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The speech you will give as a best man will be the toughest 
speech you give in your life. Or at least it would have been 
before you discovered this incredibly useful Madlibs-style 
template 
The speech you will give as a best man will be the toughest 
speech you give in your life. Or at least it would have been 
before you discovered this incredibly useful Madlibs-style 
template, which will shave your speech preparation down from 
a couple of weeks to 10 minutes 
For your speech to be truly perfect, however, you must respect 
these two rules as you feel in the blanks: 
1. Maintain the right emotional balance. The perfect best man's 
speech makes the audience laugh at the beginning and cry at 
the end. Don't get too emotional too quickly, or they will 
snicker at you. 
2. Keep your anecdotes accessible. There is nothing worse than 
a speech that only the best man and groom can understand. 
Your jokes should feel like inside jokes to as much of the room 
as possible.
The Universally Perfect Best Man's Speech 
Good evening, everyone. Thanks for putting down your forks 
for long enough to give me your undivided attention. For those 
of you who don’t know who I am, I’m the best man. And before 
I say anything else, I’d like us all to take a moment to 
appreciate and raise our glasses to [names of parents who paid, 
starting with mom] for what has been thus far a wonderful 
celebration on such a special occasion. Now, I know that most 
of you don’t make it out often and only came here for the free 
[main course — probably chicken], so I’ve been asked by 
[bride’s name] to instruct you not to make a scene — I’m 
looking at you [troublesome uncle or youngest child in 
attendance]. 
I first met [groom’s name] at [authentic first meeting occasion], 
but I really got to know him at [another early meeting that 
supports coming anecdote].
Don’t worry, [bride’s name]. I’m not leading to the story you’re 
worried about! 
So when I first saw [groom’s name] at [early meeting that 
supports coming anecdote], I couldn’t believe that he was 
[weird behavior that at least 80% of room will recognize]. Now, 
I know they say that you never get a second chance to make a 
first impression, but let’s just say that[groom’s name] should be 
grateful that that’s just a myth! 
[Groom] stopped doing [aforementioned weird behavior] not 
long after that meeting, but, happily, he didn’t lose his [positive 
personality trait driving weird behavior]. And for anyone who 
doubted that he did, let’s not forget about our night at 
[bachelor party venue]… Just kidding, [bride’s name]. [Groom’s 
name] was as well behaved… ahem, dull… as [grumpiest person 
in attendance]. 
But there’s a lot more to being [positive personality trait driving 
weird behavior] than [aforementioned weird behavior]. We’ve 
all seen [groom’s name] bring his [positive personality trait] to 
his work as a [groom’s profession] and to his pursuit of 
[universally recognized hobby or pastime]. And it’s definitely
been a driving force in a friendship that has lasted [length of 
time of friendship], with a lot of years yet to come. 
And, in any case, we all knew that [aforementioned weird 
behavior]wouldn’t last forever. (At least we all hoped it 
wouldn’t!) If it had, then[bride’s name] probably wouldn’t have 
given [groom’s name] a second look at [venue of their first 
meeting], where they first met. Walking into[venue of their first 
meeting], I’m sure neither [groom’s name] nor [bride’s name] 
expected it to be the start of a journey that would lead us here 
today. After all, [bride’s name] was so busy with her [estimable 
occupation/hobby/passion of that time], while [groom’s name] 
was so busy with his [ridiculous/juvenile hobby], that neither 
thought that they had room for another person in their life. 
On [approximate date of first meeting], destiny changed their 
plans. 
And this was the first of many changes to come in [groom’s 
name]’s life. First of all, gone were his [bad lifestyle habit] and 
his [bad fashion trademark]! But, more importantly, we started 
to see [groom’s name]shine in ways we never knew possible. 
[Bride’s name], whether it was through her [positive
personality trait] or her introducing [groom’s name]to [positive 
group activity], brought a new dimension of happiness to him 
that even I had never seen. But, having got to know [bride’s 
name]’s family a bit more in recent weeks, now I understand 
where this happiness comes from. 
In fact, tonight I see two very happy families coming together. 
And we all know how delicate interfamilial relations can be — 
particularly when one family is [nationality or religious 
denomination of groom’s family] and the other is [nationality or 
religious denomination of bride’s family]. But whether it’s over 
a steaming plate of [traditional meal associated with nationality 
of one group] or getting together around the [icon associated 
with religious denomination of other group], it all comes down 
the same thing: love and mutual respect. And I think you would 
all agree that there’s a lot of that in this room today, and I think 
you’d also agree that there’s a lot of that between [groom’s 
name] and [bride’s name]. 
So let’s all raise our glasses to the happy couple. [Groom’s 
name] may not[aforementioned weird behavior] anymore, but
with [bride’s name] at his side, his [positive personality trait 
driving weird behavior] is now perfectly matched. Cheers! 
money makes every one perfect
This Is Why Poor People's Bad Decisions Make Perfect Sense 
Posted: 11/22/2013 5:18 pm EST Updated: 06/19/2014 1:59 
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There's no way to structure this coherently. They are random 
observations that might help explain the mental processes. But 
often, I think that we look at the academic problems of poverty 
and have no idea of thewhy. We know the what and the how, 
and we can see systemic problems, but it's rare to have a poor 
person actually explain it on their own behalf. So this is me 
doing that, sort of. 
Rest is a luxury for the rich. I get up at 6AM, go to school (I have 
a full course load, but I only have to go to two in-person 
classes) then work, then I get the kids, then I pick up my 
husband, then I have half an hour to change and go to Job 2. I 
get home from that at around 12:30AM, then I have the rest of 
my classes and work to tend to. I'm in bed by 3. This isn't every 
day, I have two days off a week from each of my obligations. I 
use that time to clean the house and soothe Mr. Martini and 
see the kids for longer than an hour and catch up on 
schoolwork. Those nights I'm in bed by midnight, but if I go to 
bed too early I won't be able to stay up the other nights 
because I'll fuck my pattern up, and I drive an hour home from 
Job 2 so I can't afford to be sleepy. I never get a day off from 
work unless I am fairly sick. It doesn't leave you much room to 
think about what you are doing, only to attend to the next thing 
and the next. Planning isn't in the mix.
When I got pregnant the first time, I was living in a weekly 
motel. I had a minifridge with no freezer and a microwave. I 
was on WIC. I ate peanut butter from the jar and frozen 
burritos because they were 12/$2. Had I had a stove, I couldn't 
have made beef burritos that cheaply. And I needed the meat, I 
was pregnant. I might not have had any prenatal care, but I am 
intelligent enough to eat protein and iron whilst knocked up. 
I know how to cook. I had to take Home Ec to graduate high 
school. Most people on my level didn't. Broccoli is intimidating. 
You have to have a working stove, and pots, and spices, and 
you'll have to do the dishes no matter how tired you are or 
they'll attract bugs. It is a huge new skill for a lot of people. 
That's not great, but it's true. And if you fuck it up, you could 
make your family sick. We have learned not to try too hard to 
be middle-class. It never works out well and always makes you 
feel worse for having tried and failed yet again. Better not to 
try. It makes more sense to get food that you know will be 
palatable and cheap and that keeps well. Junk food is a 
pleasure that we are allowed to have; why would we give that 
up? We have very few of them.
The closest Planned Parenthood to me is three hours. That's a 
lot of money in gas. Lots of women can't afford that, and even 
if you live near one you probably don't want to be seen coming 
in and out in a lot of areas. We're aware that we are not 
"having kids," we're "breeding." We have kids for much the 
same reasons that I imagine rich people do. Urge to propagate 
and all. Nobody likes poor people procreating, but they judge 
abortion even harder. 
Convenience food is just that. And we are not allowed many 
conveniences. Especially since the Patriot Act passed, it's hard 
to get a bank account. But without one, you spend a lot of time 
figuring out where to cash a check and get money orders to pay 
bills. Most motels now have a no-credit-card-no-room policy. I 
wandered around SF for five hours in the rain once with nearly 
a thousand dollars on me and could not rent a room even if I 
gave them a $500 cash deposit and surrendered my cell phone 
to the desk to hold as surety. 
Nobody gives enough thought to depression. You have to 
understand that we know that we will never not feel tired. We 
will never feel hopeful. We will never get a vacation. Ever. We 
know that the very act of being poor guarantees that we will 
never not be poor. It doesn't give us much reason to improve
ourselves. We don't apply for jobs because we know we can't 
afford to look nice enough to hold them. I would make a super 
legal secretary, but I've been turned down more than once 
because I "don't fit the image of the firm," which is a nice way 
of saying "gtfo, pov." I am good enough to cook the food, 
hidden away in the kitchen, but my boss won't make me a 
server because I don't "fit the corporate image." I am not 
beautiful. I have missing teeth and skin that looks like it will 
when you live on B12 and coffee and nicotine and no sleep. 
Beauty is a thing you get when you can afford it, and that's how 
you get the job that you need in order to be beautiful. There 
isn't much point trying. 
Cooking attracts roaches. Nobody realizes that. I've spent a lot 
of hours impaling roach bodies and leaving them out on 
toothpick pikes to discourage others from entering. It doesn't 
work, but is amusing. 
"Free" only exists for rich people. It's great that there's a bowl 
of condoms at my school, but most poor people will never set 
foot on a college campus. We don't belong there. There's a 
clinic? Great! There's still a copay. We're not going. Besides, all 
they'll tell you at the clinic is that you need to see a specialist, 
which seriously? Might as well be located on Mars for how
accessible it is. "Low-cost" and "sliding scale" sounds like 
"money you have to spend" to me, and they can't actually help 
you anyway. 
I smoke. It's expensive. It's also the best option. You see, I am 
always, always exhausted. It's a stimulant. When I am too tired 
to walk one more step, I can smoke and go for another hour. 
When I am enraged and beaten down and incapable of 
accomplishing one more thing, I can smoke and I feel a little 
better, just for a minute. It is the only relaxation I am allowed. It 
is not a good decision, but it is the only one that I have access 
to. It is the only thing I have found that keeps me from 
collapsing or exploding. 
I make a lot of poor financial decisions. None of them matter, in 
the long term. I will never not be poor, so what does it matter if 
I don't pay a thing and a half this week instead of just one 
thing? It's not like the sacrifice will result in improved 
circumstances; the thing holding me back isn't that I blow five 
bucks at Wendy's. It's that now that I have proven that I am a 
Poor Person that is all that I am or ever will be. It is not worth it 
to me to live a bleak life devoid of small pleasures so that one 
day I can make a single large purchase. I will never have large 
pleasures to hold on to. There's a certain pull to live what bits
of life you can while there's money in your pocket, because no 
matter how responsible you are you will be broke in three days 
anyway. When you never have enough money it ceases to have 
meaning. I imagine having a lot of it is the same thing. 
Poverty is bleak and cuts off your long-term brain. It's why you 
see people with four different babydaddies instead of one. You 
grab a bit of connection wherever you can to survive. You have 
no idea how strong the pull to feel worthwhile is. It's more 
basic than food. You go to these people who make you feel 
lovely for an hour that one time, and that's all you get. You're 
probably not compatible with them for anything long-term, but 
right this minute they can make you feel powerful and valuable. 
It does not matter what will happen in a month. Whatever 
happens in a month is probably going to be just about as 
indifferent as whatever happened today or last week. None of 
it matters. We don't plan long-term because if we do we'll just 
get our hearts broken. It's best not to hope. You just take what 
you can get as you spot it. 
I am not asking for sympathy. I am just trying to explain, on a 
human level, how it is that people make what look from the 
outside like awful decisions. This is what our lives are like, and 
here are our defense mechanisms, and here is why we think
differently. It's certainly self-defeating, but it's safer. That's all. I 
hope it helps make sense of it. 
Additions have been made to the update below to reflect the 
responses received. 
UPDATE: The response to this piece is overwhelming. I have 
had a lot of people ask to use my work. Please do. Share it with 
the world if you found value in it. Please link back if you can. If 
you are teaching, I am happy to discuss this with or clarify for 
you, and you can freely use this piece in your classes. Please do 
let me know where you teach. You can reach me on Twitter, 
@killermartinis. I set up an email at killermartinisbook@ gmail 
as well. 
This piece has gone fully viral. People have been asking me to 
write, and how they can help. After enough people tried to 
send me paypal money, I set up a gofundme. Find it here. It 
promptly went insane. I have raised my typical yearly income as 
of this update. I have no idea what to say except thank you. I 
am going to speak with some money people who will make sure 
that I can't fuck this up, and I will use it to do good things with.
I've also set up a blog, which I hope you will find here. 
Understand that I wrote this as an example of the thought 
process that we struggle with. Most of us are clinically 
depressed, and we do not get therapy and medication and 
support. We get told to get over it. And we find ways to cope. I 
am not saying that people live without hope entirely; that is not 
human nature. But these are the thoughts that are never too 
far away, that creep up on us every chance they get, that prey 
on our better judgement when we are tired and stressed and 
weakened. We maintain a constant vigil against these thoughts, 
because we are afraid that if we speak them aloud or even 
articulate them in our heads they will become unmanageably 
real. 
Thank you for reading. I am glad people find value in it. Because 
I am getting tired of people not reading this and then 
commenting anyway, I am making a few things clear: not all of 
this piece is about me. That is why I said that they were 
observations. And this piece is not all of me: that is why I said 
that they were random observations rather than complete 
ones. If you really have to urge me to abort or keep my knees 
closed or wonder whether I can fax you my citizenship 
documents or if I really in fact have been poor because I know
multisyllabic words, I would like to ask that you read the 
comments and see whether anyone has made your point in the 
particular fashion you intend to. It is not that I mind trolls so 
much, it's that they're getting repetitive and if you have to say 
nothing I hope you can at least do it in an entertaining fashion. 
If, however, you simply are curious about something and 
actually want to have a conversation, I do not mind repeating 
myself because those conversations are valuable and not 
actually repetitive. They tend to be very specific to the asker, 
and I am happy to shed any light I can. I do not mind honest 
questions. They are why I wrote this piece. 
Thank you all, so much. I don't know what life will look like next 
week, and for once that's a good thing. And I have you to thank. 
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IN my last year on Wall Street my bonus was $3.6 million — and I was angry because it 
wasn’t big enough. I was 30 years old, had no children to raise, no debts to pay, no 
philanthropic goal in mind. I wanted more money for exactly the same reason an 
alcoholic needs another drink: I was addicted. 
Eight years earlier, I’d walked onto the trading floor at Credit Suisse First Boston to 
begin my summer internship. I already knew I wanted to be rich, but when I started out 
I had a different idea about what wealth meant. I’d come to Wall Street after reading in 
the book “Liar’s Poker” how Michael Lewis earned a $225,000 bonus after just two 
years of work on a trading floor. That seemed like a fortune. Every January and 
February, I think about that time, because these are the months when bonuses are 
decided and distributed, when fortunes are made. 
I’d learned about the importance of being rich from my dad. He was a modern-day Willy 
Loman, a salesman with huge dreams that never seemed to materialize. “Imagine what 
life will be like,” he’d say, “when I make a million dollars.” While he dreamed of selling a 
screenplay, in reality he sold kitchen cabinets. And not that well. We sometimes lived 
paycheck to paycheck off my mom’s nurse-practitioner salary. 
Dad believed money would solve all his problems. At 22, so did I. When I walked onto 
that trading floor for the first time and saw the glowing flat-screen TVs, high-tech
computer monitors and phone turrets with enough dials, knobs and buttons to make it 
seem like the cockpit of a fighter plane, I knew exactly what I wanted to do with the rest 
of my life. It looked as if the traders were playing a video game inside a spaceship; if you 
won this video game, you became what I most wanted to be — rich. 
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IT was a miracle I’d made it to Wall Street at all. While I was competitive and ambitious 
— a wrestler at Columbia University — I was also a daily drinker and pot smoker and a 
regular user of cocaine, Ritalin and ecstasy. I had a propensity for self-destruction that 
had resulted in my getting suspended from Columbia for burglary, arrested twice and 
fired from an Internet company for fistfighting. I learned about rage from my dad, too. I 
can still see his red, contorted face as he charged toward me. I’d lied my way into the 
C.S.F.B. internship by omitting my transgressions from my résumé and was determined 
not to blow what seemed a final chance. The only thing as important to me as that 
internship was my girlfriend, a starter on the Columbia volleyball team. But even though 
I was in love with her, when I got drunk I’d sometimes end up with other women. 
Three weeks into my internship she wisely dumped me. I don’t like who you’ve become, 
she said. I couldn’t blame her, but I was so devastated that I couldn’t get out of bed. In 
desperation, I called a counselor whom I had reluctantly seen a few times before and 
asked for help. 
She helped me see that I was using alcohol and drugs to blunt the powerlessness I felt as 
a kid and suggested I give them up. That began some of the hardest months of my life. 
Without the alcohol and drugs in my system, I felt like my chest had been cracked open, 
exposing my heart to air. The counselor said that my abuse of drugs and alcohol was a 
symptom of an underlying problem — a “spiritual malady,” she called it. C.S.F.B. didn’t 
offer me a full-time job, and I returned, distraught, to Columbia for senior year. 
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After graduation, I got a job at Bank of America, by the grace of a managing director 
willing to take a chance on a kid who had called him every day for three weeks. With a 
year of sobriety under my belt, I was sharp, cleareyed and hard-working. At the end of 
my first year I was thrilled to receive a $40,000 bonus. For the first time in my life, I 
didn’t have to check my balance before I withdrew money. But a week later, a trader who 
was only four years my senior got hired away by C.S.F.B. for $900,000. After my initial 
envious shock — his haul was 22 times the size of my bonus — I grew excited at how 
much money was available. 
Over the next few years I worked like a maniac and began to move up the Wall Street 
ladder. I became a bond and credit default swap trader, one of the more lucrative roles
in the business. Just four years after I started at Bank of America, Citibank offered me a 
“1.75 by 2” which means $1.75 million per year for two years, and I used it to get a 
promotion. I started dating a pretty blonde and rented a loft apartment on Bond Street 
for $6,000 a month. 
I felt so important. At 25, I could go to any restaurant in Manhattan — Per Se, Le 
Bernardin — just by picking up the phone and calling one of my brokers, who ingratiate 
themselves to traders by entertaining with unlimited expense accounts. I could be 
second row at the Knicks-Lakers game just by hinting to a broker I might be interested 
in going. The satisfaction wasn’t just about the money. It was about the power. Because 
of how smart and successful I was, it was someone else’s job to make me happy. 
Still, I was nagged by envy. On a trading desk everyone sits together, from interns to 
managing directors. When the guy next to you makes $10 million, $1 million or $2 
million doesn’t look so sweet. Nonetheless, I was thrilled with my progress. 
My counselor didn’t share my elation. She said I might be using money the same way I’d 
used drugs and alcohol — to make myself feel powerful — and that maybe it would 
benefit me to stop focusing on accumulating more and instead focus on healing my 
inner wound. “Inner wound”? I thought that was going a little far and went to work for a 
hedge fund. 
Now, working elbow to elbow with billionaires, I was a giant fireball of greed. I’d think 
about how my colleagues could buy Micronesia if they wanted to, or become mayor of 
New York City. They didn’t just have money; they had power — power beyond getting a 
table at Le Bernardin. Senators came to their offices. They were royalty. 
