1. Let‘s face it, guys are pretty spoilt for ways to woo us. From BBM-ing sweet nothings to texting us
raunchy pics, there‘s a bizillioninventive tricks to leave us loved-up and breathless. But now
a newsurvey has revealed exactly what guys and gals really want in bed – and guess what? There‘s
not a pair of crotchless pants in sight. PHEW. Here we reveal the results, ensuring you‘re both raring
to go, Cosmo-style:
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Talk dirty
According to the survey, nearly half of all adults have engaged in a little ‗dirty talk‘ over the phone. If
you haven‘t, why the heck not? Get dialing ladies, but make er, sure you call his mobile not his desk
phone. And always check he hasn‘t put you on speakerphone first...
But not too dirty
Share this among your male buddies – use the L-word boys! 42% of women said that being told ‗I
love you‘ gets them hotter than being told they were ‗hot‘. To cover all bases, why not try them both?
Just sayin‘.
Vino + meal = sex O’clock
Sometimes simple really is best. Both sexes unanimously agreed that sharing a romantic meal with a
nice bottle of wine makes for the perfect pre-passion night of fun. So ditch the elaborate day at
Monkey World, followed by the hot balloon ride and sparklers in the horse and carriage ride and
gosimple. Less pressure guarantees more fun. And we all want fun in bed, right?
HAVE AN ORGASM - IT'S GOOD FOR YOU
Get sexting
Younger men and women ‗fessed up to getting stuck in to sexting – with 22% saying they‘re likely to
get turned on by a raunchy text message. Start small and if he‘s got an iPhone, leave
the really explicit stuff till the end of the message – you‘ve seen the first few lines of a text flash up
on your mates‘ screens before, right? We‘re thinking of your future blushes here!
Add some length
Ooer. 65% of women said they were satisfied by the length of their sex-sessions but 55% of men
hoped for a bit longer between the sheets. Fancy being kind? Treat him to an extra few minutes (we
think watching Made in Chelsea in bed counts, don‘t worry).
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Let him be your fantasy
38% of couples say they fantasize about their significant other but 19% say they‘ve had lustful
thoughts over a colleague. Recurring dreams about David Hasselhoff? Don‘t panic. 38% of couples

2. fantasize about getting it on with a celeb so it‘s borderline acceptable. Almost. Had a sexy dream?
Tell him about it – who knows, maybe he‘ll dress up as R-Patz for you (imagine the LOLs).
How to Attract Younger Women
There‘s a character called Mike on the hilarious American sitcom, 'My Boys' – a commitment-
challenged man who is always trying to hit on younger women but is never successful.
You‘re out with friends and you see these hot and young twenty year olds or women in their thirties
and immediately you want to go over and talk to them. But you feel that she will reject you because of
your age. ‗I‘m too old for her,‘ you might think, which is a fair call if you‘re thinking of hitting on a
25-year old when you need adult incontinence diapers to keep you from embarrassing yourself. But
otherwise, you‘re wrong. Attracting younger women is not as hard as you think. Men, just like
women, want to feel they have it in them to attract people of all ages at any given point in their life. It
is a HUGE ego booster. There is no special formula to attract younger women. It just calls for a mild
alteration in your approach. Read on:
Where
Well, just like you head to a museum or a library to meet intelligent women, you got to head to
happening clubs, music concerts, coffee shops and other such places that is frequented by young
folks to meet young women.
Then?
Once you spot the girl you like, approach her like you‘d approach any other woman – be confident
and be yourself. When talking to her, be respectful and act your age. You do not have to memorize
cheesy pick up lines, just be forthright and direct. The key here is to not make her feel like a silly little
girl. Treat her like an adult. Don‘t act like her babysitter. Don‘t be condescending or pedantic, but
keep the conversation fun and interesting.
Use
Use your maturity to your advantage. Bring in that sophistication. She must be tired of being hit on
by immature, arrogant fools who think just saying, 'Hey good looking', is enough for her to put out.
However young a woman is, she still wants to be wooed and be treated like a lady. Here‘s where you
step in.
Timing
Just because she smiled at you and shared a few jokes, don‘t jump the gun and ask her out in your
first meeting. That might turn her off and she might put you in the same category of desperate men
who are just looking to score. Wait it out a bit. If she‘s a waitress at a coffee shop, visit the shop once

3. or twice. Be friendly, be funny during those interactions. Once you‘re sure she demonstrates some
sort of liking for you, go for it. The idea is to ask her out in such a way that she will say yes and
nothing else. ―You missed this great Metallica concert last night. I would have invited you but I didn‘t
have your number‖– something to this effect. ―I‘m going for this stand up gig tonight. You game?‖
Act confident and sure of yourself. That automatically raises your attraction quotient.
Maintain
Fine, you got a date. Now it‘s time for the real thing. Till now, your interactions with her were
limited. She has formed this image in her head of a man who is fun, charming, and sophisticated.
Now it‘s up to you to maintain that image. You have to display the same characteristics you displayed
the first time you met her. Also, remember to not be too hasty when making your move, but also
don‘t leave it for too late either.
So, it‘s not really that difficult to attract younger women. You just need to alter your approach mildly
and find out things to talk about and do, which would keep her interested in you. It‘s simple: with
intelligent, mature women, you would probably discuss the world‘s future, but with a much younger
woman, you should pick things that are more current, like movies ('The Avengers'), music (Bruno
Mars), travel (Spain) etc. There‘s no reason why you can‘t be dating a younger woman. With some
practise, you should be able to score a date with a beautiful young woman.
How to Kiss Passionately
It really doesn‘t matter if you are player or just getting started, the bottom-line is you need to be a
more-than-good kisser to present yourself as lovable and passionate.
If you have been struggling to get the action mastered, consider the following set of tips.
Getting Prepared
To get started, you need to ensure there are no distractions. Get rid of all the apprehensions in your
mind and leave your worries behind for some other day. Be confident of yourself. Better circulation
of blood means that your face will feel warmer, more welcoming and supple — something that is
often ignored whenkissing passionately is discussed - so, think naughty thoughts.
Getting Expressive With Your Lips
It really doesn‘t matter whether you bump your nose or your teeth collide. These things really don‘t
matter as long as you are ready to get creative with your lips. For starters, a passionate kiss can
seldom be a light one. You need to press your lips with your partners. Don‘t fret about what just
right. Just remember that your lips should be smudged without worrying about the rhythm. If you
are slightly more experienced in this niche, try to start with a full-on kiss and alternate it with lighter

4. ones. The lighter mode includes moving away from her lips for a second, gathering your breath and
then diving deeper with more momentum.
Getting Creative With Your Lips & Tongue
The French take the honors for inventing a rather passionate way of kissing. However, French
Kissing isn't the only type of kiss that expresses passion. Forget about every rule in the book of
kissing you have ever read or heard about. Keep it simple and try out as many variations as you. The
best way to be a passionate kisser is to be spontaneous. This means doing everything possible with
your tongue too. For instance, you can be sloppy with your tongue. This means smearing your
partner's lips with a bit more of wetness and then repeatedly wiping it off with your lips. Suck your
partner's lower lip into your mouth by shaping your lips like a big pout. When his/her lips are inside
your mouth, tease and nibble them with your tongue and teeth.
Getting Aggressive Without Being Fast
Perhaps, one the most overlooked aspects of kissing passionately is the pace. There are no rules
when you are trying to be spontaneous and expressive. However, it is recommended not to be too
quick about it. Every variation of a kiss that you try should be slow in the execution. Whether it is
pleasing him/her in bed or kissing passionately, being quick isn't the wisest approach sense it makes
your sense rush through the motions, reducing the overall impact, not allowing your mind to process
every bit of exhilaration it feels.
When Trying to Kiss Passionately Use Your Body Too
This passionate kissing tip is applicable to all those who are under the impression that your mouth
needs to do all the work when kissing. The reality is that the manner in which your embrace your
partner, preferably a tight hug, makes a major difference. The closer your bodies are pressed against
each other, the better access you will have to your partner's mouth. More bodily contact also suggests
that you are more passionate about him/her and aren't just testing or trying-out kissing. Slowly pull
your partner closer when kissing, it will create a better impact.
Explore Beyond the Lips
Opinions differ on this aspect, but still most kissing experts suggest not limiting yourself to your
partner's mouth. Use your lips like an explorer on the move. Kiss, lick and taste every bit of his/her
face, including the chin, neck, cheeks and eyes. Nibble on her/his face, especially the ears.
Sex Secrets Of The Kama Sutra & Other Eastern
Pleasures
Kayla Ricci has compiled a suitably decadent guide to the sexual teachings of the East - they really
are a saucy bunch of know-it-alls, and this book divulges some of the secrets of their sexual history.

5. Taking positions from the classic Kama Sutra through to sex tips from India, Arabia, China and
Japan.
Discover how to turn your bedroom into a seductive chamber of love, turn your partner on through
tantric erotic massage and indulge the submissive in you by playing at being his geisha.
Packed with erotic yet useful photographs to help you recreate the positions, seduction techniques
and sex tips every couple should know - from prolonging foreplay to finding his G-spot, this book is
our new bottom drawer must-have read.
Sex Secrets of the Kama Sutra, Kayla Ricci, DK, £14.99, www.dk.com.
Love’s tailor and other explosive sex moves
The way in which you and your lover move during sex can yield some sizzling sensations for both of
you. Your moves can also change the mood of lovemaking from sensual to feverish in an instant. In
The Perfumed Garden, Sheikh Nefzawi recommends a variety of movements, described below, to
help you get maximum pleasure.
Love’s tailor To set the mood for rampant sex, he should try this teasing opener. He inserts the tip
of his penis inside her and makes tiny back and forth rubbing movements. The friction will feel
fantastic on the acutely sensitive area just inside her vagina. Then, just when she is relaxing into
these blissful sensations, he gives her an erotic jolt by suddenly sliding all the way in.
Bucket in the well Embrace each other closely in a face-to-face sex position and then take turns to
move alternately: he thrusts in and out, then she thrusts, and so on. Increase the pace as you go and
do not worry if, by the moment of climax, sex is so wild that you have abandoned the careful
discipline of taking turns.

