29. Violence against women
happens in all cultures
and religions, in all ethnic
and racial communities,
at every age, and in
every income group.
However, some women
are especially at risk:
30. A woman or child in Canada is
being sexually assaulted, every
minute of every day…
51% of women in Canada over the
age of 16 have experienced at least
one form of
men’s violence against women…
31. Females under age of 25 are most
at risk of sexual assault and
criminal harassment.
For women with disabilities, 60%
will be sexually assaulted during
their lifetime.
32. In the past 10 years, more than 600 Aboriginal
Women have been murdered, are currently
missing or feared dead...
33. By the age of 12,
1 in 4 girls will
experience
street
harassment in
the form of
unwanted
attention in
public.
By the age of 19
that number is
nearly 90
percent.
From ‘Street Harassment: Every Women’s War” by
Ebony Magazine’s Kristin Braswell
39. WRC’s work with men and
boys is focused on Primary
Prevention
•
Before the problem starts: Primary
•
Once the problem has begun: Secondary
•
Responding afterwards: Tertiary Prevention
Prevention
Prevention
Primary Prevention aims to lessen the
chances that men and boys will use
violence, and/or that women and girls
42. Some of the things women have taught me…
They have taught me how to be human
to connect to my humanity
to the earth and the world we live in
and how to lead the fight for change.
Women can lead a child
Women can lead a company
Women can lead a nation
Women can lead a movement
Women Are Leaders
whiteribbon.ca
@WhiteRibbon @jeffperera #2013GCF
56. The Gender Box for Men
“Be A Man”
Tough
Aggressive
Not Emotional
Smart
Keep in inside
Strong
Knows all
about Sex
In control
Can take it
Take charge
Capable
Hard
Push people around
Don‟t back down
Don‟t Cry
Emotional, Soft, Weak, Have feelings, Vulnerable,
Cry, Need help, Expressive, Passive…feminine.
95. Power
Not having power only heightens masculine
insecurities. If manhood is about power and
control, not being powerful means you are not a
man. Again, violence becomes a means to prove
otherwise to yourself and others”
-Michael Kaufman
102. "We live in a society where
manhood is all about
conquering, all the time...and
what we don't realize is that
definition of manhood
ultimately destroys you“
- Hip Hop: Beyond Beats and Rhymes
114. This is not the
end of Men
…but a
chance
for a new
beginning
@WhiteRibbon @jeffperera #2013GCF
115.
116. Freedom to Be Who We Are
”Respect for Women = Freedom for Men”
117. “As men we hold a huge responsibility in
helping to end violence against women.
It is not solely the responsibility of
women to take a stand against violence
and abuse; we in fact hold the largest
responsibility of all...
DJ
DANFORTH
...with the knowledge that I come from
a matriarchal society, I acknowledge
that as a man it is my job to respect the
strength of women. Each of us must
learn to honour the roots of our own
culture so that collectively we can have
a stronger backing in ending violence
and abuse against women”
122. White Ribbon is the world’s
largest grassroots effort
engaging men and boys
to redefine masculinity and
help end gender-based
violence.
Inspiring male-identified
brothers, fathers, sons,
husbands, co-workers. friends
and romantic partners to
embrace how they can
be a part of change.
whiteribbon.ca
124. “Always have a dream
that will last beyond
your lifetime”
Jack Layton
co-founder of the White Ribbon Campaign
125. Wearing a White Ribbon is a
personal pledge to never
commit, condone or remain
silent about violence against
women and girls.
126. Wearing a white ribbon is a
way of saying, “Our future
has no violence against
women.”
127. The White Ribbon Campaign
Now in over 60
countries, WRC is the
largest effort in the
world of men working
to end violence against
women
www.whiteribbon.ca
whiteribbon.ca
142. White Ribbon in the Premier Football Division, Liverpool UK
whiteribbon.ca
143. Guiding Principles: Gender is Relational
Men’s violence against women is neither exclusively a
women’s issue, nor a men’s issue, but it is a society wide
issue
Consequently, work with men
and boys must be gender
transformative; including
discussions and critical debate
about gender norms and how
these influence social norms,
attitudes, and behaviours
whiteribbon.ca
144. The fundamental
question has shifted
from “why” we
should work with
men and boys, to
“how” we work
with men and boys.
www.whiteribbon.ca/issuebrief
whiteribbon.ca
145. White Ribbon Campaign (WRC) Issue Brief:
Engaging Men and Boys to Reduce and Prevent Gender-Based Violence.
Engaging men and boys is an essential
component of realizing transformative
change on the issue of gender-based
violence.
This Issue Brief is rooted in three basic
premises:
www.whiteribbon.ca/issuebrief
whiteribbon.ca
146. White Ribbon Campaign (WRC) Issue Brief:
Engaging Men and Boys to Reduce and Prevent Gender-Based Violence.