I wanted a billion dollars. It’s staggering to think that in the course of five years, I’d gone 
from being thrilled at my first bonus — $40,000 — to being disappointed when, my 
second year at the hedge fund, I was paid “only” $1.5 million. 
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But in the end, it was actually my absurdly wealthy bosses who helped me see the 
limitations of unlimited wealth. I was in a meeting with one of them, and a few other 
traders, and they were talking about the new hedge-fund regulations. Most everyone on 
Wall Street thought they were a bad idea. “But isn’t it better for the system as a whole?” 
I asked. The room went quiet, and my boss shot me a withering look. I remember his 
saying, “I don’t have the brain capacity to think about the system as a whole. All I’m 
concerned with is how this affects our company.” 
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I felt as if I’d been punched in the gut. He was afraid of losing money, despite all that he 
had.
From that moment on, I started to see Wall Street with new eyes. I noticed the vitriol 
that traders directed at the government for limiting bonuses after the crash. I heard the 
fury in their voices at the mention of higher taxes. These traders despised anything or 
anyone that threatened their bonuses. Ever see what a drug addict is like when he’s used 
up his junk? He’ll do anything — walk 20 miles in the snow, rob a grandma — to get a 
fix. Wall Street was like that. In the months before bonuses were handed out, the trading 
floor started to feel like a neighborhood in “The Wire” when the heroin runs out. 
I’d always looked enviously at the people who earned more than I did; now, for the first 
time, I was embarrassed for them, and for me. I made in a single year more than my 
mom made her whole life. I knew that wasn’t fair; that wasn’t right. Yes, I was sharp, 
good with numbers. I had marketable talents. But in the end I didn’t really do anything. 
I was a derivatives trader, and it occurred to me the world would hardly change at all if 
credit derivatives ceased to exist. Not so nurse practitioners. What had seemed normal 
now seemed deeply distorted. 
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I had recently finished Taylor Branch’s three-volume series on the Rev. Dr. Martin 
Luther King Jr. and the civil rights movement, and the image of the Freedom Riders 
stepping out of their bus into an infuriated mob had seared itself into my mind. I’d told 
myself that if I’d been alive in the ‘60s, I would have been on that bus. 
But I was lying to myself. There were plenty of injustices out there — rampant poverty, 
swelling prison populations, a sexual-assault epidemic, an obesity crisis. Not only was I 
not helping to fix any problems in the world, but I was profiting from them. During the 
market crash in 2008, I’d made a ton of money by shorting the derivatives of risky 
companies. As the world crumbled, I profited. I’d seen the crash coming, but instead of 
trying to help the people it would hurt the most — people who didn’t have a million 
dollars in the bank — I’d made money off it. I don’t like who you’ve become, my 
girlfriend had said years earlier. She was right then, and she was still right. Only now, I 
didn’t like who I’d become either.
Wealth addiction was described by the late sociologist and playwright Philip Slater in a 
1980 book, but addiction researchers have paid the concept little attention. Like 
alcoholics driving drunk, wealth addiction imperils everyone. Wealth addicts are, more 
than anybody, specifically responsible for the ever widening rift that is tearing apart our 
once great country. Wealth addicts are responsible for the vast and toxic disparity 
between the rich and the poor and the annihilation of the middle class. Only a wealth 
addict would feel justified in receiving $14 million in compensation — including an $8.5 
million bonus — as the McDonald’s C.E.O., Don Thompson, did in 2012, while his 
company then published a brochure for its work force on how to survive on their low 
wages. Only a wealth addict would earn hundreds of millions as a hedge-fund manager, 
and then lobby to maintain a tax loophole that gave him a lower tax rate than his 
secretary. 
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DESPITE my realizations, it was incredibly difficult to leave. I was terrified of running 
out of money and of forgoing future bonuses. More than anything, I was afraid that five 
or 10 years down the road, I’d feel like an idiot for walking away from my one chance to 
be really important. What made it harder was that people thought I was crazy for 
thinking about leaving. In 2010, in a final paroxysm of my withering addiction, I 
demanded $8 million instead of $3.6 million. My bosses said they’d raise my bonus if I 
agreed to stay several more years. Instead, I walked away. 
The first year was really hard. I went through what I can only describe as withdrawal — 
waking up at nights panicked about running out of money, scouring the headlines to see 
which of my old co-workers had gotten promoted. Over time it got easier — I started to 
realize that I had enough money, and if I needed to make more, I could. But my wealth 
addiction still hasn’t gone completely away. Sometimes I still buy lottery tickets. 
In the three years since I left, I’ve married, spoken in jails and juvenile detention centers 
about getting sober, taught a writing class to girls in the foster system, and started a 
nonprofit called Groceryships to help poor families struggling with obesity and food 
addiction. I am much happier. I feel as if I’m making a real contribution. And as time 
passes, the distortion lessens. I see Wall Street’s mantra — “We’re smarter and work 
harder than everyone else, so we deserve all this money” — for what it is: the 
rationalization of addicts. From a distance I can see what I couldn’t see then — that Wall 
Street is a toxic culture that encourages the grandiosity of people who are desperately 
trying to feel powerful. 
I was lucky. My experience with drugs and alcohol allowed me to recognize my pursuit 
of wealth as an addiction. The years of work I did with my counselor helped me heal the 
parts of myself that felt damaged and inadequate, so that I had enough of a core sense of 
self to walk away. 
Dozens of different types of 12-step support groups — including Clutterers Anonymous 
and On-Line Gamers Anonymous — exist to help addicts of various types, yet there is no 
Wealth Addicts Anonymous. Why not? Because our culture supports and even lauds the
addiction. Look at the magazine covers in any newsstand, plastered with the faces of 
celebrities and C.E.O.'s; the superrich are our cultural gods. I hope we all confront our 
part in enabling wealth addicts to exert so much influence over our country. 
I generally think that if one is rich and believes they have “enough,” they are not a 
wealth addict. On Wall Street, in my experience, that sense of “enough” is rare. The 
money guy doing a job he complains about for yet another year so he can add $2 million 
to his $20 million bank account seems like an addict. 
I recently got an email from a hedge-fund trader who said that though he was making 
millions every year, he felt trapped and empty, but couldn’t summon the courage to 
leave. I believe there are others out there. Maybe we can form a group and confront our 
addiction together. And if you identify with what I’ve written, but are reticent to leave, 
then take a small step in the right direction. Let’s create a fund, where everyone agrees 
to put, say, 25 percent of their annual bonuses into it, and we’ll use that to help some of 
the people who actually need the money that we’ve been so rabidly chasing. Together, 
maybe we can make a real contribution to the world. 
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One of the most direct way to change your life, you need 
to change your attitude. 
No one else is responsible for what happens to you but you, so you 
can either complain about the things you don’t like in your life or 
you can set about changing them. Not surprisingly, this directly 
relates to the state of your finances. 
If you’re tired of living paycheck to paycheck, having your 
phone regularly cut off, or making excuses to skip dinners with 
your friends, then you can use these seven habits to take 
control of your money situation and live a happier 
and more frugal lifestyle. 
Habit One: Be Proactive 
The first habit to develop is to take responsibility; if you fail, you 
have no one to blame but yourself. Regardless of how you were 
raised or how you were treated at school, you can choose your 
behavior now. Being proactive means understanding that YOU 
are in control of your day-to-day interactions, and thereby, the 
direction your life takes. This is in stark comparison to a reactive
person, who is often affected by their environment and will find 
external sources to blame for their behavior. For example, if the 
weather is good, they’re in a good mood, but if the weather is bad, 
it affects them and they blame the weather for their bad mood. 
[Here are 6 action steps to take when you feel financially 
vulnerable.] 
What most people forget is that though you can’t control the 
stimulus, you can control your response. One of your most 
important choices is your words; the language you use is an 
effective indication of how you see yourself. If you use proactive 
language, such as “I can” or “I will,” you’re starting with a more 
positive attitudethan someone who uses language like “I can’t” 
or “I have to” or “If only.” 
How to be proactive for effective frugality: 
 Take the first step. You cannot take control of your finances 
until you make the commitment to do so; the more you ignore 
the situation, the worse it will get. Instead, take a long hard 
look at your finances — your budget, debts, income, and 
expenses, and try to understand where your money is going and 
where you can budget better. (To help you out, here are 25 
ways to pay off your debt more easily.) 
 Tell people. Using proactive language to vocalize your hope of 
being more financially responsible not only helps you crystallize 
your goal, but it can also help you avoid the peer pressure that 
makes budgeting and frugality hard. If you explain to your 
friends and family that you’re trying to live a more frugal 
lifestyle, they’ll be less likely to pressure you into one more 
round of drinks or another dinner out. 
 Listen. Listen to yourself and to the reasons you give each time 
you make a purchase outside of your budget or decide not to 
put spare money into your savings account. Taking the time to 
stop and listen to the reasons you give yourself for spending 
more than you earn will give you the opportunity to hear just
how shallow many of those reasons are. This can stop you from 
making purchases that impede your goal of effective frugality. 
Habit Two: Begin with the End in Mind 
Those who are effective in achieving their goals are able to 
envisage their desired end result in spite of the obstacles. Effective 
people adhere to this habit based on the principle that all things 
are created twice; there is first the mental creation, then the 
physical creation. The physical creation follows the mental 
creation the same way that a building follows its blueprints. 
If you don’t visualize what you want, then you’re at risk 
of other people and external circumstances influencing 
your life – because you’re not influencing it yourself. Instead, 
begin every day and every task with a clear vision of where you 
want to go and how you’re going to get there. Make that vision a 
reality with your proactive skills from habit one. 
How to visualize effective frugality: 
 Define your goal. There are many ways to live a frugal 
lifestyle, and you need to decide how frugal you want to be. Do 
you want to be debt free, build a savings account of a certain 
value, or live on one income in a two-income household? 
 Decide how you’re going to get there. This will again draw 
on your budget, but you need to be aware of the obstacles that 
are standing in your way. These may be literal obstacles, such 
as credit card debts, or they may be obstacles you’ve identified 
in your behavior. An example of a behavioral obstacle would be 
spending $10 every day on junk food on your way home from 
work, because you’re starving. Instead, you could be packing an 
inexpensive granola bar to keep you going until dinner. Or, do 
you find that when you go shopping with your sister, she always 
helps you justify a frivolous purchase, when you could leave 
your credit card at home?
MoneyNing Tip: Make sure your goals are SMART! 
Habit Three: Put First Things First 
Knowing WHY you’re doing something is an incredible motivator 
in helping you transform a mental creation into an actual physical 
creation of your goal. Ask yourself what the things are that you 
find most valuable and worthy to you. When you put these things 
first, you’ll be organizing and managing your time around your 
personal priorities to make them a reality. 
For many people, it’s hard to say no, but this is exactly the 
skill you have to learn to keep your goals as your first 
priority. While we are constantly told we can have it all, in 
reality, having it all is really about prioritizing what is most 
important to YOU to have, and then focusing on that. 
How to put effective frugality first: 
 Recognize the effects of your finances. You may not 
dedicate as much time as you should to managing your finances 
and practicing frugal principles because you feel there’s 
always something more important to be doing — whether it’s 
work, taking the kids to soccer practice, or getting ready for 
dinner with the girls. If your finances aren’t under control, 
however, and you’re regularly spending more than you earn, 
then they’re having a negative impact on every other aspect of 
your life, from your work to your family and friends. You need 
to recognize that being frugal is your first priority. 
 Just say no. It’s easy to spend more than your budgeted 
amount each month when you’re worried about missing out on 
a dinner with friends, feel as though you have to cater a 
birthday party for your son and 50 of his closest friends, or 
don’t want to wear the same suit to a work conference two years 
in a row. If you recognize that you don’t have to take on
everything and that it’s okay to say no, then you’ll find you’re 
more in control of your spending and your budget. 
Habit Four: Think Win-Win 
Most of us are taught to base our self-worth on comparisons to 
others and competition against our peers. We think we can only 
succeed if someone else has failed. We’re also taught that there’s 
only so much pie to go around, so if you get a big piece, then 
someone else is missing out. When you think like this, you’re 
going to feel like nothing is ever fair. As a result, many of us 
retaliate and take the pie before someone else can take it from us. 
Thinking in a win-win mindset allows you to see mutual 
benefits from all of your interactions. By doing this, you’ll 
see that the pie tastes even better when it’s shared. If you can 
approach conflicts and problems with a win-win attitude, you’ll be 
able to express your ideas and feelings with courage, while still 
maintaining consideration for the feelings and ideas of others. 
When you have an abundance mentality, you’re able to see 
that there is enough for everyone, and that by balancing your 
confidence with empathy, you can achieve your goals while 
helping others achieve theirs. 
How to create frugal win-win situations: 
 Recognize that you don’t always know the full story. As 
you aim to implement frugal principles and stick to a budget, 
you may often find yourself thinking “it’s not fair.” It’s not fair 
that they get to go out to dinner. It’s not fair that they get a new 
car. It’s not fair that they get to go on vacation, and I don’t. 
Take the time to realize, however, that you’re only seeing a 
small part of the finances of your friends and family who seem 
to “have it all.” And though it’s hard to watch your best friend 
take a dream European holiday, or your brother buy the car you 
covet, you’ll get there, too — if you manage your finances
frugally. And the best part? There will still be plenty of holiday 
destinations and fast cars when that time rolls around. 
 Understand the difference between possessions and 
net worth. While your friends and family may seem to have a 
fuller lifestyle because their house is bigger or their car is 
newer, you need to consider that it could just be a facade 
covering their mountains of debt. True wealth is not 
measured in possessions, but in assets. When the value 
of your assets is greater than the amount you owe on 
mortgages, car loans, and credit card debts, then you have a 
strong net worth and are truly wealthy. By trying to live a more 
effectively frugal lifestyle, you’ll be able to achieve true wealth, 
rather than just a life full of stuff. 
MoneyNing Tip: When building wealth, remember to look 
at the big picture, too. 
Habit Five: Communication 
At its base, communication is the desire to be heard and 
understood. Most people will listen with the intention to reply to 
what you’re saying, rather than to understand what you’ve 
said. To effectively communicate, you need to first 
understand. If you communicate with the sole intention of 
being understood, you may ignore what others are saying and 
miss their meaning entirely. Don’t just wait for your turn to talk; 
pay attention to what people are trying to tell you. 
How listening can help you be effectively frugal: 
 You are not the only person in your life. Chances are 
you’re married or in a relationship, have friends or children, or 
all of the above. As a result, you’re not the only person being 
affected by your decision to live a more frugal lifestyle. To be 
effective in your goal of frugality, you need to be able to listen to 
and understand the goals and behaviors of the other people in 
your life, too. Consider how effective your frugality would be if
you were taking packed lunches to work and avoiding the 
afternoon coffee run, while your partner was going on shopping 
sprees during their lunch break. Instead of living a more frugal 
lifestyle, you’d really be saving on one end and spending on the 
other. 
 Understand the goals and needs of others. While it’s 
important to explain your desire to live more frugally, it’s also 
important that you understand the goals and needs of those 
around you. This way, you can find a way to be more frugal 
without them having to give up all of the things that are most 
important to them. You can’t know what those things are 
unless you listen. 
Habit Six: Synergize 
Interactions and teamwork are some of the most important ways 
you can learn new skills and more effective behaviors. Synergizing 
is the habit of creative cooperation — working as a team to 
find new solutions to existing problems. Synergy is not 
something that just happens. It’s a process where you bring all of 
your personal experience and expertise to the table, enabling 
more effective results than those you would have been able to 
achieve individually. The whole is greater than the sum of its 
parts. 
When you have genuine interactions with people, you’re able to 
gain new insights and see new approaches to your problems — 
ones you might not have thought of before. 
How to synergize for effective frugality: 
 Look for new ways. In a society that excels at consumerism, 
you’ve probably already realized that you need to find new ways 
of doing just about everything to be frugal. It’s easy to buy your 
lunch every day, but it’s more frugal to pack it. It’s easy to drive 
to work, but it’s more frugal to take the train. It’s easy to buy a 
new cocktail dress, but it’s more frugal to make one.
 Surround yourself with other frugal people. To be 
successful in your quest for frugality, surround yourself with 
like-minded people. Find people who are where you want to be 
by joining online frugal-living forums, striking up a friendship 
with a fellow coupon-cutter, or starting a sewing club. When 
you’re around people with the same goals as you, you’ll be able 
to share ideas and learn from each other. 
MoneyNing Tip: Learn to embrace the positive influence of 
saving money. 
Habit Seven: Sharpen the Saw 
You’re the greatest asset you have on your journey to 
achieving the lifestyle you want, so you need to look after 
yourself physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. Taking 
the time to renew yourself in these areas of your life will give you 
strength to maintain the previous six habits, which are essential 
for your success. 
How to frugally renew yourself: 
 Physically. By eating better, you’ll feel better. Take it another 
step further and start your own vegetable patch, which will save 
you money at the supermarket and be healthier for you. 
Exercising keeps you fit and healthy, and it doesn’t cost you 
anything to go for a walk, ride a bike, or skip rope in the 
backyard. To rest your body, you don’t need to go to a day spa; 
you can simply relax in the tub at home. 
 Emotionally. Interacting socially with others allows you to 
make meaningful connections, and it makes you feel good. This 
can be achieved by chatting with the woman at the coffee shop 
or by calling your mom once a week. 
 Mentally. Exercising and expanding your mind through 
learning, reading, writing, and teaching can be done frugally. 
Visit your local library, or volunteer at a school or retirement 
home to teach others a skill you may be taking for granted.
 Spiritually. Spend time close to nature and expand your 
spiritual self through meditation, music, art, or prayer. Take a 
quiet moment to center yourself and empty your mind before 
going to bed. Or, go for a hike and be grateful for the beauty of 
nature surrounding you. 
Frugality doesn’t mean having to give up all the luxuries 
and things which make you happy. Don’t get burned out by 
developing habits one through six without taking the time to 
renew yourself. Frugality is something you want to develop and 
maintain for the long-term. Follow these seven habits, and you’ll 
be on your way to becoming a highly frugal person. 
Do you consider yourself a highly frugal person? How 
did you get there? 
This post was originally written by Alban, and a parody of the 
amazing book, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. He’s a 
personal finance writer for Finder.com.au. 
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One of the most direct way to change your life, you need 
to change your attitude. 
No one else is responsible for what happens to you but you, so you 
can either complain about the things you don’t like in your life or 
you can set about changing them. Not surprisingly, this directly 
relates to the state of your finances. 
If you’re tired of living paycheck to paycheck, having your 
phone regularly cut off, or making excuses to skip dinners with 
your friends, then you can use these seven habits to take 
control of your money situation and live a happier 
and more frugal lifestyle. 
Habit One: Be Proactive
The first habit to develop is to take responsibility; if you fail, you 
have no one to blame but yourself. Regardless of how you were 
raised or how you were treated at school, you can choose your 
behavior now. Being proactive means understanding that YOU 
are in control of your day-to-day interactions, and thereby, the 
direction your life takes. This is in stark comparison to a reactive 
person, who is often affected by their environment and will find 
external sources to blame for their behavior. For example, if the 
weather is good, they’re in a good mood, but if the weather is bad, 
it affects them and they blame the weather for their bad mood. 
