1. July 2010
IW SOUL MAG 1
Thamo
Nepal Himalayas
3400m
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2. IW SOUL #1
Let Nature Be Your Guide
“Go Outside
Go climb a hill, swim a
lake, paddle a kayak, walk the
forest... We don’t need walls in
which to celebrate soul we
have nature an reality.”
Chris Walker
WELCOME
Fighting For Religious Rights is a Losers Game
Thousands of years of wisdom distilled through nature
History teaches us well. Nature is an alternative only when an
Every religious war that has ever been individual is ready to understand that “I am not
won, has been temporary. my thoughts.”
Every religious wall that’s been erected Over these past 30 years we’ve worked in
has eventually come down and yet, we still Indigenous Communities who, in the name of
build them. righteousness and anger have become
Poverty drives people to religion. And so, terrorised by their own abuses, we’ve worked
simply putting up Nature’s Laws as a unifying in organisations where the families of execs
theme to all embattled boundaries between wish them to stay away, go on trips and work
nations and people is not, in itself, going to longer hours because they’re just an ugly
change the universe. But, maybe it’ll help. intrusion on a beautiful home.
Religious boundaries are not limited to Non Violence starts with the individual
organised religions. Strong opinions - and that’s where we believe reconnecting
righteousness about any topic at all is a people with their True Nature through Nature,
boundary, a religion is just a set of beliefs and can make a massive shift in Global leadership. About Chris Walker
there are many tree hugging, whale watching, Poverty is often financial, but there’s a Hated by some, loved by others,
Walker challenges the status
oil spill condemning people who’ve actually worse poverty, and those are fear and anger.
quo in a mission to shake the
formed their own little boundary, little divide The violent protester, the righteous world into a new awareness. By
between do and don’t that are just as terrorist terrorist, the vindictive ex-partner, the spiteful reconnecting people to their
as the next religiously motivated suicide parent and the raging street criminal are just as true nature through nature,
bomber. poor after they abuse or steal as they were Walker believes that the wars
between, religious, physical
before it. Poverty really is a state of Soulless
and emotional boundaries will
Existence that does not change with religion.
decrease.
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3. my own stuff and turn up for others. So, I go
Leadership Lessons from the
SHERPA LIFE
up before my group and over prepare.
Himalayas
2. Can You Lead Me through
By Chris Walker Challenge?
Each year I am gifted to lead groups of There’s a radical difference between
people into danger, in fact, groups and management and leadership and that
individuals pay me to lead them into difference is the difference between success
dangerous places. and failure on any mountain adventure.
It’s been twenty five years and forty-nine Leadership is about the FUTURE, management
journeys up into those mountains, on the path is about the NOW. Both are important,
to the base camp of Mt Everest and seven management I can delegate, leadership I
other of the world’s over 8,000 meter peaks. cannot.
We don’t put on crampons or use ice axes as a Sometimes people don’t respect me as
rule, we trek to one of the two highest trekking their leader and at first I thought this was bad,
peaks in the world, and at about 5600 meters but then I came to see that when people don’t
above sea level, it’s a serious challenge for see that I add value to the future, in other
most people, in the short two week window words they don’t need me or my knowledge in
they have for a holiday. order to get them where they are going, I am
I did an MBA but as a guide up in these not the leader. Leadership means add value
mountains over these twenty five years I’ve and if I don’t add value to someone’s future, I
learned a lot about people and leadership and can only manage.
these insights are what I’d love to share. 3. Do You Really Care?
What are people asking themselves about People want to know what’s in it for me
you as a leader, at work, at home or in sport? leading them. Is it the money, the power, the
1. Can You Get Me There? glory or do I have a real commitment? It took
Acclimatisation is a process in which the 15 trips to prove this one statement, “I really
mind and body are challenged to adapt to new care.”
levels of altitude and oxygen. As a leader I 5. Can I trust you?
cannot be working on my own acclimatisation The way people think, act, feel, enjoy, or
while I am helping others. I can’t be working on give to others doesn’t change just because
they achieve something. Thinking is the
Dumji Festival Time.
Dumji Festival in the
Himalayas celebrates the
end of one year and the
new beginning of the next.
A time of ritual, dance
and celebration - marked
with generosity, prayers, Dumji Festival
food and fun. A beautiful
personal time for Sherpa
people and those they
invite.
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4. process and if we’re intending to change everyone else. In the end, results are reality
ON TOP
ourselves or our lives, it must begin with the and I found it better to expose people to
next step, not some destination. circumstances that represented the challenges
A leader obsessed with the destination of the future in order to estimate their capacity.
may have scant regard for the process and is 9. Do You Have A Bigger Picture than
therefore, outside of trust. Me?
6. Do You Have Compassion? On one trip to Nepal four guys challenged
Like the process of acclimatisation we my competence as a leader probably 30 or 40
can move through life facing challenges and times a day. They asked about the future, the
then taking a rest at certain times. We grow at route, the dangers, the escape routes if there
the border of chaos and order, and we need to were emergencies, the lodges and more. The
realise that people need a break sometimes question is, do you have a plan B
and at other times encouragement to re- There is no power, no empowerment if
educate themselves to move through there is no plan B. The person who can
incompetence. implement plan B fastest is the leader. We call
7. Are You Beyond Doubt? this, “the Helicopter” approach.
There are many obstacles on a Himalayan 10. Do You Trust ME?
walk, but none so terrible as doubt. There are Everyday people ask me “what’s ahead”
many process for dealing with doubt, but and there’s a temptation to present the best of
there’s only a few that really move doubt to it. Wisdom in the end suggests that good news
confidence without hardheadedness which balanced with challenge news makes people
always leads to catastrophe. trust you more because it’s the truth.
