Slides from 2013 Preparing Your Child for Success seminar hosted by The Bear Creek School annually in Redmond, WA. Slides are excerpts from the presentation "Understanding Personality and Temperament" by Denise Peeler.

1. PERSONALITY PERSPECTIVE

2. What impression are we
making on our kids?
“Impress them on your children.
Talk about them when you sit at
home and when you walk along
the road, when you lie down and
when you get up.“
Deuteronomy 6:7

3. Personality Presentation
 General characteristics of each personality
 Personality comparisons
 Applying personalities to parenting

4. Personalities Perspectives

5. LION~ My Way
 Challenge and Control 10%
 Leader
 Problem solver
 Courageous
 Passion
 Perseveres
 Purposeful
 Motivated by a vision
 Competitive
 Crave competition and pressure
 Weaknesses:
 Runs people over

6. WHAT ENGERIZES LIONS?
ACHIEVEMENT

7. OTTER~ The Fun and Creative Way
 Recognition and approval 25-30%
 Encouraging
 Enthusiastic
 Joyful
 Creative
 Idea person
 Loves adventure and surprise
 Craves spontaneity
 Fun
 Weaknesses
 Interrupts often and moody
 Disorganized, misses details of directions

8. WHAT ENERGIZES OTTERS?
EXPERIENCES

9. GOLDEN RETRIEVER~ The Easy Way
 Appreciation and Security 30-35%
 Caring
 Loyal
 Honest
 Humble
 Easy going
 Peace maker
 Servant
 Crave consistency
 Weaknesses:
 Lazy
 Indecisive

10. WHAT ENERGIZES RETREIVERS?
S ERVICE

11. BEAVER~ The Right Way
 Quality answers and Value 20-25%
 Responsible
 Very detailed
 Conscientious
 Obedience
 Organized
 Analytical
 Discerning
 Crave organization and details
 Weaknesses:
 Critical
 Inflexible

12. WHAT ENERGIZES BEAVERS?
ACCOMPLISHMENTS

13. Personalities Perspectives

14. Personality Trait - FEARS
Lion Otter
 Greatest Need:  Greatest Need:
 Respect and control  Approval
 Being important  To be loved
 Greatest Fear:  Greatest Fear:
 Loss of control  Disapproval
 Feeling Unloved
Beavers Golden Retrievers:
 Greatest Need:  Greatest Need:
 To be accurate  Appreciated and Needed
 Greatest Fear:  Greatest Fear:
 Making mistakes  Unappreciated and not needed
 Embarrassment

15. LIONS AND OTTERS
 Lion: Otter:
Great starters  Great starters
 Talkers  Talkers
 Outgoing  Outgoing
 Global thinkers  Global thinkers
 Love a challenge  Love a challenge
 Leaders  Leaders
 Craves change  Craves change
 Risk taker  Risk taker
 Generates ideas  Generates ideas

16. LIONS AND BEAVERS
Lion:  Beavers:
Black and  Black and
white thinkers white thinkers
Task focused  Task Focused
Critical  Critical
Controlling  Controlling

17. OTTERS AND RETRIEVERS
Otter: People focused Golden Retrievers: People
 Unmotivated by tasks focused
 Dislike conflict  Unmotivated by tasks
 Takes the easy route  Dislike conflict
 Optimists  Takes the easy route
 Optimists

18. BEAVERS AND RETRIEVERS
Beavers: Golden Retrievers:
Great finishers Great finishers
 Enjoy clear guidelines  Enjoy clear guidelines
 Listeners  Listeners
 Quiet and reserved  Quiet and reserved
 Followers  Followers
 Likes routine  Likes routine

19. LION - my way
 Give choices (What do you want to do today?)
 Celebrate when they persevere or show courage
 Give opportunities for challenge
 Take time to be one on one
 Give them a big picture view
 Give leadership jobs within your family
 Minimize talking; follow through with action
 Give clear expectations of consequences
 Let them experience consequences for choices
 Try to not be bated into conflict or a battle

20. Teach:
 Leadership qualities
 Healthy relationships with peers
 Letting others go first

21. OTTER – fun and creative way
 Foster creativity through creative projects
 (i.e. cooking, crafts, woodworking)
 Be spontaneous (i.e. create a scavenger hunt)
 Create fun experiences
 Foster group activities
 (i.e. sports, classes, neighborhood gatherings)
 Play games as a family
 Encourage activity. Let them MOVE!

22. OTTER – fun and creative way
Teach:
 Organization
 Time management
 Slow down
 Problem solving and think ahead
 Joy of hard work

23. GOLDEN RETREIVER – easy way
 Give one on one time (cooking or sewing)
 Provide safe experiences to take risks
 Give opportunities to develop friendships
 Give clear expectations
 Create a safe and nurturing environment
 Use a soft, gentle voice
 Reward their acts of service
 Serve together as a family in the community
 Display healthy conflict resolution without using
anger

24. GOLDEN RETREIVER – easy way
Teach:
 Value of hard work
 Sharing their ideas
 Goal setting
 Standing up for themselves
 Healthy ways to help others

25. BEAVER- right way
 Provide structure and predictability
 Ask questions
 Reward critical thinking
 Allow them to join you in tasks
 Highlight one mistake at a time
 Provide toys which exercise their analytical minds
 i.e. legos, puzzles, building a model car

26. BEAVER – right way
Teach:
 Value of play and fun
 Give opportunities to develop friendships
 Show them how to lovingly share criticism
 Mistakes are avenues for learning

27. Personality Trait - CLASSROOM
Lion Otter
 Compliment with a challenge and vision  Compliment publicly
 Loves independent projects  Love adventure and surprise
 Craves competition and pressure  Enjoys working in groups
 Enjoys challenging work  Crave spontaneity
 Likes to have freedom/ thrives with choices  Thrives on creative projects
 Fast worker  Enjoy open ended assignments
 Tends to enjoy Math and Science  Very fast worker
 Loves art, writing and social studies
Beavers Golden Retrievers
 Compliment specifically  Servant in your classroom
 Crave organization and details  Detailed thinker
 Enjoy clear guidelines  Craves consistency
 Do not like open ended assignments  Dislike competition and pressure
 Prefer paper and pen to projects  Dislikes getting in front of class
 Detailed thinker  Does not want to be embarrassed
 Slow worker  Likes to have clear directions to follow
 Enjoys worksheets  Slow worker
 Enjoys Math, Grammar and Science  Enjoys social studies, spelling and grammar

28. Personality Trait Overview
Lion: Peter, Paul, Joshua Otter: David, Barnabas
 Challenge and Control 10%  Recognition and approval 25-30%
 Leader  Encouraging
 Problem solver  Enthusiastic
 Courageous  Joyful
 Passion  Creative
 Perseveres  Idea person
 Purposeful  Loves adventure and surprise
 Motivated by a vision  Craves spontaneity
 Competitive  Fun
 Crave competition and pressure  Weaknesses
 Weaknesses:  Interrupts often and moody
 Runs people over  Disorganized, misses details of directions
Beavers: Noah, Martha, Nehemiah, Jacob Golden Retrievers: Mary, Moses, John
 Quality answers and Value 20-25%  Appreciation and Security 30-35%
 Responsible  Caring
 Very detailed  Loyal
 Conscientious  Honest
 Obedience  Humble
 Organized  Easy going
 Analytical  Peace maker
 Discerning  Servant
 Crave organization and details  Crave consistency
 Weaknesses:  Weaknesses:
 Critical  Lazy
 Inflexible  Indecisive