[Here are 6 action steps to take when you feel financially 
vulnerable.] 
What most people forget is that though you can’t control the 
stimulus, you can control your response. One of your most 
important choices is your words; the language you use is an 
effective indication of how you see yourself. If you use proactive 
language, such as “I can” or “I will,” you’re starting with a more 
positive attitudethan someone who uses language like “I can’t” 
or “I have to” or “If only.” 
How to be proactive for effective frugality: 
 Take the first step. You cannot take control of your finances 
until you make the commitment to do so; the more you ignore 
the situation, the worse it will get. Instead, take a long hard 
look at your finances — your budget, debts, income, and 
expenses, and try to understand where your money is going and 
where you can budget better. (To help you out, here are 25 
ways to pay off your debt more easily.) 
 Tell people. Using proactive language to vocalize your hope of 
being more financially responsible not only helps you crystallize 
your goal, but it can also help you avoid the peer pressure that 
makes budgeting and frugality hard. If you explain to your 
friends and family that you’re trying to live a more frugal
lifestyle, they’ll be less likely to pressure you into one more 
round of drinks or another dinner out. 
 Listen. Listen to yourself and to the reasons you give each time 
you make a purchase outside of your budget or decide not to 
put spare money into your savings account. Taking the time to 
stop and listen to the reasons you give yourself for spending 
more than you earn will give you the opportunity to hear just 
how shallow many of those reasons are. This can stop you from 
making purchases that impede your goal of effective frugality. 
Habit Two: Begin with the End in Mind 
Those who are effective in achieving their goals are able to 
envisage their desired end result in spite of the obstacles. Effective 
people adhere to this habit based on the principle that all things 
are created twice; there is first the mental creation, then the 
physical creation. The physical creation follows the mental 
creation the same way that a building follows its blueprints. 
If you don’t visualize what you want, then you’re at risk 
of other people and external circumstances influencing 
your life – because you’re not influencing it yourself. Instead, 
begin every day and every task with a clear vision of where you 
want to go and how you’re going to get there. Make that vision a 
reality with your proactive skills from habit one. 
How to visualize effective frugality: 
 Define your goal. There are many ways to live a frugal 
lifestyle, and you need to decide how frugal you want to be. Do 
you want to be debt free, build a savings account of a certain 
value, or live on one income in a two-income household? 
 Decide how you’re going to get there. This will again draw 
on your budget, but you need to be aware of the obstacles that 
are standing in your way. These may be literal obstacles, such 
as credit card debts, or they may be obstacles you’ve identified 
in your behavior. An example of a behavioral obstacle would be
spending $10 every day on junk food on your way home from 
work, because you’re starving. Instead, you could be packing an 
inexpensive granola bar to keep you going until dinner. Or, do 
you find that when you go shopping with your sister, she always 
helps you justify a frivolous purchase, when you could leave 
your credit card at home? 
MoneyNing Tip: Make sure your goals are SMART! 
Habit Three: Put First Things First 
Knowing WHY you’re doing something is an incredible motivator 
in helping you transform a mental creation into an actual physical 
creation of your goal. Ask yourself what the things are that you 
find most valuable and worthy to you. When you put these things 
first, you’ll be organizing and managing your time around your 
personal priorities to make them a reality. 
For many people, it’s hard to say no, but this is exactly the 
skill you have to learn to keep your goals as your first 
priority. While we are constantly told we can have it all, in 
reality, having it all is really about prioritizing what is most 
important to YOU to have, and then focusing on that. 
How to put effective frugality first: 
 Recognize the effects of your finances. You may not 
dedicate as much time as you should to managing your finances 
and practicing frugal principles because you feel there’s 
always something more important to be doing — whether it’s 
work, taking the kids to soccer practice, or getting ready for 
dinner with the girls. If your finances aren’t under control, 
however, and you’re regularly spending more than you earn, 
then they’re having a negative impact on every other aspect of 
your life, from your work to your family and friends. You need 
to recognize that being frugal is your first priority.
 Just say no. It’s easy to spend more than your budgeted 
amount each month when you’re worried about missing out on 
a dinner with friends, feel as though you have to cater a 
birthday party for your son and 50 of his closest friends, or 
don’t want to wear the same suit to a work conference two years 
in a row. If you recognize that you don’t have to take on 
everything and that it’s okay to say no, then you’ll find you’re 
more in control of your spending and your budget. 
Habit Four: Think Win-Win 
Most of us are taught to base our self-worth on comparisons to 
others and competition against our peers. We think we can only 
succeed if someone else has failed. We’re also taught that there’s 
only so much pie to go around, so if you get a big piece, then 
someone else is missing out. When you think like this, you’re 
going to feel like nothing is ever fair. As a result, many of us 
retaliate and take the pie before someone else can take it from us. 
Thinking in a win-win mindset allows you to see mutual 
benefits from all of your interactions. By doing this, you’ll 
see that the pie tastes even better when it’s shared. If you can 
approach conflicts and problems with a win-win attitude, you’ll be 
able to express your ideas and feelings with courage, while still 
maintaining consideration for the feelings and ideas of others. 
When you have an abundance mentality, you’re able to see 
that there is enough for everyone, and that by balancing your 
confidence with empathy, you can achieve your goals while 
helping others achieve theirs. 
How to create frugal win-win situations: 
 Recognize that you don’t always know the full story. As 
you aim to implement frugal principles and stick to a budget, 
you may often find yourself thinking “it’s not fair.” It’s not fair 
that they get to go out to dinner. It’s not fair that they get a new 
car. It’s not fair that they get to go on vacation, and I don’t.
Take the time to realize, however, that you’re only seeing a 
small part of the finances of your friends and family who seem 
to “have it all.” And though it’s hard to watch your best friend 
take a dream European holiday, or your brother buy the car you 
covet, you’ll get there, too — if you manage your finances 
frugally. And the best part? There will still be plenty of holiday 
destinations and fast cars when that time rolls around. 
 Understand the difference between possessions and 
net worth. While your friends and family may seem to have a 
fuller lifestyle because their house is bigger or their car is 
newer, you need to consider that it could just be a facade 
covering their mountains of debt. True wealth is not 
measured in possessions, but in assets. When the value 
of your assets is greater than the amount you owe on 
mortgages, car loans, and credit card debts, then you have a 
strong net worth and are truly wealthy. By trying to live a more 
effectively frugal lifestyle, you’ll be able to achieve true wealth, 
rather than just a life full of stuff. 
MoneyNing Tip: When building wealth, remember to look 
at the big picture, too. 
Habit Five: Communication 
At its base, communication is the desire to be heard and 
understood. Most people will listen with the intention to reply to 
what you’re saying, rather than to understand what you’ve 
said. To effectively communicate, you need to first 
understand. If you communicate with the sole intention of 
being understood, you may ignore what others are saying and 
miss their meaning entirely. Don’t just wait for your turn to talk; 
pay attention to what people are trying to tell you. 
How listening can help you be effectively frugal: 
 You are not the only person in your life. Chances are 
you’re married or in a relationship, have friends or children, or
all of the above. As a result, you’re not the only person being 
affected by your decision to live a more frugal lifestyle. To be 
effective in your goal of frugality, you need to be able to listen to 
and understand the goals and behaviors of the other people in 
your life, too. Consider how effective your frugality would be if 
you were taking packed lunches to work and avoiding the 
afternoon coffee run, while your partner was going on shopping 
sprees during their lunch break. Instead of living a more frugal 
lifestyle, you’d really be saving on one end and spending on the 
other. 
 Understand the goals and needs of others. While it’s 
important to explain your desire to live more frugally, it’s also 
important that you understand the goals and needs of those 
around you. This way, you can find a way to be more frugal 
without them having to give up all of the things that are most 
important to them. You can’t know what those things are 
unless you listen. 
Habit Six: Synergize 
Interactions and teamwork are some of the most important ways 
you can learn new skills and more effective behaviors. Synergizing 
is the habit of creative cooperation — working as a team to 
find new solutions to existing problems. Synergy is not 
something that just happens. It’s a process where you bring all of 
your personal experience and expertise to the table, enabling 
more effective results than those you would have been able to 
achieve individually. The whole is greater than the sum of its 
parts. 
When you have genuine interactions with people, you’re able to 
gain new insights and see new approaches to your problems — 
ones you might not have thought of before. 
How to synergize for effective frugality:
 Look for new ways. In a society that excels at consumerism, 
you’ve probably already realized that you need to find new ways 
of doing just about everything to be frugal. It’s easy to buy your 
lunch every day, but it’s more frugal to pack it. It’s easy to drive 
to work, but it’s more frugal to take the train. It’s easy to buy a 
new cocktail dress, but it’s more frugal to make one. 
 Surround yourself with other frugal people. To be 
successful in your quest for frugality, surround yourself with 
like-minded people. Find people who are where you want to be 
by joining online frugal-living forums, striking up a friendship 
with a fellow coupon-cutter, or starting a sewing club. When 
you’re around people with the same goals as you, you’ll be able 
to share ideas and learn from each other. 
MoneyNing Tip: Learn to embrace the positive influence of 
saving money. 
Habit Seven: Sharpen the Saw 
You’re the greatest asset you have on your journey to 
achieving the lifestyle you want, so you need to look after 
yourself physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. Taking 
the time to renew yourself in these areas of your life will give you 
strength to maintain the previous six habits, which are essential 
for your success. 
How to frugally renew yourself: 
 Physically. By eating better, you’ll feel better. Take it another 
step further and start your own vegetable patch, which will save 
you money at the supermarket and be healthier for you. 
Exercising keeps you fit and healthy, and it doesn’t cost you 
anything to go for a walk, ride a bike, or skip rope in the 
backyard. To rest your body, you don’t need to go to a day spa; 
you can simply relax in the tub at home. 
 Emotionally. Interacting socially with others allows you to 
make meaningful connections, and it makes you feel good. This
can be achieved by chatting with the woman at the coffee shop 
or by calling your mom once a week. 
 Mentally. Exercising and expanding your mind through 
learning, reading, writing, and teaching can be done frugally. 
Visit your local library, or volunteer at a school or retirement 
home to teach others a skill you may be taking for granted. 
 Spiritually. Spend time close to nature and expand your 
spiritual self through meditation, music, art, or prayer. Take a 
quiet moment to center yourself and empty your mind before 
going to bed. Or, go for a hike and be grateful for the beauty of 
nature surrounding you. 
Frugality doesn’t mean having to give up all the luxuries 
and things which make you happy. Don’t get burned out by 
developing habits one through six without taking the time to 
renew yourself. Frugality is something you want to develop and 
maintain for the long-term. Follow these seven habits, and you’ll 
be on your way to becoming a highly frugal person. 
Do you consider yourself a highly frugal person? How 
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pennyYesterday, I discussed how anyone can turn their financial life around if they just take that first 
step – the first step is always the hardest one. After that, you start taking more and more little steps 
and before you know it, your financial life is getting better and better. 
What follows is a list of 100 more steps to take. Each of these tactics are simple little moves you can 
make to improve your financial situation. Some of them take just a few minutes, others might take an 
hour or two, some of them require a bit of regular effort, but they’re all incredibly simple – anyone 
can do them. Each of them also save significant money, especially over the long haul, and when 
combined together these tips can save you a lot of money now. 
Obviously, not all of these tips will apply to everyone. Just go through the list and find ten or fifteen 
that do apply to you and use them in your life – you’ll quickly find yourself saving some serious 
scratch. 
100 Ways to Save Money 
1. Switch your bank accounts to a bank that respects you. 
You shouldn’t be spending your hard-earned money on maintenance fees – you also should be 
earning some serious interest on your checking and savings accounts. Interest rates are not what 
they once were, but some of the best free checking accounts and best savings accounts can be 
found online. Here’s a guide on how to make that switch. 
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2. Turn off the television. 
One big way to save money is to watch less television. There are a lot of financial benefits to this: 
less exposure to guilt-inducing ads, more time to focus on other things in life, less electrical use, and 
so on. It’s great to unwind in the evening, but seek another hobby to do that. 
3. Turn a critical eye to your “collections.”
Most people collect something – what do you collect? Is it something that consistently brings you 
joy? Or is it something that you just do out of habit at this point? Does the collection itself have 
value? Could you perhaps “trim the fat” from this collection by getting rid of duplicates or getting rid 
of the items you no longer use? Also, could you perhaps cut down on your spending on that hobby? 
Focus on trimming the things you don’t feel strongly about – if you dig into things that bother you, 
you’re going to eventually relapse. 
4. Sign up for every free customer rewards program you can. 
Even if you rarely shop at that place, having a rewards card for that place will eventually net you 
some coupons and discounts. Here’s the basic game plan for maximizing these programs: create a 
Gmail address just for these mailings, collect every card you can, and then check that account for 
extra coupons whenever you’re ready to shop. Another good idea is to use Rewards Credit Cards 
that give points on purchases at a wide range of stores. Check out this post on the best rewards 
credit cards for some recommended cards. 
5. Make your own gifts instead of buying stuff from the store. 
You can make food mixes, candles, bread, cookies, soap, and all kinds of other things at home quite 
easily and inexpensively. These make spectacular gifts for others because they involve your 
homemade touch, plus quite often they’re consumable, meaning they don’t wind up filling someone’s 
closet with junk. Even better – include a personal handwritten note with the gift. This will make it 
even more special than anything you could possibly buy down at the mall, plus it saves you money. 
6. Master the thirty day rule. 
Whenever you’re considering making an unnecessary purchase, wait thirty days and then ask 
yourself if you still want that item. Quite often, you’ll find that the urge to buy has passed and you’ll 
have saved yourself some money by simply waiting. If you want, you can even keep a “thirty day list” 
where you write down the item and the day you’ll reconsider it, but I prefer just to keep this one in my 
head – that way, I often just forget about the unimportant things. 
7. Write a list before you go shopping – and stick to it. 
One should never go into a store without a strong idea of what one will be buying while in there. 
Make a careful plan of what you’ll buy before you go, then stick strictly to that list when you go to the 
store. Don’t put anything in the cart that’s not on the list, no matter how tempting, and you’ll come 
out of the store saving a bundle. 
8. Invite friends over instead of going out. 
Almost every activity at home is less expensive than going out. Invite some friends over and have a 
cookout or a potluck meal, then play some cards and have a few drinks. Everyone will have fun, the 
cost will be low, and the others will likely reciprocate not long afterwards. 
9. Instead of throwing out some damaged clothing, repair it instead. 
Don’t toss out a shirt because of a broken button – sew a new one on with some closely-matched 
thread. Don’t toss out pants because of a hole in them – put in a patch of some sort and save them 
for times when you’re working around the house. Simple sewing can be done by anyone – it just 
takes a few minutes and it saves a lot of money by keeping you from buying new clothes when you 
don’t really need to.
10. Don’t spend big money entertaining your children. 
Most children, especially young ones, can be entertained very cheaply. Buy them an end roll of 
newspaper from your local paper and let their creativity run wild. Make a game out of ordinary stu ff 
around the house, like tossing pennies into a jar, even. Realize that what your children want most of 
all is your time, not your stuff, and you’ll find money in your pocket and joy in your heart. 
11. Call your credit card company and ask for a rate reduction. 
Take any of your credit cards that are carrying a balance, flip them over, and call the number on the 
back. Tell them that you want an interest rate reduction or you’ll take your business elsewhere. If the 
first person you talk to won’t do it, ask to talk to a supervisor. If you have a $5,000 balance, even a 
3% rate reduction saves you $150 a year. 
12. Clean out your closet. 
Go through your closets and try to get rid of some of the stuff in there. You can have a yard sale with 
it, take it to a consignment shop, or even donate it for the tax deduction – all of which turn old stuff 
you don’t want to use any more into money in your pocket. Not only that, it’s often a psychological 
load off your mind to clean out your closets. 
13. Buy video games that have a lot of replay value – and don’t acquire new ones until you’ve 
mastered what you have. 
My video game buying habits have changed quite a bit since my “game of the week” days. Now, I 
focus on games that can be played over and over and over again, and I focus on mastering the 
games that I buy. Good targets include puzzle games and long, involved quest games – they 
maximize the value of your gaming dollar. 
14. Drink more water. 
Not only does drinking plenty of water have great health benefits, water drinking has financial 
benefits, too. Drink a big glass of water before each meal, and not only will you digest it better, you 
won’t eat as much, saving on the ol’ food bill. You’ll also find yourself feeling a bit better as you begin 
to get adequately hydrated (most Americans are perpetually somewhat dehydrated). 
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15. Cut back on the convenience foods – fast foods, microwave meals, and so on. 
Instead of eating fast food or just nuking some prepackaged food when you get home, try making 
some simple and healthy replacements that you can take with you. An hour’s worth of preparation 
one weekend can give you a ton of cheap and handy meals that will end up saving you a lot of cash 
and not eat into your time when you’re busy. 
16. Give up expensive habits, like cigarettes, alcohol, and drugs. 
Those habits cause money to flow away from you with nothing in return. Call up your fortitude and 
work hard to kick the habits and you’ll find that money staying in your pocket instead of burning up 
and floating away. 
17. Make a quadruple batch of a casserole.
Casseroles are nice, easy dishes to prepare, but on busy nights, it’s often still easier to just order 
some take-out or eat out or just plop a prepackaged meal in the oven. Instead, the next time you 
make a casserole, make four batches of it and put the other three in the freezer. Then, the next time 
you need a quick meal for the family, grab one of those batches and just heat it up – easy as can be. 
Even better, doing this allows you to buy the ingredients in bulk, making each casserole cheaper 
than it would be ordinarily – and far, far cheaper than eating out or trying a prepackaged meal. 
18. Be diligent about turning off lights before you leave. 
If you spend one minute turning off lights before a two hour trip, that’s the equivalent of earning $50 
an hour. That’s some impressive savings, particularly if you do it before longer trips. The key is to 
use less energy, particularly when you’re not using the device. 
19. Swap books, music, and DVDs cheaply on the internet via services like PaperBackSwap. 
You can very easily swap the books and CDs and DVDs you’ve grown bored with via the internet 
with others. Just use sites like PaperBackSwap, clean out your media collection, and trade them with 
others online. The best part? You’ll get a flood of new books (or CDs or DVDs) to enjoy, mailed right 
to you – for free. 
20. Maximize yard sales. 
I like to stop by yard sales if I see them, but I recognize that often the stuff there is junk. Thus, I’m 
careful about what I buy and I use clever tactics to find it – and lower the prices. That way, I wind up 
with a really big bargain – or else I can just walk away with the money in my pocket, having been 
entertained for a bit. 
21. Install CFL (or, even better, LED) bulbs wherever it makes sense. 
These bulbs might cost more initially, but they both have a longer life than normal incandescent 
bulbs and they both eat far less electricity. CFLs tend to use about 25% of the electricity of an 
incandescent – LEDs use about 2%. CFLs are cheaper than LEDs right now and produce better 
light, but not quite as good as incandescent bulbs. My policy? Put LEDs in closets and out of the 
way places, use CFLs for hall and some room lighting, and use incandescent bulbs (until the other 
bulbs get better) where you read and do other eye-intensive activities. This will trim a significant 
amount from your electric bill. 