A leader is transparent and hardheaded We can’t manage or lead anything we’re
bluff, to overcome doubt is the most in. The helicopter approach means rising
transparent. Is your ability to achieve what we above the push and shove to see the order in
want believable in you first. Do you believe in the chaos
yourself or not? 11. What’s Your Real Experience?
8. Do You Really Know ME? A leader who is surprised at what goes on
At first I used to trust that what people around them, is no leader. They’re a follower.
said they were capable of, and wanted to Surprises in human behaviour is the most
achieve was what they were capable of. This revealing incompetency. In a world where the
proved to be a terrible over trust in people’s book is judged by the cover, it’s nice to know
judgement of themselves mainly because they that really, we’re deeper than that and this is
had no real understanding of what lay ahead. one of the questions that takes us there.
Only I know what’s ahead really well because I *****
am, as the leader, meant to know it better than Chris Walker
Mountains
are Sacred
Places
Nepal Himalayas
There’s something
spiritual about being in
the presence of the
highest mountains in the
world. Suddenly your
thoughts are small and the
world is big and it feels
good to know it.
And with that experience
there comes a sense of
Soul, a deeper awareness,
a creative, inspired,
calm, and that’s an
unforgettable reality.
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5. STOP
10 KEYS TO NATURAL HAPPINESS
All human problems come from our inability to sit quietly, happily in a room by ourselves. Pascal.
If a fire-fighter arrived at a fire worried rather than the celebration of it, or even better,
about the laundry, one could be forgiven for a way of giving it.
thinking that something was not going to go as In happiness it is always wise to
planned. And yet, everyday, leaders can fail to remember, you can’t give what you haven’t
turn up to lead their teams with unfinished got.
business on their plate. Ten Easy Keys to Happiness at Work
The beginning for moving from coach to
leader, from manager to leader is to deal with 1. Contentment
your own stuff so you can turn up to lead 2. Understand Emotion
others through theirs. In other words, “Turn up 3. Stillness
Happy.” 4. Me Time - Circuit Breakers
This means, you are happy before you 5. Helicopter Mindset
work, speak, write, achieve, get married, get 6. Expunge Doubt
divorced, attend the graduation, win the golf 7. Real Expectations - No Surprises
tournament or the lotto. You’re happy before 8. Meditation and Concentration and as such, can be repelling no matter how
you lose the weight, finish the book or buy that 9. Clear Your Worries enthusiastic they try to achieve.
car. 10.Peace of Mind - Nature Underpinning the success of most great
Happiness that comes from doing or people is a deep awareness of contentment,
getting or having is a very vulnerable that everything is going to be all-right, even if
Contentment
happiness, an emotional happiness that can be they fail.
Most Western life is based on the premise
stolen in a blink and therefore has no base for The cause of discontent is separation.
that something is missing, and with work,
leadership. Unreliable people don’t get trusted. Separation from nature, from other human
effort, seduction and accumulation that
The first place people have to rely on a beings (competition), separation from our
missingness will go away. Hence, for most of
leader is that the leader is actually going to Innerwealth. A separation that comes from
us life is based on the premiss of doing things
turn up, 100% of the time with their laundry thinking without feeling. Separation of mind,
in order get things which in the future will
done, their desk clear, their head straight and intellect, emotion from Reality.
cause us happiness.
peace in their heart. A stressed leader is no Understanding the REAL nature of things
Based on this premise our consumer
leader unless the people they lead are even will help you find contentment and relax into
society, democracy, relationships, religions and
more stressed, a self fulfilling prophecy. your ambitions. It will help you communicate
most ambition drives us from birth to the
When somebody asks you, “what makes with others better, and turn up more in a better
grave, and for this there are both benefits and
you happy?” there are many ways to answer. space as a leader. Remember, a needy leader
drawbacks.
But the best answer for a leader at home or at is really just a follower.
The benefits we’ll utilise in the
work, at least the best internal answer is
BETTERMENT area of this Happy, Better, Understand Emotion
nothing makes me happy, “I’m happy
Faster program for now, in Happiness, we can Emotion is the most pleasurable and most
naturally.”
see that always wanting can create a sense of painful of all the faculties of life. It cannot be
In the West we are in the habit of seeking
never content, which, underpins a huge one without the other. Emotion can vary form
things to make us happy, and this turns life into
amount of human discontent, illness, violence, the most tender and absorbing love, to the
an emotional roller coaster. Food, people,
self-sabotage and communication problems. A most violent hatred. These two can be directed
addictions, alcohol, work, knowledge,
needy person has this “discontent” mastered successively to one and the same object.
relationships become a passport to happiness
Emotion is the most dangerous of all the
faculties - overworked it can lead to a great
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6. 10 KEYS TO HAPPINESS
If you could peel away all the wants, needs,
hopes, desires - you’d find happiness
motivator or actor or a patient in an insane Stillness is an opportunity to
asylum. experience that connection to our
Emotion is the chief faculty by which you Happiness independent of our
move the minds of other people. Insofar as circumstance. Nelson Mandela might be
they realise your Emotion within themselves, a good example of this gift in practical
they will respond to your use of it. application, the Dali Lama another.
