Seven principles of how to be the world’s greatest mother

1. How to be the World’s
Greatest Mum
Mother’s Day 2009

3. Who are mothers?

4. Who are mothers?
Mother Teresa

5. Who are mothers?
People whose role or functions as mother
Biological mothers
Adopter
Step-mother
Guardian
God-mother
Grand-mother
Single parent

6. Proverb 31:28a
Her children arise and call her
blessed;

7. The seven principles to
be the world’s greatest
mum

8. The seven principles to
be the world’s greatest
mum
Don’t be a kiasu person
 Kiasuism is self-centeredness
Be Kiasu
Oxford English Dictionary 2007 = “fear of losing”

9. The seven principles to
be the world’s greatest
mum
Don’t be a kiasu person
 Kiasuism is self-centeredness
 Kiasu mothers produce kiasu children

10. The seven principles to
be the world’s greatest
mum
Don’t be a kiasu person
 Kiasuism is self-centeredness
 Kiasu mothers produce kiasu children
 Kiasu mothers use shame to control
their children

11. The seven principles to
be the world’s greatest
mum
Don’t be a kiasu person
Speak the languages of love of children

12. how to fuel their emotional tank with love?

14. The Languages of Love in Children
 Physical touch

15. The Languages of Love in Children
 Physical touch
 Words of
affirmation
 Words of affection
and endearment
 Words of praise
 Words of
encouragement
 Words of guidance

16. The Languages of Love in Children
 Physical touch
 Words of
affirmation
 Quality time
 Being together
 Positive eye
contact
 Sharing thoughts
and feelings

17. The Languages of Love in Children
 Physical touch
 Words of
affirmation
 Quality time
 Gifts
 Grace of giving
 Distorted gift giving
 Meaningful gift
giving

18. The Languages of Love in Children
 Physical touch
 Words of
affirmation
 Quality time
 Gifts
 Acts of service
 Loving service
 Only do for them
what they cannot
do themselves

19. The world’s greatest mum
knows her children’s
primary love language

20. The seven principles to
be the world’s greatest
mum
Don’t be a kiasu person
Speak the languages of love of children
Don’t expect instant results

21. Don’t expect instant results
 Repeat, repeat, repeat
 Set appropriate boundaries
 Behavioural modification
 Positive reinforcement
 Negative reinforcement
 Punishment
 Appropriate to crime
 Immediate
 Not out of anger
 Age appropriate teaching
 Teach children to learn

22. The seven principles to
be the world’s greatest
mum
Don’t be a kiasu person
Speak the languages of love of children
Don’t expect instant results
Be and teach gratefulness
 Be grateful
 Teach gratefulness

23. The seven principles to
be the world’s greatest
mum
Don’t be a kiasu person
Speak the languages of love of children
Don’t expect instant results
Be and teach gratefulness
Learn to let go

24. Learn to let go
 Be willing to let go
 Develop spiritual and social
‘streetwise’
 Cut the umbilical cord
Proverb 22: 6
6 Train a child in the way he
should go, and when he is old
he will not turn from it.

25. The seven principles to
be the world’s greatest
mum
Don’t be a kiasu person
Speak the languages of love of children
Don’t expect instant results
Be and teach gratefulness
Learn to let go
Walk in the faith

26. Walk in the faith
Deu 11: 18-21
18 Fix these words of mine in your hearts and minds; tie
them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your
foreheads. 19 Teach them to your children, talking about
them when you sit at home and when you walk along the
road, when you lie down and when you get up. 20 Write
them on the doorframes of your houses and on your
gates, 21 so that your days and the days of your children
may be many in the land that the LORD swore to give
your forefathers, as many as the days that the heavens
are above the earth.
 Our faith is caught rather than taught
 Routine, rituals and telling the Truths

27. The seven principles to
be the world’s greatest
mum
Don’t be a kiasu person
Speak the languages of love of children
Don’t expect instant results
Be and teach gratefulness
Learn to let go
Walk in the faith
Stay close to the Source

28. Stay close to the Source
John 15: 5
5 "I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man
remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart
from me you can do nothing. 6 If anyone does not
remain in me, he is like a branch that is thrown away and
withers; such branches are picked up, thrown into the
fire and burned. 7 If you remain in me and my words
remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be
given you. 8 This is to my Father's glory, that you bear
much fruit, showing yourselves to be my disciples.
Living a life in Christ
Prayer
Bible assimilation

29. The seven principles to
be the world’s greatest
mum
Don’t be a kiasu person
Speak the languages of love of children
Don’t expect instant results
Be and teach gratefulness
Learn to let go
Walk in the faith
Stay close to the Source

30. Happy Mother’s Day
10 May 2009
to the world’s greatest
mum
…yes, YOU!