22. Install a programmable thermostat. 
These devices regulate the temperature in your house automatically according to the schedule that 
you set. Thus, when you’re not home, it allows the heating or cooling to turn off for several hours, 
saving you on your energy bill. A programmable thermostat can easily cut your energy bill by 10 to 
20%. Nest is the new generation programmable thermostat that learns and connects to WiFi so it 
can be controlled remotely. 
23. Buy appliances based on reliability, not what’s cheapest at the store. 
It’s worth the time to do a bit of research when you buy a new appliance. A reliable, energy efficient 
washer and dryer might cost you quite a bit now, but if it continually saves you energy and lasts for 
fifteen years, you’ll save significant money in the long run. When you need to buy an appliance, 
research it – start with back issues of Consumer Reports at the library. An hour’s worth of research 
can easily save you hundreds of dollars.
24. Clean your car’s air filter. 
A clean air filter can improve your gas mileage by up to 7%, saving you more than $100 for every 
10,000 miles you drive in an average vehicle. Plus, cleaning your air filter is easy to do in just a few 
minutes – just follow the instructions in your automobile’s manual and you’re good to go. 
25. Hide your credit cards. 
Take your credit cards and put them in a safe place in your home, not in your wallet where it’s easy 
to spend them. If you argue that you need it for “emergencies,” just be sure to keep a small amount 
of cash hidden in your wallet for these emergencies. Don’t keep plastic on you until you have the 
willpower to not use it even when you’re sorely tempted. 
26. Plan your meals around your grocery store’s flyer. 
Instead of just planning your meals based on a cookbook or whatever you can dream up, plan all 
your meals around what’s on sale in your grocery store’s flyer. Look at the biggest sales, then plan 
meals based on those ingredients and what you have on hand, and you’ll find yourself with a much 
smaller food bill than you’re used to. 
27. Do a price comparison – and find a cheaper grocery store. 
Most of us get in a routine of shopping at the same grocery store, even though quite often it’s not the 
one that offers the best deals on our most common purchases. Fortunately, there’s a simple way to 
find the cheapest store around. Just keep track of the twenty or so things you buy most often, then 
shop for these items at a variety of stores. Eventually, one store will come out on top for your 
purchases – just make that one your regular shopping destination and you’ll automatically save 
money. 
28. Challenge yourself to try making your own things. 
Before I tried it myself, I thought homemade breadmaking was complicated and a waste of time and 
money. I came to find out that it was pretty easy and it was actually much cheaper, healthier, and 
tastier than buying a loaf from the store. Now, we rarely ever buy bread products at the store – and 
we save money by making that choice. 
29. Don’t spend money just to de-stress. 
Quite often, I used to spend money just to wind down from a stressful day at work. Instead, I’ve 
found that I quite often feel much better by going home and taking some quiet time just to stretch 
and then meditate. I end up feeling much more together, happy, and ready to face an evening with 
the kids in the right mindset than I ever would by just blowing some cash after work. Instead of 
spending to de-stress, try some basic meditation techniques, stretching, or yoga and see how you 
feel. 
30. Talk to your loved ones about what your dreams are. 
This seems like an odd way to save money, but think about it. If you spend time with the people you 
love the most and come to some consensus about your dreams, it becomes easy for you all to plan 
for it. If you’re all planning and working together towards this dream, it becomes easier to stay 
focused on it and reach it. Set a big, audacious goal together and encourage each other to be
financially fit – soon, you’ll find you’re doing it naturally and your dreams are coming closer than 
ever. 
31. Do a “maintenance run” on your appliances. 
Check them to make sure there isn’t any dust clogging them and that they’re fairly clean. Look 
behind the appliances, and use your vacuum to gently clear away dust. Check all of the vents, 
especially on refrigerators, dryers, and heating and cooling units. The less dust you have blocking 
the mechanics of these devices, the more efficiently they’ll run (saving you on your energy bill) and 
the longer they’ll last (saving you on replacement costs). 
32. Cancel unused club memberships. 
Are you paying dues at a club that you never use? Like, for instance, a gym membership or a 
country club membership? Cancel these club memberships, even if you think you might use them 
again someday – you can always renew the membership at a later date if it turns out that you 
actually do miss it. 
33. When shopping for standard items (clothes, sports equipment, older games, etc.), start by 
shopping used. 
Quite often, you can find the exact item you want with a bit of clever shopping at used equipment 
stores, used game stores, consignment shops, and so on. Just make these shops a part of your 
normal routine – go there first when looking for potential items and you will save money. 
34. Keep your hands clean. 
This one’s simple – just wash your hands thoroughly each time you use the bathroom or handle raw 
foods. You’ll keep yourself from acquiring all kinds of viruses and bacteria, saving you on medical 
bills and medicine costs and lost productivity. That’s not to say you shouldn’t explore the world and 
get your hands dirty sometimes – that’s good for you, too – but basic sanitation does help keep the 
medical bills away. 
35. Remove your credit card numbers from your online accounts. 
It’s easy to spend online when you have your card information stored in an account – just click and 
buy. The best way to break this habit is to simply delete your card from the account. That way, when 
you’re tempted to spend, you’ll be forced to spend the time to dig out your card – and really think 
about why you’re spending this money. 
36. Give a gift of a service instead of an item. 
For new parents, give an evening of babysitting as a gift. If you know pet owners, offer to take care 
of their pets when they travel. Offer up some lawn care as a gift to a new homeowner. These are 
always spectacular gifts for anyone – I know that, as a parent of a toddler and an infant, I love 
receiving a babysitting gift, probably more than any “stuff” I might receive. 
37. Do holiday shopping right after the holidays. 
Most people use this technique for Christmas, but it works for every holiday. Wait until about two 
days after a holiday, then go out shopping for items you need that are themed for that day. Get a 
Mother’s Day card for next year the day after Mother’s Day. Get Easter egg decorating kits the day
after Easter. Get wrapping paper and cards and such the day after Christmas. The discounts are 
tremendous, and you can just put this stuff in the closet until next year, saving you a bundle. 
38. Join up with a volunteer program. 
It’s a great way to meet new people, get some exercise, and involve yourself in a positive project 
that can lift your spirit. It also comes without a cost to you and can provide a lot of entertainment and 
a fulfilling day when you’re in the right mindset. I’ve come to spend more and more of my time 
volunteering, serving on various committees and groups in the community – and it’s the best thing 
I’ve ever done. 
39. Reevaluate the stuff in the rooms in your house. 
Go into a room and go through every single item in it. Do you really need that item? Are you happy 
that it’s there, or would you be just fine if it were not? If you can find stuff to get rid of, get rid of it – it 
just creates clutter and it might have some value to others. You also improve the perceived value of 
your house – and you’re likely to get a lot of cleaning done in the process. It’s a frugal win -win-win. 
40. Try generic brands of items you buy regularly. 
Instead of just picking up the ordinary brand of an item you buy, tr y out the store brand or generic 
version of the item. Likely, you’ll save a few cents now, but you’ll also likely discover that the store 
brand is just as good as the name brand – the only difference between the two, often, is the 
marketing. Once you’re on board the generic train, you’ll find your regular grocery bill getting smaller 
and smaller. 
41. Prepare some meals at home. 
Get an accessible and easy-to-use cookbook (my favorite “beginner” cookbook is Mark Bittman’s 
excellent How to Cook Everything) and try making some of the dishes inside. You’ll find that cooking 
at home is much easier than you think – and way cheaper and healthier than take-out or dining out. 
Even better, you can easily prepare meals in advance – even handy fast food type meals. 
42. Switch to term life insurance. 
Repeat after me: insurance is not an investment. Switch to cheap term insurance instead and use 
that difference in cost to get yourself out of debt and start building some wealth. Universal and whole 
policies are much more expensive and offer a sub par investment opportunity – you’re much better 
off getting yourself free of a debt burden than spending extra on such things. 
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43. Go for reliability and fuel efficiency when buying a car.
A reliable and fuel efficient car will save you thousands over the long haul. Let’s say you drive a 
vehicle for 80,000 miles. If you choose a 25 miles per gallon car over a 15 miles per gallon car, you 
save 2,133 gallons of gas. At $3 a gallon, that’s $6,400 in savings right there. Reliability can pay the 
same dividends. Do the research – it will pay off for you. 
44. Don’t go to stores or shopping centers for entertainment. 
Doing so is just an encouragement to spend money you don’t really have on stuff yo u don’t really 
need. Instead, find other places to entertain yourself – the park, the basketball court, a museum, a 
friend’s house, or even in your own home. Don’t substitute shopping for entertainment and you’ll be 
way better off. 
45. Master the ten second rule. 
Whenever you pick up an item in order to add it to your cart or to take it to the checkout, stop for ten 
seconds and ask yourself why you’re buying it and whether you actually need it or not. If you can’t 
find a good answer, put the item back. This keeps me from making impulse buys on a regular basis. 
46. Rent out unused space in your home. 
Do you have an extra bedroom that’s not being used? Rent it out. In our home, we could, if times 
were tough, rent out our entire basement – it has a “living room,” a bedroom, and a bathroom and 
has a stairwell right by the kitchen. If we found the right person, this would bring in a lot of extra 
money. 
47. Create a visual reminder of your debt. 
Basically, just make a giant progress bar that starts with the amount of debt you have and ends with 
zero. Each time you pay down a little bit, fill in a little more of that progress bar. Keep this reminder 
in a place where you’ll see it often, and keep filling it in regularly. It keeps your eyes on the prize and 
leads you straight to debt freedom. 
48. Get rid of unread magazine subscriptions. 
Do you have a pile of unread magazines sitting around your house? Likely, it’s the result of a 
subscription that you’re not reading. Not only should you not renew that magazine, you should give 
their subscription department a call and try to cancel for a refund – sometimes, they’ll give you the 
prorated amount back. I’ve had to cull my subscriptions in the past, but I’ve never regretted it. 
49. Eat breakfast. 
Eating a healthy breakfast fills you up with energy for the day and also decreases your desire to eat 
a big lunch in the middle of the day. Not only that, breakfast can be very healthy, quick, and 
inexpensive. A bowl of oatmeal in the morning is often the one thing that keeps me from running out 
to eat an expensive lunch later in the day – and it keeps me peppy and full of energy for the entire 
morning instead of in a coffee-laced daze. 
50. Swap babysitting with neighbors. 
We live in a neighborhood with an army of young children out and about. Because of that, there are 
a lot of parents out there who are quite willing to swap babysitting nights with us, saving you the 
money of hiring one for an evening out. A few families even take this to incredible extremes. Try to
find another set of parents or two that you trust, and swap nights of babysitting with them. That way, 
you’ll get occasional evenings free without the cost of a babysitter, saving you some scratch. 
51. Don’t fear leftovers – instead, jazz them up. 
Many people dread eating leftovers – they’re just inferior rehashes of regular meals, not exactly 
enjoyable to the discerning palate. However, there’s nothing cheaper than eating leftovers and with a 
few great techniques for making leftovers tasty, you can often end up with something surprising and 
quite delicious on the other end. My favorite technique? Chaining – using the leftovers as a basis for 
an all-new dish. 
52. Go through your clothes – all of them. 
If you have a regular urge to buy clothes, go through everything that you have and see what you 
might find. Take the clothes at the back of the closet and bring them to the front and suddenly your 
wardrobe will feel completely different. Take the clothes buried in your dresser and pull them to the 
top. You’ll feel like a brand new person who doesn’t need to spend money on clothes right now. 
53. Brown bag your lunch. 
Instead of going out to eat at work, take your own lunch. Lots of people think that this means “nasty 
lunch,” but it doesn’t. With some thoughtful preparation and just a few minutes of time, you can 
create something quite enjoyable for your brown bag lunch – and save a fistful of cash each day, 
too. 
54. Learn how to dress minimally. 
Buy clothes that mix and match well and you’ll not need nearly as many clothes. If you have five 
pants, seven shirts, and seven ties that all go together, you have almost an endless wardrobe right 
there just by mixing and matching. This is exactly what I do in order to minimize clothes buying and 
still look professional – I just mix and remix what I wear by using utilitarian clothes options to begin 
with. 
55. Ask for help and encouragement from your inner circle. 
Sit down and talk to the people you love and care about the most and ask them for help. Tell them 
that you’re trying to trim your spending and you’d love it if they offered any suggestions and support 
they might have – and pay attention to what they tell you. They might have some personal insights 
for your situation that will really help. 
56. If something’s broken, give a fair shot at repairing it yourself before replacing it or calling a 
repairman. 
Get a handyman’s book or advice from the internet and give it a shot yourself. I’ve fixed clocks, air 
conditioners, and VCRs by doing this before, saving significant cash by saving on a replacement or 
on a repair person. 
57. Keep an idea notebook in your pocket. 
I’ve wasted countless amounts of time and money simply because I’ve forgotten things in my head. 
Instead of relying on my memory, I keep a small notebook with me to jot down ideas and things I 
need to remember, then I check it regularly throughout the day. This keeps me from forgetting to 
pick up milk and having to backtrack ten miles, for starters.
58. Invest in a deep freezer. 
A deep freezer, after the initial investment, is a great bargain. You can use it to store all sorts of bulk 
foods, which enables you to pay less per pound of it at the market. Even better, you can store lots of 
meals prepared in advance, enabling you to just go home and pop something homemade (and 
cheap) in the oven. 
59. Look for a cheaper place to live. 
The cost of living in Iowa is surprisingly low, enough so that I’m quite happy to give up the cultural 
opportunities of other places to enjoy Iowa all year around. When I want to enjoy the cultural 
opportunities of another place, I’ll travel there – after all, I can afford it. Take a serious look about 
moving to a less expensive area – if you can find work there, then a move can definitely put you in 
better financial shape. 
60. Check out what your town’s parks and recreation board has to offer. 
My town has several wonderful parks, free basketball and tennis courts, free disc golf, trails, and lots 
of other stuff just there waiting to be used. You can go have fun for hours out in the wonderful 
outdoors, playing sports, hiking on trails, or trying other activities – and it’s all there for free. All you 
have to do is discover it. 
61. Air up your tires. 
For every two PSI that all of your tires are below the recommended level, you lose 1% on your gas 
mileage. Most car tires are five to ten PSI below the normal level, so that means by just airing up 
your tires, you can improve your gas mileage by up to 5%. It’s easy, too. Just read your car’s manual 
to see what the recommended tire pressure is, then head to the gas station. Ask the attendant inside 
if they have a tire air gauge you can borrow (most of them do, both in urban and rural settings), then 
stop over by the air pump. Check your tires, then use the pump to fill them up to where the y should 
be. It’s basically free gas! 
62. Start a garden. 
Gardening is an inexpensive hobby if you have a yard. Just rent a tiller, till up a patch, plant some 
plants, keep it weeded, and you’ll have a very inexpensive hobby that produces a huge amount o f 
vegetables for you to eat at the end of the season. I like planting a bunch of tomato plants, keeping 
them cared for, then enjoying a huge flood of tomatoes at the end of the summer. We like to eat 
them fresh, can them, and make tomato juice, sauce, paste, ketchup, pasta sauce, and pizza sauce. 
Delicious (and very inexpensive)! 
63. Dig into your community calendar. 
There are often tons of free events going on in your town that you don’t even know about. Stop by 
the local library or by city hall and ask how you can get ahold of a listing of upcoming community 
events, and make an effort to hit the interesting ones. You can often get free meals, free 
entertainment, and free stuff just by paying attention – even better, you’ll get in touch with what’s 
going on around you. 
64. Take public transportation.
If the city’s transit system is available near you, take it to work (or to play) instead of driving your car. 
It’s far cheaper and you don’t have to worry about parking your vehicle. When I lived in a larger city, I 
bought an annual transit pass that actually paid for itself after less than two months of use compared 
to using an automobile – and after that, for ten months, I basically could ride to work (and to some 
events) for free. That’s money in the bank. 
65. Cut your own hair. 
I can cut mine myself with a pair of clippers, for example. I just cut it really short every once in a 
while and don’t worry about it too much. Just put a garbage bag over the bathroom sink, bust out the 
clippers and scissors, and get it done. Two or three cuts will pay for the clippers, and then you’re 
basically getting free haircuts. With a bit of practice, you can make it look good, too. 
66. Carpool. 
Is there anyone that lives near you who works at the same place (or near the same place) that you 
do? Why not ride together, alternating drivers each day? You can halve the wear and tear and gas 
costs for your car – and for your acquaintance as well. 
67. Design your “debt snowball.” 
Everyone needs a plan to help them get out of debt, so sit down and plot out what debts you’re 
going to pay off and in what order. Simply having a plan goes a long way towards bringing that plan 
into action, and paying off debts early is one of the surest ways to put money in your pocket over the 
long run. 
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68. Get a crock pot. 
A crock pot is perhaps the best deal on earth for reducing cooking costs in a busy family. You can 
just dump in your ingredients before work, put it on simmer, and dinner is done when you get home. 
There are countless recipes out there for all variety of foods, and every time you cook this way, 
you’re saving money as compared to eating out. 
69. Do some basic home and auto maintenance on a regular schedule. 
Instead of just waiting until something breaks to deal with it , develop a monthly maintenance 
schedule where you go around your home (and your car) and perform a bit of maintenance where 
it’s needed. This little activity, taking you just an hour or two a month, will keep things from breaking 
down and help you see problems before they become disasters. 
70. Pack food before you go on a road trip. 
Have everyone pack a sack lunch for the trip. That way, instead of stopping in the middle of the trip, 
driving around looking for a place to eat, spending a bunch of time there, and then paying a hefty bill, 
you can just eat on the road or, better yet, stop at a nice park and stretch for a bit. Plus, you’ll save a 
lot of money and a fair amount of time this way. 
71. Go through your cell phone bill, look for services you don’t use, and ditch them. 
Sit down and go through each item on your bill and see if there’s anything there that you don’t use, 
like a surfeit of text messages or web access or something to that effect. Then call your cell phone 
company and ask to have those services eliminated. Boom, you’re saving money.
72. Consolidate your student loans. 
Interest rates are quite low right now, so it might be worthwhile to consolidate your student loans into 
one low-rate package. Look into the various student loan consolidation packages – even a 1% 
reduction on a $10,000 loan saves you $100 a year – and your loan is probably bigger than that (and 
the rate cut you could get is probably bigger). 
73. When buying a car, go for late model used. 
These are typically cars coming straight off of leases, meaning they were cared for by reliable 
owners. My truck was purchased with this criteria and has lasted me several years already with only 
one significant issue – and I saved a ton of money on the purchase price over buying new. Only now 
is it beginning to show significant signs of aging – and with the money I saved on that purchase, I 
was able to get out of debt that much quicker. 