6. The mutual shock This is a move that will make you gasp as your bodies slam together on each
stroke. After penetration, pull yourselves apart so that just the tip of the penis remains inside. Pause
for a tantalizing moment and then push forward quickly so your bodies collide and the penis enters
deeply once more. Now repeat this technique, but make sure you are extremely well lubricated.
Love’s bond She lies still while he penetrates her deeply and then grinds with his pelvis without
removing even the smallest portion of his penis from her vagina. The Perfumed Garden is passionate
about the benefits of this simple movement: women love it because it gives both deep vaginal and
clitoral stimulation. Sheikh Nefzawi says it ―procures them the greatest pleasure‖. A man benefits
from being deeply and snugly enclosed, and the unusual plane of movement means that he can last
longer.
Stimulating his G-spot with your fingers can give him an immediate sexual high, leading to a more
thrilling orgasm – and a new sensation to the one he usually experiences directly through his penis.
The Chinese way of accessing the G-spot is via a special place on the perineum called Hui Yin, which
means ―the gate of life and death‖.
His pleasure point The male G-spot, also known as the ―P-spot‖, is actually the prostate gland – a
small gland that lies inside the body just underneath a man‘s bladder, which is sensitive to sexual
stimulation. Although you cannot touch the prostate directly, there are two indirect ways of
stimulating it: through the perineum or via the anus. Exploring his G-spot is easier if you use
massage oil or another type of sex lubricant.
Pressing Hui Yin This is the most accessible route to giving him G-spot ecstasy. She should slide
her fingers up and down his perineum – the area between his testicles and his anus – caressing him
while she locates the pleasure point. Once she has found a spot that feels like a slight indentation
halfway between his scrotum and anus, she should gently apply pressure to it with the pad of her

7. fingertip (or the second knuckle of her middle finger if she has long nails). This is his Hui Yin spot –
also known by the Chinese as the ―million dollar spot‖. Try applying deep static or pulsating pressure
and ask him which he enjoys most. Don‘t be afraid of pressing quite deeply – the area you are
stimulating lies inside his body rather than just under his skin. Now take the erotic tension to
breaking point by adding some passionate oral sex.
Lasting longer Men can use the Hui Yin point to delay ejaculation. They simply press it when they
feel themselves getting too excited during sex. Rather than sustaining the pressure, they just press it
briefly until they feel back in control. This technique is sometimes called the Chinese squeeze.
Give him peak pleasure Once you have familiarized yourself with your lover‘s G-spot, make him
convulse with pleasure by stimulating all his hotspots at once: his penis, his testicles, his Hui Yin
spot, and his anus. T his might sound like a lot of areas to attend to all at once, but you can enlist his
help: nestle your face between his legs and invite him to masturbate as you press your finger firmly
against his Hui Yin point. As he begins to get more aroused, gently flick the tip of your tongue against
his testicles and perineum. Now give him maximum pleasure, by using the lubricated tip of your
index finger (on your other hand) to stroke, caress, repeatedly tap, or press his anus.
Japanese geishas and courtesans are renowned for their graceful methods of seduction. Rather than
jumping straight into bed, they take a sensual and leisurely approach to lovemaking – the aim is to
build arousal bit by bit until both lovers are trembling with desire to have each other.
Decadent bath Start the evening by sharing a traditional Japanese bath. Once you have filled the
tub, pour in two glasses of sake (this alcoholic drink is said to draw out toxins and make your skin
smooth and beautiful). Immerse yourselves and inhale the distinctive fragrance that lifts off with the
steam. Stroke and fondle each other, but don‘t get too carried away … not just yet.

8. Soap massage Stand up in the bath and drizzle each other‘s bodies with liquid soap. Embrace in a
standing position and slide your hands all over each other‘s curves and crevices, working up a frothy
lather (let your hands linger on each other‘s hotspots). If you enjoy this soapy massage, you can
emulate the Japanese ancient tradition and continue the slippery foreplay in the bedroom: lie down
on a waterproof sheet or mattress and slide, glide, and writhe against each other in foreplay that is
gloriously soapy.
Make an entrance Women: after your bath, request that your lover waits for you in bed. Make a
true geisha-style entrance – glide into the room looking stunning in a kimono and red lipstick (and
nothing else). Carry a plate of bite-sized treats: cherries, grapes, small pieces of rich, dark chocolate,
or sushi. Kneel beside your lover (with your kimono artfully arranged to reveal a thigh, shoulder, or
breast) and feed each other. Gaze into each other‘s eyes as you eat. Now slide into bed together and
slowly get more intimate. Caress and stroke each other‘s bodies and slowly work down to the
genitals. And when you do, try this geisha technique: dip a paintbrush in lubricant and using slow,
delicate brushstrokes, paint the length of his penis. It is guaranteed to send a ripple of pleasure
through him.
Naughty foot massage Women can try a classic technique used by Japanese courtesans during the
Edo period. Make sure your feet are looking gorgeous (try an at-home pedicure and paint your
toenails with crimson nail varnish), then sit between his legs and trap his erect penis between the
soles of your feet. Drizzle lots of oil over his glans so it runs down his shaft. Now drive him wild by
rubbing your feet up and down on his penis. Vary the strokes, pressure, and speed (and try
supporting his shaft on the top of one foot while you move the other in firm circles). Use your big toe
to tease the tip of his penis, slide it down to his frenulum, and then back up again. Revel in the eye
contact as you do so.
5 places you have to have sex
Do you want to know the best places to have sex? Look no further – here is your fun
and frisky guide to the best locations for having sex outside of the bedroom.
The best sex locations
When you ask most sex experts to rank the five places you really ought to have sex they all inevitably
say somewhere you can get caught; yawn. We‘ve heard it all before.
To get really turned on you have to have sex somewhere where you can get caught by a lot of people,
which is why a wedding is the perfect place to up the ante. Not only are there at least 100 or so
people, you‘ll know a lot of them, which pretty much maxes out the risk factor and will give you a
huge shot of adrenalin.
If you‘re still not convinced about the erotic benefits of having sex at a wedding, remember everyone

9. will be looking their best and there will be lots of pretty girls and gorgeous guys to choose from. Plus
a wedding is full of secret little hideaways and plush furnishings so you and your date can get it on in
style and, fingers crossed, without actually getting caught.
Sex beneath the stars
It sounds cheesy, but having sex beneath the stars makes for out-of-this-world sex. Sometimes it can
be easy to get caught up in the kinky side to sex and it can be good to occasionally cut the act and
make it all about you and your girl or guy.
The best place to have sex when going for a starlit backdrop is outside; preferably in your garden or
on a private balcony. Remember to pack a blanket and some cushions though or you could end up
with a bruised behind. If you don‘t go in for the whole Mother Nature scene then stay indoors.
You could always have sex beneath a skylight or even (cringe) on the backseat of a car. Although
these aren‘t the most romantic of options hopefully the cosmos will strike some of the starry-eyed
wonder back into you both. To take the romance up a level, look into one another‘s eyes for a minute
or so; it will help you both appreciate who you are having sex with and why.
Sex on a washing machine
Who says washing machines are just for getting things clean? Make full use of your utensil by using it
to get filthy with your partner.
A washing machine is one of the greatest and most innocent looking sex toys around, which can be a
whole lot of fun for both the ladies and the gents. Firstly, switch your machine on. The spin cycle
works best.
The girl can either perch on the machine, using it as a chair, whilst the guy does his thing, or the girl
can bend over the appliance, with her stomach laying flat on the machine top, whilst she is taken
from behind.
The latter is probably the best option if you want to please both parties, as the vibrations will rock
through you both, bringing blood to those all important areas and making them much more
sensitive.
Sex on a desk
Be honest – you must have thought about having steamy sex on your desk. Doing it at a work station
fulfils most people‘s sexy secretary fantasy and there are reasons why it made it onto the five places
you have to have sex list.
Firstly, when at work most of us adopt a new persona. We become harder and sharper. Therefore
when you hitch up your skirt or shimmy out of your work suit and get it on over your desk, these new
dominant personality traits should emerge; making the sex that little bit wilder. Not only is sex on a
desk great for bringing forth your more dominant self, it‘s also great ergonomically.

10. You can try out several decent positions safely on a desk and achieve some great, pleasure-inducing
angles comfortably.
Sex on a Swiss ball
Sex swings are great for the fanatic, but for the average guy or girl they‘re intimidating, expensive
and difficult to disguise from your neighbours. However, an innocent looking Swiss ball can easily be
passed off as a piece of fitness equipment and it‘s just as good for your sex life as installing a sex
swing.
You can use the Swiss ball for lots of different positions. The guy can sit down on the ball as if it‘s a
chair, whilst the girl rides him in a reverse cowgirl position. Or you can position the ball against a
wall, whilst the girl lays with her back on the ball and the guy goes on top.
Feel free to get creative with the Swiss ball as there are lots of different things you can try out at
home. A handy tip when using a Swiss ball for sex is to deflate it slightly, so that the ball is not
completely full of air. Having a softer ball will make it easier to manipulate and manoeuvre and you‘ll
be less likely to have a not-so-sexy Swiss ball accident.
Top 10 health benefits of sex
So if you were asked to come up with advantages of having sex, what would you say? It helps to keep
the human race going and it‘s fun, right? Turns out there are many more advantages to having sex,
health benefits at that! Remember though, the best sex is always consensual and should be safe.
Top 10 health benefits of sex
1. Sex burns calories
30 minutes of sex burns 85 calories or more. There‘s a reason for you to make your lovemaking last
longer and do it more regularly. You‘ll not only feel great, you would‘ve burnt off some unwanted
calories as well!
Sex is better when it’s safe. Read the top 10 safe sex tips.
2. Helps to reduce stress
Sexual intercourse helps to reduce blood pressure and this further leads to a reduction in stress
levels.
Simple ways to reduce stress.
3. Increases hormones
Regular sex leads to an increase in testosterone in men, which helps fortify bones and muscle. In
women, regular sex leads to a rise in the hormone oestrogen, which is one of the most important
safeguards against heart disease.

