1. How to Handle Verbal Attacks

2. Wrong Way – Getting Angry
Bully insults a student (no cursing), trying
to upset them
Target becomes frustrated, slowly
becoming angrier and more upset
Bully thinks it’s funny that the Target is
getting so upset, and bullies them even
more!
Make sure you don’t laugh!

3. Right Way – Staying Calm
 Bully insults a student (no cursing), trying to upset them
 Target lets the Bully know in lots of ways that it’s okay
for them to call you names and that they can do it all day
if they want to
 Target treats the Bully as if he/she were doing you a
favor by letting you know what’s wrong with you
 Target responds with humor to an insult (if you think I’m
ugly, you should see my sister!)
 When Bully stops insulting the student, Targets asks “are
you finished? Are you sure? If you want to do it some
more, I really don’t mind.”

4. How to Handle Rumors

5. Wrong Way – Getting Upset
Student comes up to you, telling you about
a rumor they heard about you
Target becomes more and more upset and
argues with him, insisting it’s not true
Wants to find out who started the rumor
Student who told you about the rumor
thinks it’s funny how you’re becoming
upset, and doesn’t give you a lot of
information

6. Right Way – Staying Calm
Student comes up to you, telling you about
a rumor they heard about you
Target asks “do you believe it?”
If he says “no,” say “good”
If he says “yes,” or “I don’t know,” say “you can
believe whatever you want.”
If he asks “but is it true?”
Repeat: “you can believe whatever you want.”

7. How to Coercion to Choose
Between Friends

8. Wrong Way – Begging, Pleading
Student A tells Student B “if you are really
my friend, you won’t be friends with Kelly”
Student B responds with
“oh, please don’t make me choose.”
“it’s not fair! You can’t ask me not to be friends
with Kelly!”
“okay, I won’t be her friend.”

9. Right Way
Student A tells Student B “if you are really
my friend, you won’t be friends with Kelly”
Student B responds with
“I’ll always consider you my friend, but if you
can’t be my friend because of Kelly, I will
understand.”