My Power point on chapter 17, Parenting.

1. Parents style and outcomesBy: Hannah Kankam The way children are parented when they are young influences the type of people they become. How? Why?

3. Identify parenting styles, including positive guidance techniques that help children develop positive self-concepts, self-management, and responsibility.

4. List ways to foster a child’s self-concept.

5. Express love and affectionand listen to them.

6. Help them feel safe.

7. Provide order.

8. Praise them.

9. Avoid criticism by focusing on the behavior.

10. Be consistent.

11. Allow them to experience life for themselves. Objectives

13. “It’s terrific to be a mother; you’ll regret; your life will change” (pg. 311).

14. As stated in our textbook, becoming a parent is a personal decision one must take whether for religious reasons or personal choice. Yes becoming a parent and for most cases becoming a mother is such a big deal, but it is not a must.

15. Parents should not regret having a child because it was a decision they made not the child. The child should never feel she/he was a mistake.

16. It is a life changing experience because your whole world would revolve around your child. Your Childs needs and wants should and will always comes first. This experience should be a good life change. Definition of a parent

17. vulnerable and dependent

19. Authoritarian

20. Permissive

21. DemocraticIdentify parenting styles

23. Parents’ word is law, parents have absolute control.

24. Misconduct is punished

25. Affection and praise are rarely give

26. Parents try to control children's’ behavior and attitudes

27. They value unquestioned obedience

28. Children are told what to do, how to do it, and where to do it, and when to do it.Authoritarian

30. Distrustful

31. Discontent

32. Withdrawn

33. Unhappy

34. Hostile

35. Not High Achievers

36. Often RebelChildren from authoritarian homes are so strictly controlled, either by punishment or guilt, that they are often prevented from making a conscious choice about particular behavior because they are overly concerned about what their parents will do. No child should have to experience trap and fear from their parents. Outcomes of Authoritarian Style

38. Parents allow their children to do their own thing.

39. Little respect for order and routine.

40. Parents make few demands on children.

41. Impatience is hidden.

42. Discipline is lax

43. Parents are resources rather than standard makers

44. Rarely punish

45. Non controlling, non-demanding

46. Usually warm

47. Children walk all over the parentsPermissive

49. Least self—reliant

50. Least self-controlled

51. Least exploratory

52. Most unhappyChildren from permissive homes receive so little guidance that they often become uncertain and anxious about whether they are doing the right thing. Without guidance, children will be completely lost in todays society. They will have no sense of where they belong or their sense of being. Outcome of Permissive Parenting

54. Middle ground between the two.

55. Stress freedom along with rights of others and responsibilities.

56. Parents set limits and enforce rules.

57. Willing to listen receptively to child’s requests and questions.

58. Both loves and limits.

59. Children contribute to discussion of issues and make some of their own decisions.

60. Exert firm control when necessary, but explain reasoning behind it.

61. Respect children’s interest, opinions, unique personalities.

62. Loving, consistent, demanding.

63. Combine control with encouragement.

64. Reasonable expectations and realistic standards.Democratic

66. Mostly self-reliant

67. Mostly self-controlled

68. Content, friendly, generous

69. Cooperative

70. High-achiever’

71. Less likely to be seriously disruptive or delinquentChildren whose parents expect them to perform well, to fulfill commitments, and to participate actively in family duties, as well as family fun, learn how to formulate goals. They also experience the satisfaction that comes from meeting responsibilities and achieving success. Outcomes of Democratic Style

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77. Give lots of encouragement

78. Give them freedom to fail with acceptance.

79. Allow independence

80. Do not set standards unreasonably high.

81. Avoid ridicule

82. Eliminate the negative

83. Give unconditional love.

84. Be available

85. Be a good role model.

86. Give your children responsibility

87. Take their ideas, emotions and feelings seriously.

88. Allow exploration and encourage questions.

89. Set LimitsWays to foster a child's self-esteem.

91. Sadly, many children will seek this kind of acceptance from their peers. which increase the chances of trying or practice new behavior that is not appropriate.

92. Tell them you love them everyday by giving them a lots of hugs and kisses.

93. Love them unconditionally; don't force them to be who you think they should be in order to earn your love. Let them know that you will always love them no matter what.

94. Express interest in your them and involve yourself in his and her life.

95. Create an atmosphere in which they can come to you with a problem however large or small. If they cannot confront their parents they may turn to the wrong person for comfort. Express love and affection and listen to them

98. Instill in them, a sense of belonging by displaying individual and family portraits on the walls of the house.

99. Parents should not argue in front of their children. Modern divorce rates have children feeling insecure and fearful when they hear parents bickering. In addition, children will learn to argue with each other the same way they hear their parents argue with each other. Show them that when people disagree, they can discuss their differences peacefully.

100. Avoid favoritism. Surveys have shown that most parents have favorites, but most children believe they are the favorite. If your children are quarreling, don't choose sides.

101. Parents should up their vices: gambling, alcohol and drugs can jeopardize achild's financial security. Smoking almost always introduces health hazards to the child's environment. Second-hand smoke has been linked to several respiratory ailments in children. It could also contribute to the early death of a parent. Alcohol and drugs might also introduce health hazards or violence to a child's environment.

102. There have to be a lot if sacrifices does once parents decide to have a child. Help them feel safe

105. Encourage responsibility by assigning job like chores, to do and as a reward for those jobs parents should give their children some kind of privilege (money, extended curfew, extra play time, etc.).

106. Teach them what is right and wrong. Don't be hypocritical or be prepared for your child to point out that you are not practicing what you preach.

107. Explain that they will have to wait until they are old enough to enjoy a drink with friends and talk about the importance of designated drivers.

108. Failure to discuss these issues early sometimes contributes to sneaking and dangerous experimentation. Provide order

110. Teach your children that it is okay for them to be different and they do not have to follow the crowd. Teach them right from wrong when then are young, and they will (more often than not) be able to make their own decisions, instead of listening to others.

111. Remember that your child is not an extension of yourself. Your child is an individual under your care, not a chance for you to relive your life through them. Praise them

113. Be assertive yet kindwhen pointing out what they have done wrong. Be stern, but not cross, when you tell them what you expect.

114. Avoid public humiliation. If they misbehave in public, take them aside, and scold them privately.

115. Model the behavior and character you hope your children will adopt and live by the rules you set. Show them by example in addition to verbal explanations. Children have a tendency to become what they see and hear unless they make a conscious and concerted effort to break the mold.Avoid criticism by focusing on the behavior

117. Enforce the same rules all the time, and resist your child's attempts to manipulate you into making exceptions.

118. Parents should control their temper.

119. Communicate clearly. Children should be very familiar with the consequences of their actions. If you give them a punishment, be sure they understand the reason and the fault.Be consistent

121. They need to learn that their own actions have consequences (good and bad). By doing so, it helps them to become good decision makers and problem solvers so that they are prepared for independence and adulthood.

122. Parents must explain their options, and the consequences of each one, then live with whatever option the child select.Allow them to experience life for themselves.

123. One of the most important things to remember as a parent is to be yourself. You can only use those methods with which you feel comfortable. A child can spot a fake a mile away. Children know if you mean what you say or if it is just another threat. Select the methods that you believe in, that you feel comfortable with, and then be consistent. No parents are perfect. Its matter of learning, understanding and putting it into practice to be a good parent. Summary

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