11. 4. Boosts immunity
Studies have found that people who have sex once or twice a week have 30 per cent higher levels of
the antibody immunoglobulin A, which boosts the immune system and helps fight infections like
colds and the flu.
Check out these tips to boost immunity
5. Helps you live longer
A study conducted at Queens University in Belfast, Ireland tracked one thousand middle-aged men
over 10 years. The findings revealed that those who had had orgasms frequently lived longer than
those who were not quite so active.
6. Sex improves heart health
Contrary to misconceptions held by those with heart disease, sex is actually safe for most heart
patients. Experts say that if you can walk up two flights of stairs without going out of breath, you can
safely have sex.
That‘s not all! Those who regularly have sex have lower blood pressure and cholesterol and an
increased circulation.
Video: Watch as Dr Devi Shetty talks about prevention of heart disease
7. Strengthens Pelvic Floor Muscles
When women have sex, they‘re unconsciously doing Kegel exercises which are good for many things
including improved bladder control.
What are Kegel exercises? Find out.
8. Boosts self-esteem
A good sexual experience has many mental benefits as well, including making you feel good about
yourself. Some studies have shown that it even makes a woman feel younger. Now who doesn‘t want
that!
9. Improves intimacy
Besides the obvious closeness and intimacy that comes with sex, having an orgasm increases levels of
a hormone called oxytocin. This is also called the love hormone as it helps humans bond and build
trust.
Trouble in your marriage?
10. Sex for better sleep
The increase in oxytocin as a result of sex helps you sleep better. Maybe that‘s why couples like to
cuddle and sleep after an invigorating roll in the hay!

12. An introduction to safe sex
Use a condom!
What is safe sex?
If you‘re considering having sex, making sure you and your partner are safe should be the top-most
priority. The practice of safe sex involves protecting yourself and your partner from sexually
transmitted diseases (STDs) or infections (STIs) and also pregnancy, if undesired. Some common
STDs include syphilis, gonorrhoea, chlamydia, genital herpes, genital warts, hepatitis B, hepatitis C
and HIV (that causes AIDS).
Safe sex thus means being responsible. This also involves getting tested for STDs or STIs each time
you have sex with a new partner. If you discover you have an STD or STI, it‘s important to avail
treatment and also let your partner know about it, so that he or she can get tested and treated, and
also decide if he/she wants to have sex with you at all.
How can you protect yourself?
Take precautions against any part of your body, especially mouth, vagina or anus coming in contact
with your partner‘s body fluids. Using a latex or polyurethane condom when you have vaginal, anal
or oral sex to protect yourself from STDs is, therefore, a must.
Condoms can go a long way in preventing STDs, as they provide protection from bacteria and viruses
present in the semen, vaginal fluids and blood from coming in contact with the other‘s body.
Make sure you use a condom correctly. Don‘t use the same condom twice, and use just one condom
every time. An extra condom doesn‘t translate into extra protection, it can in fact be detrimental.
STDs can spread from people who are unaware that they have one, so make sure you use protection
every time you have sex.
And if you‘re in a relationship, delay having sex until you are physically and emotionally ready for it.
Also, it‘s best for both to get tested for STDs before having sex.
What about birth control pills?
Birth control pills and injections only offer protection against pregnancy and not STDs. While this is
an important aspect of safe sex when you‘re not planning a baby, it alone won‘t suffice. STDs can be
dangerous, and it‘s very important to protect yourself and your partner from it, so condom
is irreplaceable in that sense.
When you know you‘re safe, yours and your partners mind will be it at ease and you can enjoy sex
better. So use protection and put your mind at ease.
Also read: Contraceptives: myth busters

13. Negotiating safe sex: Some must ask questions before having sex with someone for the
first time.
 How many people have you had sex with?
 Have you had more than one sex partner at a time?
 Have you had sex without a condom?
 Have you had oral sex without protection?
 Do you inject illegal drugs, or have you had someone who does?
 Have you ever has unprotected sex with a prostitute?
 Have you gotten tested for STDs? If so, what were the results? If you ever had an STD, has it been
treated and cured?
 Have you gotten tested for HIV?
If you‘re having difficulty in asking these questions, then having sex, at this point, may not be the
best thing for you. And, if you find that your partner is reluctant in answering these questions and is
belittling its importance you may want to reconsider your decision to have sex with him/her. Make
note, a partner who is disrespecting of you for taking responsibility for your own health and well-
being may not be the right person for you to be with.
Top 10 sexual fantasies
The ex
Maybe we love thinking of our ex because it‘s so wrong, or so out of reach; either way, it‘s a turn on
and we all love it. Getting this fantasy right is all about anchoring it in reality. You need to visualize
places where you and your ex used to hang out, or things you used to do to one another. This way,
your fantasy will feel like it could be a reality, which is hot, hot, hot.
Lights, camera, action
Most people who don‘t like being centre stage in their day-to-day life love lots of attention in their
dream world and this is why being filmed during sex is such a popular fantasy. To make this fantasy
good think about how you would like to be filmed, what you‘d be doing and who you‘d be doing it
with. Is anyone watching, or is this going to be a private tape for those lonely nights in?
The cop
Who doesn‘t love a uniform? Combine that smart costume with a dominatrix-like attitude and bingo,
you have one saucy daydream. Handcuffs, batons and even a police chase can feature within your
dream. To keep the cop idea fresh, you should sometimes switch roles and think about being the cop,
or being the captured criminal.

14. The club
It‘s dark, there are lots of young hotties dancing around and then a stunning person walks up to you
and... Well, you know the rest. Getting it on in a club had to make it onto the top sexual fantasy list
because pretty much everyone has wanted to do it or, at the very least, everyone‘s thought about
what it would be like.
The stranger
Many people would love to try no-strings-attached sex with a complete stranger, but most are too
scared or would feel way to guilty to give it a go. For that reason, this is perfect fantasy material.
Choosing a gorgeous stranger who you‘ve spotted during the day is a great way to kick off this
raunchy dream.
The food fight
Food and sex have always gone hand in hand, so it‘s no wonder that a food fight is one of the top
seven fantasies. If you love your food, then you can think about different types, like sweet and
savoury. Plus picture different settings: picking fruit in Spain, in a sauna-like kitchen or even in a
cafeteria. As always, variety is the key for this food fight fancy.
The swimming pool
The swimming pool fantasy often features in big, Hollywood films and why wouldn‘t it? The thought
of diving into a big, blue pool and finding your all time, number one guy or girl wearing very little
and looking very good is always going to be a huge turn on. This little fantasy will always hold some
allure for people, which is why it‘s on our top 10 sexual fantasies list.
The teacher
When you were at school, you hated it, but now you‘ve left, teachers keep popping into your dirtiest
thoughts. People may love the teacher fantasy so much because of Britney and her Baby One More
Time video, but we have a feeling that people love this because of the authoritative role the other
person can adopt.

15. The threesome
In reality, threesomes can be awkward incidents that are best forgotten, but in your dream world
they can be a whole lot of fun. This is such a staple sexual fantasy because it is so easily
interchangeable. You can have two guys, two girls or one of both sexes. There‘s also endless kinky
tricks you can try out in an orgy that would never work with a two-person team.
The peep show
Not many people would actually like to fantasise about a peep show, but peeping at others who are
having sex actually excites lots of people. You could think about watching people on screen, or people
getting it on outside, like at the beach or in a park. It‘s exciting because there‘s a chance you might
get caught.
Girls, boost your sex drive
Your guide to getting more
When you hear the phrase ―night-time exertion‖, do you think of a vigorous facial and a
good, hard floss? If so, then listen up ladies. It‘s time you gave your libido a little bit of TLC.
With just a few tricks and changes to your diet you can unleash your inner desire and have
some wild night‘s under-the-covers:
Befriend the babies
Crying children and smelly nappies may not sound like the best way to get in the mood for love, but researchers have
found that visiting your friends who have recently become mums is one of the strongest natural aphrodisiacs. Within
the study those women who smelt pads from breastfeeding women reported a dramatic increase in sexual desire and
sexual fantasies. Best book a visit to the maternity award ladies!
Indulge in chocolate
We all know that sucking on a piece of melting chocolate is fabulous. What we might not know is that chocolate
contains phenethylamine, a nutrient that we produce when we fall in love. Fantastically, this nutrient also increases
your libido and makes eating chocolate a guilt-free pleasure. The higher the cocoa content the better; so choose a
bar that is made from at least 60-70 per cent cocoa solid chocolate. Get munching girls.
De-stress
Your boss has been nagging you, the plumbing is broken and your in-laws are coming for the weekend; do you want
sex? The answer is always going to be no. When your rational brain is in overdrive the stress hormone, cortisol, is
released. Cortisol suppresses your oestrogen secretion and this lowers your libido. Counteract stress with massages,
a hot bath or a visit to a steam room. Also try to make sex one of your priorities and you‘ll soon see the benefits.

16. Pump it
To get some more action you need to get pumping. Performing pelvic floor exercises will make you more aware of
the muscles involved in sexual pleasure. To strengthen these muscles, sit comfortably and squeeze as if you are
trying to stop the flow of urine. Repeat this 10-15 times in a row, without holding your breath, or your stomach, butt
and thigh muscles. Once you have built some strength into these muscles you will notice that you are more sensitive
during sex.
Have a cuddle
Sometimes you just can‘t beat a good hug. Although a hug can seem harmless enough, it has the potential to lead to
something a little more intimate; sex. Researcher, Dr Michel Odent, explains that we all need oxytocin to get sexually
aroused. We receive increased levels of oxytocin when we have skin-to-skin contact with our partners. Next time you
and your man are watching a film, remember to snuggle up to him, who knows where it could lead.
Put down that wine glass
A few cheeky glasses of wine on a date may seem like the perfect way to get into the boy‘s pants, but think again.
Alcohol diminishes sexual arousal and although studies have shown that women are more likely to have sex after
drinking, according to their findings, those women who do have sex when drunk enjoy it less. To reduce the amount
you drink why not try having a glass of water between each drink, or rather than go to a pub, meet at a café.
Get sniffing
It may sound disgusting, it may be your worst nightmare, but bear with us when we say that sniffing your man‘s
sweaty gym kit may turn you on. According to scientists at the University of California, Berkeley, smelling male sweat
can increase sexual arousal. If you can‘t face taking a whiff of his smelly underarms, why not work out with him?
You‘ll still pick up his scent and you‘ll be getting fitter.
7 sex experiences you must try

17. 7 ways you need to do it
Here are seven sex experiences you must try. From make-up sex to using household
appliances, here are seven ways you need to do it. Take out that red pen of yours and add
these hot and saucy moments to your 50 things to try before I die list:
Make-up sex
For some reason make-up sex is amazing. You‘re angry, you‘re fired up and you‘re passionate – then it‘s all forgotten
and you‘re jumping under the covers. Make-up sex is great because when you fight your testosterone levels rise,
which makes the sex much more aggressive and intense. To make the most of this post-argument loving pull at each
other‘s hair and breathe heavily. Ladies, if you‘ve got nails run them down your guy‘s backs. Guys, you can gently
bite your girl‘s necks. Make sure you do these things softly first and build the aggression up though.
The stare game
Eye-locked lovers may make you want to barf, but bear with us guys – staring into each other‘s eyes during sex can
make your orgasms more powerful. Try to hold each other‘s gaze for at least a minute, especially during the height of
sex. This will make your orgasms more intense and you‘ll feel intensely close to the other person. If you prefer rear
entry positions then you can always put a mirror in the room and stare into one other‘s eyes using the reflection.
Ideally though, try to stick with face-to-face contact at least some of the time.

