Five love languages

Speaking different
languages
makes good
communication
difficult

How was love expressed
in your family?

If we want to communicate
effectively with our spouses, we may
have to learn their Love Language..

When the emotional tank is low, feelings of love go away

When I feel loved by my
spouse, I feel secure and my
sense of self-worth is fed.
If she/loves me, I must have
significance.

“I can live for two months
on a good compliment.”
- Mark Twain

Verbal compliments are far greater
motivators than nagging words

Encouragement requires empathy and
seeing the world from your spouse’s
perspective. We must first learn what
is important to our spouse.

Emphasis is not on what
you’re doing but on why

Togetherness is focused
attention, not proximity

Gifts are visible symbols of
love that have emotional value.

You can learn to be a
proficient gift giver

Doesn’t have to be
expensive or often.
It has nothing to do
with monetary value
and everything to do
with love!

There’s presents and then there’s presence…

The Gift of Self
The gift
of self

Doing things you know your
spouse would like you to do

Requires thought, planning, time,
effort, energy… and a positive spirit.

Need to learn
their dialect so
we can do the
right things!

Some people emotionally yearn
for their spouses to reach out and
touch them physically

Which love language
does your spouse speak?

When an action doesn’t come
naturally to you, it is a greater
expression of love

True Love
Just do it, whether you
understand it, like it, or want to.

If I know their
primary love
language and choose
to speak it, her/his
deepest emotional
need will be met and
she/he will feel secure
in my love.

Each partner
holds the key
to changing the
emotional
climate of the
marriage.

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