Emotions should always be definitely Me Time - Circuit Breakers
coupled together in your mind with the ACT
You’ll meet people, and maybe do
you wish the other person or persons to
this yourself, where their day, from wake
perform. In order to know what emotion you food, rest, abuse like over exertion and over-
to sleep is one continuous thread of worries
need to feel within yourself you must know study. Adult might understand family
and thinking, punctuated with driving, during
WHAT you want them to DO. dynamics. The locally successful adult will
which the thinking continues, and time with
When you know WHAT you want done, by understand the order in the chaos of their
family, during which thinking continues, and
one or a crowd, you can study what Emotion chosen field - sport - business. The national
then a few glasses of wine during which
to use to get that thing done. Thus, emotions champion understands regional matters and
thinking becomes blurred and then sleep.
carry you to the heights of fame or success, can see the order in it. The international
We think, but really, most of the time we
Every famous person has become so by champion can see order in national events. In
only think that we think. Giving yourself circuit
reason of the Emotion they were able to arouse other words as we rise in leadership and
breaking moments between meetings,
in the heart of the general public. success we rise in the capacity to be superior
between work and home, between email and
Now you can see the influences that also (see the order in) to the dynamics of the level
conversation might just be the difference
act on you. Those that lead you also spread at which we’re leading. Global leaders need a
between healthy communication and not. It
their emotion out to you, and sometime this is universal viewpoint otherwise they lead by
may also be the difference between burn out
not well thought out. In an ideal world you force and haphazard control. (in business this
and sustainable work and, last but not least, it
would choose those you hang out with to is called fraud).
could be the difference between self-respect
harmonise with your chosen emotion, but this
and head spinning self-sabotage. Expunge Doubt
is not possible. Clients, friends, followers,
Start your day with your happy time, me A child is encouraged to ask why, why,
leaders are not always conscious of their
time. Don’t wait until something gets you down why? And we are motivated to answer this
impact on others.
before you seek solace. Take time alone and in question because we wish to expunge doubt in
Hence, for happiness we must take
a place of harmony with nature to connect to the child’s mind, give clarity.
charge of our emotional state. Firstly by
your own measure of happiness, and then go Doubt is the enemy of happiness.
choosing the appropriate emotions we wish to
out into the day with that awareness. Doubt leads to lost courage and lost
have and secondly by being aware of, and not
reacting to others. This skill I will share with Helicopter Mindset courage leads to complacency (settle for less)
and settling for less leads to boredom and
you in your program. Managers work down in the emotion of
boredom is the opposite to happiness.
Stillness everyday life while leaders need to rise above
For many people activity is the antidote to
it.
A key ingredient in personal happiness is boredom. “Aholisms”, such as work-”aholism”,
There’s a word we’re often afraid to use in
the ability to cut through the fog and be still. alc-”aholism”, food-”aholism” and
our modern era of compassion and human
Behind all the spin, the physical aches sex-”aholism” victim - “aholism” and
rights, understandably is superiority, however,
and pains, the mental turmoil of life, the need blame-”aholism” are just a few ways people
if you are not superior to a circumstance you
to be responsible and pay your bills, provide escape boredom and it’s friend, unhappiness.
are left to manage it for minimum damage and
for others and meet budget, behind the TV But action is not the solution to boredom,
maximum comfort.
shows, theatre, sports and ambitions, there’s a just as kissing is not the solution to lost
To be superior to a circumstance is to
you that just wants peace and quiet. It’s called intimacy.
understand that circumstance from a
the listener. The Spirit. Inspiration lives beside happiness in the
helicopter mindset, to see order in chaos.
This is a pretty important part of life that human heart and this is what can be blocked
The person at the top of any team group
we sometimes ignore or hand over to others to and cause doubts to rise.
or country understands the greatest order.
care about, mostly because we perceive that it In the program I’ll share the skills to
The child understands order in pleasure
has no “value” in achieving what we want. But unlock inspiration and therefore expunge
and avoiding pain. The youth might understand
it does, it can, if we connect to it, guide us doubt.
order in their own body and consequences of
well.
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7. TEN KEYS TO HAPPINESS
Continued
that keeps us focussed and concentrating
Real Expectations - No Surprises
rather than what we do know.
There is cause and there is effect in every
This is the responsibility of
circumstance. Sometimes, we forget to link
a leader, to keep the intensity of
those two and get a surprise about the effect,
work interesting enough to
or result.
absorb the concentration of the
One glaring example of this is treating our
individual, and to see the
values as hierarchical, and therefore setting
warning signs when a
priorities for goals. This modern mess is the
person can do their job with Happy
ideal way to bring about great disappointment.
their hand tied behind their Regardless
For example: working hard and finding your
back and either promote
relationship failed. Or getting healthy and
them to greater challenge or
finding your finances in a mess.
move them to another
Balance is a vital key to happiness
occupation. The idle mind is the
because the pain of regret always outweighs
soil of trouble.
the pain of discipline. The future is predictable,
But we are our own leaders
what we do, think, eat, don’t do, today, causes
too. So, we must ensure that
tomorrow.
our life is not blamed on others
We’ll spend time examining how you can
to present to us things and
cause what you want in the future through
projects of interest in order to
disciplines today, habits, that guarantee it.
stimulate our concentration. The real success, Peace of Mind - Nature
Meditation and Concentration the real lover, the real inspired individual will Love Nature - Love Life.
Concentration - meditation is an act always drum up a new exploration, they will Even the most stressed person gets more
which must have the cooperation of all five not be the victim of an overly compassionate happy, more relaxed and more creative and
senses. and sleepy leader. generous out in nature. Something changes in
But concentration is never developed by Clear Your Worries a person when they feel at peace with nature.
the practice of concentration. Concentration This doesn’t mean climbing Mount
My father died from worry and stress, and
can only be developed by the intensity and Everest or paddling a kayak half way around
in his years before finally passing he’d say,
extent of your interest in whatever you are the world, no, it means loving something about
“most of what I worried about, never
doing. being somewhere, out in nature.
happened” Happiness and worry cannot
Real concentration/meditation on a useful A flower always represents generosity and
cohabit. I’ll share a process to help you defeat
subject never occurs while you are busy love, even when it’s grown in Vietnam, trimmed
worry during your program.
learning to concentrate or meditate. in Holland, scented in the local importer’s
A person who arrives home at night, or
When you concentrate on concentration, warehouse and sold in a multi chain massive
who goes for a jog with worries on their mind
you are not concentrating. When you meditate supermarket with as much love as a floating
might, in the end feel some relief but that relief
on meditation you are not meditating. tennis ball. Flowers are a part of nature, and
is temporary at best.
