Many people want to jump into the relationship, but preparation sets the stage for the success of the relationship.
Review slide contents.Can we all agree with this? Anything to add?
Review slide contentsCan we all agree with this? Anything to add?
Review slide contentsCan we all agree with this? Anything to add?
Establish is where you define competencies to mentor on (mentors) or to seek development (mentees). It is where you connect with your mentoring partner.
This is where the work gets done
Discussion: What might be challenging about ending relationships?Many people consider this one of the most difficult parts of the relationship, like “breaking up”
See this as part of the relationship. Very few people keep the same mentor forever. Lack of closure – partners don’t know how to let go, mentoring relationship evolves slowly into friendship Fear of closure – not wanting to take action and close, fear of causing offense or simply going through the motions of the relationship because a relationship is “expected” Partner moves suddenly or can no longer be in relationship due to personal issues, doesn’t end the relationship formally-it just dies suddenly Scheduled end – time is up so relationship is over but no “ritual” to assess progress/celebrate success
From Zachary article: There are number of things that mentoring partners can do to insure satisfying in meaningful closure: Be proactive. Don't wait until the end to begin! Agree on how you will come to closure when you first negotiate your mentoring partnership. Discuss and plan how you will come to closure — if it is planned or unplanned. Set ground rules for having the discussion. Make one of those ground rules an agreement to end on good terms. Many mentoring partners adopt the no-fault rule, meaning that there is no blaming if the partnership is not working or one person is uncomfortable.2. Look for signals. Keep your antenna up so you can recognize signs that the relationship may be ending. Check out your perceptions and assumptions when the first indicators appear. What you think you see may be a reflection of your on anxiety, fear, or hope.3. Respect your partner. If he or she wants to end the relationship and you don't, you must honor their wishes (ok to negotiate first). You may want to leave the door open in case circumstances change. Time is the most frequent cause of mentoring partnership derailment. Being flexible but focused is helpful. Always get a date on the calendar. If you need to close on a meeting, do it, but make sure you schedule your next one when you do. Used wisely, a calendar reminder is a contact point for communication.