18. Food sex
If you‘re a neat freak you may find food sex hard work. Your sheets will get messy, you‘ll have food in your hair and
you may be finding evidence of your night of passion for a few weeks after. The point is though that you loosen up
and have fun. Food is very sensuous and it is often described using sexual words. Get creative with your choices –
use foods with different textures, different shapes and different smells. Cream works particularly well, but you may
end up throwing out your bed linen because the smell is hard to disguise.
Closet sex
Having sex in a tight space is novel, kinky and can be very, very hot. If you can handle the slightly claustrophobic
environment and focus on the new angles you are forced to twist and curl into, then you‘ll soon be turned on in a
totally new way. The lack of space in a closet will mean that you have to try out new positions and the darkness and
novelty of the situation will get you both really excited. Just remove anything of any value beforehand as it‘s not an
easy space to maneuver around in and accidents may happen.
Morning sex
Want to get your day started in the best possible way? Then have sex before breakfast. Although mornings may not
be your favourite time to get foxy, those love-struck couples who have sex first thing feel more upbeat and benefit
from a stronger immune system. Also your sex will be better. Most guys feel more turned on in the mornings
because their testosterone levels are at their highest at night. You will also be well rested and will therefore have sex
for longer and try out some more energetic positions.
Machine sex
We all know that a vibrator is a girl‘s best friend, but vibrations are good for guys too. To turn the heat up in your love
life pay a visit to your washing machine or tumble dryer. To begin, turn the machine on. Then the girl should bend
over at a right angle over the machine, with her stomach and upper body lying flat over the top of the appliance. The
guy then takes her from behind and kneels into the machine. The vibrations will rock through you both, bringing blood
to those all important areas and making them much more sensitive.
Alfresco sex
There is a reason that whilst you read this 84,000 people are having sex outside; it‘s incredible. You feel bad and so
your adrenaline levels rise, which makes the sex frantic, frisky and fun. Remember though that although going
alfresco can be spontaneous, it often isn‘t as easy as it seems in the movies. Prepare a little and pack some useful
props: a blanket, some tissues and a brush. Be careful too, you can get in trouble if you get caught so maybe opt for
a safer option and get it on in your garden or balcony.
5 shocking sex facts
5 sex facts that surprise
Sex facts are always brilliant. The problem is we all talk about sex so much that there‘s very
little that shocks or surprises us anymore. Did you know that there‘s seven calories in one
tablespoon of sperm (yawn)? Yet, sometimes you can find a crazy sex gem that boggles
your mind. Here are five shocking sex facts that will surprise you:

19. Sex can help you give a great speech
Before you get carried away, we are not suggesting you hop into bed with your boss or sleep with the entire
audience. However, having sex can help ease those all too familiar and very dreaded pre-speech nerves. This theory
was developed by the psychologist Stuart Brody, who asked 22 women and 22 men to keep sex diaries about their
bedroom antics. The group of men and women then had to undertake stressful tasks, like public speaking and mental
arithmetic tests. Brody found that the couples who had had penetrative sex were less stressed and their blood
pressure levels returned to normal at more speed that the others. Sadly though, those who ―did it‖ alone did not reap
the calming benefits, so buddy up before your next big speech.
The Victorians were filthy
It turns out that the Victorians weren‘t the tight-lipped prudes we once imagined. In fact it would seem that the Brits of
the nineteenth century were a rather fruity bunch. Not only was this the age that heralded the vibrator as a cure for
hysteria, but it also saw a rise in kinky behaviour and tools, such as nipple piercings, pubic wigs and some rather
gruesome looking sex chairs. The sauciness doesn‘t end there though. Although it is still disputed, it‘s thought that
the term blow job also derives from this ―prudish‖ period where people would speak about a ‗below job‘ and referred
to prostitutes as ‗blowsys‘.
We kiss to inoculate
Researchers at the University of Leeds believe that humans kiss to inoculate. Women who catch cytomegalovirus
typically cannot carry a baby to term. However, if women are exposed to the virus in small doses then they become
inoculated. And how can you inoculate against the virus? Why, through swapping saliva of course. Therefore, the
brain boxes at the University of Leeds have concluded that we don‘t jump into bed with each other straightaway
because if we did we might infect women. Therefore we kiss to protect women from catching cytomegalovirus. So
pucker up and stay healthy by smooching.
Giving oral is as good as the gym
Sadly girls, giving oral will only benefit you if you‘re the giver not the taker. A study has found that pleasuring a guy
and swallowing can lower women‘s blood pressure and reduce their risk of getting pre-eclampsia. However, if you

20. don‘t have the stomach to tackle your man‘s area in this way there are other ways you can lower your blood pressure.
Another study found that having regular sex with a partner you lived with could lower your diastolic blood pressure,
whilst another study found a link between cuddling and reduced blood pressure. So, although you shouldn‘t give up
on the gym altogether, ladies, it might be worth swapping your sports kit for something a little slinkier once in a while.
Sperm is a great face cream
Although it‘s not a great idea to bottle your man stuff and give it to your girl as a present, it turns out that sperm
contains protein, which if applied to the face has the same anti-wrinkle benefits as moisturising creams. Apparently
the white stuff can tighten skin and give you a little surgery-free facelift. Interestingly, this isn‘t the only benefit sperm
has to offer. It also contains zinc, magnesium, calcium, potassium and fructose. Plus, if you‘re still not convinced that
sperm is super, a recent study in Albany found that women who had sex without condoms had fewer signs of
depression than women who used condoms or did not have sex at all. Three cheers for semen.
Top 10 worst sex injuries
10 wince-worthy intercourse accidents
Sex is a highly physical act, and like any physical activity it comes with its risks of injury.
Here are 10 true stories of wince-worthy mishaps that will have you showing some extra
caution the next time you get down to business.
Cat attack
Cats are naturally inquisitive creatures, so how do you think they are going to react if they see you bouncing away on
your bed with no clothes on? Unlucky pet owners have suffered deep cuts and scratches on their backs, butts or
even worse places as a result of a mid-sex cat attack. Some believe this is a sign of cats trying to protect their
owners, whereas others think cats are just a sex-stopping nuisance – either way, be sure to check that your next love
making session is feline free.
Eye popping orgasms
Do you go into sex wanting a blinding moment of pleasure? Be careful what you wish for. During particularly intense
orgasms, the extreme increase in blood flow can actually lead to ruptured blood vessels in the eyes, causing
temporarily reduced vision. Doctors have reported cases of men and women complaining of reddened eyes and
damaged eyesight, with seemingly no clear causes until they ‗fess up about the particularly exuberant sex they‘d had
recently.

21. Incorrect lubrication
If anything will make you more careful over what you use as lubricant then it‘s this story. A young man and his
girlfriend were staying at his grandmother‘s, and when she left the house they decided to have some fun. After
searching for lubricant, they found her nitroglycerin paste and decided it would do the job. How wrong they were. The
paste caused their blood pressures to plummet, and the grandmother returned to find them unconscious and naked in
her basement. Probably not the most treasured memory she has of her precious little grandson.
Perks of the job
One unlucky woman in Australia was having sex in a hotel room when her bed-rocking antics caused the glass light
fitting to fall from the ceiling onto her head, injuring her face and mouth. Rather than complaining to the hotel
management, the woman instead sued her employers. Why? She was on a business trip, and she claimed they had
caused her both physical and psychological damage because the intercourse-related incident took place during work
required travel. Her employers rejected the claim, pointing out that the injury was due to what they tactfully described
as ―a frolic of her own‖.
Contraception consumption
We all know it‘s wise to take precautions, but sometimes safe sex isn‘t as safe as you might think. While performing
oral sex, women have been known to accidentally swallow the condoms that their partners were wearing. Because of
the material condoms are made of they are certainly not designed for human digestion, and can lead to severe
coughing and breathing difficulties. They might come in tasty flavours, but swallowing them is definitely not advised.
10 wince-worthy intercourse accidents
Beware of glasses
When the alcohol is flowing one thing can often lead to another, so it won‘t be surprising to hear that beer and wine
glasses are one of the items broken most often during sex, second only to bed frames. If you want to avoid painful

22. cuts and sharp objects stuck in places you don‘t want them to be, then be sure to clear away any broken glass before
you accidentally roll through it in the throes of passion – it happens more often than you would think.
Heart stopping intercourse
Although it might not seem like it because of the amount of fun you‘re having, remember that sex is still a form of
exercise, with particularly steamy sessions burning over 300 calories in an hour. Research by the Journal of the
American Medical Association has found that the increased physical exertion during sexual activity can actually triple
your risk of a heart attack in the hours shortly after it.
Sex and sports don‟t mix
Sports stars earn millions, are well known celebrities, and are generally in great shape, so it‘s easy to see why they
find themselves having plenty of sex. However, this high level of sexual activity can actually be detrimental to their
careers because of the strain it piles on their joints and muscles on top of their already demanding training schedules.
Footballer Kevin-Prince Boateng found this out when he pulled a muscle in his thigh because of his supermodel
girlfriend, who apparently demanded sex from him seven to 10 times a week. Poor guy.
Paralysing hickey
Hickeys are the love trophies of teenagers the world over, but they could actually be more dangerous than meets the
eye. During sex, a New Zealand woman was given a hickey by her partner, and soon found her left arm partially
paralysed. Doctors found that her hoover-mouthed husband‘s hickey was so strong that it had caused a blood clot in
an artery in her neck, causing her to have a minor stroke.
Bumps, breaks and sprains
Not all sex injuries are over the top or extreme – a UK study found that one third of people admitted to suffering minor
injuries resulting from intercourse, including bruises, carpet burns, and sprained wrists and fingers. Five per cent of
those surveyed even said they‘ve had to miss work because of a sex-related injury, which must be a fun phone call to
make to the boss.
What your favourite sex position says about you
Sex and your personality
Sex is personal and it says something about who you are and what you are about. Have a
flick through these sex positions and find out what your favourite sex move says about you:
The Position: the sandwich
How to do it: girls, you lay flat, face down on the bed, whilst the man in your life lies on top, also facedown. The guy
may need to use his arms for support too – getting squashed is not sexy.
What this says about you: you love traditional relationships and are completely comfortable with intimacy. This is a
very loving position as the girl is exposing her spine, a vulnerable area of her body. The guy is being protective and
caring. You are loyal, fair and open.
The Position: doggy style
How to do it: the girl goes on all fours whilst the guy goes on his knees and positions himself behind her.
What this says about you: you are a logical thinker who does not romanticise life. Pleasure is your priority and in a
group you are the fun-loving person who can always be relied on for a good time. You are confident, outspoken and
dominant.