Concentration requires a subject worthy their meaning transcends the journey they’ve
Worry is a habit, and unresolved worry
of your full and undivided attention. had.
that carries over into other areas of life buries
Delinquency, uncontrolled emotion and I remember once giving a friend some
itself in cells, muscle tissue and brain matter.
negativity is caused not by the lack of flowers that were clearly labelled as “not
The actual cause might be forgotten but the
concentration but by the lack of a subject expensive.” Probably a supermarket
chemicals of worry stay, embedded, and these
worthy of it. newspaper and plastic enclosure. She was
are what eventually trigger illness.
Two people might meet each other and thankful but a little dismissive. The next time, I
Worry does not get resolved by worrying
become engaged in courtship. They re-wrapped those flowers in an expensive
about worry. I remember well at a Zen retreat
concentrate on each other, but after a time, branded paper, and handed them to her with
trying not to think. The monk had told us that
nothing is new and that concentration may greater pride. The response was a miraculous
we just sit there, and eventually with focus and
diminish. Those people might go to counselling shift. It’s not the flowers is it? It’s the nature of
open eye meditation we would reduce our
and do all sorts of concentration training but the giver.
mind noise. Of course I started trying to
this is not helpful at the root. It would appear, Nature is perfect and the key is, how we
eliminate that mind noise by thinking, “mind
that it is what we don’t know about a person feel when we’re out and amongst it. Not what
noise go away, which was, in itself, mind noise.
we do, but how much we love it.
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8. WHAT GETS IN THE WAY OF Is Happiness a Choice?
HAPPINESS?
The most powerful and
precious gift we can have
are the keys to happiness
and yet, we seem
confused. Happy people
work better, love better,
do better and more.
Five Common Blocks to Human Happiness and How to Deal with Them
Anger Knowledge
Of all the blocks to happiness, anger and it’s associated emotions Knowledge is the most dangerous asset if that knowledge can’t be
of hate and resentment are the worst and the most severe of these is applied. When theories are touted as realities we are trapped shaping
anger and hate that is not conscious to the owner. This reveals itself in the ego into a duality, a public “what I want to be” versus a private “I
more subtle ways of criticism, impatience, short temper, control know I am not walking my talk.” This dichotomy turns life into
and negativity. a red alert emergency.
Greed Blind Ambition
You can’t be unhappy and thankful at the same time, When life becomes so busy that we can’t enjoy our
5 Blocks to
so much unhappiness comes from the insatiable appetite humanity, can’t feel the tenderness in our heart, can’t
for more and more and more. Appreciating what you’ve got
Happiness enjoy a smile, can’t give a coin, can’t let go of our
is the key to overcoming greed. opinion, can’t smell a flower, can’t stop for a breath then
Fear we have done ourselves out of a life. Robots and
All stress is made from either fear or guilt. They’re brother and sequential programs will replace most of what we do within ten
sister. Fear of the future - guilt about the past. Overcoming fear is a years, all that will be left in the world is work that involves humanity, the
major skill in healthy living. one thing robots can’t duplicate. Will you be employable then?
KNOW YOURSELF STILLNESS APPRECIATION BALANCE PEACE OF MIND
Your Constitution Break the Circuit Your Vibe Go - Stop Clear the Past
determines far more Sitting, breathing, What you Can you turn Are you
than your hopes, using the senses, appreciate grows, up in play and arriving here
dreams, desires. Why remind yourself what you don’t just be there carrying
not live in harmony that happiness is appreciate, for others? unhealthy
with nature and what not conditional on depreciates, Celebrating stuff in your
your heart and soul outcome, it’s the people become as being without head and heart
were designed to place from which we you treat doing? and body from
thrive in? start. yourself. yesterday?
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9. Personal Growth
FRUSTRA Growth rings on a tree
show that a tree has
ambition to grow, then
stop, then grow, then
stop. Each time we grow,
we stop and that stop is
called Frustra..
Frustration, unable to
grow because our beliefs
need to shift. It’s
called UNlearning.
We rise to the level of our Own Incompetence -
Nature never grows in straight lines, and neither do we. We Tin the Self Leadership diagram a person has scored themselves
accelerate sometimes, slow down in others. We grow as people at the out of 10 in each area of life. The outer ring is 10/10 absolutely perfect,
border of support and challenge, and sometimes that’s not exactly the inner circle is 0/10 absolutely miserable.
as we planned it. You ask this: If I could wave a magic wand and turn this
Living and working in harmony with nature’s cycles is a person’s score into 10/10 in all areas tomorrow, and I
great balancing act. When to accept things as they are, Happy to asked them back next year to do the same scoring,
when to chill out and bask in past glory and when to put the Better to Happy what would the Self-Leadership score look like?
pedal to the metal and go forward with some determination to Better The answer is, the outer circle (what’s possible) would
is a really fine piece of judgement. have grown and the score would be, once again, the
But that’s not the most important question... No, the most same as today.
important question to answer is “What’s Going On?” Frusta means frustration. It doesn’t prove that you’ve stuffed
Helicopter view of anything gives you superiority to circumstance up, it proves you’ve grown, and it’s time to become a beginner again.
and therefore wisdom in dealing with it. It’s like looking from the outside Beginners mind puts you back in the fun of learning.
in at your life, your relationship, your health. Most often, people who are Want to learn, and therefore unlearn your opinions, in order to
outside of your circumstances can view them more wisely than you. change your score.
