1. SIBLING CONNECTION
ļ® āPeople may think that you are a big
brat, but to me you are just a big
bother, you can be overprotective but
hey I still love you. Thank you for
lighting up my life and always being
there for me. Sometimes you say for
me not to love you, but I always will
no matter what. U fill my heart with
love and joyā
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2006
2. SIBLING DEFINITION;
the obvious
ļ® Brother or a sister; wordreference.com
ļ® One of two or more individuals having one common
parent; Merriam Webster
ļ® ā¦usually taken to mean that the two people are
genetically very close, though it is not always
necessarily the case, i.e. an adoption. In most
societies throughout the world siblings will usually
grow up in the same household. This closeness is
marked with the development of strong emotional
associations between them; Wikipedia
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3. SIBLING DEFINITION;
the law
ļ® "Biological Siblingā means āA sibling, by
birth; of an adopted person.ā āA
brother, sister, or half-sibling of a child
who is being placed in foster care or
being placed for adoption.ā
ļ® āSibling Groupā means ābiological
siblings who have been raised together
or have lived together.ā
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4. SIBLING DEFINITION;
the memory
SHARE YOUR MEMORYā¦ā¦
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5. SIBLING DEFINITION;
the emotion
SHARE YOUR EMOTIONā¦ā¦
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6. REALITY CHECK
1. Almost 600,000 youth in foster care
2. 75% are separated from at least one
sibling
3. + those separated by other out-of-
home care
4. = countless youth void of the people
who shape their lives
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7. WHY ARE SIBLINGS
SEPARATED?
ļ® Parentified Child
ļ® Special Needs
ļ® Sibling Rivalry
ļ® Number of siblings in the family
ļ® Different fathers
ļ® Come into the system at different times
ļ® Abuse
ļ® Adoption Potential
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8. PARENTIFIED CHILD;
REASONABLE?
ļ® Separate to give him/her a
chance to be a child
ļ® Younger siblings placed in
unfamiliar home without parents ā
and ā older siblings
ļ® Older sibling feels responsible ā
loses identity ā role
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9. SPECIAL NEEDS (needs to
receive more focused attention)
; REASONABLE?
ļ® With siblings, they will receive more
thoughtful, maybe knowledgable, attention
ļ® Placement alone distorts sense of place in
family
ļ® Placement with other youth with special
needs may = less attention
ļ® Siblings provide support and appropriate
behavior
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10. SIBLING RIVALRY (Separate to
cease or prevent sibling rivalry)
; REASONABLE?
ļ® Sibling rivalry is a part of sibling
connection ā a fact of life
ļ® Unconditional love
ļ® Learn to handle conflict
ļ® Learn to resolve differences
ļ® Understanding and acceptance
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11. NUMBER OF CHILDREN IN
FAMILY; REASONABLE?
ļ® There are too many children to place
together ā canāt find a home
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12. DIFFERENT FATHERS;
REASON
ļ® Biology
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13. COME INTO SYSTEM AT
DIFFERENT TIMES; REASON
ļ® Birth order
ļ® New challenges
ļ® Subsequent move
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17. ADOPTION POTENTIAL;
REASONABLE?
ļ® Teen and adult adoptions are on the
rise
ļ® Siblings āwillā reunite; some older
intervening to become guardians for
younger siblings
ļ® Ā¼ vs. Ā¾ - memories for the future
ļ® Deserving of family - together
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19. SIBLING LIFE SPAN
ļ® Five Groups
ļ® 1. Early childhood
ļ® 2. Early/elementary
ļ® 3. Adolescence
ļ® 4. Adulthood
ļ® 5. Old Age
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20. SIBLING LIFE SPAN
ļ® Early childhood
ļ® Constant
companions and
playmates -
influence social and
cognitive learning ā
skills of helping,
sharing and
cooperating
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21. SIBLING LIFE SPAN
ļ® Early/elementary
ļ® Interaction with
siblings extend
beyond home to
influence
interactions with
peers
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22. SIBLING LIFE SPAN
ļ® Adolesence; ebb
and flow of
independence and
individuality;
relationship taken
for granted; space
yet comfort in
knowing they exist
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23. SIBLING LIFE SPAN
ļ® Adulthood
ļ® While āown
familiesā may take
priority -
guidance, support
and sharing
comes from
siblings
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24. SIBLING LIFE SPAN
ļ® Old Age
ļ® Siblings become
companions
again, sometimes
even living
together when
their own kids
move on
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25. SIBLING BILL OF RIGHTS
ļ§ Requires that the child welfare agency prepare a
description of efforts made to keep siblings
together and/or provide reasons siblings are not
placed together
ļ§ Provisions for post-permanency visits with
siblings
ļ§ Requires the child welfare agency and/or court to
consider siblings in placement and/or permanency
planning
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26. SIBLING BILL OF RIGHTS
ļ§ Provides for an exemption from limits on the size
of a foster home to accommodate placement of a
sibling group
ļ§ Statement of legislative intent to support sibling
relationships
ļ§ Right to, and provision for, maintaining contact
ļ§ Sibling relationship considered in determining
"best interest"
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27. NATIONAL SIBLING
CONNECTION DAY, March 1, 2006
ļ® Whereas sibling relationships are among the longest lasting and
most significant relationships in life;
ļ® Whereas brothers and sisters share history, memories, and
traditions that bind them together as family;
ļ® Whereas it is estimated that over 65 percent of children in foster
care have siblings, and are often separated when they are
placed in the foster care system, adopted, or confronted with
different kinship placements;
ļ® Whereas children in foster care have a greater risk of emotional
disturbance, difficulties in school, and problems with
relationships than their peers;
ļ® Whereas the separation of siblings as children causes
additional grief and loss;
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28. NATIONAL SIBLING
CONNECTION DAY
ļ® Resolved, That the Senate-- (1) designates
March 1, 2006, as `Siblings Connection Day';
ļ® (2) encourages the people of the United
States to celebrate sibling relationships on
this day; and
ļ® (3) supports efforts to respect and preserve
those sibling relationships that are at risk of
being disrupted due to the placement of
children into the foster care system.