23. The Position: twisted
How to do it: Start off as if you are spooning, with the girl in front and the buy behind. The front spoon then slides
their leg forward and the back spoon tucks their leg in between the front spoons.
What this says about you: some say you‘re efficient, others may say you are lazy. This position allows for deep
penetration, which is always a bonus, but it requires very little effort. Maybe you have a hectic life or a partner who
likes sex when you‘re at your sleepiest.
The Position: bumper cars
How to do it: you both face in opposite directions, laying facedown. The man hooks his legs over the woman, so
your buttocks are touching and enters from behind.
What this says about you: you are highly creative and love to experiment with things others wouldn‘t try. You like to
stand out in a crowd and have a very strong sense of who you are. You live for yourself and have been described by
others as a thrill-seeker.
The Position: bookends
How to do it: You and your partner face one another on your knees – it‘s like a vertical missionary position.
What this says about you: You are highly diplomatic and consider everyone to be equal. This position sacrifices
good penetration for intimacy, which is a sacrifice you are happy to make. For you sex is about being close with your
bedroom buddy.
7 ways to boost your confidence in bed
How to improve your sexual confidence
Sex can be pretty daunting. If you‘re not scared about getting your kit off, then there‘s the
small matter of your moves to consider, or the positions you like. Although sex can be

24. scary, there are certain sex tips that will give your bedroom confidence a boost. Check
these out:
Laugh
Bedroom bloopers happen to everyone. Whether you hit your head, bite your tongue or make a weird noise, the best
thing to do is not to ignore it, but to laugh about it. Sex is not always sexy and you should expect something, at some
point, to go wrong. Treating it in this light-hearted way will show that you are confident and mature. Even if something
doesn‘t go wrong, throwing your partner the odd smile is reassuring and makes you both feel close.
Conquer a fear
If you want to be confident under the covers, you need to feel confident in yourself. Overcoming a fear is one of the
easiest ways to boost your self-esteem. Choose something achievable and then work out a feasible way to reach
your goal. Make sure you get people involved in your plan as this will make you stick to it. Ideally, the person you‘re
sleeping with is the best person you can choose to get involved in your challenge.

25. Stop having sex
If you stop making sex the main goal you might start to think about your naked body differently. Try to do more things
naked, so that you and, if you have a guy or girl in your life, they will get used to seeing your naked body. Normalising
nakedness will make you feel comfortable when you strip off. You could shower together, have a naked massage or
even eat your dinners naked. Just remember to shut those curtains!
Props
Props make sex fun and if you choose the right ones they can make you feel great in the bedroom. A naughty
costume, some devious make-up or a blindfold can add a spice of sauciness to your love life and it will also give you
a new persona. If you go in as Fireman Sam or Police Officer Polly, think of them as a confident, sex god/goddess.
Use the act once or twice then switch back to being yourself - remember that you were that person all along.
Sharing is caring
Men and women feel insecure and at some point it‘s likely that both you and your partner have felt uneasy when the
lights go out. Bring up what has been troubling you when you are both alone, in a private place. Let each other speak.
If your partner doesn‘t seem to know what to say, don‘t take this as a sign they don‘t care, ask them what they think
or feel about the situation. Try to come up with a solution or a plan together – something you both feel comfortable
with.
Do the maths
We‘re all insecure about some part of our body and most of the biggest hang-ups are to do with guy‘s penises and
women‘s chests. Remember, though, the average size of a flaccid penis is between 2.5 inches and 5.5 inches, whilst
the average bra size for women is between a C and a D cup. If you‘re still not happy, for guys trim your hair
downstairs; it will make you seem bigger. Girls, do chest exercises to improve the firmness, lift and shape of your
breasts.
Switch focus
If you start to get nervous, or if you can‘t stop thinking about how big your tummy must look from this angle, switch
the focus. If you‘re just kissing, don‘t think about what will come next. Just concentrate on the thing you‘re doing and
try to enjoy it. If you‘re having sex and the insecurities or nerves arise, don‘t panic. Look your partner in the eye and
concentrate on how good everything feels. Also think: if you‘ve got to this stage then they must fancy you.
Girls, 5 ways to make him want you
How to get his attention
How can you make him want you? Does strutting around in red shoes and some killer
lipstick really get his attention? This is your guide to getting noticed by the guy you want –
follow these tips and he won‘t be able to resist your charms:
Get a life
No one likes someone who is too available. The key to making that cute guy want you is to get your own life outside
of work or your other responsibilities. You should take up an extra class, start a project or volunteer; anything that
makes your life fuller. This way, you‘ll stop spending so much time thinking about that man-shaped hole in your life.

26. Plus you‘ll have lots of interesting things to talk about and you‘ll be happier – and happiness is the best beauty
product.
Don‟t play games
Although you don‘t want to show that you are blatantly, head-over-heels, madly and truly in love with the guy you like,
don‘t play too many games. He needs to know that you like him so give him some handy signs. Touch him
unexpectedly – not in a creepy, stationary cupboard grope, but when you talk to him, touch his arm lightly. Eye
contact is also hugely important when it comes to sending him the right message. Make sure you meet his eyes when
talking to him and catch his gaze on the odd occasion, smiling seductively as you do so.
Who are you?
The harsh truth is this: if you don‘t love yourself, why should anyone else? Although lots of people will love you even
if you don‘t, your relationships will be much healthier and far more stable if you do. Try to work out what is stopping
you from being confident, and then try to overcome these issues. If you have low body confidence taking up a sport is
a good idea because it will make you think about your body differently. If you feel too shy, then push your boundaries
by doing something new or something independently. Giving yourself some TLC is one of the best ways to get a guy
and it will improve ever other area of your life too.
Makeover your face
If you want to be noticed by the man you‘ve been daydreaming about then take a look in the mirror. According to
research, the structure of your face will indicate to guys how fertile and therefore how attractive you are. They cite
that big eyes are a big bonus. If you‘re looking in the mirror now and think your eyes are microscopic, don‘t panic.
What mother-nature has not given us, beauty products have. You can make your eyes stand out by wearing a
moisturising eye cream, curling your eyelashes and wearing white eye shadow or an eye brightener product.

27. Is honesty the best policy?
According to Stephen Emlen, a researcher from Cornell University, honesty may not be the best policy if you‘ve
cheated on your past man. Emlen conducted a study that asked people to rate attributes in terms of how desirable
they found each trait. Apparently fidelity, along with good parenting and devotion, came out on top. So if you have
cheated in the past, maybe it would be best to conceal the fact for a little while. Or if you have never cheated, drop
into the conversation how much you value fidelity.
How to survive Valentine‘s Day when you‘re single
The single person‘s guide to Valentine‘s Day
Even for the happiest of singletons Valentine‘s Day can be a nightmare, with reminders of
love and romance hard to avoid. However, Valentine‘s Day needn‘t be just for couples. To
celebrate your singledom and make the most of the day, check out these tips for enjoying
Valentine‘s Day as a single guy or girl.
Remember it‟s not the end of the world
While many of us dream of being swept off our feet and lavished with attention (and gifts) from an adoring partner, in
reality it‘s important to retain some perspective and remember that it‘s not the end of the world if Valentine‘s Day is a
bit of a letdown on the romance front. OK, you may not have plans this Valentine‘s Day, but it is just another day on
the calendar after all, and there will be many more to come in which to score the perfect date.
Treat yourself
If you don‘t have anybody to spoil this Valentine‘s Day, why not take it as an opportunity to spoil yourself? Treat
yourself to a bit of pampering, cook yourself a nice meal or have a relaxing bath with candles and a glass of
champagne. With no one else‘s feelings to consider, you‘re free to spend the day doing whatever you want and to
make it a special day just for you.

28. Don‟t get in touch with your ex
With romance in the air and seemingly everyone coupled up, it is perfectly natural for your mind to drift to past loves
on Valentine‘s Day, particularly if you are only recently single. However, although the temptation may be strong to get
in touch with an ex, remember that setting yourself up for rejection and heartache is not going to improve your day.
Give a friend a call and spend your valuable time and conversation on someone who will appreciate it instead.
Take off the rose-tinted glasses
It‘s easy to feel jealous of those who are loved up on Valentine‘s Day. However, it‘s important to maintain some
perspective and remember that no relationship is perfect and that the romance you see on Valentine‘s Day is not
representative of a day-to-day relationship. Rather than being envious of the relationships around you, remind
yourself of all the things you don‘t miss about being in a relationship, and all the perks of being single you get to
experience now.
Stop torturing yourself
Sobbing into a bucket of popcorn as the credits roll on another romantic movie, wailing along to ‗All by myself‘ at the
top of your voice, or going over and over all the reasons your ex was definitely ‗the one‘ to your poor best friend…
Does any of this sound familiar? And if so, is this really how you want to spend your Valentine‘s Day? Make a
th
resolution not to torture yourself this February 14 by listening to love songs, watching romantic movies or sitting
about reflecting on your failed relationships. Instead, get out there and do something fun!
Spend time with others
Just because you are single on Valentine‘s Day that doesn‘t mean you have to spend it alone. Rather than moping at
home, make plans to spend time with your family or friends doing something you enjoy. You could get the girls round
to watch DVDs, visit a family member you rarely get to see, or head out for cocktails with friends. After all, Valentine‘s
Day is a day for spending time with those you love, whoever they may be.
Kick-start a new romance
If there‘s someone you‘ve got your eye on and you think they may be interested too, why not take Valentine‘s Day as
an opportunity to express your interest? Send an old-fashioned anonymous card or just a flirty email and set the
wheels in motion. Alternatively, sign up for online dating or look into other ways to find love, and let the thought of a
potential new romance brighten up your day.
Top 10 sexual fantasies
10 of the naughtiest fantasies
Here are the 10 top sexual fantasies. We all do it, in fact 95 per cent of us fantasise every
day. So, to keep your naughty thoughts fresh check out this handy guide to raunchy
fantasies:
The ex
Maybe we love thinking of our ex because it‘s so wrong, or so out of reach; either way, it‘s a turn on and we all love it.
Getting this fantasy right is all about anchoring it in reality. You need to visualize places where you and your ex used
to hang out, or things you used to do to one another. This way, your fantasy will feel like it could be a reality, which is
hot, hot, hot.

