. You can’t fake this attitude. While
you might think you’re behaving in a casual manner, a
woman will easily spot your anxious attitude. A quick way
to develop a relaxed state of mind is to use the
affirmations that we discussed in the Superior Alpha
Male report. These daily reminders can do wonders for
building a more relaxed appearance around women.

For instance, here are some affirmations that you could
successfully use:

λ “I am relaxed in all situations”

λ “I am not concerned with any drama”

λ “I am confident no matter what happens”

λ “I am calm even when others get upset, worried or
angry”



A relaxed attitude is another crucial part of being a
Superior Alpha Male. When you display this attitude,
you’ll subtly demonstrate that you can handle any sort of
problem that might arise.

VI. Smile at People

One of the first things a woman will notice is your facial
expression. When you start a conversation with a dour
look, she’ll make the assumption that you’re a pessimistic
person and not much fun to be around. On the other, a
dazzling smile can work wonders! By approaching with a
friendly expression on your face, people will be more
inclined to want to meet you.

Through a number of studies, it’s been proven that a
positive facial expression can affect a person’s mood.
When someone grins at us, we usually return the gesture.
So if you give a smile to a woman, she’ll generally return
the gesture. In a way, it’s a subtle technique for giving her
a reason to like you.

What else does a smile tell a woman? Well, there are
a number of messages that you send a woman when you
smile. For instance, they tell a woman that:

λ You enjoy her company

λ You like what she’s saying

λ You’re a positive, upbeat person

λ You like to have fun



Now there is a disadvantage to smiling. While women love
guys with a friendly demeanor, they don’t want to be
around the “grinning fool” who won’t stop smiling.

You want to approach with a friendly attitude, but lower it
after a few minutes of conversation. Then use it whenever
you adopt a playful attitude. The expression on your face
should make you appear to be fun. Not like some creepy
dude who can’t stop smiling!

VII. Sexual Communication

When you first meet a woman, you want to send a number
of powerful messages. One of the things you’re trying to
communicate is your sexual confidence. Within a few
minutes of a conversation, a woman should know that
you’re comfortable with sex and you can “handle your
business”. And this message is sent through your
actions, not your words!

One of the best ways to communicate sexuality is
through your touch. As I discussed in Flirt Mastery
establishing physical contact should be done in a confident
manner.

At first you’re going to lightly break the touch barrier
through social gestures like “high fiving”, handshakes and
light touches on the arm. Later on, you’ll want to more
assertive with your touching to the point where she knows
the two of you are communicating sexuality through your
body language.

You want to be deliberate and open about touching.
When you’ve built attraction and rapport, your touch
should be something that provides the catalyst for a
seduction. In fact, you can often touch a woman to gauge



her level of interest. By invading her personal space,
you’re testing to see if she’s interested in being kissed. If
a woman allows you to run your hands along her neck and
hair, then this indicates she’s ready to be kissed.

Another way to communicate sexuality is through the pace
and tonality of your voice. When you first meet a woman,
you’re going to display the fun attitude that’s attractive.
But after build attraction and qualification, you want to
slow down the cadence of your speech.

A slow, but deliberate way of talking is an excellent way to
show there’s a high level of sexual chemistry between the
two of you.

VIII. Leading Women

Life rewards those who take bold action. The successful
guys of the world are the ones who understand the
importance of taking action and being in control of their
destiny. When it comes to women, boldness comes in the
form of being a leader and controlling interactions with
women.

Don’t hesitate when you see an attractive woman. Instead,
train your body to act on impulse. As it’s commonly said:

“He who hesitates, Masturbates!”

As we’ve learned, the leader never orients himself to a
woman. He is the guy in the room who everyone else
mimics. When talking to a woman, have the mindset that
she’s in the conversation because you are allowing her to
have your attention!



Furthermore, the leader controls the location and speed of
an interaction. He doesn’t wait for a woman to make a
move, he’s the one who grabs her hand and moves her to
the place he wants her to be. You can demonstrate the
leadership by where you place your hands. A guy in
control simply puts his hand on a woman’s lower back and
guides her to an appropriate spot in a venue. He’s always
in front, and grabs her hand when moving through a crowd.

