2. Some couples enjoy erotic spankings, and some of
the couples that enjoy erotic spankings
misunderstood my statement above.
"I'm upset with your attitude today, honey. We're going
to have sex with some erotic spankings thrown in
there to help you get your attitude fixed," sounds
pretty absurd to me.
This is NOT a "fun", "exciting", or "sexual" activity to
be done whenever you feel like it. Spankings (under
a discipline sense) are not fun, exciting or sexual.
If you do find spankings to be those things, then
information about erotic spankings is what you're
looking for.
3. We've established erotic spankings will not be
discussed on this discipline presentation since they
have nothing to do with Domestic Discipline.
One commenter asked if I felt discipline spankings
and erotic spankings could not co-exist in a
marriage, and later went on to ask if I felt they could
not work together.
This comment/question confused me some, since I
feel it was asking two different questions.
Do I feel discipline spankings and erotic
spankings can co-exist in a marriage? Of course
they can.
4. A couple that practices Domestic Discipline can
include erotic spankings in their sex life.
What they do during intimate times is their
business.
Absolutely discipline spankings and erotic
spankings can co-exist in a marriage.
5. Do I feel discipline spankings and erotic
spankings can work together? No, I do not.
Going back to the point I made earlier, one
cannot correct a behavior by having sex.
When sex gets mixed in with discipline, it
confuses the brain. Literally.
One begins associating discipline with sex, and it
causes increased problems in behavior.
6. In a discipline instance, people associate poor
behavior with subsequent discipline.
If sex gets involved in any way, one then associates
discipline with sex.
So, when sex and discipline get mixed together, the
association then becomes poor behavior leads to
subsequent sex.
As general human nature, people enjoy sex. When
this happens, future poor behaviors increase since
the one acting out knows sex will follow (after the
disciplinary action), which is something they enjoy.
7. Domestic discipline sex, ultimately, is reinforcing
the poor behavior and thus will increase the
likelihood of it repeating.
Discipline spankings and erotic spankings
CANNOT work together.
That last paragraph was kind of confusing so I'll
illustrate my point. Here is the thought process:
Poor behavior --> Discipline --> Sex
8. Naturally, through the transitive property (If A = B and B =
C, then A = C), this then becomes:
Poor behavior --> Sex
That can't happen unless you want to see an increase in
poor behavior, which is essentially the exact opposite of
what Domestic Discipline is intended to do.
So, once again, discipline spankings and erotic spankings
cannot work together.
I understand spanking, even in a discipline sense, can be
arousing. I'm not arguing that point at all. It can be.
But, after the little spiel I went on about how mixing sex
with discipline is a no-no, I obviously highly recommend
NOT mixing sex with discipline.
9. If this is difficult for you to do, change the way you
spank.
Start to spank over the underwear or light clothing
rather than bare-bottomed.
After the comforting, do something to take your mind
off of sex.
So how long after a spanking (a discipline spanking)
should you wait to have sex? For best results, I
recommend you wait until her buttocks feels 100%
better.
I understand why people were confused by what I
said, and the difference between punishment
spankings and erotic spankings.
10. They fall under the same category (spankings) but are
two completely different things.
Just like apples and oranges. Same category
(fruit), different things.
One last thing I want to say before I end this -
Domestic Discipline is one ASPECT of a marriage.
I think that covers everything I wanted to put within
this entry.
I hope it clarified, but maybe it didn't. I don't know. I
talk a lot sometimes.
Anyway, as always feel free to comment or ask
questions in the comments section of the
presentation.
