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  “ An efficient bartender's first aim should be to please his customers, paying particular attention to meet the individual wishes of those whose tastes and desires he has already watched and ascertained. Jerry Thomas, 1862. Charm
  “ An efficient bartender's first aim should be to please his customers, paying particular attention to meet the individual wishes of those whose tastes and desires he has already watched and ascertained. In this way he will not fail to acquire popularity and success.” Jerry Thomas, 1862. Charm
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The Charm Taboo Charm
Charm Is Learned Charm
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“ This above all: to thine own self be true, And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any man”. Polonius’ advice to Laertes, Hamlet, 1-3 Charm
The Myth of Being “Real” Charm
The Self Serving Bias Charm
The Self Serving Bias I’m OK. Charm
The Self Serving Bias I’m OK. You’re a useless bastard. Charm
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Perception  ≠ Reality Charm
Perception  ≠ Reality Charm
Perception  ≠ Reality Charm
Perception  ≠ Reality
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We are charmed by people whose appearance we like.
What do we like?
Height
Height Hair
Height Hair Symmetrical physical features
Height Hair Symmetrical physical features Health
Height Hair Symmetrical physical features Health Smiles
Height Hair Symmetrical physical features Health Smiles Clothing
Height Hair Symmetrical physical features Health Smiles Clothing Good (Public) Speaking
Height Hair Symmetrical physical features Health Smiles Clothing Good (Public) Speaking Confidence
Height Hair Symmetrical physical features Health Smiles Clothing Good (Public) Speaking Confidence
We cannot lie. Charm
38% 45% 7% Charm
Body language Charm
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Resolving Conflicts & Breaking The Chain
Snap judgement Charm
Snap judgement Body language Charm
Snap judgement Body language Actual language Charm
Snap judgement Body language Actual language Reinforcement Charm
Internal Feeling (Body) language Charm
Resolving Conflicts with the Self-Serving Bias
“ We call on man to display his splendid capabilities. And We observe with undivided attention, Because The little nuances in the quality of his service Give a flawless measure of his mind They tell us frankly what his soul is worth, Because, To serve is first to love". Giuseppe Cipriani
Relaxing Guests Charm
Relaxing Guests Acknowledgment Charm
Relaxing Guests Acknowledgment Compliment Charm
Relaxing Guests Acknowledgment Compliment Oyster Theory Charm
Rapport
Rapport Pacing & Leading
Rapport Pacing & Leading Intonation
Rapport Pacing & Leading Intonation Speed of speech
Rapport Pacing & Leading Intonation Speed of speech Blink rate
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Anchor Points
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The Confirmation Bias
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Editor's Notes

  1. From Dublin, Ireland. Jet-set drinks consultant, trainer, writer and speaker. Founded Charm Solutions in 1999. Was once deported from Yugoslavia (not in handcuffs though). Opened door 74 Nov. 2008
  2. From Dublin, Ireland. Jet-set drinks consultant, trainer, writer and speaker. Founded Charm Solutions in 1999. Was once deported from Yugoslavia (not in handcuffs though). Opened door 74 Nov. 2008
  3. From Dublin, Ireland. Jet-set drinks consultant, trainer, writer and speaker. Founded Charm Solutions in 1999. Was once deported from Yugoslavia (not in handcuffs though). Opened door 74 Nov. 2008
  4. From Dublin, Ireland. Jet-set drinks consultant, trainer, writer and speaker. Founded Charm Solutions in 1999. Was once deported from Yugoslavia (not in handcuffs though). Opened door 74 Nov. 2008
  5. From Dublin, Ireland. Jet-set drinks consultant, trainer, writer and speaker. Founded Charm Solutions in 1999. Was once deported from Yugoslavia (not in handcuffs though). Opened door 74 Nov. 2008
  6. From Dublin, Ireland. Jet-set drinks consultant, trainer, writer and speaker. Founded Charm Solutions in 1999. Was once deported from Yugoslavia (not in handcuffs though). Opened door 74 Nov. 2008
  7. Choice Architecture
  8. Not talking about subliminal in the true sense.
  9. The Psychology of the Individual The Mentalist Lie To Me Paul Ekman FACS MOTAC article
  10. Manipulation
  11. Showmanship
  12. Dry Martini Counter
  13. Dry Martini Counter
  14. Dry Martini Counter
  15. Adelson
  16. Adelson
  17. Adelson
  18. McGurk Sound Illusion
  19. McGurk Sound Illusion
  20. McGurk Sound Illusion
  21. McGurk Sound Illusion
  22. McGurk Sound Illusion
  23. McGurk Sound Illusion
  24. McGurk Sound Illusion
  25. McGurk Sound Illusion
  26. McGurk Sound Illusion
  27. McGurk Sound Illusion
  28. McGurk Sound Illusion
  29. Reading a baseline Ekman examples Lie to Me & FACS 55% message body language, 38 intonation, 7 words Girl in short tight deepcut dress Importance of context
  30. Reading a baseline Ekman examples Lie to Me & FACS 55% message body language, 38 intonation, 7 words Girl in short tight deepcut dress Importance of context
  31. Reading a baseline Ekman examples Lie to Me & FACS 55% message body language, 38 intonation, 7 words Girl in short tight deepcut dress Importance of context
  32. Libertarian Paternalism & Choice Architecture
  33. is a political philosophy that believes the state can “help you make the choices you would make for yourself—if only you had the strength of will and the sharpness of mind. But unlike 'hard' paternalists, who ban some things and mandate others, the softer kind aims only to skew your decisions, without infringing greatly on your freedom of choice. Do whatever you like – BUT, design choosing systems to “nudge” Visual – eye level is buy level Taxation, costs nudge, e.g. gas-guzzling cars
  34. Ibis hotel Stuttgart
  35. Visual herd behaviour: lit glass-fronted beer fridges
  36. Dry Martini Counter Most people do/don’t do this… Visual example Info cascades: start as rational expectation, end as irrational herd behaviour – housing bubble Visual herd behaviour: lit glass-fronted beer fridges
  37. Using design – anchor price points champagne cocktails give colour list the cocktails you want to your guest to choose first