Men often make the mistake of hoping a woman will be the
first to “make a move”. Don’t be one of these guys!

You can control most of the interaction by stepping up and
being the guy who takes command. You’ll find that doing
this every time is a great way to turn an innocent
conversation into something more…

IX. Playfulness

Never be the guy who sits sullenly in a bar, hoping a girl
will notice and approach you. This “brooder personality”
doesn’t attract women. Usually it makes you become the
invisible man in a room full of singles. Instead of being the
quiet guy in the corner, you want to become the playful
person that everyone wants to meet.

From the moment you walk into a venue, you want to be
the guy who is laughing and enjoying a good time
with his friends. Your attitude should be so energized
that strangers want to join your group, because you seem
like you’re having the most fun!

Instead of being overly concerned with meeting women,
direct your body towards your buddies and simply have
fun! Then when you spot an attractive girl (or group of
girls) you approach without hesitation.



Sidebar: One technique that I use for a quick opener is to
have fun with my friends for a few minutes. Then pull out
my digital camera, and ask a nearby girl to take a picture
of me and my friends. Once I’ve started the conversation,
I’ll do light teasing and even promise to take a picture with
her

When you’re around your friends and enjoying yourself,
people will take notice. Just relax and have fun. This kind
of casual body language is very attractive to women.
Women directly correlate fun to feeling sexy. If she sees
you laughing and having fun, you’ll tap into the emotional,
pleasure center in her brain.

So no matter what you feel like inside, always project a fun
attitude when around women. Leave the sullen or boring
behavior for home. You’ll be surprised at how faking a fun
time will actually help you enjoy yourself.

X. Teasing Women

Treat a woman like she’s an interesting person who
is bothering you. One of the best expressions I’ve heard
on this technique is to think of her as your “bratty little
sister” who won’t leave you alone. This is a great mindset
to have because you’ll project a confident aura where
you’re not really afraid of what she thinks.

Your body language should project this vibe when you’re
interacting with women. The attitude to have is you’re
enjoying a conversation with a woman, but teasing her at
the same time. In fact, one of the quickest ways to



initially break the touch barrier is to do it through the
frame of teasing and playing around.

So while you’re saying something, you punctuate your
comments with some form of physical contact. Here are
some of the things that I recommend you do while
verbally teasing a woman:

λ Poke her

λ Hug her

λ Pull her towards you then push her away

λ Squeeze her knee

λ Tickle her

This type of body language is a great way to build sexual
tension. Sometimes your saying nice things, then you’re
teasing her. And sometimes you’re giving physical
validation then you’re pushing her away.

Now, you’ll often hear a woman say stuff like “Stop that!”
or “You’re such an asshole!” If this is done with a smile or
laughter, then you know it’s time to pay attention to her
body language, not her words.

On the other hand, if she appears uncomfortable, back off
and try something else. A woman’s non verbal
communication is the clearest indicator of a woman’s
thoughts. So pay attention to how she’s acting, then
directly respond to these cues

XI. Be Dominant

Demonstrating high status body language is not just about
teasing a woman or acting funny. There are times when



you have to show the strong, masculine side of your
personality. On a subconscious level, women love to feel
safe and protected. With your body language, you can
show a woman that you’re able to be the guy that protects
her.

Being dominant is not about acting like an obnoxious,
chauvinistic pig. It’s more about controlling interactions
and subtly showing that you’re a guy who can protect
women. One way to do this is to do the same things that a
gentleman would do.

For instance, here’s what a dominant male would do
around a woman:

λ Position himself to the outside of a curb when walking
down a sidewalk

λ Hold a door for her whenever entering or leaving a
building

λ Put yourself in front if a dangerous situation happens

λ Guide her through a room with your hand on her lower
back

λ Offer his arm to a woman whenever walking to a place

λ Open her car door first

You might think this behavior is kind of antiquated. And
that’s the reason why it’s so effective. Modern society has
created a ton of confusion about individual gender roles.
By behaving like a guy who can “take care” of a woman,
you’ll stand out from the rest of insensitive assholes of the
world.

Sometimes you’ll get a girl who gets really uptight about
this “chauvinistic” attitude. This is actually a good thing!