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29. STATES; LISTEN TO YOUTH
ļ§ WHEREAS, The policy of the State of Illinois mandates that
contact be maintained between siblings pre-termination while
they are in foster care or youth in care and provides for
possible contact post majority via the Illinois Adoption Registry
and Medical Information Exchange
ļ§ 13 states provide specific acceptable reasons for
separating siblings
ļ§ 32 states address sibling visitation in policies
ļ§ 14 states have consent decrees mandating sibling
visitation after adoption
ļ§ 5 states allow judges to order sibling visitation over
the adoptive parentās suggestions
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30. TWO DAYS = CONNECTION?
Most frequent visitation = Weekly Visits
One hour a week
52 weeks a year
52 hours
JUST OVER TWO DAYS A YEAR
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31. MAINE
Act to Support Sibling Rights in Child
Welfare Custody Matters: Kala Clark
2007; siblingsā right to regularly scheduled
visits whenever reasonable and practical
and in the best interests of the children!
āI love you 4ever and always. I wish that I could do a lot of
stuff with you. Remember the good dayz? I wish that it
could be like that. I love you with all my heart. I wish
that we could be best friends. I will be glad if I could
see you more. Love always and forever,ā Jess
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32. YOUNG - ADULTS
Rights of older siblings to file suit for access
to a younger siblingā¦.custody of younger
āHey bro- I think of you all the time. When I
see you, you make me laugh. I have lots of fun.
Hey maybe some day when you are 18 you can
move in with me, okay? You are the best, my
best friend, my best brother Number #1,ā
From Rebecca
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33. RESOURCES
AND SPECIAL THANKS
ā¢ American Bar Association Center on Children and
the Law; www.abanet.org/child/about
ā¢ Camp To Belong; www.camptobelong.org
ā¢ Casey Family Programs; www.casey.org
ā¢ National Resource Center for Family-Centered
Practice and Permanency Planning;
www.hunter.cuny.edu/socwork/nrcfcpp
ā¢ Neighbor to Neighbor; www.hullhouse.org
ā¢ Neighbor to Family; www.ntf.org
ā¢ Susan Dougherty;
susan@doughertyconsultants.com
ā¢ Youth Leadership Advisory Team; www.ylat.org
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34. LYNNāS SENTIMENT
When I think of the closeness
we share nowā¦
I wish we would have known
each other when we were
kidsā¦
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35. SIB ACTION PLAN
ā¢ S = Personally; SHARE
ā¢ Professionally; sense of belonging
ā¢ I = Personally; INSPIRE
ā¢ Professionally; imagine
ā¢ B = Personally; BIRTHDAY
ā¢ Professionally; birthday
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36. GIVE SIBLINGS
THEIR RIGHT TO REUNITEĀ®
ļ® To the outside world we all grow old.Ā
But not to brothers and sisters.Ā We
know each other as we always were.Ā We
know each other's hearts.Ā We share
private family jokes.Ā We remember
family feuds and secrets, family griefs
and joys.Ā We live outside the touch of
time.Ā
ļ® ~Clara Ortega
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37. GIVE SIBLINGS
THEIR RIGHT TO REUNITEĀ®
Lynn Price, Ashoka Fellow Karyn Schimmels, M.P.A.
Social Entrepreneur, Speaker Camp To Belong Volunteer
and Author Advisory Board Member and
9445 Sand Hill Place Public Child Welfare state
employee
Highlands Ranch, CO 80126
888-7BELONG 8905 Southwest Avon Court
303-791-0915 Tigard, OR 97224
503-945-6646
Lynn@camptobelong.org
Karyn.Schimmels@state.or.us
www.camptobelong.org
www.lynnprice.com Real Belonging; Give Siblings Their
Right to Reunite, and Sibling
Bracelet available on website
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