NO COMPENSATION CONSCIOUSNESS PEOPLE
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10. INSPIRED
All Eyes are turned to
the future.....
LEADER OR MANAGER?
A leader leads people toward the future. A manager makes the present comfortable, functional and
enjoyable. Where do you spend your time? Where do you add value?
Happiness doesn’t motivate people, but Management is the process of eliminating
the lack of it does. So, managers focus on unhappiness, but, as we’ve seen, in a
making people happy because they want to consumer society (Nature) there’s an endless
eliminate the “de-motivators.” stream of possibilities for becoming
Making people happy really helps, dissatisfied - unhappy. It is so easy to take for
because unhappiness really does cause granted what we’ve got, take things for
people to struggle. The problem is, with granted, and compare ourselves to what we
unhappiness gone, most people don’t have a could have. Overcoming discontent is therefore
real motive to go forward. a real motivator for most people but it’s energy
Begin with the idea that you have to sapping and leads to unethical responses and
manage your own life for happiness before you often
can manage others. Then realise that you can There is a more powerful mechanism.
not make people happy. That’s a cat chasing With Happiness in the bag and an appreciation
its tail. If a person is not happy now, then no for what is, there can be an incredible
Manage or Lead
matter what you add, they will have the habit opportunity to go into the future, happy but
Both are important but they are
of seeing imperfections and therefore remain in inspired to do better. two different topics. Manage is
a constant state of dissatisfaction. Like eating, Can you see the radical difference. One comfort, pleasure, happiness
filling, hungry, eating, filling, hungry. Therefore leads to disappointment and ill-health, the and play now. Lead means
management is a really difficult and thankless other leads to success, love, contribution and discipline, ambition, desire
and anticipation for the
task unless it is given without expectation of betterment without doing harm to others. So,
future. The glue that binds
return. It is, in some ways, a mothering or as well as what do we need to manage - we
people, long term, is the
caring role, supportive, recuperative. can ask “WHAT FUTURE DO YOU WANT?” latter.
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11. NON VIOLENT AMBITION
Motivation versus Inspiration
There’s violent ambition
that’s powerful, achieves
things at great cost to
others, takes huge energy
and is mentally and
physically exhausting.
Then, there’s inspiration
which is sustainable, non
violent and contributes to
a better world.. Your
choice
Nobody Trusts a MANAGER
Do you trust managers? I don’t. During this phase of the program we’ll discuss and I’ll share some
A store manager has the store’s best interest at heart, no matter amazing insights as to the real difference between a manager (who all
what they say, they better do good for the store or they get fired. but the most needy people trust) and a leader, one who is trusted.
A product manager has the product at heart, they might say they Most companies and families love tomato sauce, or what’s called
care, but do they? It’s mostly marketing hype in America, Ketchup. I call most managers Catch-up, because they
A sales manager gets paid for sales, so, when they tell you how spend most of their time trying to Catch-up with complaints,
much they care about the environment, do they or is this good fixing problems, sorting out issues, fighting fires and
sales pitch? dealing with drama. It’s a stressful job. If you work as a
Would you trust a comedian to lead you through the
Leadership doctor or nurse in the emergency area of a hospital
jungle? Odds are, if they’ve done a great job of managing is about the you’ve chosen that career. But not everyone wants to
your laughter, you know they’ve got the ability to jerk you future risk be in such demanding, healing and drama solving role.
around if they need to. free. Some people want to be leaders and pioneer the future.
Great managers are great tricksters. Great leads are not. Even those people in the emergency must, in some part of
So, what’s the difference? They both recruit you to do things by their lives outside that work, want to progress. Leadership
linking with your emotions - what is the difference. means tomorrow, knowing it, and going there, risk free.
GOT TO SHOULD NEED WANT CHOOSE TO - LOVE TO
The poor Structures put 100% emotion, Leadership The flame of intensity
individual who is in place to would rather coat begins. A sense burns in this heart,
in got to mode is cope with fear the world in of tomorrow, and with it, rational
in personal and guilt self leather than wear and sacrifice thinking that combines
poverty, even if perpetuate sandals. The short term WHAT is wanted, with
it’s the final of strong height of need, should how. No longer blind,
the world cup or identity, insecurity and and got to for this person leads with
helping refugees obsession, completely long term consequence, cause
or running a addiction and unwilling and ambitions. leading to effect.
billion dollar conflict. unable to trust Discipline This person will cause
company. anyone, starts - others to follow.
especially self. includes others Trust is automatic.
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12. VISION QUEST
Everything that happens in life starts with a desire. All Eyes are turned to the Future, unless they’re
unhappy.... It’s hard to do good if you don’t feel good.