Any woman who gets upset over a bit of gentlemanly
behavior is someone you probably wouldn’t want to date.
Therefore, acting in a dominant manner can help you
eliminate the girls who would probably turn out to be
nightmare to date!

XII. Act Cool

There is a certain vibe to a guy with high status. You can
often easily pick him out from the crowd. Usually he’s at
the center of attention. Others face him and they seem
concerned with seeking his approval. This guy, on the
other hand, is pretty calm and collected. He’s not
concerned with what others think of him. In fact, he’ll say
something and not even care what people think of it.

As you know, status is one of the keys to attracting a
woman. They want to be with a man who is “better” than
the rest. Your body language tells people how much
social status you have. A guy who doesn’t act overly
concerned about others projects a kind of “cool” attitude.
When you act this way, a woman will perceive that you’re
a guy who is confident about his place in the world.

In order to demonstrate the quality of “cool guy”, you have
to work on the way your body reacts in a social situation.

First off, you have to eliminate all the approval seeking
behaviors that’ll hurt your chances of displaying this
attitude. Here’s a recap of those actions:

λ Leaning towards women

λ Smiling too much
λ Keeping your head down

λ Make yourself physically smaller in a crowded venue



λ Raising eyebrows to comments

λ Letting others control or dominate the conversation

λ Using self-deprecating humor too much

λ Agreeing with everything a person says

Next, you want to practice minimizing the behaviors that
project a low social status attitude. Usually this is the
tendency for guys to wait for a specific response whenever
they say something funny or make a comment to women.
Waiting for a reaction from a woman is one of the
quickest ways to show a definite lack of “coolness”.

A lot of the material that I cover in my Flirt Mastery
course is designed to help you get an emotional response
from women (happiness, laughter, anger and jealousy).
The problem lies in being too concerned with a woman’s
reactions whenever doing a routine. A Superior Alpha
Male doesn’t worry about the reactions from others. He
primarily does things to amuse himself.

To show a cool vibe with your body language, you want to
makes sure you’re not acting too concerned with how other
people act. In a way, a dismissive, egotistical stance can
make you seem like you’re confident to not care about
what others think.

XIII. Have High Energy
While it’s crucial to display a cool, relaxed attitude, it’s
equally important to demonstrate high energy when talking
to women. Now it might not seem possible to have lots of
energy while being relaxed. The truth is you can show



both attitudes at the same time without sending a
conflicting message…

A high energy, but cool guy, has fun when he meets
people. He engages women in a conversation, tells
interesting stories, and is out to have a good time.
However, he never seems to really care what people think.
When telling a story or showing something to a girl, it
almost seems like he’s there to amuse himself. So you can
be both fun and relaxed at the same time. It all comes
down to not really caring what others think.

A high energy guy attracts women like a magnet. He is
the guy who can “bring the party” to a group of people.
He has the attitude of knowing he’s fun and can generate
that excitement when talking to people for the first time.

With women, you want to use your energy levels to
improve their state of mind. If they’re down, then you
want to bring them up. And if they’re already in a happy
state, you’ll make them even happier! The energetic guy
is someone who enjoys “providing value” to everyone he
meets!

Now, there’s a rule of thumb for the amount of energy you
demonstrate. It should be directly proportional to the
environment you’re in. In a loud dance club, it’s
important to have extremely high energy. This will help
you stand out from the pounding music and flashing lights.
However, if you want to meet a girl in a coffee house, then
you should reduce your energy level. You don’t want to
approach somebody and come across as a “crazy speed
freak”. The best thing to do is to meet someone at their
energy level or slightly higher. This will help you act in
a fun manner, without seeming like a lunatic.



The Three Problem Areas to Monitor
I know we’ve talked a lot about different parts of body
language. As a result, you might be wondering how you
can get started with improving your non-verbal
communication. That’s why in this section we’re going to
cover the three major areas where I see many guys
make mistakes.

If you have trouble with demonstrating a high status
personality, then I recommend you first work on these
areas. You’ll find that making a few simple adjustments
can have an immediate improvement to the signals that
you’re sending women…

#1 – Your Hands & Arms

Ever feel like you don’t know what to do with your
hands?

