1. change your life. change your world.
Vol 10 • Issue 6
INFLUENCE
Life-changers wanted
CONFIDENT CHILDREN
5 ways to help kids blossom
REAL FATHERS
Every child needs one
3. GOD
IN SKIN
By Lily Neve
I read once that a good
father prepares us for our
relationship with our heavenly No matter what choices I make,
Father, God.
My father may not realize it, I will always be his daughter and
but one thing that shaped my
life was a conversation he and I will always have his love.
had sitting on a hill overlooking
our home the summer I was
18. He probably doesn’t even I didn’t feel like one. I was only all the gifts I have ever received
remember it—so simple and 18, and I didn’t have a clue. Wait from him, I am most grateful for
yet so typical of him and his a minute—yes, I did. In that that assurance.
wise and loving way of advising situation I knew exactly what I It took me awhile, but eventu-
without overtly giving advice. should do. Not that I wanted to ally I realized that my father’s love
We talked about everything do it, but I knew. And I ended and trust mirrors God’s.
that day, and I found myself up doing the right thing largely God teaches us to walk and
telling him about a boyfriend, the because Dad believed that I then lets us run on our own,
problems we’d encountered, and would, that I had the capacity to. believing we can succeed but
what our friendship might lead to. Not every decision that I’ve always being there for us when
I don’t remember how I explained made from that point on has been we fall or need help. “You are a
it all, but I do remember how the right one, but that conversa- special person,” He tells us, “who
awkward I felt. After I’d gotten it tion helped me onto the path to can do something wonderful
all out, I looked at him and asked independence and got me believ- for Me and others.” And when
plaintively, “What do I do now, ing that I could succeed at life. we mess up, as we often do, He
Daddy? Tell me what to do.” Knowing that someone believed whispers, “Whatever you do,
“That is a tough decision,” he in me helped me later when even I will always love you,” and He
began, “but you’re 18. You’re harder decisions came my way. helps us do better.
an adult now. I’m not going to Dad has always made it clear Thanks, Dad, for the gift of
tell you what to do, because you that he not only believes in me, God’s love in flesh and bones!
already know what you should but he loves me unconditionally.
do.” No matter what choices I make, Lily Neve is a member of
I looked at him blankly. No, I will always be his daughter the Family International in
I wasn’t an adult yet—or at least and will always have his love. Of South Asia. 1
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4. Real God has created
a new immortal
Fathers
By David Brandt Berg
soul and placed
it in your hands.
Every child needs a father mother, even before the child is themselves—all kinds of things.
or father figure. Especially as he born. Then he needs to learn to I got a lot of satisfaction out of it
grows older, he needs a father help her with the baby. He needs and a lot of reward.
even more than a mother. A to realize how taxing it is for her, I tried to spend at least an
father comes into the picture in a and he should share the load as hour or two with my kids every
big way during adolescence, when much as possible. day. I started reading them Bible
the child needs discipline and Childrearing is not always easy stories as soon as they could
strength more than ever. Fathers or fun, but if you have real love understand speech. Of course
are usually the disciplinarian of for each other and the child, you when they were very small they
the family, whereas mothers are will do whatever is needed. It also couldn’t follow all of it, so the
inclined to be a lot more easygo- becomes easier when you remind youngest usually dropped off
ing and lenient, especially if they yourself what an amazing thing to sleep first. I’d read from the
have to handle the job alone. has happened: God has created King James Version and trans-
A man can start being a good a new immortal soul and placed late it into the Daddy Version,
father by taking good care of the him or her in your hands. With explaining almost every phrase.
His help it is now your respon- Then I’d act it out, and they
sibility to see that child through were just fascinated.
this world. Someday you’re going to be
I loved being a parent, and thankful that you had a part in
I spent hours at it every day. those children’s care and training.
I fixed bottles during the night You will have helped form another
when my children were babies, human being. That’s thrilling!
