1. Making up in the Movies - Why Doesn't it Really Work That Way?
You've seen it happen in the movies dozens, if not hundreds of time. Boy
meets girl. Girl falls in love with boy. Boy breaks girl's heart (mean boy!). Girl
breaks up with boy. Boy makes heroic effort with giant 1980's boom boxes,
saying "hello," flying a jet, and countless other antics to win her heart back. The
problem is, one person is writing the script for both of them in the movies.
They're playing pre-defined roles and following cues. Real life doesn't quite
work that way.
Lack of Originality
Unfortunately, a lot of guys haven't gotten the memo. You're still trying to use
moves that have been used before. Sadly, these are moves the girls you're
trying to get back together with already know about too.
2. Your ex doesn't want you to copy something that's been done before. If you're going to
make a move to get her back, it had better, at the very least, be original. It needs to be
something she hasn't seen before. It also needs to be something that you would do. It
needs to appear sincere. Using movie lines as your guide makes her feel as though she
sn't
mportant enough to you for something original.
Not Appropriate for Your Situation
Every relationship is different. Every breakup is somewhat unique. You can be having the
same arguments as 10,000 other couples around the world, but there are things about the
wo of you and your situation that make those same arguments and situations unique.
No matter what the reason for the breakup was, your situation is different than Harry and
Sally's (When Harry Met Sally), Joe and Kathleen's (You've Got Mail), Maverick and
Charlie's (Top Gun), and Pat and Tiffany's (Silver Linings Playbook). You need to take the
ime and make the effort to come up with something unique and specific to your romantic
situation. More importantly, it needs to be something that will matter to her and melt her
heart.
3. Alternative Endings Worth Considering
That is, of course, if you're going for movie magic effects. However, you could
do something else altogether. Something she may even find curious and
shocking. You could let her go -- at least for a little while. Instead of going
after the girl, give her a little time to think things through.
Absence really does make the heart grow fonder. Then, after a little time has
passed, chances are you won't need to call her. She'll call you. When that
happens, you can both enjoy a happy ending that's much better than anything
Hollywood could come up with because it's the story that belongs to the two of
you and no one else.