This is problem that almost everyone has at some point.
You want to keep them in a comfortable position, but you
also want to avoid putting them in your pockets. The
simple truth is the position of your hands is important to
how a woman perceives you. A guy with his hands in a
dominant position can easily show a confident demeanor.

So first off, keep your mitts out of your pockets. When
you place your hands in your pockets, it’s a subconscious
signal that you’re uncomfortable in social situations. This
is a quick way to demonstrate a low status attitude to
women. To fix this problem, I recommend you place your
hands in the following areas:



λ At your side

λ In front of you and part of the conversation

λ With a drink in your hand

Or if all else fails…

λ Hooked into the front belt loop or over your belt buckle,
fingers splayed and pointed towards your crotch. (This
is the stance of a guy confident enough to demonstrate
sexuality)

There’s another critical ingredient to where you should
places your hands. You never want to position in a way
that has your arms folded across your chest. This is
probably the most common way of showing discomfort and
unease. Almost every person in the world knows that a
person with arms folded is uncomfortable or bored.

I have a recommendation for this… don’t do it!

Folding your arms across your chest is one of those little,
but crucial, body language mannerisms that can hurt your
success. If you want instant improvement with women,
then I suggest you actively monitor your behavior and see
if you’re folding your arms across your chest.

If you find that you’re doing it, then immediately stop! If
you have to, put an item in each hand, so there’s no way
you can fold your arms.

#2 – Your Facial Expressions

As I discussed in the previous section, a lot of guys go
through the world with a sullen expression on their face.



While they might be having fun, they’re not showing this
attitude to the people around them. A frown (or lack of
expression) basically tells people that you’re not a fun
person worth knowing.

A smile can have an amazing effect on people. This
positive facial expression can send a powerful message to
the people you meet. It tells them that you’re happy
to see them and you’re enjoying yourself. At the right
time, a smile can make someone feel special. This is an
emotion that you want to create everywhere you go.

My suggestion is to practice smiling at every person you
meet. This includes friends, co-workers, strangers, and
even the cashier at your local McDonalds! While you might
think this is easy, it’s actually a lot harder then you would
think. Most people aren’t used to smiling at strangers.
But I promise that giving a smile to everyone you see can
dramatically improve the way others treat you!

A dazzling smile is probably the best way to attract a
woman. If you don't smile naturally, take the time to
practice it. It’s an incredible tool that can be your secret
weapon. By following this recommendation, you’ll develop
the habit of smiling as a reflex every time you approach a
woman.

Finally, I want to quickly discuss one of the ‘sticking points’
when it comes to smiling. Some guys have physical
problems with their mouth (like stains on their teeth or bad
breath) so they avoid smiling.



In my opinion, there’s no excuse for not smiling. If you
have a ‘busted grill’, then do something about it! Brush 2-
3 times a day, floss and regularly use breath mints. If you
have permanent damage to your teeth, then go to a
dentist. Never let an easily fixable problem prevent you
from attracting a woman.

#3 – Your Eye Contact

The eye contact you establish with people delivers a
powerful message. It can tell someone that you’re either a
dominant or submissive person. And since we’re focusing
on developing a Superior Alpha Male personality, you
want a woman to see you as a dominant guy!

As we’ve discussed, eye contact is different with each
gender. With guys, a lengthy gaze is often seen as a
challenge. While I recommend you make strong eye
contact with everyone you meet, you don’t want to start a
fight. I suggest you make eye contact with men, but don’t
do it to the point where you get your ass kicked.

With women, you want to establish dominant eye
contact. A simple strategy that I suggest is you look at
her eyes about 1 second longer then what’s normally
socially acceptable. You’ll notice that this technique can
actually have an amazing affect on how you’ll be perceived
by females.

Strong eye contact is one of the ways to demonstrate a
sexually confident attitude. With the right kind of gaze,
many women will be intrigued by your boldness and will
give you an opening to approach them.

Now if you have problems with lowering your eyes
whenever you meet someone’s gaze, then I recommend



you try this simple exercise. Spend one day making eye
contact with every woman you encounter. Do what I
suggested before and hold it just a little bit longer then
most guys would. When you do this enough, you’ll train
yourself to give women a powerful gaze!