and I fixed them breakfast when Are you equal to the task? No,
they got older. I taught them but God is, and He will help you
how to eat and how to dress if you try! 1
A PA R E N T ’ S P R AY E R
May we so live that all our children will be able to
acquire our best virtues and to leave behind our
worst failings. May we pass on the light of courage
and compassion, and the questing spirit; and may
that light burn more brightly in these our children
than it has in us.—Robert Marshall
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5. FATHERHOOD
My father didn’t tell me how to Any man can be a father. It I watched a small man with thick
live; he lived, and let me watch him takes someone special to be a calluses on both hands work fifteen
do it.—Clarence Budington Kelland dad.—Author unknown and sixteen hours a day. I saw
him once literally bleed from the
My father used to play with my Character is largely caught, and bottoms of his feet, a man who
brother and me in the yard. the father and the home should came here [to the U.S., from Italy]
Mother would come out and say, be the great sources of character uneducated, alone, unable to speak
“You’re tearing up the grass.” infection.—Frank H. Cheley the language, who taught me all
“We’re not raising grass,” Dad I needed to know about faith and
would reply. “We’re raising You have a lifetime to work, but hard work by the simple eloquence
boys.”—Harmon Killebrew children are only young once. of his example.—Mario Cuomo
—Polish proverb
A father carries pictures where A good father is worth a hundred
his money used to be.—Author A man’s children and his garden teachers.—Jean Jacques Rousseau
unknown both reflect the amount of
weeding done during the growing Until you have a son of your own,
When I was a boy of 14, my season.—Author unknown you will never know the joy, the love
father was so ignorant I could beyond feeling that resonates in the
hardly stand to have the old man Father of fathers, make me one, heart of a father as he looks upon
around. But when I got to be 21, A fit example for a son. his son. You will never know the
I was astonished at how much —Douglas Malloch sense of honor that makes a man
he had learned in seven years.— want to be more than he is and to
Mark Twain, “Old Times on the Directly after God in heaven comes pass something good and hopeful
Mississippi,” Atlantic Monthly, 1874 a Papa.— Wolfgang Amadeus into the hands of his son.—Kent
Mozart as a boy Nerburn, Letters to My Son
The greatest gift I ever had
Came from God; I call him Dad! Noble fathers have noble To her the name Father was another
—Author unknown children.—Euripides name for love.—Fanny Fern 1
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6. CONF i DENT
CH i LDREN
By Alex Peterson
Parents who are concerned about their Problem solving
children’s progress at each stage of their develop- Parents are often amazed to discover how
ment, as nearly all parents are, need to realize what capable and resourceful their children are
an important role a child’s self-image plays toward in solving their own problems, with a little
that end. Children with positive feelings about guidance. All children encounter problems; that
themselves, who believe they can succeed, are far is a necessary part of growing up. It is through
more likely to. dealing with such challenges that they learn
Children make their first judgments about problem-solving skills that are essential for success
themselves and their abilities in the context of their in life. It takes time and patience to help children
home. Parents can find opportunities every day to learn to solve their own problems, but it is a wise
develop their children’s self-confidence, which in the investment that will pay big dividends when the
long run will help them grow into well-adjusted, children get older, their problems become more
well-rounded adults. complex, and the stakes are higher.
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7. One tendency of parents is to be too quick to fix is possible to build rather than undermine self-
the problem or provide the answer. That may meet esteem, even in what might otherwise seem like an
the immediate need, but it hinders the learning impossibly negative situation.
process. It’s like the saying: Give a man a fish and Not all children misbehave when they feel
you feed him for a day; teach a man to fish and you insecure; some become withdrawn or underachieve.
feed him for life. Teaching problem-solving is more But however the insecurity is manifested, the first
important and more beneficial in the long run than step in rectifying the problem is to recognize it, and
providing solutions. Helping children work through the second step is to go to work on the cause from a
their problems also shows that you have faith in positive angle.
them, which boosts their confidence and self-esteem.
This is how God works with us. He could solve
all of our problems with a snap of His fingers, Cultivate mutual respect
but instead He usually expects us to reason things Mutual respect strengthens the bond of love in
through, consider our options, and do what we can a parent-child relationship. It also engenders unity,
before He will step in and do what we can’t. He obedience, and appreciation.
involves us in working out the solution and brings Respect within a family is manifested through
us along step by step, not to make life more difficult consideration, understanding, thoughtfulness, a
but to help us grow from the experience. willingness to listen, and loving communication.
And it works both ways; if you want your children to
show you respect, show them respect.
Insecurity issues Children learn by observation and imitate what
No matter how much parents love their children they see. If lack of respect is the problem, it prob-
and try to meet their needs, situations will come up ably started with the child’s parents, peers, or other
that cause the children to feel insecure, and insecu- influences such as TV, movies, or computer games.
rity is often reflected in behavioral problems. Minimizing such negative influences is half the
Bad behavior needs to be corrected, but unless the battle; setting clear guidelines as to what’s expected
parent understands what prompted it, the correction and then consistently upholding that standard is
may hinder more than help. Was the misbehavior the other.
the result of natural childish experimentation—a
bad idea that seemed good or fun at the time? Or
was it the result of insecurity—trying to fit in,
impress, or win new friends after moving to a new
neighborhood or changing schools, for example?
Bad behavior is only a symptom, so correction alone
is like lopping off the top of a weed; it will soon be
back. Parents need to identify and go to work on the
root of the problem, the underlying cause.
