1. Raising our Boys to become Real
Men – Part 4
Maud church of Christ
by Jim Bradshaw
Sunday Morning, June 9, 2013
1 Timothy 3:1-7

2. Raising our Boys to Become Real Men
1Ti 3:4-7 NKJV one who rules his
own house well, having his
children in submission with all
reverence (5) (for if a man does
not know how to rule his own
house, how will he take care of the
church of God?); (6) not a
novice, lest being puffed up with
pride he fall into the same
condemnation as the devil. (7)
Moreover he must have a good
testimony among those who
are outside, lest he fall into
reproach and the snare of the devil.

3. Rules His own Household Well
The original word translated manage literally means “to stand before.”
Household includes all who live under a persons house. Not just kids, wives
also.
A man should manage his house with dignity (ESV), but what is dignity?

4. Dignity
True honor; nobleness or elevation of mind, consisting in a high sense of
propriety, truth and justice, with an abhorrence of mean and sinful actions;
opposed to meanness. In this sense, we speak of the dignity of mind, and
dignity of sentiments. This dignity is based on moral rectitude; all vice is
incompatible with true dignity of mind. The man who deliberately injures
another, whether male or female, has no true dignity of soul. (Webster’s
1828)

5. Submissive Children
The best way for a boy to learn to have
his own submissive children is to teach
a child to honor and obey his parents.
Eph 6:1-4 NKJV Children, obey your
parents in the Lord, for this is right. (2)
"HONOR YOUR FATHER AND MOTHER,"
which is the first commandment with
promise: (3) "THAT IT MAY BE WELL
WITH YOU AND YOU MAY LIVE LONG
ON THE EARTH." (4) And
you, fathers, do not provoke your
children to wrath, but bring them up in
the training and admonition of the
Lord.

6. Submissive Children
Eph 5:17-21 NKJV Therefore do not be
unwise, but understand what the will of
the Lord is. (18) And do not be drunk
with wine, in which is dissipation; but
be filled with the Spirit, (19) speaking
to one another in psalms and hymns
and spiritual songs, singing and making
melody in your heart to the Lord, (20)
giving thanks always for all things to
God the Father in the name of our Lord
Jesus Christ, (21) submitting to one
another in the fear of God.

7. Submissive Children
Php 2:3-8 NKJV Let nothing be done through
selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of
mind let each esteem others better than
himself. (4) Let each of you look out not only
for his own interests, but also for the interests
of others. (5) Let this mind be in you which
was also in Christ Jesus, (6) who, being in the
form of God, did not consider it robbery to be
equal with God, (7) but made Himself of no
reputation, taking the form of a
bondservant, and coming in the likeness of
men. (8) And being found in appearance as a
man, He humbled Himself and became
obedient to the point of death, even the
death of the cross.

8. Not A Recent Convert
One is not a true “real man” until he
is a Christian.
What should be the most important
goal for a Christian parent?
To raise their children to become
Christians
How do we best accomplish this
goal?

9. Their Friends are
Important
1 Corinthians 15:33 ESV (33) Do not be
deceived: "Bad company ruins good
morals."
2 Corinthians 6:14 ESV Do not be
unequally yoked with unbelievers. For
what partnership has righteousness with
lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light
with darkness?

10. A Good Testimony by Outsiders
1Pe 3:15-18 NKJV But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts, and
always be ready to give a defense to everyone who asks you a
reason for the hope that is in you, with meekness and fear; (16)
having a good conscience, that when they defame you as
evildoers, those who revile your good conduct in Christ may be
ashamed. (17) For it is better, if it is the will of God, to suffer for
doing good than for doing evil. (18) For Christ also suffered once for
sins, the just for the unjust, that He might bring us to God, being put
to death in the flesh but made alive by the Spirit,

11. A Good Testimony by Outsiders
How do we receive a good report by those
outside of Christ?
Mat 7:12 NKJV Therefore, whatever you
want men to do to you, do also to
them, for this is the Law and the Prophets.

12. Hold Firm to the Trustworthy Word
Titus 1:9 ESV He must hold firm to the trustworthy word as taught, so
that he may be able to give instruction in sound doctrine and also to
rebuke those who contradict it.
Notice the “as taught”

13. Real Men
Real men are Leaders of their house
Real men are Christians
Real men are well thought of by non-
Christians
Real men hold firm to God’s word