74. Hit the library – hard. 
Don’t look at a library as just a place to get old books. Look at it as a free place to do all sorts of 
things. I’ve used it to learn a foreign language, meet people, use the Internet anonymously, check 
out movies and CDs, grab local free newspapers, and keep up on community events. Best of all, it 
doesn’t cost a dime. 
razor 
75. Use a simple razor to shave. 
I’ve been a big advocate of the basic safety razor for a long time, but that’s just one piece of the 
puzzle. For “normal” shaves, I just shave in the shower and dry off the blade afterwards, using just 
soap for lather – incredibly cheap, since I only swap blades once every few weeks. The real moral of 
the story? Use a simple razor – not an expensive electric one that stops working in three years – and 
shave your face when it’s wet. You can get a very good shave with some practice and save a lot of 
money over the long haul. 
76. Find daily inspiration for making intelligent moves. 
I’m usually inspired by my children. Perhaps you’re inspired to make changes by your spouse – or 
even by someone in the community you respect. Maybe it’s just a personal goal, like an early 
retirement. Find something that makes you want to make positive changes, then use that person or 
thing as a constant reminder. Keep a picture of it in your wallet, in your vehicle, and on your 
bathroom mirror. Keep it in your mind as much as you possibly can. 
77. Find out about all of the benefits of your job. 
Most people aren’t even aware of all of the benefits available to them. Spend some time with an HR 
person finding out about all the benefits of your job – you might be surprised at what you might find. I 
found free tickets to sporting events, free personal improvement opportunities, and an optional 
employee match on some retirement funds that maximized the money I was socking away. This not 
only cut down on my own spending on things like sporting and community events and educational 
classes, but also improved my retirement plan. 
78. Make your own items instead of buying them.
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  • 1. The speech you will give as a best man will be the toughest speech you give in your life. Or at least it would have been before you discovered this incredibly useful Madlibs-style template The speech you will give as a best man will be the toughest speech you give in your life. Or at least it would have been before you discovered this incredibly useful Madlibs-style template, which will shave your speech preparation down from a couple of weeks to 10 minutes For your speech to be truly perfect, however, you must respect these two rules as you feel in the blanks: 1. Maintain the right emotional balance. The perfect best man's speech makes the audience laugh at the beginning and cry at the end. Don't get too emotional too quickly, or they will snicker at you. 2. Keep your anecdotes accessible. There is nothing worse than a speech that only the best man and groom can understand. Your jokes should feel like inside jokes to as much of the room as possible.
  • 2. The Universally Perfect Best Man's Speech Good evening, everyone. Thanks for putting down your forks for long enough to give me your undivided attention. For those of you who don’t know who I am, I’m the best man. And before I say anything else, I’d like us all to take a moment to appreciate and raise our glasses to [names of parents who paid, starting with mom] for what has been thus far a wonderful celebration on such a special occasion. Now, I know that most of you don’t make it out often and only came here for the free [main course — probably chicken], so I’ve been asked by [bride’s name] to instruct you not to make a scene — I’m looking at you [troublesome uncle or youngest child in attendance]. I first met [groom’s name] at [authentic first meeting occasion], but I really got to know him at [another early meeting that supports coming anecdote].
  • 3. Don’t worry, [bride’s name]. I’m not leading to the story you’re worried about! So when I first saw [groom’s name] at [early meeting that supports coming anecdote], I couldn’t believe that he was [weird behavior that at least 80% of room will recognize]. Now, I know they say that you never get a second chance to make a first impression, but let’s just say that[groom’s name] should be grateful that that’s just a myth! [Groom] stopped doing [aforementioned weird behavior] not long after that meeting, but, happily, he didn’t lose his [positive personality trait driving weird behavior]. And for anyone who doubted that he did, let’s not forget about our night at [bachelor party venue]… Just kidding, [bride’s name]. [Groom’s name] was as well behaved… ahem, dull… as [grumpiest person in attendance]. But there’s a lot more to being [positive personality trait driving weird behavior] than [aforementioned weird behavior]. We’ve all seen [groom’s name] bring his [positive personality trait] to his work as a [groom’s profession] and to his pursuit of [universally recognized hobby or pastime]. And it’s definitely
  • 4. been a driving force in a friendship that has lasted [length of time of friendship], with a lot of years yet to come. And, in any case, we all knew that [aforementioned weird behavior]wouldn’t last forever. (At least we all hoped it wouldn’t!) If it had, then[bride’s name] probably wouldn’t have given [groom’s name] a second look at [venue of their first meeting], where they first met. Walking into[venue of their first meeting], I’m sure neither [groom’s name] nor [bride’s name] expected it to be the start of a journey that would lead us here today. After all, [bride’s name] was so busy with her [estimable occupation/hobby/passion of that time], while [groom’s name] was so busy with his [ridiculous/juvenile hobby], that neither thought that they had room for another person in their life. On [approximate date of first meeting], destiny changed their plans. And this was the first of many changes to come in [groom’s name]’s life. First of all, gone were his [bad lifestyle habit] and his [bad fashion trademark]! But, more importantly, we started to see [groom’s name]shine in ways we never knew possible. [Bride’s name], whether it was through her [positive
  • 5. personality trait] or her introducing [groom’s name]to [positive group activity], brought a new dimension of happiness to him that even I had never seen. But, having got to know [bride’s name]’s family a bit more in recent weeks, now I understand where this happiness comes from. In fact, tonight I see two very happy families coming together. And we all know how delicate interfamilial relations can be — particularly when one family is [nationality or religious denomination of groom’s family] and the other is [nationality or religious denomination of bride’s family]. But whether it’s over a steaming plate of [traditional meal associated with nationality of one group] or getting together around the [icon associated with religious denomination of other group], it all comes down the same thing: love and mutual respect. And I think you would all agree that there’s a lot of that in this room today, and I think you’d also agree that there’s a lot of that between [groom’s name] and [bride’s name]. So let’s all raise our glasses to the happy couple. [Groom’s name] may not[aforementioned weird behavior] anymore, but
  • 6. with [bride’s name] at his side, his [positive personality trait driving weird behavior] is now perfectly matched. Cheers! money makes every one perfect
  • 7. This Is Why Poor People's Bad Decisions Make Perfect Sense Posted: 11/22/2013 5:18 pm EST Updated: 06/19/2014 1:59 pm EDT LINDA TIRADO Share 59737
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  • 10. There's no way to structure this coherently. They are random observations that might help explain the mental processes. But often, I think that we look at the academic problems of poverty and have no idea of thewhy. We know the what and the how, and we can see systemic problems, but it's rare to have a poor person actually explain it on their own behalf. So this is me doing that, sort of. Rest is a luxury for the rich. I get up at 6AM, go to school (I have a full course load, but I only have to go to two in-person classes) then work, then I get the kids, then I pick up my husband, then I have half an hour to change and go to Job 2. I get home from that at around 12:30AM, then I have the rest of my classes and work to tend to. I'm in bed by 3. This isn't every day, I have two days off a week from each of my obligations. I use that time to clean the house and soothe Mr. Martini and see the kids for longer than an hour and catch up on schoolwork. Those nights I'm in bed by midnight, but if I go to bed too early I won't be able to stay up the other nights because I'll fuck my pattern up, and I drive an hour home from Job 2 so I can't afford to be sleepy. I never get a day off from work unless I am fairly sick. It doesn't leave you much room to think about what you are doing, only to attend to the next thing and the next. Planning isn't in the mix.
  • 11. When I got pregnant the first time, I was living in a weekly motel. I had a minifridge with no freezer and a microwave. I was on WIC. I ate peanut butter from the jar and frozen burritos because they were 12/$2. Had I had a stove, I couldn't have made beef burritos that cheaply. And I needed the meat, I was pregnant. I might not have had any prenatal care, but I am intelligent enough to eat protein and iron whilst knocked up. I know how to cook. I had to take Home Ec to graduate high school. Most people on my level didn't. Broccoli is intimidating. You have to have a working stove, and pots, and spices, and you'll have to do the dishes no matter how tired you are or they'll attract bugs. It is a huge new skill for a lot of people. That's not great, but it's true. And if you fuck it up, you could make your family sick. We have learned not to try too hard to be middle-class. It never works out well and always makes you feel worse for having tried and failed yet again. Better not to try. It makes more sense to get food that you know will be palatable and cheap and that keeps well. Junk food is a pleasure that we are allowed to have; why would we give that up? We have very few of them.
  • 12. The closest Planned Parenthood to me is three hours. That's a lot of money in gas. Lots of women can't afford that, and even if you live near one you probably don't want to be seen coming in and out in a lot of areas. We're aware that we are not "having kids," we're "breeding." We have kids for much the same reasons that I imagine rich people do. Urge to propagate and all. Nobody likes poor people procreating, but they judge abortion even harder. Convenience food is just that. And we are not allowed many conveniences. Especially since the Patriot Act passed, it's hard to get a bank account. But without one, you spend a lot of time figuring out where to cash a check and get money orders to pay bills. Most motels now have a no-credit-card-no-room policy. I wandered around SF for five hours in the rain once with nearly a thousand dollars on me and could not rent a room even if I gave them a $500 cash deposit and surrendered my cell phone to the desk to hold as surety. Nobody gives enough thought to depression. You have to understand that we know that we will never not feel tired. We will never feel hopeful. We will never get a vacation. Ever. We know that the very act of being poor guarantees that we will never not be poor. It doesn't give us much reason to improve
  • 13. ourselves. We don't apply for jobs because we know we can't afford to look nice enough to hold them. I would make a super legal secretary, but I've been turned down more than once because I "don't fit the image of the firm," which is a nice way of saying "gtfo, pov." I am good enough to cook the food, hidden away in the kitchen, but my boss won't make me a server because I don't "fit the corporate image." I am not beautiful. I have missing teeth and skin that looks like it will when you live on B12 and coffee and nicotine and no sleep. Beauty is a thing you get when you can afford it, and that's how you get the job that you need in order to be beautiful. There isn't much point trying. Cooking attracts roaches. Nobody realizes that. I've spent a lot of hours impaling roach bodies and leaving them out on toothpick pikes to discourage others from entering. It doesn't work, but is amusing. "Free" only exists for rich people. It's great that there's a bowl of condoms at my school, but most poor people will never set foot on a college campus. We don't belong there. There's a clinic? Great! There's still a copay. We're not going. Besides, all they'll tell you at the clinic is that you need to see a specialist, which seriously? Might as well be located on Mars for how
  • 14. accessible it is. "Low-cost" and "sliding scale" sounds like "money you have to spend" to me, and they can't actually help you anyway. I smoke. It's expensive. It's also the best option. You see, I am always, always exhausted. It's a stimulant. When I am too tired to walk one more step, I can smoke and go for another hour. When I am enraged and beaten down and incapable of accomplishing one more thing, I can smoke and I feel a little better, just for a minute. It is the only relaxation I am allowed. It is not a good decision, but it is the only one that I have access to. It is the only thing I have found that keeps me from collapsing or exploding. I make a lot of poor financial decisions. None of them matter, in the long term. I will never not be poor, so what does it matter if I don't pay a thing and a half this week instead of just one thing? It's not like the sacrifice will result in improved circumstances; the thing holding me back isn't that I blow five bucks at Wendy's. It's that now that I have proven that I am a Poor Person that is all that I am or ever will be. It is not worth it to me to live a bleak life devoid of small pleasures so that one day I can make a single large purchase. I will never have large pleasures to hold on to. There's a certain pull to live what bits
  • 15. of life you can while there's money in your pocket, because no matter how responsible you are you will be broke in three days anyway. When you never have enough money it ceases to have meaning. I imagine having a lot of it is the same thing. Poverty is bleak and cuts off your long-term brain. It's why you see people with four different babydaddies instead of one. You grab a bit of connection wherever you can to survive. You have no idea how strong the pull to feel worthwhile is. It's more basic than food. You go to these people who make you feel lovely for an hour that one time, and that's all you get. You're probably not compatible with them for anything long-term, but right this minute they can make you feel powerful and valuable. It does not matter what will happen in a month. Whatever happens in a month is probably going to be just about as indifferent as whatever happened today or last week. None of it matters. We don't plan long-term because if we do we'll just get our hearts broken. It's best not to hope. You just take what you can get as you spot it. I am not asking for sympathy. I am just trying to explain, on a human level, how it is that people make what look from the outside like awful decisions. This is what our lives are like, and here are our defense mechanisms, and here is why we think
  • 16. differently. It's certainly self-defeating, but it's safer. That's all. I hope it helps make sense of it. Additions have been made to the update below to reflect the responses received. UPDATE: The response to this piece is overwhelming. I have had a lot of people ask to use my work. Please do. Share it with the world if you found value in it. Please link back if you can. If you are teaching, I am happy to discuss this with or clarify for you, and you can freely use this piece in your classes. Please do let me know where you teach. You can reach me on Twitter, @killermartinis. I set up an email at killermartinisbook@ gmail as well. This piece has gone fully viral. People have been asking me to write, and how they can help. After enough people tried to send me paypal money, I set up a gofundme. Find it here. It promptly went insane. I have raised my typical yearly income as of this update. I have no idea what to say except thank you. I am going to speak with some money people who will make sure that I can't fuck this up, and I will use it to do good things with.
  • 17. I've also set up a blog, which I hope you will find here. Understand that I wrote this as an example of the thought process that we struggle with. Most of us are clinically depressed, and we do not get therapy and medication and support. We get told to get over it. And we find ways to cope. I am not saying that people live without hope entirely; that is not human nature. But these are the thoughts that are never too far away, that creep up on us every chance they get, that prey on our better judgement when we are tired and stressed and weakened. We maintain a constant vigil against these thoughts, because we are afraid that if we speak them aloud or even articulate them in our heads they will become unmanageably real. Thank you for reading. I am glad people find value in it. Because I am getting tired of people not reading this and then commenting anyway, I am making a few things clear: not all of this piece is about me. That is why I said that they were observations. And this piece is not all of me: that is why I said that they were random observations rather than complete ones. If you really have to urge me to abort or keep my knees closed or wonder whether I can fax you my citizenship documents or if I really in fact have been poor because I know
  • 18. multisyllabic words, I would like to ask that you read the comments and see whether anyone has made your point in the particular fashion you intend to. It is not that I mind trolls so much, it's that they're getting repetitive and if you have to say nothing I hope you can at least do it in an entertaining fashion. If, however, you simply are curious about something and actually want to have a conversation, I do not mind repeating myself because those conversations are valuable and not actually repetitive. They tend to be very specific to the asker, and I am happy to shed any light I can. I do not mind honest questions. They are why I wrote this piece. Thank you all, so much. I don't know what life will look like next week, and for once that's a good thing. And I have you to thank. poverty Linda's story is part of a Huffington Post series profiling Americans who work hard and yet still struggle to make ends meet. Learn more about other individuals' experiences here.
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  • 22. Freeman Continue reading the main story Continue reading the main storyShare This Page  Email  Share  Tweet  Save  More Continue reading the main story IN my last year on Wall Street my bonus was $3.6 million — and I was angry because it wasn’t big enough. I was 30 years old, had no children to raise, no debts to pay, no philanthropic goal in mind. I wanted more money for exactly the same reason an alcoholic needs another drink: I was addicted. Eight years earlier, I’d walked onto the trading floor at Credit Suisse First Boston to begin my summer internship. I already knew I wanted to be rich, but when I started out I had a different idea about what wealth meant. I’d come to Wall Street after reading in the book “Liar’s Poker” how Michael Lewis earned a $225,000 bonus after just two years of work on a trading floor. That seemed like a fortune. Every January and February, I think about that time, because these are the months when bonuses are decided and distributed, when fortunes are made. I’d learned about the importance of being rich from my dad. He was a modern-day Willy Loman, a salesman with huge dreams that never seemed to materialize. “Imagine what life will be like,” he’d say, “when I make a million dollars.” While he dreamed of selling a screenplay, in reality he sold kitchen cabinets. And not that well. We sometimes lived paycheck to paycheck off my mom’s nurse-practitioner salary. Dad believed money would solve all his problems. At 22, so did I. When I walked onto that trading floor for the first time and saw the glowing flat-screen TVs, high-tech
  • 23. computer monitors and phone turrets with enough dials, knobs and buttons to make it seem like the cockpit of a fighter plane, I knew exactly what I wanted to do with the rest of my life. It looked as if the traders were playing a video game inside a spaceship; if you won this video game, you became what I most wanted to be — rich. Continue reading the main story RELATED IN OPINION  Why We Like to Watch Rich People JAN. 16, 2014 IT was a miracle I’d made it to Wall Street at all. While I was competitive and ambitious — a wrestler at Columbia University — I was also a daily drinker and pot smoker and a regular user of cocaine, Ritalin and ecstasy. I had a propensity for self-destruction that had resulted in my getting suspended from Columbia for burglary, arrested twice and fired from an Internet company for fistfighting. I learned about rage from my dad, too. I can still see his red, contorted face as he charged toward me. I’d lied my way into the C.S.F.B. internship by omitting my transgressions from my résumé and was determined not to blow what seemed a final chance. The only thing as important to me as that internship was my girlfriend, a starter on the Columbia volleyball team. But even though I was in love with her, when I got drunk I’d sometimes end up with other women. Three weeks into my internship she wisely dumped me. I don’t like who you’ve become, she said. I couldn’t blame her, but I was so devastated that I couldn’t get out of bed. In desperation, I called a counselor whom I had reluctantly seen a few times before and asked for help. She helped me see that I was using alcohol and drugs to blunt the powerlessness I felt as a kid and suggested I give them up. That began some of the hardest months of my life. Without the alcohol and drugs in my system, I felt like my chest had been cracked open, exposing my heart to air. The counselor said that my abuse of drugs and alcohol was a symptom of an underlying problem — a “spiritual malady,” she called it. C.S.F.B. didn’t offer me a full-time job, and I returned, distraught, to Columbia for senior year. Continue reading the main story After graduation, I got a job at Bank of America, by the grace of a managing director willing to take a chance on a kid who had called him every day for three weeks. With a year of sobriety under my belt, I was sharp, cleareyed and hard-working. At the end of my first year I was thrilled to receive a $40,000 bonus. For the first time in my life, I didn’t have to check my balance before I withdrew money. But a week later, a trader who was only four years my senior got hired away by C.S.F.B. for $900,000. After my initial envious shock — his haul was 22 times the size of my bonus — I grew excited at how much money was available. Over the next few years I worked like a maniac and began to move up the Wall Street ladder. I became a bond and credit default swap trader, one of the more lucrative roles
  • 24. in the business. Just four years after I started at Bank of America, Citibank offered me a “1.75 by 2” which means $1.75 million per year for two years, and I used it to get a promotion. I started dating a pretty blonde and rented a loft apartment on Bond Street for $6,000 a month. I felt so important. At 25, I could go to any restaurant in Manhattan — Per Se, Le Bernardin — just by picking up the phone and calling one of my brokers, who ingratiate themselves to traders by entertaining with unlimited expense accounts. I could be second row at the Knicks-Lakers game just by hinting to a broker I might be interested in going. The satisfaction wasn’t just about the money. It was about the power. Because of how smart and successful I was, it was someone else’s job to make me happy. Still, I was nagged by envy. On a trading desk everyone sits together, from interns to managing directors. When the guy next to you makes $10 million, $1 million or $2 million doesn’t look so sweet. Nonetheless, I was thrilled with my progress. My counselor didn’t share my elation. She said I might be using money the same way I’d used drugs and alcohol — to make myself feel powerful — and that maybe it would benefit me to stop focusing on accumulating more and instead focus on healing my inner wound. “Inner wound”? I thought that was going a little far and went to work for a hedge fund. Now, working elbow to elbow with billionaires, I was a giant fireball of greed. I’d think about how my colleagues could buy Micronesia if they wanted to, or become mayor of New York City. They didn’t just have money; they had power — power beyond getting a table at Le Bernardin. Senators came to their offices. They were royalty. I wanted a billion dollars. It’s staggering to think that in the course of five years, I’d gone from being thrilled at my first bonus — $40,000 — to being disappointed when, my second year at the hedge fund, I was paid “only” $1.5 million. Photo
  • 25. CreditOwen Freeman But in the end, it was actually my absurdly wealthy bosses who helped me see the limitations of unlimited wealth. I was in a meeting with one of them, and a few other traders, and they were talking about the new hedge-fund regulations. Most everyone on Wall Street thought they were a bad idea. “But isn’t it better for the system as a whole?” I asked. The room went quiet, and my boss shot me a withering look. I remember his saying, “I don’t have the brain capacity to think about the system as a whole. All I’m concerned with is how this affects our company.” Continue reading the main story I felt as if I’d been punched in the gut. He was afraid of losing money, despite all that he had.
