Educators are rightly concerned about disengaged parents - particularly families whose children need their support the most to increase their sucess at school. At the foundation of increasing engagement is making families feel valued and respected for who they are. What keeps us from seeing a family's strengths, instead of focusing on their needs? How do we create authentic family engagement? Global speaker and award-winning author Eileen Gale Kugler shares thought-provoking insights. Contact her for speaking, training, or consulting through www.EmbraceDiverseSchools.com
Why We Really Don't Value All Parents at School - and How to Change That!
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Getting Serious about Engaging Parents in
School: Valuing Parents for Their Strengths
Eileen Gale Kugler
Embrace Diverse Schools
(c) 2014 Eileen G. Kugler - www.EmbraceDiverseSchools.com
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Quilt of Dreams”
created in rural South
African school
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What does parent
engagement based
on pity and
paternalism look
like?
Little personal contact with parents.
One-way communication:
“We’ll tell you how to help your child.”
Families are seen only for their
needs, not their strengths.
No opportunity for parents to express
their perspectives or share their
experiences.
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What do we
really know
about
families?
Who is this?
What do you think her family is like?
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6. This is Intell Science competition
semi-finalist Samantha Garvey who lived in
homeless shelter for much of her research
Mom: Olga Garvey Coreas
+ • Immigrant from El Salvador; nurses aide
Dad: Leo Garvey
• American born of Irish descent; cab driver
What resilience did her PARENTS show? What genes did they pass on?
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What does parent
engagement look like
when we don’t see
parents as individuals?
Programs don’t attract parents because they
aren’t designed strategically.
Families are blamed for lack of participation.
Assumptions about students and their families
determine expectations about the students’
ability to achieve.
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What does parent
engagement look like
when immigrants are
viewed as one
monolithic group?
Stereotypical views of ethnic groups guide
planning.
There is little understanding of the needs and
interests of immigrants as individuals.
Programs are often at the most basic level.
Potential leaders from immigrant
communities have little opportunity to take on
an important role in the school.
Programs are planned without the insights of
leaders from the immigrant communities
themselves.
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We view
others
through
the lens of
our own
personal
culture.
Individuals are
multidimensional
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Many influences
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Often interconnected
I vs THE OTHER
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What does parent
engagement look like
when planners don’t
seek outside
perspectives?
Outreach is based on what the planners think
is appropriate.
Families who don’t fit the pre-determined
expectations of “good parents” feel judged
and disconnect from the school..
Judgmental language is used at staff
meetings and in classrooms.
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True Family Partnerships
Pity
Assumptions
Judgments
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Authentic
Respect
Value
Empowerment
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Families are asked about their dreams,
their strengths, their skills, as well as
their concerns.
Educators view each interaction with a
family as an opportunity to learn.
Events are tailored to the specific
interests and needs of the community,
with families participating in the planning.
Families are contacted personally on a
regular basis about upcoming events and
positive news about their children.
Families of all backgrounds are involved
in substantive decision-making that
impacts students.
What does
authentic
family
partnership look
like?
(c) 2014 Eileen G. Kugler - www.EmbraceDiverseSchools.com
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Eileen Gale Kugler
Global speaker, trainer, consultant
Comments?
Questions?
Want to learn more?
703-644-3039
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EKugler@EmbraceDiverseSchools.com
Executive Editor, Innovative Voices in
Education: Engaging Diverse
Communities
Author, Debunking the Middle-class Myth:
Why diverse schools are good for all kids
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Editor's Notes
Vision for the book – underpinning is relationship.
If we come from a place of pity or paternalism, we only see the “needs” that need “fixing. We fail to see the strengths
China school with 100% parent involvement – all one-way
*WHO IS SHE?Samantha Garvey – finalist in Intell Science Fair. Lived in homeless shelter while completing research. * What is her family like? What do you think they need?
Mom couldn’t work because of work-related injuries for 9 months. Parents were hospitalized after a car accident last February. Their earnings eroded.Samantha and her siblings attended three different schools in one year.WHAT CAN THEY TEACH US? Would you value the dad while driving a taxi? Would you think the mom had wisdom as a nurses aide?
----- Meeting Notes (5/10/12 23:30) -----About 25 min.
Individual culture impacted by many factors, often interconnectedWhat does a Muslim woman look like? Think like? (From my book)Colin Powell – impacted by being an African-American man, but also by growing up in a neighborhood of immigrants from all over the world