29. Lights, camera, action
Most people who don‘t like being centre stage in their day-to-day life love lots of attention in their dream world and
this is why being filmed during sex is such a popular fantasy. To make this fantasy good think about how you would
like to be filmed, what you‘d be doing and who you‘d be doing it with. Is anyone watching, or is this going to be a
private tape for those lonely nights in?
The cop
Who doesn‘t love a uniform? Combine that smart costume with a dominatrix-like attitude and bingo, you have one
saucy daydream. Handcuffs, batons and even a police chase can feature within your dream. To keep the cop idea
fresh, you should sometimes switch roles and think about being the cop, or being the captured criminal.
The club
It‘s dark, there are lots of young hotties dancing around and then a stunning person walks up to you and... Well, you
know the rest. Getting it on in a club had to make it onto the top sexual fantasy list because pretty much everyone
has wanted to do it or, at the very least, everyone‘s thought about what it would be like.
The stranger
Many people would love to try no-strings-attached sex with a complete stranger, but most are too scared or would
feel way to guilty to give it a go. For that reason, this is perfect fantasy material. Choosing a gorgeous stranger who
you‘ve spotted during the day is a great way to kick off this raunchy dream.
The food fight
Food and sex have always gone hand in hand, so it‘s no wonder that a food fight is one of the top seven fantasies. If
you love your food, then you can think about different types, like sweet and savoury. Plus picture different settings:
picking fruit in Spain, in a sauna-like kitchen or even in a cafeteria. As always, variety is the key for this food fight
fancy.

30. The swimming pool
The swimming pool fantasy often features in big, Hollywood films and why wouldn‘t it? The thought of diving into a
big, blue pool and finding your all time, number one guy or girl wearing very little and looking very good is always
going to be a huge turn on. This little fantasy will always hold some allure for people, which is why it‘s on our top 10
sexual fantasies list.
The teacher
When you were at school, you hated it, but now you‘ve left, teachers keep popping into your dirtiest thoughts. People
may love the teacher fantasy so much because of Britney and her Baby One More Time video, but we have a feeling
that people love this because of the authoritative role the other person can adopt.
The threesome
In reality, threesomes can be awkward incidents that are best forgotten, but in your dream world they can be a whole
lot of fun. This is such a staple sexual fantasy because it is so easily interchangeable. You can have two guys, two
girls or one of both sexes. There‘s also endless kinky tricks you can try out in an orgy that would never work with a
two-person team.
The peep show
Not many people would actually like to fantasise about a peep show, but peeping at others who are having sex
actually excites lots of people. You could think about watching people on screen, or people getting it on outside, like
at the beach or in a park. It‘s exciting because there‘s a chance you might get caught.
5 foods that will turn you on
Your guide to aphrodisiacs
Can food turn you on? If you believe the legend that Casanova ate 50 raw oysters for
breakfast, it would seem that aphrodisiacs do work. So here‘s a guide to five of the best
libido-lifting boudoir foods:
Celery
Celery may not be exciting, it may not be appetising, but it is great for getting you excited. If you‘re throwing a party or
treating your date to a homemade dinner, serve them celery sticks with a sour cream or humus dip. This is the perfect
pre-date snack because celery contains androsterone, an odourless hormone, which turns guys on. In turn, men
release pheromones, which makes women feel more attracted to the celery chomping man. If you don‘t fancy celery
and dips, you could pop some celery into a salad or make a celery soup.
Steak with a pine nut salad
If you are on a date, serve steak with a pine nut salad. Firstly most meat-eaters love steak, so even if your date is
fussy they will still tuck into what you serve. Secondly, high-protein foods like steak increase alertness and
assertiveness. This will mean that after the meal your date won‘t feel drowsy and will feel more confident about
getting what they want – you. Make sure you combine your steak with a pine nut salad though. Pine nuts, an ancient
aphrodisiac, are high in zinc, which enables guys to make more sperm.

31. Curry
Another great dinner to pick when on a date is curry. A UK study has shown that just thinking of your favourite spicy
dish is enough to increase both your heart and your blood pressure to a level similar to one reached during sexual
arousal. For the guys, make sure you order a curry that uses the herb Fenugreek. According to a study, male libido
increased by 28% when men ate Fenugreek. This is because the seeds are thought to increase the production of
hormones, such as testosterone.
Aniseed
Aniseed has been used as an aphrodisiac for years. The Romans and Greeks both believed it to be a powerful
concoction. It is thought that just sucking on the seeds can make you feel aroused. Adding aniseed to a sauce for
chicken or pasta is a great way to make use of the seeds. Aniseed is not to everyone‘s taste though. If you still want
to use aniseed as an aphrodisiac you can add the seeds to ice-cream or drink aniseed based cocktails. There are
aniseed teas, aniseed sweets and aniseed liquors.
Strawberries
Did you know that the Romans associated the seductive strawberry with Venus the goddess of love? Strawberries
are particular good for your sex life because they help out the adrenal gland, which produces hormones that stimulate
orgasm. Stock up on these red fruits and you‘ll feel more stimulated in bed. You could pack a picnic and take

32. strawberries, or if a picnic isn‘t for you, eat some vanilla ice-cream with fresh strawberries. The calcium content in a
typical bowl (200 milligrams) can also make orgasms more powerful and intense.
Dealing with Impotence
What is impotence?
In men, impotency is usually associated with erectile dysfunction (ED). It refers to the inability of a man to achieve or
maintain an erection sufficient for sexual intercourse. It includes the failure to achieve an erection when sexually
stimulated, as well as losing an erection prior to ejaculation.
A difficult condition for the man to deal with, the root of this condition can be physical, psychological, lifestyle-based
or a combination of all three. However, a person suffering from ED might take comfort from the fact that it confronts
men from all over the world and is seen in almost 50% of the male population in the age group of 40-60 years.
Erectile Dysfunction is a curable condition and does not always imply total loss of sexual activity or desire. It doesn‘t
negate normal desire and often a person suffering from it may obtain an erection but is simply unable to maintain it
for the expected period of time.
Causes of Erectile Dysfunction (ED)
Contrary to popular belief, in 80 – 90% of the cases the cause is physiological and not psychological. Often, it is a
physical condition that could have been brought upon by an unhealthy lifestyle that might involve smoking, excessive
drinking, poor eating habits, medication and so on. Impotence could be caused due to insufficient flow of blood
through the penile arteries (arteriogenic), blood leakage from veins in the penis (venogenic), improper
neurotransmission in the penis (neurogenic), hormonal imbalance or psychogenic (disorders resulting from
mental/emotional turmoil) reasons.
Diagnosing ED
A diagnosis of ED or impotency is carried out by studying the patient‘s medical history, all the while scanning for
potential causes. This is followed by a physical examination and tests for diabetes, hormonal regulation and
cardiovascular disease. There are also a variety of tests specifically to check whether the cause of the dysfunction is
physiological or psychological. For instance, a nocturnal penile tumescence checks to see if the patient is able to
have normal erections at night. If yes, then it‘s most likely that the cause is psychological.
Treatment of ED
Certain conditions (diabetes, hypertension, depression among others) and the drugs prescribed for their treatment
can cause ED. Treatment of impotence varies from natural remedies and drugs like Viagra, Cialis or Levitra to sexual
counselling and psychotherapy to external vacuum devices, penile injections, hormonal replacement therapy and
even implants and microsurgery as advised by the physician.
The most advised and natural way to avoid the condition is to live a healthier life. Exercising, weight control,
wholesome diet, general body fitness and a healthy and active sexual life can prevent impotency as well as treat it.
Kegel exercises, which are exercises focussed on the pelvic region, are known to help improve sexual health and
treat erectile dysfunction.
―Not tonight honey‖ – The facts on female impotence

33. What is female impotence?
Female impotence deals with difficulties women face with sex. It is also referred to as sexual dysfunction. As against
men, for whom impotence means an inability to get an erection or maintain it for the desired period of time, impotence
in women includes low sexual desire, low arousal, difficulty or inability to reach orgasm and problems with lubrication.
More than 40% of adult women encounter sexual dysfunction at some point in their life. These dysfunctions could be
in the form of:
 Lack of sexual desire (Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder or HSDD)
 Inability to progress through the normal phases of sexual arousal (Female Sexual Arousal Disorder or FSAD)
 Discomfort during intercourse and inability to achieve an orgasm (Female Orgasmic Disorder or FOD).
Causes of female impotence
There are usually two conditions leading to aversion to sex on the basis of physical pain or discomfort: dyspareunia
refers to extreme discomfort or pain in the genital area, particularly the vagina. This may be experienced before,
during or after sexual intercourse. The other is called vaginismus; an involuntary contraction of the muscles around
the vagina that makes penetration during sex difficult.
In general however, the causes for sexual dysfunction in women are widespread and proper treatment can only be
prescribed after a detailed medical diagnosis. A lot of women sometimes face major pelvic surgeries, which may later
lead to some form of sexual dysfunction. Sometimes the hormonal changes brought about by the menstrual cycles
and menopause can cause impotency. Conditions like diabetes and hypertension have also been known to influence
a woman‘s sexual health.
Often, female impotence is caused by some traumatic experience or psychological reason that has created an
aversion to sex. At times, social and religious pressures and personal relationships and marital problems create a
non-sexual frame of mind that turns into a mental road block leading to sexual dysfunction. Unhealthy blood
circulation and poor neurotransmission to a woman‘s vagina may be another cause of her sexual problems.
Excessive smoking and drinking and conditions like hypertension, high cholesterol, poor arterial health, and weight
problems interfere with the natural behavior of the body and are potential factors for sexual problems.
Treatment of female impotence
There are a variety of treatments depending on the problem. Various natural remedies, holistic approaches and
psychotherapy have been applied with a measure of success. Additionally, oral medication, hormonal therapy and
surgical procedures are also used to treat impotency. All in all, one of the simplest and most effective steps that can
be taken towards avoiding such condition and even recovering from sexual dysfunction is to live a healthy life.
Measures like maintaining a balanced diet, exercising, weight control andstress management help not just in curing
impotency, but also avoiding it.
Do you fancy him?
It‘s very possible you could be falling for someone right now and not even realise it. We‘ve all had
that ‗D‘oh‘ moment when we realise we‘ve been trailing around after someone for months, without
really considering that they could be a potential love interest.
Here are five signs that you‘re chasing him without knowing it – do any of them ring a bell?