  • 26. From that moment on, I started to see Wall Street with new eyes. I noticed the vitriol that traders directed at the government for limiting bonuses after the crash. I heard the fury in their voices at the mention of higher taxes. These traders despised anything or anyone that threatened their bonuses. Ever see what a drug addict is like when he’s used up his junk? He’ll do anything — walk 20 miles in the snow, rob a grandma — to get a fix. Wall Street was like that. In the months before bonuses were handed out, the trading floor started to feel like a neighborhood in “The Wire” when the heroin runs out. I’d always looked enviously at the people who earned more than I did; now, for the first time, I was embarrassed for them, and for me. I made in a single year more than my mom made her whole life. I knew that wasn’t fair; that wasn’t right. Yes, I was sharp, good with numbers. I had marketable talents. But in the end I didn’t really do anything. I was a derivatives trader, and it occurred to me the world would hardly change at all if credit derivatives ceased to exist. Not so nurse practitioners. What had seemed normal now seemed deeply distorted. Continue reading the main story RECENT COMMENTS Rob 19 January 2014 "For the LOVE of money" is a ROOT of all kinds of evil, for which some have strayed from the faith in their greediness, and pierced... JPFerg 19 January 2014 I LOVE THIS STATEMENT, UNQUALIFIED. This ethic he describes is so pervasive, that any ethics and any sense of shared destiny, or negative... arbitrot 19 January 2014 Mitt Romney Style!This is the keenest insight I've ever read into why we missed -- but not by that much -- actually electing an obviously...  SEE ALL COMMENTS I had recently finished Taylor Branch’s three-volume series on the Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. and the civil rights movement, and the image of the Freedom Riders stepping out of their bus into an infuriated mob had seared itself into my mind. I’d told myself that if I’d been alive in the ‘60s, I would have been on that bus. But I was lying to myself. There were plenty of injustices out there — rampant poverty, swelling prison populations, a sexual-assault epidemic, an obesity crisis. Not only was I not helping to fix any problems in the world, but I was profiting from them. During the market crash in 2008, I’d made a ton of money by shorting the derivatives of risky companies. As the world crumbled, I profited. I’d seen the crash coming, but instead of trying to help the people it would hurt the most — people who didn’t have a million dollars in the bank — I’d made money off it. I don’t like who you’ve become, my girlfriend had said years earlier. She was right then, and she was still right. Only now, I didn’t like who I’d become either.
  • 27. Wealth addiction was described by the late sociologist and playwright Philip Slater in a 1980 book, but addiction researchers have paid the concept little attention. Like alcoholics driving drunk, wealth addiction imperils everyone. Wealth addicts are, more than anybody, specifically responsible for the ever widening rift that is tearing apart our once great country. Wealth addicts are responsible for the vast and toxic disparity between the rich and the poor and the annihilation of the middle class. Only a wealth addict would feel justified in receiving $14 million in compensation — including an $8.5 million bonus — as the McDonald’s C.E.O., Don Thompson, did in 2012, while his company then published a brochure for its work force on how to survive on their low wages. Only a wealth addict would earn hundreds of millions as a hedge-fund manager, and then lobby to maintain a tax loophole that gave him a lower tax rate than his secretary. Continue reading the main storyContinue reading the main story Continue reading the main story DESPITE my realizations, it was incredibly difficult to leave. I was terrified of running out of money and of forgoing future bonuses. More than anything, I was afraid that five or 10 years down the road, I’d feel like an idiot for walking away from my one chance to be really important. What made it harder was that people thought I was crazy for thinking about leaving. In 2010, in a final paroxysm of my withering addiction, I demanded $8 million instead of $3.6 million. My bosses said they’d raise my bonus if I agreed to stay several more years. Instead, I walked away. The first year was really hard. I went through what I can only describe as withdrawal — waking up at nights panicked about running out of money, scouring the headlines to see which of my old co-workers had gotten promoted. Over time it got easier — I started to realize that I had enough money, and if I needed to make more, I could. But my wealth addiction still hasn’t gone completely away. Sometimes I still buy lottery tickets. In the three years since I left, I’ve married, spoken in jails and juvenile detention centers about getting sober, taught a writing class to girls in the foster system, and started a nonprofit called Groceryships to help poor families struggling with obesity and food addiction. I am much happier. I feel as if I’m making a real contribution. And as time passes, the distortion lessens. I see Wall Street’s mantra — “We’re smarter and work harder than everyone else, so we deserve all this money” — for what it is: the rationalization of addicts. From a distance I can see what I couldn’t see then — that Wall Street is a toxic culture that encourages the grandiosity of people who are desperately trying to feel powerful. I was lucky. My experience with drugs and alcohol allowed me to recognize my pursuit of wealth as an addiction. The years of work I did with my counselor helped me heal the parts of myself that felt damaged and inadequate, so that I had enough of a core sense of self to walk away. Dozens of different types of 12-step support groups — including Clutterers Anonymous and On-Line Gamers Anonymous — exist to help addicts of various types, yet there is no Wealth Addicts Anonymous. Why not? Because our culture supports and even lauds the
  • 28. addiction. Look at the magazine covers in any newsstand, plastered with the faces of celebrities and C.E.O.'s; the superrich are our cultural gods. I hope we all confront our part in enabling wealth addicts to exert so much influence over our country. I generally think that if one is rich and believes they have “enough,” they are not a wealth addict. On Wall Street, in my experience, that sense of “enough” is rare. The money guy doing a job he complains about for yet another year so he can add $2 million to his $20 million bank account seems like an addict. I recently got an email from a hedge-fund trader who said that though he was making millions every year, he felt trapped and empty, but couldn’t summon the courage to leave. I believe there are others out there. Maybe we can form a group and confront our addiction together. And if you identify with what I’ve written, but are reticent to leave, then take a small step in the right direction. Let’s create a fund, where everyone agrees to put, say, 25 percent of their annual bonuses into it, and we’ll use that to help some of the people who actually need the money that we’ve been so rabidly chasing. Together, maybe we can make a real contribution to the world. Reply, Reply All or Forward | More Click to reply all An error occurred while uploading. Dismiss  0 Attachments  Remove All Send Attach Files Trouble uploading? Try our Basic Uploader. Your screen elements are hidden from view. Press Esc or move pointer to the center of the screen to return to Mail. Press Esc or move pointer here to return to Mail. 7 Frugal Habits Everyone Should Develop by GUEST CON TR IBUTOR · 1 , 13 5 COMMEN TS   
  • 29.  Email One of the most direct way to change your life, you need to change your attitude. No one else is responsible for what happens to you but you, so you can either complain about the things you don’t like in your life or you can set about changing them. Not surprisingly, this directly relates to the state of your finances. If you’re tired of living paycheck to paycheck, having your phone regularly cut off, or making excuses to skip dinners with your friends, then you can use these seven habits to take control of your money situation and live a happier and more frugal lifestyle. Habit One: Be Proactive The first habit to develop is to take responsibility; if you fail, you have no one to blame but yourself. Regardless of how you were raised or how you were treated at school, you can choose your behavior now. Being proactive means understanding that YOU are in control of your day-to-day interactions, and thereby, the direction your life takes. This is in stark comparison to a reactive
  • 30. person, who is often affected by their environment and will find external sources to blame for their behavior. For example, if the weather is good, they’re in a good mood, but if the weather is bad, it affects them and they blame the weather for their bad mood. [Here are 6 action steps to take when you feel financially vulnerable.] What most people forget is that though you can’t control the stimulus, you can control your response. One of your most important choices is your words; the language you use is an effective indication of how you see yourself. If you use proactive language, such as “I can” or “I will,” you’re starting with a more positive attitudethan someone who uses language like “I can’t” or “I have to” or “If only.” How to be proactive for effective frugality:  Take the first step. You cannot take control of your finances until you make the commitment to do so; the more you ignore the situation, the worse it will get. Instead, take a long hard look at your finances — your budget, debts, income, and expenses, and try to understand where your money is going and where you can budget better. (To help you out, here are 25 ways to pay off your debt more easily.)  Tell people. Using proactive language to vocalize your hope of being more financially responsible not only helps you crystallize your goal, but it can also help you avoid the peer pressure that makes budgeting and frugality hard. If you explain to your friends and family that you’re trying to live a more frugal lifestyle, they’ll be less likely to pressure you into one more round of drinks or another dinner out.  Listen. Listen to yourself and to the reasons you give each time you make a purchase outside of your budget or decide not to put spare money into your savings account. Taking the time to stop and listen to the reasons you give yourself for spending more than you earn will give you the opportunity to hear just
  • 31. how shallow many of those reasons are. This can stop you from making purchases that impede your goal of effective frugality. Habit Two: Begin with the End in Mind Those who are effective in achieving their goals are able to envisage their desired end result in spite of the obstacles. Effective people adhere to this habit based on the principle that all things are created twice; there is first the mental creation, then the physical creation. The physical creation follows the mental creation the same way that a building follows its blueprints. If you don’t visualize what you want, then you’re at risk of other people and external circumstances influencing your life – because you’re not influencing it yourself. Instead, begin every day and every task with a clear vision of where you want to go and how you’re going to get there. Make that vision a reality with your proactive skills from habit one. How to visualize effective frugality:  Define your goal. There are many ways to live a frugal lifestyle, and you need to decide how frugal you want to be. Do you want to be debt free, build a savings account of a certain value, or live on one income in a two-income household?  Decide how you’re going to get there. This will again draw on your budget, but you need to be aware of the obstacles that are standing in your way. These may be literal obstacles, such as credit card debts, or they may be obstacles you’ve identified in your behavior. An example of a behavioral obstacle would be spending $10 every day on junk food on your way home from work, because you’re starving. Instead, you could be packing an inexpensive granola bar to keep you going until dinner. Or, do you find that when you go shopping with your sister, she always helps you justify a frivolous purchase, when you could leave your credit card at home?
  • 32. MoneyNing Tip: Make sure your goals are SMART! Habit Three: Put First Things First Knowing WHY you’re doing something is an incredible motivator in helping you transform a mental creation into an actual physical creation of your goal. Ask yourself what the things are that you find most valuable and worthy to you. When you put these things first, you’ll be organizing and managing your time around your personal priorities to make them a reality. For many people, it’s hard to say no, but this is exactly the skill you have to learn to keep your goals as your first priority. While we are constantly told we can have it all, in reality, having it all is really about prioritizing what is most important to YOU to have, and then focusing on that. How to put effective frugality first:  Recognize the effects of your finances. You may not dedicate as much time as you should to managing your finances and practicing frugal principles because you feel there’s always something more important to be doing — whether it’s work, taking the kids to soccer practice, or getting ready for dinner with the girls. If your finances aren’t under control, however, and you’re regularly spending more than you earn, then they’re having a negative impact on every other aspect of your life, from your work to your family and friends. You need to recognize that being frugal is your first priority.  Just say no. It’s easy to spend more than your budgeted amount each month when you’re worried about missing out on a dinner with friends, feel as though you have to cater a birthday party for your son and 50 of his closest friends, or don’t want to wear the same suit to a work conference two years in a row. If you recognize that you don’t have to take on
  • 33. everything and that it’s okay to say no, then you’ll find you’re more in control of your spending and your budget. Habit Four: Think Win-Win Most of us are taught to base our self-worth on comparisons to others and competition against our peers. We think we can only succeed if someone else has failed. We’re also taught that there’s only so much pie to go around, so if you get a big piece, then someone else is missing out. When you think like this, you’re going to feel like nothing is ever fair. As a result, many of us retaliate and take the pie before someone else can take it from us. Thinking in a win-win mindset allows you to see mutual benefits from all of your interactions. By doing this, you’ll see that the pie tastes even better when it’s shared. If you can approach conflicts and problems with a win-win attitude, you’ll be able to express your ideas and feelings with courage, while still maintaining consideration for the feelings and ideas of others. When you have an abundance mentality, you’re able to see that there is enough for everyone, and that by balancing your confidence with empathy, you can achieve your goals while helping others achieve theirs. How to create frugal win-win situations:  Recognize that you don’t always know the full story. As you aim to implement frugal principles and stick to a budget, you may often find yourself thinking “it’s not fair.” It’s not fair that they get to go out to dinner. It’s not fair that they get a new car. It’s not fair that they get to go on vacation, and I don’t. Take the time to realize, however, that you’re only seeing a small part of the finances of your friends and family who seem to “have it all.” And though it’s hard to watch your best friend take a dream European holiday, or your brother buy the car you covet, you’ll get there, too — if you manage your finances
  • 34. frugally. And the best part? There will still be plenty of holiday destinations and fast cars when that time rolls around.  Understand the difference between possessions and net worth. While your friends and family may seem to have a fuller lifestyle because their house is bigger or their car is newer, you need to consider that it could just be a facade covering their mountains of debt. True wealth is not measured in possessions, but in assets. When the value of your assets is greater than the amount you owe on mortgages, car loans, and credit card debts, then you have a strong net worth and are truly wealthy. By trying to live a more effectively frugal lifestyle, you’ll be able to achieve true wealth, rather than just a life full of stuff. MoneyNing Tip: When building wealth, remember to look at the big picture, too. Habit Five: Communication At its base, communication is the desire to be heard and understood. Most people will listen with the intention to reply to what you’re saying, rather than to understand what you’ve said. To effectively communicate, you need to first understand. If you communicate with the sole intention of being understood, you may ignore what others are saying and miss their meaning entirely. Don’t just wait for your turn to talk; pay attention to what people are trying to tell you. How listening can help you be effectively frugal:  You are not the only person in your life. Chances are you’re married or in a relationship, have friends or children, or all of the above. As a result, you’re not the only person being affected by your decision to live a more frugal lifestyle. To be effective in your goal of frugality, you need to be able to listen to and understand the goals and behaviors of the other people in your life, too. Consider how effective your frugality would be if
  • 35. you were taking packed lunches to work and avoiding the afternoon coffee run, while your partner was going on shopping sprees during their lunch break. Instead of living a more frugal lifestyle, you’d really be saving on one end and spending on the other.  Understand the goals and needs of others. While it’s important to explain your desire to live more frugally, it’s also important that you understand the goals and needs of those around you. This way, you can find a way to be more frugal without them having to give up all of the things that are most important to them. You can’t know what those things are unless you listen. Habit Six: Synergize Interactions and teamwork are some of the most important ways you can learn new skills and more effective behaviors. Synergizing is the habit of creative cooperation — working as a team to find new solutions to existing problems. Synergy is not something that just happens. It’s a process where you bring all of your personal experience and expertise to the table, enabling more effective results than those you would have been able to achieve individually. The whole is greater than the sum of its parts. When you have genuine interactions with people, you’re able to gain new insights and see new approaches to your problems — ones you might not have thought of before. How to synergize for effective frugality:  Look for new ways. In a society that excels at consumerism, you’ve probably already realized that you need to find new ways of doing just about everything to be frugal. It’s easy to buy your lunch every day, but it’s more frugal to pack it. It’s easy to drive to work, but it’s more frugal to take the train. It’s easy to buy a new cocktail dress, but it’s more frugal to make one.
  • 36.  Surround yourself with other frugal people. To be successful in your quest for frugality, surround yourself with like-minded people. Find people who are where you want to be by joining online frugal-living forums, striking up a friendship with a fellow coupon-cutter, or starting a sewing club. When you’re around people with the same goals as you, you’ll be able to share ideas and learn from each other. MoneyNing Tip: Learn to embrace the positive influence of saving money. Habit Seven: Sharpen the Saw You’re the greatest asset you have on your journey to achieving the lifestyle you want, so you need to look after yourself physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. Taking the time to renew yourself in these areas of your life will give you strength to maintain the previous six habits, which are essential for your success. How to frugally renew yourself:  Physically. By eating better, you’ll feel better. Take it another step further and start your own vegetable patch, which will save you money at the supermarket and be healthier for you. Exercising keeps you fit and healthy, and it doesn’t cost you anything to go for a walk, ride a bike, or skip rope in the backyard. To rest your body, you don’t need to go to a day spa; you can simply relax in the tub at home.  Emotionally. Interacting socially with others allows you to make meaningful connections, and it makes you feel good. This can be achieved by chatting with the woman at the coffee shop or by calling your mom once a week.  Mentally. Exercising and expanding your mind through learning, reading, writing, and teaching can be done frugally. Visit your local library, or volunteer at a school or retirement home to teach others a skill you may be taking for granted.
  • 37.  Spiritually. Spend time close to nature and expand your spiritual self through meditation, music, art, or prayer. Take a quiet moment to center yourself and empty your mind before going to bed. Or, go for a hike and be grateful for the beauty of nature surrounding you. Frugality doesn’t mean having to give up all the luxuries and things which make you happy. Don’t get burned out by developing habits one through six without taking the time to renew yourself. Frugality is something you want to develop and maintain for the long-term. Follow these seven habits, and you’ll be on your way to becoming a highly frugal person. Do you consider yourself a highly frugal person? How did you get there? This post was originally written by Alban, and a parody of the amazing book, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. He’s a personal finance writer for Finder.com.au. Reply, Reply All or Forward | More Click to reply all An error occurred while uploading. Dismiss  0 Attachments  Remove All Send Attach Files Trouble uploading? Try our Basic Uploader. Your screen elements are hidden from view. Press Esc or move pointer to the center of the screen to return to Mail. Press Esc or move pointer here to return to Mail.
