1. The Black Man And Dating - Becoming More Attractive To The
Ladies
When it comes to being a black man and dating every man thinks they are a catch. As you know
every fish that a fisherman catches he doesn't keep some he will throw back. Well, how can I become
the catch that the ladies want and not the one they throw back. By the way men my definition of
ladies is not women you just want to sleep with and forget about them. I am talking about developing
something real and long lasting.
The first thing you need to do is educate yourself. Studies show that in the African American
community more women are attending and finishing college than there male counterparts. What does
this mean? If you are not educated you are going to be left behind. Just by the nature of having more
education women are being exposed to more opportunities, making more money and meeting people
at higher social and economic levels. Once you have walked in those circles, the Johnny come lately
on the street corner whistling at her when she walks by is not so attractive anymore. Being a black
man and dating is not just about good physical appearance, your mind has to be in top shape as well.
As a black man you need to educate yourself to keep up with the changing times. I am not saying that
you have to get a college degree, but if you don't make sure you get a skill that gets a job where you
can support yourself and your family comfortably. It is not about whether your woman makes more
money than you because that's not important, but it's about holding up your end of the bargain and
bringing your fair share to the table.
Education doesn't just mean book knowledge either. Expand your cultural and social knowledge as
well. Read more books. Go to museums, art shows and plays. Learn about fine wines, travel and
great music. Show a woman you know more than hip-hop and R&B culture or what's on the sports
pages. You don't have to leave that stuff behind but just let them know there is more to you than that.
You also have to learn how to take care of yourself. We live in a different age than 50 years ago.
Back then women were for the most part the homemakers so they did all of the cooking and the
cleaning. Today black women are professionals and working just as much if not more than men. You
need to learn to do things around the house. Learn how to wash clothes, cook, clean, change
diapers. Don't think this is just for the women anymore because the truth is it's not. A man who can
take care of a house is a very attractive man. If you don't believe me ask your mom, sister or any
female friend.
Finally men take an interest in some things she likes. You don't have to love everything she loves but
being a black man and dating in this society may mean going to a chick flick or spending all day at the
mall every now and then. Black women are looking for men who are not selfish but who care about
who they are as a person. They want a man, who will encourage them to continue to grow and
develop in all areas of their life. Listen men, if you become that kind of man not only will the ladies line
up to catch you but they won't want to throw you back.
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