Making Adjustments to Your Body
Language
Body language is a projection of your internal
thoughts and feelings. When you’re in a positive state,
you’ll be more likely to show an upbeat attitude that’ll be
more attractive to women. To exhibit a confident aura,
you have to have to make sure you maintain a “positive
state”.

When you’re not feeling particularly happy or comfortable,
it becomes a challenge to maintain confident body
language. In a way, your attitude can declare your low
self-esteem like a flashing neon sign. There is no
distinction between the mind and the body. If you're
feeling insecure, then your body language will reflect this
attitude.

In order to affect a positive and lasting change to your
body language, you have to become acutely aware of what
your non verbal communication says about you. Then,
practice the techniques that I’ve previously discussed.

One of the ways to dramatically improve your body
language is to do an evaluation every 30 minutes when
you’re in a social situation. During this “spot check”, you’ll
do a quick review of the mannerisms that you’re displaying.

For instance, here are some questions you can ask yourself:

λ “Am I in a positive state of mind?”

λ “Am I smiling?”

λ “Am I making eye contact with people?”

λ “Am I displaying my hands in a dominant manner?”



λ “Am I demonstrating any approval seeking behavior?”

λ “Am I giving off the right kind of energy?”

λ “Am I demonstrating a relaxed vibe?”

λ “Am I being a fun guy?”

With this evaluation, you’re quickly monitoring your body
language then making the appropriate changes. Doing this
on a regular basis can have an amazing impact on how
you’re perceived by people. Eventuall, you’ll arrive at the
point where you won’t even think about what to do. Your
body will do it naturally!

Now before we move on, I want to emphasize the
importance of not obsessing over your body language.
While you want to monitor your behavior, you don’t want
to overanalyze it to the point where you become an
“emotional basket case”. Fix what you can and then move
on!

If you still have problems, even after doing this exercise,
then you might need to get some outside help. An easy
way to evaluate your body language is to ask for the
opinions from the people you trust. Get your friends to
give their honest (even brutal) opinion about your non-
verbal communication when you’re in a social situation.

Furthermore, you can try teaming up with a friend who is
also interested in improving his dating skills. After going
out, the two of you can give constructive criticism to each
other about the mistakes you’re making.

Finally, I have another “quick fix” way to improve your
body language. You can try my movie technique. One
night when you go out, pretend that a camera is constantly
recording all of your actions. Go through the whole night



behaving as if many people are watching your every move.
The sensation of being closely monitored, even an
imaginary one, will help you identify specific body language
that you would like to change.

Your body language can communicates all the traits that
women find attractive. When you monitor and make
adjustments, you’ll dramatically improve the message that
you send women. So do the exercises I discussed in this
section and you’ll experience a dramatic improvement to
your body language!



Speaking in a High Status Manner

A lot times, it’s not the words you say that’s attractive to
women. It’s how you say them. A man with a confident
and powerful voice can be very seductive a woman.
Someone like this doesn’t even really to say that much.
With just that sound of voice, he can easily attract women.

The way you speak to a woman can often determine
your success. Developing a powerful voice can be an
incredible way to demonstrate a naturally attractive vibe.
When a woman is turned on by how you say stuff, you
won’t have to work as hard at thinking of stuff to talk
about. As a result, it’s important to work on your speech
and develop what I like to call “High Status Speech”.

In order to develop this behavior, here are four
areas that you need to concentrate on:

1 – Your Speed

Guys often show their anxiety and nervousness by talking
too fast during a conversation. The Low Status Males have
a tendency to talk to women in a rapid-fire manner. This is
usually resulted from a feeling that they have a limited
amount of time to impress a woman. So they feel the
need to talk fast as possible to cover the “important”
things.

Unfortunately, rapid speech doesn’t help you demonstrate
a confident personality. It usually comes out as a garbled
mess that women find hard to follow. When talking to a
guy like this, a woman is often left with her head spinning.



A confident speech pattern is slow and clear. A guy
who talks this way doesn’t fly through his conversation.
Instead he knows the things he says are interesting, so he
isn’t too concerned with taking some time.

One of the best ways to develop this type of speech is to
monitor your speed. You’ll find that many times you talk
too fast, especially in an uncomfortable social
environment. When this happens, make it point to cut
your speed down to about half of what it normally would
be.