1. Work with men and boys is necessary.
As perpetrators, the target audience for
primary prevention, holders of the social
norms and influencers on other men,
men must to be engaged to reduce and
prevent gender-based
www.whiteribbon.ca/issuebrief
whiteribbon.ca
147. White Ribbon Campaign (WRC) Issue Brief:
Engaging Men and Boys to Reduce and Prevent Gender-Based Violence.
2. Work with men and boys can be
effective.
As the evidence base grows, evaluation
data appears, lessons are learned, and
best practices are shared, we know this
may be the missing compliment to past
decades of work.
www.whiteribbon.ca/issuebrief
whiteribbon.ca
148. White Ribbon Campaign (WRC) Issue Brief:
Engaging Men and Boys to Reduce and Prevent Gender-Based Violence.
3. Work with men and boys can be positive.
There is a much broader spectrum of positive
roles for men and boys to play than perpetrator
or potential perpetrator of gender-based
violence. These roles not only prevent and
reduce violence against women and promote
gender equality, but also improve the lives of
men and boys by freeing them from these
harmful and limiting aspects of masculinities.
www.whiteribbon.ca/issuebrief
whiteribbon.ca
149. Other Programs and Projects:
• Workshops for youth, presentations in schools, outreach at
community fairs, etc
• Capacity building, training for teachers, professionals,
community leaders
• E-learning initiatives, social media campaigns
• Technical consultation for communities, NGOs,
governments, and United Nations, UN system (WHO,
UNFPA, UNIFEM)
• Member of the steering committee of MenEngage Global
Alliance
whiteribbon.ca
February 2010
150. Types of Interventions With Men*
1. Strengthening Individual Knowledge and Skills
2. Promoting Community Education
3. Educating Professionals and Service Providers
4. Engaging and Mobilizing Communities
5. Changing Organizational Practices
6. Influencing Policy and Legislation
* Adapted from the work of Dr. Michael Flood www.xyonline.net
www.whiteribbon.ca
151. White Ribbon held an Ontario
Men‟s Attitudinal Survey on
Violence Against Women
152. The findings show that 94% of men in
Ontario believe violence against
women and girls is a concern to them
153. 87% think violence against women
and girls affects all women including
the women in their life.
154. 97% agree that they can personally
make a difference in promoting healthy,
respectful, non-violent relationships
156. Strength Based Approach Example:
• Strength Campaign: Men respond
better to being shown the “right” way to
do things than being scolded about the
“wrong” ways, start by locating and
valuing what men are already doing right
• Focus on what is strong in men and not
what is wrong with them, demonstrate
positive examples of masculinity and
promote gender equitable lifestyles,
rather than highlight only the negative,
violent or predatory behaviours of men
www.whiteribbon.ca
157. The WRC Lifecycle Approach – An Example
High School Students
(grades 9-12)
Elementary Students
(grades 7-8)
White Ribbon Clubs
Common Ground Conferences (with Boys &
Girls) Youth Education and Action Kit
Peer & Near Peer Educators
Boys Conferences
Youth Education and Action Kit
Campaign in a Box
Engaging Boys and Men in
Ending Violence Against
Women – A Life Cycle
Approach
White Ribbon Campaign
Adults
University & College Students
It Starts With You, Facilitators of WR
Clubs Parents, teachers, mentors,
volunteers, community leaders & role
models WRC community organizers &
supporters Peer educators, engaged
bystanders
Facilitators of WR Clubs
Mentors and role models
WRC campus & community
organizers
Peer educators, engaged
bystanders
www.whiteribbon.ca
167. “Enthusiastic consent is
integral for boys/men's
understanding of what
makes a healthy, equal
relationship.”
Developing a Response to Sexual Violence
A Resource Guide for Ontario’s Colleges and Universities
169. Peer motivation is a powerful force for men.
@WhiteRibbon @jeffperera #2013GCF
170. “I Want To Say a Little
Something That’s Long Overdue.
The Disrespect To Women Has
Got To Be Through.
To All The Mothers and Sisters
and the Wives and Friends,
I Want To Offer My Love and
Respect To The End”
– Sureshot, Beastie Boys
171. How can you
be what
you can‟t
see?
Why we need
role models
@WhiteRibbon @jeffperera #2013GCF
172. Partnership with
the Ontario
Federation of
Indian Friendship
Centres
• A project to adapt our
Strength poster series
and Education Action Kit
• Cultural and language
adaptations reflecting
traditional aboriginal
teachings
176. Are you a leader? A role model ?
It takes individual acts of courage and leadership to defy
injustice and inspire change.
It takes individual acts of of courage and leadership to injustice and inspireinspire change.
It takes individual acts courage and leadership to defy defy injustice and change.
http://barry-overstreet.com/are-you-a-born-leader/
It takes individual acts
of courage and leadership
to defy injustice and inspire change.