I believe that it’s best to prepare for your focus. This in essence means 100% personal some serious improvement in your abilities to
off site with me well in advance, and I think responsibility for turning up ready to achieve it.
you’ll agree that it’s the best way to make the contribute. Sometimes it’s good to compare yourself
most of our time together. to someone who has achieved more than you
Process
There are three points of focus for your but don’t aim to the height where you become
The process of preparing for the HAPPY,
June retreat: Happy, Better and Faster. envious. Envy just means you set the bar too
BETTER, FASTER program involves a simple
Let me explain. Innerwealth initiated a high too quick.
vision quest done alone, at home, in silence.
global initiative to improve workplace wellbeing
What this process involves is asking
about 15 years ago. The primary focus of this
yourself a series of simple questions and Be, Do, Have
program is to help people in all walks of life
writing down the answers - as they come to The emphasis of a vision quest must start
become happier, do better and sort things out
you in any random, unintelligible order. with have. What do I want to HAVE in 3-5 years
faster. We’ve had incredible success with this
Each day, answer the questions then put from now. These things are tangible,
in Canada, and now, we are achieved some
the sheet with your answers in a safe place, countable, measurable and can be weighed.
great steps forward in Australia.
and don’t look at it again until this is all Please don’t write HAVE HAPPINESS... That’s
The premise of the program is simple: We
finished. a BE.
want to teach people how to make their
Each day, start a fresh sheet of paper and The second question, and equally
happiness bullet proof by separating what we
ask yourself the same questions as yesterday. important but not of material nature is BE.
do from how happy we are.
Don’t miss a day. What or Where do I want to BE in 3-5 years
This has remarkable impact on people at
By my calculations you should be able to time. That could be a place, (New York) a
home too, because many people enter
integrate 5 continuous vision days. Try not to space (pregnant), or even a change of status
relationships unhappy and hope the
discuss this with your partner until after the like married or CEO.
relationship will somehow improve that
program, but, if they’re inquisitive and you Finally, theres DO. What do you want to
unhappiness. Under this strain, relationships
can’t explain it, please just give them this be DOING in 3-5 years time.
struggle.
introductory note and let them fully understand Doing could be More of what you are
The emphasis therefore is Turning Up in
the reason you are embarking on this journey. currently doing, but please, don’t make the
life, relationship, sport, work, happy already.
mistake of saying NOTHING. Doing nothing is
This is a remarkable freedom and most of our
not a Goal, it’s slow suicide. Doing means what
high end athletes and entrepreneurs report and The Questions:
would inspire you, cause you to concentrate
extraordinary shift in their productivity and The base line of health, energy, success,
more, study more, learn more and teach more.
achievements in this one skill alone. So, we’ll ambition, romance, leadership and peace of
It can even involve giving.
chat about this early in your program and then mind is DESIRE.
Nobody but you will read these answers
share how. When we know what we want and we
so, please avoid the all too often tendency to
The second, and in many cases the most think we are going to get it, we’re inspired.
be right, or say what others would like or what
difficult area of this initiative is in BETTER. When we know what we want and we think we
you think you should say. Just use this chance
There are many programs and techniques for are not going to get it, we’re depressed.
to be really, really, really, honest. NO ONE WILL
self betterment, but the majority of these lead Ambition is a two edged sword. Set the
EVER READ THESE SHEETS BECAUSE.
to imbalanced focus and subsequently ambitions too high and we become
When you finish the five consecutive days
imbalanced lifestyles. disillusioned and usually end up in some
of filling out these sheets, make a little back
In your program we’ll be encouraging you Eastern Ashram saying “It doesn’t matter.” But
yard ceremony and burn all but the last one,
to look to the future to create balanced it does.
and even the last one can be burnt. This is a
ambitions in all 7 areas of your life. And it’s in Set the ambition too low and there’s no
process, not an outcome.
this area of the program that we’d love to ask challenge, you become bored with yourself,
Each day might be the same as
you to do some preparation. your work, your life and lose concentration.
yesterday, but, like a child treat this as a
Simply it’s ten minutes a day, between Such loss of focus often results in calamity,
chance to dream beyond your current reality.
now and the program. accident or disaster.
Go on, have a go!
Teams Diversity Set the Bar High Enough
The best teams are made up of the best When doing your daily questions aim for
people, independent people, whose personal around 3-5 years for the time-frame and, make
motive combines with others for a united sure the bar is set so that you’ll have to do
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13. FASTER
Get there
Nobody wants to get
more slower, except
old that is...
SEARCH FOR TEACHERS AND PROCESS TO GET YOU
THERE FASTER, HAPPIER, AND BETTER CONTRIBUTION
Think Faster Play Slower
Make Decisions Faster Pulse Rate Slower
Get Over Emotion Faster Immune Breakdown Slower
Clear Confusion Faster React to others Slower
Get over the Past Faster Fall out of Inspiration Slower
Find Stillness Faster Kids Grow Up Slower
Get What you want Faster Life Passes You By, Slower
Good Work - means faster.
Fall in Love Faster Opportunities lost Slower
If you could do what you need
to do, and get on with what you
Recover Faster Moments of Beauty - Slower want to do faster, what would
you do with all that spare
Peace of mind Faster Special Feelings last Longer time? If you had five extra
hours a day, could you fill it
with things you love or just
Unhappiness leaves Faster Aging Comes Slower
occupy the time with things you
feel would be productive?
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14. Moving Between Happy and Better
FASTER - Faster.
How long would it take to live your life all I hope this has been as much value to you
over again? as it has been to me in my work and personal
If you took out those things that turned life.
out to be a waste of time, those times when For me, it’s the culmination of years of
your emotions kept you from those you love, or Zen practice, meditations, yoga, business
from meeting the one you love, how long science and experience.
would your life add up to? Be Happy and make that happiness
Healing takes no time, but we make it independent of what you do, who you’re with,
last, sometimes for years. where you are or what you own. Be happy
Learning takes no time but sometimes we means be thankful and content.
make it last - just for a simple experience - Do Better means contribute more, make
twenty years or more. your efforts to improve your own life and
It is said that if we add those “aha” wealth, but do this under the mindful
moments up and put them all together in a awareness of healthy living, both for yourself
bundle our life would total around ten minutes. and others.