Furthermore, another great technique to try is the
deliberate pause. This is a conversation tactic where you
purposefully stop the conversation right before you say
something interesting. It’s a powerful way to get a person
to hang on your every word. Plus, a little suspense goes a
long way. You want a woman to wonder what you’re going
to say next!

2 – Your Volume

The volume of your speech is another way to demonstrate
your level of confidence. A Superior Alpha Male speaks
loudly because he knows people want to hear what he has
to say. Conversely, a weak guy tends to have a soft, low
voice.

Now in order for you to build attraction through your
conversation, you have to be heard. If your voice isn’t
loud enough, then you’ll quickly lose interest from women.
This is especially true when it comes to noisy venues like
bars or clubs.



Since you generally have to talk over ambient and
competing noise, it’s important to become comfortable
with speaking in clear, commanding voice.

You may feel uncomfortable speaking this way, but trust
me; you will be quickly ignored if you try to engage a
woman with a soft meek voice.

Try practicing at home by reading from a book. You want
to carefully read the words and speak in loud voice
in a natural manner without shouting. A quick tip is to
pull the air from your diaphragm, not your chest.

3 – Your Modulation

A monotone voice can quickly put a person to sleep. A
great example of this can be seen in the movie “Ferris
Bueller’s Day Off”. In one funny scene the teacher (Ben
Stein) puts his entire class to sleep with his monotone,
boring voice.

Don’t talk to people like a robot! Nobody wants to
listen to a voice with no emotion or passion. An
expressionless voice does little to attract attention. It’s
actually one of the quickest ways to demonstrate that you
probably live a boring existence.

To develop a more interesting speech pattern, you have to
learn how to modulate your voice. To do this, you
practice using your voice to express different emotions.
This can include humor, anger, sadness, and happiness.
Furthermore, try fluctuating the volume and speech
patterns whenever telling a story.

A great way to learn how to modulate is to listen to a
famous comedian or radio personality. You’ll hear how



they can express a wide range of emotions through the
power of their voice. Record some of these guys and then
practice the way that they speak. After awhile, you’ll learn
how to develop a rich voice that’s full of interesting
nuances.

4- Your Pitch

Women go crazy over a deep voice. Now, most of us
aren’t blessed with a powerful voice. But it is something
you can develop. Through a bit of practice, you can learn
how lower the pitch of your voice whenever in a social
interaction.

The trick to deepening your voice is to speak directly
from your diaphragm, not your throat. You should pull
all your sound from your core. Take deep breaths and
imagine the air being pushed out from your lower stomach.
This is similar to the training that they do in the military.
You’re simply developing a commanding voice without
taking any sound from your throat.

To practice this technique, place the palm of your hand on
your diaphragm and speak. If you feel that the sound is
coming from your throat, then you’re doing it wrong. You
want to feel a vibration emanate from your chest. Keep
practicing till you can consistently pull sound from your
diaphragm.

Some Examples…

It’s been said that one of the physical traits that woman
likes in a man is a masculine voice. The problem it’s
hard to describe what this sounds like. So, my best advice
is to listen to the men who have a powerful way of



speaking. For instance, here some men who are widely
regarded as having attractive voices.

λ Winston Churchill

λ Barry White

λ Barrack Obama

λ James Earl Jones

λ Sean Connery

λ Howard Stern (and many other radio personalities)

Each of these men have trained their voice to provide a
soothing sound to the listener. I recommend you listen to
audio recordings of these guys and see how they use all
four elements that I discussed in this section. You’ll find
each one of them talks in a slow, deep manner that uses a
wide range of emotion!



Conclusion
Well we’ve the end of the Seductive Body Language
report. I hope you learned something about
communicating with women on a non-verbal level and why
it’s important for creating attraction.

Just remember that 90% of the message you send women
is done on an intuitive, level where you don’t have to
speak a word. So if you want to project a confident,
masculine attitude, you have to ensure that your body
language is telling women the right things.

By following the advice that I outlined in the book, you’ll
have a powerful demeanor that’ll attract women, on a
subconscious, yet primal level!

Good Luck!


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