188. It takes individual acts of courage and leadership to defy
injustice and inspire change.
Shifting the culture and climate
It takes individual acts of courage and leadership to defy injustice and inspire change.
It takes individual acts of courage and leadership to defy injustice and inspire change.
189. But I‟m a good guy!
Its not my fault, I am not abusive, what can I do?
192. People think that doing
nothing DOES nothing…
Every person makes a difference…
It takes individual acts of courage and leadership to defy injustice and inspire change.
It takes individual acts of courage and leadership to defy injustice and inspire change.
What difference are you making?
What impact are you making?
@WhiteRibbon @jeffperera #2013GCF
193. OPEN THE DOOR TO THE CONVERSATION
Open the door to a continuous ongoing
conversation. Boys have questions and it doesn't
stop growing into adulthood. Open up pathways
for conversation and consciousness
Examples of discussions we have with young men and women
Examples of discussions we have with young men and women
Examples of discussions we have with young men and women
“dignity encompasses individual self-respect and self-worth. It involves physical and psychological integrity and empowerment.”
*Video Clip
“dignity encompasses individual self-respect and self-worth. It involves physical and psychological integrity and empowerment.”
The social creation of womanhood & the feminine
Young girls encouraged to be ‘more lady like’
Discuss the Gender Box
*Video Clip
As you can see some of the boys pointed out pressing pet peeves like how ‘boys smell bad’ or ‘grow hair everywhere’. With some of these answers, however, the boys go deeper. Many usually share thoughts such as how they don’t like that boys get very competitive, leading to aggressive behaviour or cheating to be labelled a ‘winner’. In all respects, it is all about being a winner for boys, sometimes at all costs. Some will talk about how boys always are in trouble, as one boy indicated here with ‘…an automatic bad reputation’.The item on this list which stood out to me that day was the first one: ‘not being able to be a mother’. I asked the student to explain what he meant. A small, articulate Grade 4 boy stood to talk and put his palms on the table, the same boy who said he wanted to ‘be a politician when I grow up’.“Did you mean that you can’t give birth since you are a boy?” I asked. Usually one of the standard responses from boys of all ages during this exercise is how they like that ‘we don’t have to give birth’. He explained that he thought of it after watching the mash-up exercise which included video of a girl’s commercial for a ‘Baby Alive’ doll. He shared his thoughts on how ‘boys aren’t shown playing with babies’ and aren’t encouraged to raise children. I told him “…but, you could be a father?!? That’s what you could be?!!” he looked at me like I was crazy!My mind raced as I wondered just how many of these fifty boys were raised by emotionally-present fathers (those who had present fathers) who did a bit more than throw the ball around.
Idea of manhood then
Idea of Manhood today
Man and ability, concept of manhood tied so much into ability and strength…what if you’re a man with a ‘disability?’ are you still a man?
“dignity encompasses individual self-respect and self-worth. It involves physical and psychological integrity and empowerment.”
“dignity encompasses individual self-respect and self-worth. It involves physical and psychological integrity and empowerment.”
“dignity encompasses individual self-respect and self-worth. It involves physical and psychological integrity and empowerment.”
“dignity encompasses individual self-respect and self-worth. It involves physical and psychological integrity and empowerment.”
“dignity encompasses individual self-respect and self-worth. It involves physical and psychological integrity and empowerment.”
“dignity encompasses individual self-respect and self-worth. It involves physical and psychological integrity and empowerment.”
Elliot Bayev is a Brazilian JuJItsu instructor...he shared with me how he teaches students that if you start in a bad position, you are doomed for failure. Not being present- aware – awake and considering the impact, consequences,
We approach dating like it’s combatwhen we start interactions as men, when it comes to meeting and then dating someone, from a bad place. like it is a battle... a high stakes tournament, It becomes about winning her over, getting her number, knocking her out with our personality, sealing the deal with our style or game...
When it comes to conflict resolutionSettling it with fists can only leave us one placeLet’s value and embrace that handling a conflict
Addressing the ‘elephants in the room’
If this formula of being a man is your idea of successSuccess for a Man is to fail as a Human Being…The formula of success as domination and power has lead to the warped experiences….has led to young women’s oppression and men’s struggling
*Video Clip
“dignity encompasses individual self-respect and self-worth. It involves physical and psychological integrity and empowerment.”
“dignity encompasses individual self-respect and self-worth. It involves physical and psychological integrity and empowerment.”
“dignity encompasses individual self-respect and self-worth. It involves physical and psychological integrity and empowerment.”
“dignity encompasses individual self-respect and self-worth. It involves physical and psychological integrity and empowerment.”
“dignity encompasses individual self-respect and self-worth. It involves physical and psychological integrity and empowerment.”
