Love And Relationship - Today we do need love, but with it, we also need “Space, money, self esteem, egos, big cars, cool gadgets, hi fashion clothes, no questions please, maybe a little freedom to stray” in our relationships. Love, obviously has taken a back seat.

1. Are We Technically Killing our
Relationships?

2.  “All you need is love..love is all you need”
 We as a society have come a long way since Beatles
sang this in 1960s.
 Today we do need love, but with it, we also need “Space,
money, self esteem, egos, big cars, cool gadgets, hi
fashion clothes, no questions please, maybe a little
freedom to stray” in our relationships. Love, obviously has
taken a back seat.
 Ironically, now, whenever we are asked, “Who is your ideal
couple?”, we usually point at someone from the previous
generation. Our parents, grandparents or uncles and

3.  For starters I think, they said their “I love yous” in
person, one on one; rather than declare their
undying feelings on Facebook. I guess they spent
more time talking face to face than on SMS and
Whatsapp.
 Today when couples go out for dinner, their first
priority seems to be clicking a selfie and putting up
on a social media site. Throughout the dinner, they
are constantly checking how many ‘likes’ their
picture gets. The entire idea of spending time with
each other goes for a toss. Isn’t it?

4.  So before we all relationships fall prey to technical glitches, here
are a few ‘relationship vows’ put together by couples who have
been through rough patches and relationship turbulences, yet
stuck to each other and complete each other:
 I will give you my time: Make a ‘together ritual’. It can be your
morning tea in the balcony, a post dinner walk or gardening
time. Something you do together, when you are exclusively
there for each other. Do not compromise on it, put your gadgets
aside and just be there in person.
 I will give you your dreams: Many times you give your dreams
a break so that the other one can flourish. You do it because the
happiness and needs of your loved one is more important. But
with time frustration sinks in, you feel your ‘sacrifice’ is not being
appreciated. So let’s be sensitive, appreciative each other and
communicate how important the partner’s role is. When the time
is right, give each other the right momentum to start again, gain
the lost confidence once again.

5.  I will not judge you: You are a team. Win or lose you
have to stick together. Blame games just make the
team fall apart.
 I will fight my battle in the right spirit: One thing
leads to another, it’s always like this. So if there’s an
issue, sort it out then and there. Don’t let it snowball
into an avalanche. Agree, it’s difficult, but fight your
battles with some logic. An interesting tip someone
gave was, if you are mad at your partner, write a mail
venting your anguish, don’t censor anything, just write.
But don’t send the mail. Read it the next day, with a
cooler mind. Most of the times, you would end up
thanking yourself for not venting out and saying things

6.  I will share my responsibilities: When you are sharing
love, you better share your liabilities and responsibilities
too. Fair enough.
 I will not smother you in the relationship: Love
shouldn’t spell the end of your social life and other
relationships. You still have a life to live, work to do,
relationships to keep. Please give each other space and
time to pursue your interests. You must feel happy; not
tied down.
 So folks, let’s fall in love and rise in it. Let’s revel in our
relationships and celebrate the joy of being together with
someone we love.