  • 38. 7 Frugal Habits Everyone Should Develop by GUEST CON TR IBUTOR · 1 , 13 5 COMMEN TS     Email One of the most direct way to change your life, you need to change your attitude. No one else is responsible for what happens to you but you, so you can either complain about the things you don’t like in your life or you can set about changing them. Not surprisingly, this directly relates to the state of your finances. If you’re tired of living paycheck to paycheck, having your phone regularly cut off, or making excuses to skip dinners with your friends, then you can use these seven habits to take control of your money situation and live a happier and more frugal lifestyle. Habit One: Be Proactive
  • 39. The first habit to develop is to take responsibility; if you fail, you have no one to blame but yourself. Regardless of how you were raised or how you were treated at school, you can choose your behavior now. Being proactive means understanding that YOU are in control of your day-to-day interactions, and thereby, the direction your life takes. This is in stark comparison to a reactive person, who is often affected by their environment and will find external sources to blame for their behavior. For example, if the weather is good, they’re in a good mood, but if the weather is bad, it affects them and they blame the weather for their bad mood. [Here are 6 action steps to take when you feel financially vulnerable.] What most people forget is that though you can’t control the stimulus, you can control your response. One of your most important choices is your words; the language you use is an effective indication of how you see yourself. If you use proactive language, such as “I can” or “I will,” you’re starting with a more positive attitudethan someone who uses language like “I can’t” or “I have to” or “If only.” How to be proactive for effective frugality:  Take the first step. You cannot take control of your finances until you make the commitment to do so; the more you ignore the situation, the worse it will get. Instead, take a long hard look at your finances — your budget, debts, income, and expenses, and try to understand where your money is going and where you can budget better. (To help you out, here are 25 ways to pay off your debt more easily.)  Tell people. Using proactive language to vocalize your hope of being more financially responsible not only helps you crystallize your goal, but it can also help you avoid the peer pressure that makes budgeting and frugality hard. If you explain to your friends and family that you’re trying to live a more frugal
  • 40. lifestyle, they’ll be less likely to pressure you into one more round of drinks or another dinner out.  Listen. Listen to yourself and to the reasons you give each time you make a purchase outside of your budget or decide not to put spare money into your savings account. Taking the time to stop and listen to the reasons you give yourself for spending more than you earn will give you the opportunity to hear just how shallow many of those reasons are. This can stop you from making purchases that impede your goal of effective frugality. Habit Two: Begin with the End in Mind Those who are effective in achieving their goals are able to envisage their desired end result in spite of the obstacles. Effective people adhere to this habit based on the principle that all things are created twice; there is first the mental creation, then the physical creation. The physical creation follows the mental creation the same way that a building follows its blueprints. If you don’t visualize what you want, then you’re at risk of other people and external circumstances influencing your life – because you’re not influencing it yourself. Instead, begin every day and every task with a clear vision of where you want to go and how you’re going to get there. Make that vision a reality with your proactive skills from habit one. How to visualize effective frugality:  Define your goal. There are many ways to live a frugal lifestyle, and you need to decide how frugal you want to be. Do you want to be debt free, build a savings account of a certain value, or live on one income in a two-income household?  Decide how you’re going to get there. This will again draw on your budget, but you need to be aware of the obstacles that are standing in your way. These may be literal obstacles, such as credit card debts, or they may be obstacles you’ve identified in your behavior. An example of a behavioral obstacle would be
  • 41. spending $10 every day on junk food on your way home from work, because you’re starving. Instead, you could be packing an inexpensive granola bar to keep you going until dinner. Or, do you find that when you go shopping with your sister, she always helps you justify a frivolous purchase, when you could leave your credit card at home? MoneyNing Tip: Make sure your goals are SMART! Habit Three: Put First Things First Knowing WHY you’re doing something is an incredible motivator in helping you transform a mental creation into an actual physical creation of your goal. Ask yourself what the things are that you find most valuable and worthy to you. When you put these things first, you’ll be organizing and managing your time around your personal priorities to make them a reality. For many people, it’s hard to say no, but this is exactly the skill you have to learn to keep your goals as your first priority. While we are constantly told we can have it all, in reality, having it all is really about prioritizing what is most important to YOU to have, and then focusing on that. How to put effective frugality first:  Recognize the effects of your finances. You may not dedicate as much time as you should to managing your finances and practicing frugal principles because you feel there’s always something more important to be doing — whether it’s work, taking the kids to soccer practice, or getting ready for dinner with the girls. If your finances aren’t under control, however, and you’re regularly spending more than you earn, then they’re having a negative impact on every other aspect of your life, from your work to your family and friends. You need to recognize that being frugal is your first priority.
  • 42.  Just say no. It’s easy to spend more than your budgeted amount each month when you’re worried about missing out on a dinner with friends, feel as though you have to cater a birthday party for your son and 50 of his closest friends, or don’t want to wear the same suit to a work conference two years in a row. If you recognize that you don’t have to take on everything and that it’s okay to say no, then you’ll find you’re more in control of your spending and your budget. Habit Four: Think Win-Win Most of us are taught to base our self-worth on comparisons to others and competition against our peers. We think we can only succeed if someone else has failed. We’re also taught that there’s only so much pie to go around, so if you get a big piece, then someone else is missing out. When you think like this, you’re going to feel like nothing is ever fair. As a result, many of us retaliate and take the pie before someone else can take it from us. Thinking in a win-win mindset allows you to see mutual benefits from all of your interactions. By doing this, you’ll see that the pie tastes even better when it’s shared. If you can approach conflicts and problems with a win-win attitude, you’ll be able to express your ideas and feelings with courage, while still maintaining consideration for the feelings and ideas of others. When you have an abundance mentality, you’re able to see that there is enough for everyone, and that by balancing your confidence with empathy, you can achieve your goals while helping others achieve theirs. How to create frugal win-win situations:  Recognize that you don’t always know the full story. As you aim to implement frugal principles and stick to a budget, you may often find yourself thinking “it’s not fair.” It’s not fair that they get to go out to dinner. It’s not fair that they get a new car. It’s not fair that they get to go on vacation, and I don’t.
  • 43. Take the time to realize, however, that you’re only seeing a small part of the finances of your friends and family who seem to “have it all.” And though it’s hard to watch your best friend take a dream European holiday, or your brother buy the car you covet, you’ll get there, too — if you manage your finances frugally. And the best part? There will still be plenty of holiday destinations and fast cars when that time rolls around.  Understand the difference between possessions and net worth. While your friends and family may seem to have a fuller lifestyle because their house is bigger or their car is newer, you need to consider that it could just be a facade covering their mountains of debt. True wealth is not measured in possessions, but in assets. When the value of your assets is greater than the amount you owe on mortgages, car loans, and credit card debts, then you have a strong net worth and are truly wealthy. By trying to live a more effectively frugal lifestyle, you’ll be able to achieve true wealth, rather than just a life full of stuff. MoneyNing Tip: When building wealth, remember to look at the big picture, too. Habit Five: Communication At its base, communication is the desire to be heard and understood. Most people will listen with the intention to reply to what you’re saying, rather than to understand what you’ve said. To effectively communicate, you need to first understand. If you communicate with the sole intention of being understood, you may ignore what others are saying and miss their meaning entirely. Don’t just wait for your turn to talk; pay attention to what people are trying to tell you. How listening can help you be effectively frugal:  You are not the only person in your life. Chances are you’re married or in a relationship, have friends or children, or
  • 44. all of the above. As a result, you’re not the only person being affected by your decision to live a more frugal lifestyle. To be effective in your goal of frugality, you need to be able to listen to and understand the goals and behaviors of the other people in your life, too. Consider how effective your frugality would be if you were taking packed lunches to work and avoiding the afternoon coffee run, while your partner was going on shopping sprees during their lunch break. Instead of living a more frugal lifestyle, you’d really be saving on one end and spending on the other.  Understand the goals and needs of others. While it’s important to explain your desire to live more frugally, it’s also important that you understand the goals and needs of those around you. This way, you can find a way to be more frugal without them having to give up all of the things that are most important to them. You can’t know what those things are unless you listen. Habit Six: Synergize Interactions and teamwork are some of the most important ways you can learn new skills and more effective behaviors. Synergizing is the habit of creative cooperation — working as a team to find new solutions to existing problems. Synergy is not something that just happens. It’s a process where you bring all of your personal experience and expertise to the table, enabling more effective results than those you would have been able to achieve individually. The whole is greater than the sum of its parts. When you have genuine interactions with people, you’re able to gain new insights and see new approaches to your problems — ones you might not have thought of before. How to synergize for effective frugality:
  • 45.  Look for new ways. In a society that excels at consumerism, you’ve probably already realized that you need to find new ways of doing just about everything to be frugal. It’s easy to buy your lunch every day, but it’s more frugal to pack it. It’s easy to drive to work, but it’s more frugal to take the train. It’s easy to buy a new cocktail dress, but it’s more frugal to make one.  Surround yourself with other frugal people. To be successful in your quest for frugality, surround yourself with like-minded people. Find people who are where you want to be by joining online frugal-living forums, striking up a friendship with a fellow coupon-cutter, or starting a sewing club. When you’re around people with the same goals as you, you’ll be able to share ideas and learn from each other. MoneyNing Tip: Learn to embrace the positive influence of saving money. Habit Seven: Sharpen the Saw You’re the greatest asset you have on your journey to achieving the lifestyle you want, so you need to look after yourself physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. Taking the time to renew yourself in these areas of your life will give you strength to maintain the previous six habits, which are essential for your success. How to frugally renew yourself:  Physically. By eating better, you’ll feel better. Take it another step further and start your own vegetable patch, which will save you money at the supermarket and be healthier for you. Exercising keeps you fit and healthy, and it doesn’t cost you anything to go for a walk, ride a bike, or skip rope in the backyard. To rest your body, you don’t need to go to a day spa; you can simply relax in the tub at home.  Emotionally. Interacting socially with others allows you to make meaningful connections, and it makes you feel good. This
  • 46. can be achieved by chatting with the woman at the coffee shop or by calling your mom once a week.  Mentally. Exercising and expanding your mind through learning, reading, writing, and teaching can be done frugally. Visit your local library, or volunteer at a school or retirement home to teach others a skill you may be taking for granted.  Spiritually. Spend time close to nature and expand your spiritual self through meditation, music, art, or prayer. Take a quiet moment to center yourself and empty your mind before going to bed. Or, go for a hike and be grateful for the beauty of nature surrounding you. Frugality doesn’t mean having to give up all the luxuries and things which make you happy. Don’t get burned out by developing habits one through six without taking the time to renew yourself. Frugality is something you want to develop and maintain for the long-term. Follow these seven habits, and you’ll be on your way to becoming a highly frugal person. Do you consider yourself a highly frugal person? How did you get there? This post was originally written by Alban, and a parody of the amazing book, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. He’s a personal finance writer for Finder.com.au. Reply, Reply All or Forward | More Click to reply all An error occurred while uploading. Dismiss  0 Attachments  Remove All Send Attach Files Trouble uploading? Try our Basic Uploader. [No Subject] (2)
  • 47. Me Little Steps: 100 Great Tips For Saving Money For Those Just Getting Started By Trent Last updated August 19, 2014 pennyYesterday, I discussed how anyone can turn their financial life around if they j To Naushad Shaukat Today at 6:14 AM Reply, Reply All or Forward | More Me Little Steps: 100 Great Tips For Saving Money For Those Just Getting Started By Trent Last updated August 19, 2014 pennyYesterday, I discussed how anyone can turn their financial life around if they j To Me Today at 6:14 AM Little Steps: 100 Great Tips For Saving Money For Those Just Getting Started By Trent Last updated August 19, 2014 pennyYesterday, I discussed how anyone can turn their financial life around if they just take that first step – the first step is always the hardest one. After that, you start taking more and more little steps and before you know it, your financial life is getting better and better. What follows is a list of 100 more steps to take. Each of these tactics are simple little moves you can make to improve your financial situation. Some of them take just a few minutes, others might take an hour or two, some of them require a bit of regular effort, but they’re all incredibly simple – anyone can do them. Each of them also save significant money, especially over the long haul, and when combined together these tips can save you a lot of money now. Obviously, not all of these tips will apply to everyone. Just go through the list and find ten or fifteen that do apply to you and use them in your life – you’ll quickly find yourself saving some serious scratch. 100 Ways to Save Money 1. Switch your bank accounts to a bank that respects you. You shouldn’t be spending your hard-earned money on maintenance fees – you also should be earning some serious interest on your checking and savings accounts. Interest rates are not what they once were, but some of the best free checking accounts and best savings accounts can be found online. Here’s a guide on how to make that switch. tv 2. Turn off the television. One big way to save money is to watch less television. There are a lot of financial benefits to this: less exposure to guilt-inducing ads, more time to focus on other things in life, less electrical use, and so on. It’s great to unwind in the evening, but seek another hobby to do that. 3. Turn a critical eye to your “collections.”
  • 48. Most people collect something – what do you collect? Is it something that consistently brings you joy? Or is it something that you just do out of habit at this point? Does the collection itself have value? Could you perhaps “trim the fat” from this collection by getting rid of duplicates or getting rid of the items you no longer use? Also, could you perhaps cut down on your spending on that hobby? Focus on trimming the things you don’t feel strongly about – if you dig into things that bother you, you’re going to eventually relapse. 4. Sign up for every free customer rewards program you can. Even if you rarely shop at that place, having a rewards card for that place will eventually net you some coupons and discounts. Here’s the basic game plan for maximizing these programs: create a Gmail address just for these mailings, collect every card you can, and then check that account for extra coupons whenever you’re ready to shop. Another good idea is to use Rewards Credit Cards that give points on purchases at a wide range of stores. Check out this post on the best rewards credit cards for some recommended cards. 5. Make your own gifts instead of buying stuff from the store. You can make food mixes, candles, bread, cookies, soap, and all kinds of other things at home quite easily and inexpensively. These make spectacular gifts for others because they involve your homemade touch, plus quite often they’re consumable, meaning they don’t wind up filling someone’s closet with junk. Even better – include a personal handwritten note with the gift. This will make it even more special than anything you could possibly buy down at the mall, plus it saves you money. 6. Master the thirty day rule. Whenever you’re considering making an unnecessary purchase, wait thirty days and then ask yourself if you still want that item. Quite often, you’ll find that the urge to buy has passed and you’ll have saved yourself some money by simply waiting. If you want, you can even keep a “thirty day list” where you write down the item and the day you’ll reconsider it, but I prefer just to keep this one in my head – that way, I often just forget about the unimportant things. 7. Write a list before you go shopping – and stick to it. One should never go into a store without a strong idea of what one will be buying while in there. Make a careful plan of what you’ll buy before you go, then stick strictly to that list when you go to the store. Don’t put anything in the cart that’s not on the list, no matter how tempting, and you’ll come out of the store saving a bundle. 8. Invite friends over instead of going out. Almost every activity at home is less expensive than going out. Invite some friends over and have a cookout or a potluck meal, then play some cards and have a few drinks. Everyone will have fun, the cost will be low, and the others will likely reciprocate not long afterwards. 9. Instead of throwing out some damaged clothing, repair it instead. Don’t toss out a shirt because of a broken button – sew a new one on with some closely-matched thread. Don’t toss out pants because of a hole in them – put in a patch of some sort and save them for times when you’re working around the house. Simple sewing can be done by anyone – it just takes a few minutes and it saves a lot of money by keeping you from buying new clothes when you don’t really need to.
  • 49. 10. Don’t spend big money entertaining your children. Most children, especially young ones, can be entertained very cheaply. Buy them an end roll of newspaper from your local paper and let their creativity run wild. Make a game out of ordinary stu ff around the house, like tossing pennies into a jar, even. Realize that what your children want most of all is your time, not your stuff, and you’ll find money in your pocket and joy in your heart. 11. Call your credit card company and ask for a rate reduction. Take any of your credit cards that are carrying a balance, flip them over, and call the number on the back. Tell them that you want an interest rate reduction or you’ll take your business elsewhere. If the first person you talk to won’t do it, ask to talk to a supervisor. If you have a $5,000 balance, even a 3% rate reduction saves you $150 a year. 12. Clean out your closet. Go through your closets and try to get rid of some of the stuff in there. You can have a yard sale with it, take it to a consignment shop, or even donate it for the tax deduction – all of which turn old stuff you don’t want to use any more into money in your pocket. Not only that, it’s often a psychological load off your mind to clean out your closets. 13. Buy video games that have a lot of replay value – and don’t acquire new ones until you’ve mastered what you have. My video game buying habits have changed quite a bit since my “game of the week” days. Now, I focus on games that can be played over and over and over again, and I focus on mastering the games that I buy. Good targets include puzzle games and long, involved quest games – they maximize the value of your gaming dollar. 14. Drink more water. Not only does drinking plenty of water have great health benefits, water drinking has financial benefits, too. Drink a big glass of water before each meal, and not only will you digest it better, you won’t eat as much, saving on the ol’ food bill. You’ll also find yourself feeling a bit better as you begin to get adequately hydrated (most Americans are perpetually somewhat dehydrated). food 15. Cut back on the convenience foods – fast foods, microwave meals, and so on. Instead of eating fast food or just nuking some prepackaged food when you get home, try making some simple and healthy replacements that you can take with you. An hour’s worth of preparation one weekend can give you a ton of cheap and handy meals that will end up saving you a lot of cash and not eat into your time when you’re busy. 16. Give up expensive habits, like cigarettes, alcohol, and drugs. Those habits cause money to flow away from you with nothing in return. Call up your fortitude and work hard to kick the habits and you’ll find that money staying in your pocket instead of burning up and floating away. 17. Make a quadruple batch of a casserole.
  • 50. Casseroles are nice, easy dishes to prepare, but on busy nights, it’s often still easier to just order some take-out or eat out or just plop a prepackaged meal in the oven. Instead, the next time you make a casserole, make four batches of it and put the other three in the freezer. Then, the next time you need a quick meal for the family, grab one of those batches and just heat it up – easy as can be. Even better, doing this allows you to buy the ingredients in bulk, making each casserole cheaper than it would be ordinarily – and far, far cheaper than eating out or trying a prepackaged meal. 18. Be diligent about turning off lights before you leave. If you spend one minute turning off lights before a two hour trip, that’s the equivalent of earning $50 an hour. That’s some impressive savings, particularly if you do it before longer trips. The key is to use less energy, particularly when you’re not using the device. 19. Swap books, music, and DVDs cheaply on the internet via services like PaperBackSwap. You can very easily swap the books and CDs and DVDs you’ve grown bored with via the internet with others. Just use sites like PaperBackSwap, clean out your media collection, and trade them with others online. The best part? You’ll get a flood of new books (or CDs or DVDs) to enjoy, mailed right to you – for free. 20. Maximize yard sales. I like to stop by yard sales if I see them, but I recognize that often the stuff there is junk. Thus, I’m careful about what I buy and I use clever tactics to find it – and lower the prices. That way, I wind up with a really big bargain – or else I can just walk away with the money in my pocket, having been entertained for a bit. 21. Install CFL (or, even better, LED) bulbs wherever it makes sense. These bulbs might cost more initially, but they both have a longer life than normal incandescent bulbs and they both eat far less electricity. CFLs tend to use about 25% of the electricity of an incandescent – LEDs use about 2%. CFLs are cheaper than LEDs right now and produce better light, but not quite as good as incandescent bulbs. My policy? Put LEDs in closets and out of the way places, use CFLs for hall and some room lighting, and use incandescent bulbs (until the other bulbs get better) where you read and do other eye-intensive activities. This will trim a significant amount from your electric bill. 22. Install a programmable thermostat. These devices regulate the temperature in your house automatically according to the schedule that you set. Thus, when you’re not home, it allows the heating or cooling to turn off for several hours, saving you on your energy bill. A programmable thermostat can easily cut your energy bill by 10 to 20%. Nest is the new generation programmable thermostat that learns and connects to WiFi so it can be controlled remotely. 23. Buy appliances based on reliability, not what’s cheapest at the store. It’s worth the time to do a bit of research when you buy a new appliance. A reliable, energy efficient washer and dryer might cost you quite a bit now, but if it continually saves you energy and lasts for fifteen years, you’ll save significant money in the long run. When you need to buy an appliance, research it – start with back issues of Consumer Reports at the library. An hour’s worth of research can easily save you hundreds of dollars.