34. 1. You hang out with him constantly, on his terms
It‘s totally normal for girls to hang out with guys without being secretly in love with them. After all,
lots of girls have their guy mates – gay or straight – who they love to spend time with, partly because
they bring something different to the conversation and the social dynamic. But, don‘t confuse that
with being surgically attached to a particular guy ‗mate‘, who you might have a crush on.
If you find yourself volunteering to stand at the sidelines of his Sunday five-a-side match and hand
out oranges, or catch yourself thinking ‗Sure, I wouldn‘t mind seeing the latest Vin Diesel flick with
him‘ then you might just have a secret crush. Don‘t get us wrong – there‘s nothing wrong with that
either! Just don‘t let it go on ages before you take action. Too long and it‘s likely he‘ll have noticed;
then the question becomes, why didn‘t he reciprocate?
2. You bad mouth any woman he looks at/goes out with
Is there one guy you know who never seems to go out with a woman who‘s good enough for him? Do
you find yourself telling your friends how he‘s such a great catch, and he seems to be hopeless at
finding a good woman? Or maybe you‘ve noticed him looking a woman in a bar and you can‘t resist
telling your friend what awful hair and make-up she has?
Yes? Then maybe, just maybe, you should ask yourself why you‘re so protective over this friend. Of
course we‘ve all thought at some point that our friends could do better in the romance department,
but not constantly. Consider whether you wish you were that woman he was looking at in the bar.
3. You get annoyed when he doesn’t reply...
...to your text message, missed call, Facebook message and/or email. Ask yourself, if it was a
different friend who‘d not replied to your text message, how would you feel? Would you get annoyed
or would you just think ‗Oh well, she‘s probably busy‘? If you care that much about this bloke
replying to your text, then you should wonder how deep your feelings run for him.
4. You blow off a date to see him
Rain-checking a hot date because a bloke friend asked you over to watch The Apprentice final is a
pretty big ‗you‘re chasing him and you don‘t even know it!‘ sign. In fact, they don‘t get much clearer
than preferring to spend time in with him rather than out with another bloke.
5. Talking about him all the time
There comes a point when you like someone so much that you manage to squeeze them into every
sentence you utter. ‗It‘s funny you say that because Dave had a pet hamster too...‘ or ‗Well, that‘s
nothing, Joe holds the world record for the biggest collection of bottle tops...‘ Similarly, this

35. phenomenon also happens to people in the first flush of a relationship (when everything about the
other person is fascinating) and after a break up (when they still want to believe the other person is
part of their life). If you‘re not sure whether this is you, count how many times you mention ‗him‘
during the course of an evening with friends. It‘s also worth seeing how many times your friends
either roll their eyes or exchange ‗looks‘. If either number goes above two, you might need to
confront your feelings.
Want to move in together? Read this before you
take the dive
Before you make the BIG move to live-in together. Here are a few things you must look into.
Are we ready?
So, you have been together for a while… and now, want to move in together. Go through our must-
have conversations‘ list, before you take that step.
Are you both on the same page?
Why do you want to move in together? This is the first question you need to ask yourselves. Make
sure you‘re both in it for similar reasons. If he‘s thinking it will help save rent money and for the
other it is a step before you say ―I do‖, then there is bound to be trouble going forward. So, both of
you put down your reasons for wanting to live together and see what comes out of it.
Get a reality check!
The initial few weeks are likely to be blissful. Waking up beside your sweetheart every morning, who
needs anything more? But in reality, there‘s more to it than just that. Like everything else in life, your
relationship too changes constantly. When you‘re living together, you‘re more likely to bear witness
to the ugly sides of each other — which you may or may not have been aware of.
There are practical problems such as Who should use the bathroom first? Who makes the tea in the
morning? So take all this into consideration before making that BIG MOVE. Both of you must have a
serious chat about the possible changes, and whether you‘re ready for them.
Work out the finances!
Money can be one big SPOILER, which makes it a very important part of the decision making
process. This can be a big dampener, especially if one makes or spends more than the other. Check to
see where you guys stand with respect to finances. Do you want to merge your finances or keep it
separate? Be open and share your fears and anxieties about money.

36. What might help is preparing a monthly budget and deciding who will put down how much each
month. See if you‘ll like to share expenses equitably or if you want to divide it as per individual
earnings and expenditures. This could also be done in the form of a cohabitation agreement similar
to a pre-nuptial agreement, where you decide how you‘ll share your expenses and who will pay for
what.
Make sure you work all of this out before you take the dive.
Designate chores
He is your boyfriend not just your roommate, so you don‘t need to talk about who will do the dishes
and laundry, right? WRONG! You might initially enjoy doing all the chores to please the other
partner, but it is bound to get to you in a while.
To avoid that — from the start –designate responsibilities. Make sure you‘re both aware of the
responsibilities and can meet them.
Can you cope with small irritants?
When you‘re sharing a living space, there will be many small irritants. Little things like a wet towel
on the bed, or her leaving the water running while brushing her teeth – can be irksome, leading to
conflict. Check with yourselves to see if you can cope with such conflicts. And also whether you‘re
willing to make changes to accommodate the other‘s point of view and needs.
Future prospects.
Well, you‘re moving in together now. So does this mean marriage is the next step? If so, in how much
time. If marriage isn‘t on the cards, are both partners O.K. with it. These are some important
questions you need consensus on before you move in together. Otherwise, it‘s likely to leave one or
both of you hurt and heartbroken in the end.
Plan an exit strategy.
Some might call this pessimistic, but it is wise to chalk out a plan in case one of you does not want to
continue with the arrangement. It‘s important to acknowledge this possibility. Make sure you have
your own savings account.
This is also where a cohabitation or living-together agreement can be of most help. A cohabitation
agreement not only helps organise day-to-day finances of living together, it is also helpful in case you
were to split. This agreement can help you do it as fairly as possible.

37. No sex please, we're married!
SAYING no to your spouse’s request for sex could land you in far more trouble than
imaginable. The willful denial of sex, including on the first night after marriage by
either spouse, amounts to cruelty and can be a ground for dissolution of the marriage,
declares a recent ruling by the Delhi High Court.
Justice Kailash Gambhir pronounced this verdict while upholding the lower court’s
decree of divorce to man in a “sex-starved marriage” because his wife had refused to
have intercourse with him on the wedding night and made him long for what he
wanted for five subsequent months. “Sex is the foundation of marriage and marriage
without sex is anathema,” ruled Justice Gambhir.
Anathema aside, the reality is that young couples these days simply aren’t willing to
stay in relationships that lack sexual chemistry. “ The number of couples seeking
divorce based on sexual strife has nearly doubled in the last two decades. Sexual
problems existed then too, but people lived with them,” says divorce lawyer Gurmeet
Narula of Narula Associates.
The doors of divorce lawyers aren’t the only ones that people with sexual complaints
knock. “ Sexual problems are as common as a common cold today and counsel
hundreds of couples whose married lives have hit rock bottom because of their poor
sex lives,” says Dr Prakash Kothari, the country’s best-known sexologist and founder-
adviser to the World Association for Sexual Health. “Hardly two or three people came
to the OPD in the 1980s when the Department of Sexual Health was started at the KEM
Hospital [Mumbai]. Today, we get at least 100 people, including young and middle-
aged couples.” Rather than the women, it’s the guys who seem to be in trouble.
Premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction are common problems, and women
drag their husbands to the sexologist as a last resort. “Women are walking out of
marriages citing impotent husbands as a reason. Men also complain about their wives,
saying that they are too preoccupied with their careers to find time for sex,” says Dr
Kothari.
Experts attribute sexual disharmony among urban couples to various factors. “People
have put sex on the back burner. Couples come home late, one sleeps before the other,
there is no interaction and sex becomes perfunctory. High stress levels, preoccupation
with careers, latenight partying, alcohol and smoking wreak havoc on the sex lives of
couples,” says Dr Kothari.
The intrusion of TV, Internet, mobile phones and the social media makes matters
worse.
It’s not just young couples whose bedroom lives are lacklustre.