Those unforgettable inspirational Faster is not about rushing, in fact
moments of realisation and love are truly rare. sometimes rushing around is, in the long term
For the average person, those moments slower than deliberate and emotionless
are accidental. But they do not need to be awareness. Sometimes stopping - patience is
accidental. a short cut. But no matter what the process the
The first question is what do I want? intent is to waste less time be more present
The second question is what does my and therefore do the right thing whenever
team want? possible. Like weight loss, wouldn’t it be
The third question is how do I stay happy smarter to save that trouble and not put it on in
going there? the first place?
Then a whole swag of more detailed With Inspiration
questions are needed. Chris Walker
Time
There is one thing that
can never be replaced, and
that is time. It comes and
goes and is gone. It is
the most precious thing
you can give another
person, and the most Nothing is
precious thing you can Permanent
steal from someone. Don’t
waste it.
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15. and walking in the park, well they're a few of
Article: Concentration Article: Self Worth and TIme
the Better done with More Time."
Concentration - meditation is an act What seems compassionate in giving
But when it comes to recovery after a
which must have the cooperation of all five people "time" to sort things out, may not be
stress, illness, bad mood, emotional upset, or
senses. achieving the positive result the giver expects.
a decision, a choice, a grudge or anger, there
But concentration is never developed by Take D who was working in one company I
aren't many people who could legitimately say,
the practice of concentration. Concentration consulted with, they had given her nearly three
"more time is better."
can only be developed by the intensity and years to sort out a marriage break-up,
Of course, if our process is weak, or our
extent of your interest in whatever you are tolerating late arrivals, time off for counselling
head is in turmoil, then longer might give time
doing. and days off for stress. When I arrived, hired to
for clarity, however, that's just like driving a
Real concentration/meditation on a useful "speed things up" to happy, better, faster I
1954 Austin Prefect through the city at peak
subject never occurs while you are busy noticed a huge push back from any shift in
hour and wondering why people are screaming
learning to concentrate or meditate. productivity improvement. After I dug below
at you or paddling a 30 kg wooden surf ski in a
When you concentrate on concentration, the surface, it was a company wide joke that
ski race and wondering why you got left
you are not concentrating. When you meditate no company, seriously considering
behind.
on meditation you are not meditating. productivity, leadership, good work, client
Faster, is better if the pace of the world
Concentration requires a subject worthy satisfaction or employee well-being would
makes you uncompetitive to be slower.
of your full and undivided attention. leave a situation where D could come and go
Remember that whether it's your business,
Delinquency, uncontrolled emotion and as they pleased.
your client, the race you're in, your health, your
negativity is caused not by the lack of The fact was that D had been given
money, your relationship, it is a competition,
concentration but by the lack of a subject permission to become the lowest common
and there are forces out there wanting to
worthy of it. denominator in the team and yet she was team
displace you. Keeping up, or staying ahead in
Two people might meet each other and leader. She would change things without any
life requires FASTER.
become engaged in courtship. They concept of the process cost, she would assert
Take health for example: The bugs and
concentrate on each other, but after a time, her negative moods on the group, and as time
bacteria floating around our cities and in our
nothing is new and that concentration may went on, and D's self-worth became more and
water would kill a person who was time
diminish. Those people might go to counselling more self-obsessive, the quality of her choices
transported to the present day from say,
and do all sorts of concentration training but became poorer and poorer. D's boss was
1860.Their immune system could cope with
this is not helpful at the root. It would appear, acting with compassion but was in no way,
the competition from bugs and virus, but not
that it is what we don’t know about a person doing what's best for D or everyone else in the
quick enough to be of much value.
that keeps us focussed and concentrating firm.
Your relationship is another example:
rather than what we do know. FASTER is not new news.
What do you think a realistic competitive
This is the responsibility of a leader, to We're communicating faster, travelling
expectation might be from your partner for you
keep the intensity of work interesting enough faster, getting news faster, having things faster.
recovering from the following: a bad day at
to absorb the concentration of the individual, It's not new news that the evolution of the
work, a disappointment in sport, a hard night
and to see the warning signs when a person planet is linked to faster. All technology is
on the booze, a quarrel with your mate, a worry
can do their job with their hand tied behind driving a faster world and that, harnessed in
of any kind, an ugly comment toward them?
their back and either promote them to greater the right way, is an ever increasing valuation on
Do you think, like in 1910, they'd give you the
challenge or move them to another time, self-worth and humanity.
benefit of a year, a month or a few hours? Life
occupation. Faster foods, faster crops, faster fuels,
is evolving and whether you like it or not, we
The idle mind (lost concentration) is the faster drinks, faster medicine, faster operations
must too.
soil of trouble. to save lives, faster rescue, faster response to
But there are institutions devoted to NOT
But we are our own leaders too. So, we disasters, faster intervention in human-rights
FASTER.
must ensure that our life is not blamed on crisis. And where faster is not fast enough, we
I worked with the public service and for
others to present to us things and projects of complain bitterly.
them, FASTER more often than not, is
interest in order to stimulate our concentration. If the post is slow, the internet is slow, if
associated with redundancy because if you get
The real success, the real lover, the real your website is slow, facebook is slow, if skype
your job done faster, you’ll have nothing to fill
inspired individual will always drum up a new is slow, if your batteries don't recharge faster
the time. You’ll be “rationalised."
exploration, they will not be the victim of an you upgrade. Faster is, for the new generations
In some healing therapies FASTER is
overly compassionate and sleepy leader. better.
associated with loss if income for the therapist.
RESISTANCE IS FUTILE
I've witnessed this conflict between FASTER
I meet people who say to me, "the world
Article: Change - How long does it and REVENUE over and over again during my
is going too fast it needs to slow down" and I
take? years in this work. It is, in most cases, not in
say "evolveyabastard" - with a smile. There are
There are some things that are better the financial interest of the service provider to
people who're now taking the role of the
done by taking more time to do them. Some reach completion, faster.