  • 51. 24. Clean your car’s air filter. A clean air filter can improve your gas mileage by up to 7%, saving you more than $100 for every 10,000 miles you drive in an average vehicle. Plus, cleaning your air filter is easy to do in just a few minutes – just follow the instructions in your automobile’s manual and you’re good to go. 25. Hide your credit cards. Take your credit cards and put them in a safe place in your home, not in your wallet where it’s easy to spend them. If you argue that you need it for “emergencies,” just be sure to keep a small amount of cash hidden in your wallet for these emergencies. Don’t keep plastic on you until you have the willpower to not use it even when you’re sorely tempted. 26. Plan your meals around your grocery store’s flyer. Instead of just planning your meals based on a cookbook or whatever you can dream up, plan all your meals around what’s on sale in your grocery store’s flyer. Look at the biggest sales, then plan meals based on those ingredients and what you have on hand, and you’ll find yourself with a much smaller food bill than you’re used to. 27. Do a price comparison – and find a cheaper grocery store. Most of us get in a routine of shopping at the same grocery store, even though quite often it’s not the one that offers the best deals on our most common purchases. Fortunately, there’s a simple way to find the cheapest store around. Just keep track of the twenty or so things you buy most often, then shop for these items at a variety of stores. Eventually, one store will come out on top for your purchases – just make that one your regular shopping destination and you’ll automatically save money. 28. Challenge yourself to try making your own things. Before I tried it myself, I thought homemade breadmaking was complicated and a waste of time and money. I came to find out that it was pretty easy and it was actually much cheaper, healthier, and tastier than buying a loaf from the store. Now, we rarely ever buy bread products at the store – and we save money by making that choice. 29. Don’t spend money just to de-stress. Quite often, I used to spend money just to wind down from a stressful day at work. Instead, I’ve found that I quite often feel much better by going home and taking some quiet time just to stretch and then meditate. I end up feeling much more together, happy, and ready to face an evening with the kids in the right mindset than I ever would by just blowing some cash after work. Instead of spending to de-stress, try some basic meditation techniques, stretching, or yoga and see how you feel. 30. Talk to your loved ones about what your dreams are. This seems like an odd way to save money, but think about it. If you spend time with the people you love the most and come to some consensus about your dreams, it becomes easy for you all to plan for it. If you’re all planning and working together towards this dream, it becomes easier to stay focused on it and reach it. Set a big, audacious goal together and encourage each other to be
  • 52. financially fit – soon, you’ll find you’re doing it naturally and your dreams are coming closer than ever. 31. Do a “maintenance run” on your appliances. Check them to make sure there isn’t any dust clogging them and that they’re fairly clean. Look behind the appliances, and use your vacuum to gently clear away dust. Check all of the vents, especially on refrigerators, dryers, and heating and cooling units. The less dust you have blocking the mechanics of these devices, the more efficiently they’ll run (saving you on your energy bill) and the longer they’ll last (saving you on replacement costs). 32. Cancel unused club memberships. Are you paying dues at a club that you never use? Like, for instance, a gym membership or a country club membership? Cancel these club memberships, even if you think you might use them again someday – you can always renew the membership at a later date if it turns out that you actually do miss it. 33. When shopping for standard items (clothes, sports equipment, older games, etc.), start by shopping used. Quite often, you can find the exact item you want with a bit of clever shopping at used equipment stores, used game stores, consignment shops, and so on. Just make these shops a part of your normal routine – go there first when looking for potential items and you will save money. 34. Keep your hands clean. This one’s simple – just wash your hands thoroughly each time you use the bathroom or handle raw foods. You’ll keep yourself from acquiring all kinds of viruses and bacteria, saving you on medical bills and medicine costs and lost productivity. That’s not to say you shouldn’t explore the world and get your hands dirty sometimes – that’s good for you, too – but basic sanitation does help keep the medical bills away. 35. Remove your credit card numbers from your online accounts. It’s easy to spend online when you have your card information stored in an account – just click and buy. The best way to break this habit is to simply delete your card from the account. That way, when you’re tempted to spend, you’ll be forced to spend the time to dig out your card – and really think about why you’re spending this money. 36. Give a gift of a service instead of an item. For new parents, give an evening of babysitting as a gift. If you know pet owners, offer to take care of their pets when they travel. Offer up some lawn care as a gift to a new homeowner. These are always spectacular gifts for anyone – I know that, as a parent of a toddler and an infant, I love receiving a babysitting gift, probably more than any “stuff” I might receive. 37. Do holiday shopping right after the holidays. Most people use this technique for Christmas, but it works for every holiday. Wait until about two days after a holiday, then go out shopping for items you need that are themed for that day. Get a Mother’s Day card for next year the day after Mother’s Day. Get Easter egg decorating kits the day
  • 53. after Easter. Get wrapping paper and cards and such the day after Christmas. The discounts are tremendous, and you can just put this stuff in the closet until next year, saving you a bundle. 38. Join up with a volunteer program. It’s a great way to meet new people, get some exercise, and involve yourself in a positive project that can lift your spirit. It also comes without a cost to you and can provide a lot of entertainment and a fulfilling day when you’re in the right mindset. I’ve come to spend more and more of my time volunteering, serving on various committees and groups in the community – and it’s the best thing I’ve ever done. 39. Reevaluate the stuff in the rooms in your house. Go into a room and go through every single item in it. Do you really need that item? Are you happy that it’s there, or would you be just fine if it were not? If you can find stuff to get rid of, get rid of it – it just creates clutter and it might have some value to others. You also improve the perceived value of your house – and you’re likely to get a lot of cleaning done in the process. It’s a frugal win -win-win. 40. Try generic brands of items you buy regularly. Instead of just picking up the ordinary brand of an item you buy, tr y out the store brand or generic version of the item. Likely, you’ll save a few cents now, but you’ll also likely discover that the store brand is just as good as the name brand – the only difference between the two, often, is the marketing. Once you’re on board the generic train, you’ll find your regular grocery bill getting smaller and smaller. 41. Prepare some meals at home. Get an accessible and easy-to-use cookbook (my favorite “beginner” cookbook is Mark Bittman’s excellent How to Cook Everything) and try making some of the dishes inside. You’ll find that cooking at home is much easier than you think – and way cheaper and healthier than take-out or dining out. Even better, you can easily prepare meals in advance – even handy fast food type meals. 42. Switch to term life insurance. Repeat after me: insurance is not an investment. Switch to cheap term insurance instead and use that difference in cost to get yourself out of debt and start building some wealth. Universal and whole policies are much more expensive and offer a sub par investment opportunity – you’re much better off getting yourself free of a debt burden than spending extra on such things. Enter Your Zip Code: 43. Go for reliability and fuel efficiency when buying a car.
  • 54. A reliable and fuel efficient car will save you thousands over the long haul. Let’s say you drive a vehicle for 80,000 miles. If you choose a 25 miles per gallon car over a 15 miles per gallon car, you save 2,133 gallons of gas. At $3 a gallon, that’s $6,400 in savings right there. Reliability can pay the same dividends. Do the research – it will pay off for you. 44. Don’t go to stores or shopping centers for entertainment. Doing so is just an encouragement to spend money you don’t really have on stuff yo u don’t really need. Instead, find other places to entertain yourself – the park, the basketball court, a museum, a friend’s house, or even in your own home. Don’t substitute shopping for entertainment and you’ll be way better off. 45. Master the ten second rule. Whenever you pick up an item in order to add it to your cart or to take it to the checkout, stop for ten seconds and ask yourself why you’re buying it and whether you actually need it or not. If you can’t find a good answer, put the item back. This keeps me from making impulse buys on a regular basis. 46. Rent out unused space in your home. Do you have an extra bedroom that’s not being used? Rent it out. In our home, we could, if times were tough, rent out our entire basement – it has a “living room,” a bedroom, and a bathroom and has a stairwell right by the kitchen. If we found the right person, this would bring in a lot of extra money. 47. Create a visual reminder of your debt. Basically, just make a giant progress bar that starts with the amount of debt you have and ends with zero. Each time you pay down a little bit, fill in a little more of that progress bar. Keep this reminder in a place where you’ll see it often, and keep filling it in regularly. It keeps your eyes on the prize and leads you straight to debt freedom. 48. Get rid of unread magazine subscriptions. Do you have a pile of unread magazines sitting around your house? Likely, it’s the result of a subscription that you’re not reading. Not only should you not renew that magazine, you should give their subscription department a call and try to cancel for a refund – sometimes, they’ll give you the prorated amount back. I’ve had to cull my subscriptions in the past, but I’ve never regretted it. 49. Eat breakfast. Eating a healthy breakfast fills you up with energy for the day and also decreases your desire to eat a big lunch in the middle of the day. Not only that, breakfast can be very healthy, quick, and inexpensive. A bowl of oatmeal in the morning is often the one thing that keeps me from running out to eat an expensive lunch later in the day – and it keeps me peppy and full of energy for the entire morning instead of in a coffee-laced daze. 50. Swap babysitting with neighbors. We live in a neighborhood with an army of young children out and about. Because of that, there are a lot of parents out there who are quite willing to swap babysitting nights with us, saving you the money of hiring one for an evening out. A few families even take this to incredible extremes. Try to
  • 55. find another set of parents or two that you trust, and swap nights of babysitting with them. That way, you’ll get occasional evenings free without the cost of a babysitter, saving you some scratch. 51. Don’t fear leftovers – instead, jazz them up. Many people dread eating leftovers – they’re just inferior rehashes of regular meals, not exactly enjoyable to the discerning palate. However, there’s nothing cheaper than eating leftovers and with a few great techniques for making leftovers tasty, you can often end up with something surprising and quite delicious on the other end. My favorite technique? Chaining – using the leftovers as a basis for an all-new dish. 52. Go through your clothes – all of them. If you have a regular urge to buy clothes, go through everything that you have and see what you might find. Take the clothes at the back of the closet and bring them to the front and suddenly your wardrobe will feel completely different. Take the clothes buried in your dresser and pull them to the top. You’ll feel like a brand new person who doesn’t need to spend money on clothes right now. 53. Brown bag your lunch. Instead of going out to eat at work, take your own lunch. Lots of people think that this means “nasty lunch,” but it doesn’t. With some thoughtful preparation and just a few minutes of time, you can create something quite enjoyable for your brown bag lunch – and save a fistful of cash each day, too. 54. Learn how to dress minimally. Buy clothes that mix and match well and you’ll not need nearly as many clothes. If you have five pants, seven shirts, and seven ties that all go together, you have almost an endless wardrobe right there just by mixing and matching. This is exactly what I do in order to minimize clothes buying and still look professional – I just mix and remix what I wear by using utilitarian clothes options to begin with. 55. Ask for help and encouragement from your inner circle. Sit down and talk to the people you love and care about the most and ask them for help. Tell them that you’re trying to trim your spending and you’d love it if they offered any suggestions and support they might have – and pay attention to what they tell you. They might have some personal insights for your situation that will really help. 56. If something’s broken, give a fair shot at repairing it yourself before replacing it or calling a repairman. Get a handyman’s book or advice from the internet and give it a shot yourself. I’ve fixed clocks, air conditioners, and VCRs by doing this before, saving significant cash by saving on a replacement or on a repair person. 57. Keep an idea notebook in your pocket. I’ve wasted countless amounts of time and money simply because I’ve forgotten things in my head. Instead of relying on my memory, I keep a small notebook with me to jot down ideas and things I need to remember, then I check it regularly throughout the day. This keeps me from forgetting to pick up milk and having to backtrack ten miles, for starters.
  • 56. 58. Invest in a deep freezer. A deep freezer, after the initial investment, is a great bargain. You can use it to store all sorts of bulk foods, which enables you to pay less per pound of it at the market. Even better, you can store lots of meals prepared in advance, enabling you to just go home and pop something homemade (and cheap) in the oven. 59. Look for a cheaper place to live. The cost of living in Iowa is surprisingly low, enough so that I’m quite happy to give up the cultural opportunities of other places to enjoy Iowa all year around. When I want to enjoy the cultural opportunities of another place, I’ll travel there – after all, I can afford it. Take a serious look about moving to a less expensive area – if you can find work there, then a move can definitely put you in better financial shape. 60. Check out what your town’s parks and recreation board has to offer. My town has several wonderful parks, free basketball and tennis courts, free disc golf, trails, and lots of other stuff just there waiting to be used. You can go have fun for hours out in the wonderful outdoors, playing sports, hiking on trails, or trying other activities – and it’s all there for free. All you have to do is discover it. 61. Air up your tires. For every two PSI that all of your tires are below the recommended level, you lose 1% on your gas mileage. Most car tires are five to ten PSI below the normal level, so that means by just airing up your tires, you can improve your gas mileage by up to 5%. It’s easy, too. Just read your car’s manual to see what the recommended tire pressure is, then head to the gas station. Ask the attendant inside if they have a tire air gauge you can borrow (most of them do, both in urban and rural settings), then stop over by the air pump. Check your tires, then use the pump to fill them up to where the y should be. It’s basically free gas! 62. Start a garden. Gardening is an inexpensive hobby if you have a yard. Just rent a tiller, till up a patch, plant some plants, keep it weeded, and you’ll have a very inexpensive hobby that produces a huge amount o f vegetables for you to eat at the end of the season. I like planting a bunch of tomato plants, keeping them cared for, then enjoying a huge flood of tomatoes at the end of the summer. We like to eat them fresh, can them, and make tomato juice, sauce, paste, ketchup, pasta sauce, and pizza sauce. Delicious (and very inexpensive)! 63. Dig into your community calendar. There are often tons of free events going on in your town that you don’t even know about. Stop by the local library or by city hall and ask how you can get ahold of a listing of upcoming community events, and make an effort to hit the interesting ones. You can often get free meals, free entertainment, and free stuff just by paying attention – even better, you’ll get in touch with what’s going on around you. 64. Take public transportation.
  • 57. If the city’s transit system is available near you, take it to work (or to play) instead of driving your car. It’s far cheaper and you don’t have to worry about parking your vehicle. When I lived in a larger city, I bought an annual transit pass that actually paid for itself after less than two months of use compared to using an automobile – and after that, for ten months, I basically could ride to work (and to some events) for free. That’s money in the bank. 65. Cut your own hair. I can cut mine myself with a pair of clippers, for example. I just cut it really short every once in a while and don’t worry about it too much. Just put a garbage bag over the bathroom sink, bust out the clippers and scissors, and get it done. Two or three cuts will pay for the clippers, and then you’re basically getting free haircuts. With a bit of practice, you can make it look good, too. 66. Carpool. Is there anyone that lives near you who works at the same place (or near the same place) that you do? Why not ride together, alternating drivers each day? You can halve the wear and tear and gas costs for your car – and for your acquaintance as well. 67. Design your “debt snowball.” Everyone needs a plan to help them get out of debt, so sit down and plot out what debts you’re going to pay off and in what order. Simply having a plan goes a long way towards bringing that plan into action, and paying off debts early is one of the surest ways to put money in your pocket over the long run. crock 68. Get a crock pot. A crock pot is perhaps the best deal on earth for reducing cooking costs in a busy family. You can just dump in your ingredients before work, put it on simmer, and dinner is done when you get home. There are countless recipes out there for all variety of foods, and every time you cook this way, you’re saving money as compared to eating out. 69. Do some basic home and auto maintenance on a regular schedule. Instead of just waiting until something breaks to deal with it , develop a monthly maintenance schedule where you go around your home (and your car) and perform a bit of maintenance where it’s needed. This little activity, taking you just an hour or two a month, will keep things from breaking down and help you see problems before they become disasters. 70. Pack food before you go on a road trip. Have everyone pack a sack lunch for the trip. That way, instead of stopping in the middle of the trip, driving around looking for a place to eat, spending a bunch of time there, and then paying a hefty bill, you can just eat on the road or, better yet, stop at a nice park and stretch for a bit. Plus, you’ll save a lot of money and a fair amount of time this way. 71. Go through your cell phone bill, look for services you don’t use, and ditch them. Sit down and go through each item on your bill and see if there’s anything there that you don’t use, like a surfeit of text messages or web access or something to that effect. Then call your cell phone company and ask to have those services eliminated. Boom, you’re saving money.
  • 58. 72. Consolidate your student loans. Interest rates are quite low right now, so it might be worthwhile to consolidate your student loans into one low-rate package. Look into the various student loan consolidation packages – even a 1% reduction on a $10,000 loan saves you $100 a year – and your loan is probably bigger than that (and the rate cut you could get is probably bigger). 73. When buying a car, go for late model used. These are typically cars coming straight off of leases, meaning they were cared for by reliable owners. My truck was purchased with this criteria and has lasted me several years already with only one significant issue – and I saved a ton of money on the purchase price over buying new. Only now is it beginning to show significant signs of aging – and with the money I saved on that purchase, I was able to get out of debt that much quicker. 74. Hit the library – hard. Don’t look at a library as just a place to get old books. Look at it as a free place to do all sorts of things. I’ve used it to learn a foreign language, meet people, use the Internet anonymously, check out movies and CDs, grab local free newspapers, and keep up on community events. Best of all, it doesn’t cost a dime. razor 75. Use a simple razor to shave. I’ve been a big advocate of the basic safety razor for a long time, but that’s just one piece of the puzzle. For “normal” shaves, I just shave in the shower and dry off the blade afterwards, using just soap for lather – incredibly cheap, since I only swap blades once every few weeks. The real moral of the story? Use a simple razor – not an expensive electric one that stops working in three years – and shave your face when it’s wet. You can get a very good shave with some practice and save a lot of money over the long haul. 76. Find daily inspiration for making intelligent moves. I’m usually inspired by my children. Perhaps you’re inspired to make changes by your spouse – or even by someone in the community you respect. Maybe it’s just a personal goal, like an early retirement. Find something that makes you want to make positive changes, then use that person or thing as a constant reminder. Keep a picture of it in your wallet, in your vehicle, and on your bathroom mirror. Keep it in your mind as much as you possibly can. 77. Find out about all of the benefits of your job. Most people aren’t even aware of all of the benefits available to them. Spend some time with an HR person finding out about all the benefits of your job – you might be surprised at what you might find. I found free tickets to sporting events, free personal improvement opportunities, and an optional employee match on some retirement funds that maximized the money I was socking away. This not only cut down on my own spending on things like sporting and community events and educational classes, but also improved my retirement plan. 78. Make your own items instead of buying them.