38. The 2011 India Today-Nielsen Sex Survey reflects the sexual ennui that seems to be
gripping the entire nation. Sexual satisfaction, it found, has dipped to 27 per cent for
the first time in eight years of the India Today Sex Survey series. Making excuses to
avoid sex is not just female prerogative though half the wives say, “ Not tonight, honey.
I have a headache.” One third of husbands also fake a headache to avoid sex.
BOREDOM with marital sex is a common complaint for both men and women. Over 48
per cent husbands confess that their ideal bed mate is not their wife, and about 33 per
cent of the wives say that sex becomes unimportant after a few years of marriage.
Seeking pleasure outside marriage is common.
“There is a rise in extra-marital affairs because people don’t devote time and attention
to their marriages,” explains Dr Kothari. “They are too preoccupied with their careers,
and finding a sexual partner at the workplace doesn’t seem like a bad idea for many.”
Female emancipation has also affected bedroom politics. Women are more socially
and economically independent, and aren’t easily deterred from walking out of
marriages. “ Women aren’t willing to be viewed as sex objects any longer,” says Dr
Pulkit Sharma, Clinical Psychologist, VIMHANS, Delhi. “They have their own sexual
preferences and want to express them.
Sometimes they don’t want sex when their husbands do and they need to be respected
for the choices they make,” Dr Sharma adds. But the men aren’t too happy about this
sharing of power. “ Unlike earlier, when women would just hit the bed whenever a
man wanted them to, now the ladies have a say,” says Delhi- based sexologist and
relationship counsellor Col. (Retd) V. K. Wadia. “ They say no when they don’t feel like
sex and men cannot take it.”
Some experts believe that the High Court ruling may encourage more couples with
ailing sex lives to take matters to court. But this may not be in their best interests, say
experts. “ This kind of ruling can be misused,” says Dr Sharma of VIMHANS. “ Sex
between two partners is a private affair and using a spouse’s refusal to have sex as a
weapon in court isn’t a solution to the problem. A partner may not want sex due to
genuine reasons like a medical problem, a history of abuse, sex phobia or even anxiety,
which needs time to be dealt with. In such situations, a blanket ruling just wouldn’t
work,” he adds.
SEX must be viewed in the context of the social, economic and emotional relationship
between two people, say counsellors. If the relationship isn’t great in other areas,
sexual satisfaction may be low. The amount of sex each couple needs also varies.
“There can be no clear-cut rule that quantifies how much sex is essential for a
marriage to survive. This is up to the partners to decide,” says Dr Sunil Mittal,
Director, Delhi Psychiatry Centre. Rather than heading to the divorce court, solutions
may be found from therapists. “ Couples shouldn’t shy away from seeking professional

39. help,” says Dr Kothari.
“Most sexual problems can be treated.” People need to remember this before rushing
to get a divorce on the grounds of sexual compatibility.
REFUSAL ON THE FIRST NIGHT IS QUITE COMMON
SONAM and Arun have been married for the last five years. Both are MBAs who bring
home big cheques. But their problems started right from their wedding night, when
Sonam refused to have sex with Arun.
Theirs was an arranged marriage and the idea of getting physically intimate with Arun
without knowing him properly made Sonam uncomfortable.
Her refusal, however, became an issue in Arun’s head from the beginning.
Eventually, Arun wanted sex every alternate day, but Sonam didn’t. They had a busy
work life and barely spent time together. Sex took a backseat, resulting in numerous
fights. Arun threatened to walk out of the marriage, which led them to seeking
professional help. Commenting on the case, Dr Pulkit Sharma, Clinical Psychologist,
VIMHANSDelhi, says: “Sex on the first night is not a great idea in an arranged
marriage as a couple hardly know each other. Performance anxiety is always a part of
first time sex, so the wedding night may not be the right moment for this.”
Guys, boost your sex drive
Your guide to getting more
Sex, sex, sex; it‘s all we think about, right? Although lots of people think us guys want sex
constantly, it‘s just not always true. However, although guys don‘t always want it, if you‘ve
not felt that urge in a while, or if your idea of a hot night is eating a fiery madras with mates,
then maybe it‘s time you gave your libido a kick. With just a few tricks and changes to your
diet you can turn yourself into a real-life Casanova and have a few more wild nights in under
the covers:
Get some sun
Sunbathing isn‘t just for girls; if you want to increase your libido it‘s time you lathered on the sun screen and got
outdoors. Recent research has shown that soaking up the sun‘s rays increases male testosterone levels. According
to studies, as doses of vitamin D increase, which is gained from sunshine, men‘s testosterone levels rise. Just one
hour in the sun can significantly boost the male sex hormone.
Get a takeaway
It always seems that everything that tastes fantastic is terrible for our health; it‘s either high in fat, high in salt or it has
a high GI level. However, although a pizza, some doughnuts or some popcorn may not be the healthiest of snacks,

40. there are certainly some perks to indulging in some of these treats. A research team from Chicago found that the
smells from these foods in increased men‘s penile blood flow.
Take a spin
A Bugatti Veyron Super Sport, a Hennessey Venom GT and a McLaren F1; do these names get your heart racing?
According to research, they should. Getting behind the wheel of a fast car gives you such a thrill that it makes the
body produce more testosterone. However, it‘s bad news for those guys who drive a banger. Driving an old car can
actually lower your levels of the sex hormone. Perhaps that iconic, mid-life crisis sports car no longer seems like a
stupid buy.
Have a kick about
Fed up of getting nagged because you play too much football? Well, here‘s a fail-proof excuse you can use next time
you‘re getting hassled: football increases your libido. The beautiful game is said to boost testosterone and levels of
the hormone is found to be highest if you are playing at home. Why not ask your girl to come and watch you play at
your next home match, then take her on a romantic date; you won‘t be able to keep your hands off her.
Ice cream: the food of the sex Gods
Although a bowl of ice cream may seem a little infantile, all men should grab a bowl every now and again. Vanilla ice
cream is a perfect concoction of sex fuel. The vanilla scent is a natural libido booster, which calms men and reduces
inhibitions. The calcium content in a typical bowl (200 milligrams) can also make orgasms more powerful and intense.
Next time you‘re out on a date, don‘t skip the deserts guys.
Put down the bottle
Chatting up women can be terrifying, granted. But if you‘re looking to reignite your sexual desire, cut down on the
amount of alcohol you consume, especially on those nights when you could potentially get laid. More than two units
a day will lower your libido. A normal bottle of lager (330ml) contains 1 unit, whilst an average pint of cider (568ml)
contains 2.8 units. Even a week of not drinking can increase your desire.
Relax
Your mate got promoted over you, your team is facing relegation and your in-laws are coming to visit. Life is always
going to be stressful, but too much stress increases the hormone cortisol, which causes testosterone to drop
dramatically. To combat additional stress visit a steam room. This will relax you and boost your blood flow; both in
turn will increase your sex drive. In addition to this, eat foods containing tryptophan, like turkey.
Valentine‘s Day dos and don‘ts
10 things you should and shouldn‘t do this Valentine‘s Day
Whether you‘re single or coupled up come February 14th, there are certain things you
should bear in mind to help the day go more smoothly. Check out these 10 dos and don‘ts
for Valentine‘s Day.
Don‟t assume your partner shares your feelings about Valentine‟s Day
It‘s no secret that some people love Valentine‘s Day while others view it simply as a day designed to con us out of our
hard-earned cash. If this is your first Valentine‘s Day with your partner, it is important to find out which side they fall
on. Different things are important to different people and, while your partner not being overly excited about this

41. occasion is no indication of their feelings towards you, it may be helpful to discuss your hopes and plans for
Valentine‘s Day in advance so as to avoid disappointment and, if necessary, reach a happy compromise.
Don‟t forget the date!
No matter whether Valentine‘s Day scores high on your list of favourite dates or not, if it is important to the person
you care about then you should do your best not to forget it. Not only will forgetting about Valentine‘s Day potentially
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upset and hurt your partner, but you may find that they bring it up every February 14 for years to come! To stay in
your partner‘s good books, set yourself a reminder of the day and make sure to keep the evening free.
Don‟t get too swept up in the romance
On arguably the most romantic day of the year it is easy to get swept up in the romance and say or do things you
normally wouldn‘t. Shopping for a pair of earrings can easily turn into a spontaneous engagement ring purchase, or a
romantic dinner could lead to an impromptu declaration of love. However, it‘s important to make sure you are really
sure before you change the dynamics of your relationship and that you haven‘t just got carried away with the
romance.
Don‟t get in contact with your ex
Romance is in the air, everybody is seemingly coupled up, so, for all you single guys and girls, it is perfectly
understandable that your mind may drift to love. However, although the temptation may be strong to get in touch with
your ex (or that guy you‘ve been unrequitedly lusting after), don‘t do it! No matter how lonely you are this Valentine‘s
Day, we can guarantee that setting yourself up for rejection and heartache will not make your experience more
enjoyable. Instead, spend your valuable time and conversation on someone who will appreciate it, such as a family
member or friend.

42. Don‟t overanalyse his gift
Unlike men, women have a tendency to analyse every word, gift and gesture from their partner to decipher hidden
meanings. However, it is important that, although it may be disappointing, you don‘t take a rubbish gift on Valentine‘s
Day to heart. Just because he gives you a cheap and generic present it doesn‘t mean he is making a statement about
your relationship; in fact it may say more about his bank balance or feelings towards Valentine‘s Day than it does
about you.
Do shop with caution
All the above said, guys, it‘s still important to try to put a little thought into your gifts to try to keep Valentine‘s Day
conflict-free. As a rough guide, avoid buying anything overly practical (Valentine‘s Day is not the time to buy her a
new iron, no matter how much you think she wants it), and definitely avoid exercise equipment unless you want to
potentially cause serious offence. Unless you‘re proposing marriage, anything that comes in an engagement ring
shaped box is also out! Also, if you plan on buying some underwear or clothing, do make sure you know her dress
size.
Do make it last all day
While most of us have work and responsibilities to attend to on Valentine‘s Day, it is possible to maintain the romance
throughout the day with minimal money and effort. To really make the most of the day, try not to keep celebrations
just for the evening. Instead, get up a bit early and start the day with breakfast in bed, then send a quick text during
the day (or slip a note in with their lunch) to let them know that you are thinking of them and looking forward to your
plans later.
Do make reservations well in advance
Valentine‘s Day is one of the busiest days of the year for most restaurants and DVD rental stores, so if you plan on
heading out for a meal or renting a movie make sure you get in there early. Reserving a table a month in advance is
perfectly acceptable – and often necessary – for Valentine‘s Day. Also, unless you are genuinely hard up, don‘t try to
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get away with booking a table for February 15 to try save some money as this will probably not make the best
impression on your partner.
Do be creative
To really avoid the crowds on Valentine‘s Day, it can help to think outside the box and plan something a little more
creative. A bunch of flowers and reservations for the best restaurant in town may have always been met with
appreciation before, but to really surprise your partner try planning something a little less generic like a homemade
gift or a picnic (you could even have this indoors if the weather is bad). Also, avoid using a tried-and-tested formula
you have used on other partners – make your other half feel unique and special with a date planned just for them.
Do remember it‟s just one day
Many of us dream of having the perfect Valentine‘s Day where we‘re swept off our feet and lavished with attention
from an adoring partner. However, as lovely as this may be, in reality it may be best to keep things in perspective. If
you‘re single on Valentine‘s Day it is important to remember that it is not the end of the world if you haven‘t got plans
– there will be many other days in the future to score the perfect date. If you are coupled up, it is equally important not
to stress if things don‘t live up to expectations; bear in mind that your relationship is more important than just one day.
Top 10 sex tips for Valentine‘s Day