"Retirement" generation who, just really got left
remain obvious but things like eating, kissing, behind in the evolution race. They can't think
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16. fast enough, can't type fast enough, can't Broken Heart - 15 -30 minutes after your divorce just turned you into an
cope with the speed of decision making fast Bad day at the office - 2 minutes "individual" who can't be hurt. Or, your new
enough and want the world to SLOW DOWN - Disappointment with someone special - 3 relationship which is the new focus of your life,
I WANT TO GET OFF. minutes cost you your Inspiration and Career. Sucking
FASTER IS FANTASTICER Life changing decision - 10 minutes juice from one area of your life to feed another
Faster is fantastic. Why waste precious Changing Your Life - 1 hour is not change or Betterment, it's suicide.
time? Why be in a bad mood for more than the Betterment is built on tangible reality. By
time it takes to get out of it? Why be separating Happiness from Betterment we
Article: Happy, Better, Faster
exhausted for longer than necessary? Why be achieve an amazing step and that is, to
Happy, Better, Faster is based on a
ill or in pain for longer than you have to? differentiate how you feel, from what you do.
premise that the primary goal of humanity is to
Staying FIT for work and life starts with Betterment is, in this paradigm a means of
be happy and make better and do those as
the identification of a series of really important doing things, contributing, achieving things,
fast as humanly possible.
questions: giving service, making a better world that is no
This article focussed on betterment. The
1. What would I do with the time if I finish longer a GIVE TO GET model. By separating
key to which is in the understanding of motive,
this task faster? your Happiness from your Betterment you
mind and manifestation. How do we get what
2. Am I ready to act if I make this decision uncover an amazing power.
we want in the shortest period of time?
faster? Stuff you do, get, have, want, desire,
What you want might be a better world,
3. If I had an extra three hours a day, what need, don't need, win, lose, fail, succeed, love
less violence, more food for the starving, a new
would I do with it? or don't love - doesn't make you happy or
car, a 3D tv or even a partner in life. It could be
4. Do I really want to turn up more in my unhappy. That's a separated topic and by
sales results for next month or a new cat for
relationship, or am I turning up to the level I doing this you loosen your ego from your
the family home. Nobody can judge us for the
can cope with them? doing. In this one small step, you free yourself
highness or lowness of our ambitions,
5. If I get through this drama faster, will I to give it a go, have some fun, try some things
however, we do encourage people to be
be lonely and fearful, and is that why I'm and not get into a mess trying to own stuff to
holistic in their desires. To make sure all seven
hanging onto the past? make you a happy person. They are different
areas of life are well represented so as to avoid
6. If I knew what I knew now, how long topics.
imbalance and regret. That topic is well
would it take to live my life over again? (usually Five Planes of Betterment
covered in our seminars.
ten minutes) There are five distinct planes of
But now, lets turn our focus to
7. If "How do I get more done in less Betterment. They are:
manifesting what you want in a generic sense.
time" results in getting more done in less time, 1. Physical - The desire for pleasure of all
is what I am doing worth doing at all? the senses.
Speak to a woman who has read a book
FASTER IS BETTER This natural attraction to all things
or is keen to manifest something and she will
If you are in love with your partner beautiful, safe and comfortable is the
often recommend a certain process for
wouldn't you want to spend more time with fundamental search of the primal and natural
achievement. Speak to the average bloke and
them? If you love your work wouldn't you want self. It never goes away, can never be satiated
he will recommend another and sometimes we
to spend more time doing it and less time on and most often dictates choices in life.
find this divergence in process quite confusing.
low priorities? If you love your sport wouldn't 2. Mental - Comparison drives the desire
Different guru's some spouting ideas of "THE
you want to do it more, recover faster and do it for improvement.
SECRET" which is basically sitting on your Butt
again? Driven by the continual dissatisfaction
and wishing stuff would come true. While
Doing what you love means deriving a and appetite of the physical self, the mental
others, talk about "Waking up Some Giant"
benefit from something and ultimately FASTER plane starts to work on comparison. How
who'll reach out and grab life by the balls. It
means, deriving that pleasure more often, with could I get more, and make it better, with less
seems, both work - sometimes.
less distraction. effort?
In Happy, Better, Faster we're not
It's time for a revolution in WORKPLACE 3. Monetary - The desire for Resources
debating the validity of Betterment as a motive
WELLBEING. Faster is not just a technology and Power to cause change in our life and
or even advocating one process as better or
issue it's a SELF- MANAGEMENT issue and in others
worse than another. What we are saying,
too many teams, the brakes have been on for With Physical gratification, and mental
clearly to the Global Workforce, is that there
too long. Slower is not better, even in healing, comparison firmly motivating betterment we
are hidden consequences, and if Betterment
meditation, yoga, tai chi, acupuncture, - and all now reach for bigger and more sustainable
improves one area of your life but sabotages
the alternative medicines - SLOWER is NOT measures of betterment and enter the sacred
another, it isn't BETTER, is it?
better. and spiritual realm of material wealth creation.
Too many Betterment programs and
HOW LONG DOES IT TAKE? Money. Thus, competitive standards inspire
Betterment process "rob Peter to pay Paul"
Marriage Break Up - 2 weeks to new technologies, our own potential and
they shift the focus of your life from one value
completion integration of our physical and mental gifts into
to another, for which the consequences are
Depression - One Day to Recovery the world - in other words - money drives
unseen maybe for years until, single and
Bad Mood - Ten minutes at the most citizenship and community.
successful you realise that your paradigm shift
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