Depending on the age and maturity level of the
child, try to help the child come to his or her own
conclusions by approaching it from the problem-
solving angle. That may not be easy in the heat of
the moment, but remember, the goal is to correct
the problem, not to punish the child. By making
a clear distinction between the problem and the
child and then involving the child in turning
the problem situation into a learning situation, it
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8. Ways that you can show your children respect do that right now.” And if you don’t catch yourself
include: in time, an after-the-fact explanation and apology
Treating each child as an individual will set the record straight. By giving the child
Being sensitive to their feelings; putting yourself an opportunity to be part of the solution to your
in their position problem, you will have turned a potentially damag-
Not belittling them or using sarcasm when they ing situation into a positive one.
falter
Not intentionally embarrassing them
Asking and suggesting, rather than giving Positive reinforcement
commands Praise is a superior motivator. Children thrive on
Paying attention when they speak and hearing praise. It’s more important and more beneficial to
them out; not being too quick to provide your praise a child for good behavior than it is to scold for
perspective bad behavior.
Treating them as though they were slightly more There are times when admonitions and cor-
mature than they actually are rection are needed, but by learning to preempt
Giving their ideas serious consideration; thinking problem situations with praise and other posi-
in terms of how you can help their ideas to work tive reinforcement, you will build self-esteem in
your children and find yourself less discouraged,
exhausted, and frustrated at the end of the day. It’s
Avoid misunderstandings a win-win parenting strategy.
Sometimes it seems that children choose the The more you focus on the positive, the more
worst possible times to misbehave, and sometimes things you will find to praise your child for and the
it is not so much actual misbehavior as it is annoy- less you will have to deal with bad behavior. Praise
ing behavior. When parents are under pressure, are encourages actions that warrant more praise.
preoccupied with other work or other thoughts, Be consistent, be sincere, and be creative—but
aren’t feeling well, or are simply not in a good be believable. For example, if the child tries to do
mood, that’s bound to affect the way they interact something new with disastrous results, commend the
with their children. Some things that are normally effort, not the outcome. Or if the ill-fated attempt
allowed or overlooked—a certain level of noise or was meant to be a surprise for you, commend the
rambunctiousness, for example—push the parent thoughtfulness. Always accentuate the positive, and
over the edge, resulting in harsh words, more severe make the good memorable. 1
punishment than the offense actually warrants, or
“the look” that sends the message “You’re in trouble”
but leaves the child confused.
Children usually don’t see the big picture, so
when a parent’s frustrations boil over like that, they
often assume more of the blame than they actually
deserve, which can lead to even more damaging
conclusions—“Mommy wishes I wasn’t here,”
“Daddy doesn’t love me,” “I’m no good.”
Avoid such confidence-shattering misunderstand-
ings by catching yourself short of the boiling point
and putting the questionable behavior in context.
“I would love to hear you sing that song again, but
right now I need to concentrate on driving.” “I have
a headache, so I’m going to have to ask you to not
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9. Train up a child in the way he should
go: and when he is old, he will not
depart from it.—Proverbs 22:6
INFLUENCE
Whenever you hear of whereas 72 percent of the boys Put high expectations in front of
someone doing a great thing, who said that their fathers rarely [young people]. Give them love.
you may be sure that behind it or never spent time with them Give them support. They will
somewhere is a great background. fell into the group with the lowest succeed.—Said Sewell
It may be a mother’s training, levels of self-esteem and were also
a father’s example, a teacher’s more likely to have emotional
influence, or an intense and behavioral problems.
experience of his own, but it More surprisingly, the study the greatest sermon
has to be there or else the great found little difference between A farmer had an unusually
achievement does not come, the positive effects of good father/ fine crop of grain, but just a few
no matter how favorable the son relationships in two-parent days before it was ready to har-
opportunity.—Catherine Miles homes and homes where the vest, there was a terrible hail and
father was absent (as in divorce wind storm. The entire crop was
Fathering helps situations) but nevertheless demolished. After the storm was
selF - esteem took time with his son. Similar over, the farmer and his young
A study by the British parent- studies have found that in a son stepped outside. The little
ing research project Tomorrow’s father’s absence, another father boy looked at what was formerly
Men found that fathers who figure such as a stepfather, uncle, a beautiful field of wheat and,
spend a few minutes each day grandfather, teacher, or mentor, with tears in his eyes, looked
one on one with their sons greatly by assuming an active role, can up at his dad, expecting to
increase their sons’ chances of have an equally positive effect. hear words of despair. Instead
growing into confident adults. he heard his father softly sing,
Of the boys who said that their “Rock of Ages, cleft for me, let
fathers spent time with them and me hide myself in Thee.” Years
took an active interest in their Mentoring is a brain to pick, an ear later the son, now a grown man,
progress, more than 90 percent to listen, and a push in the right said, “That was the greatest
fell in the “can do” category, direction.—John Crosby sermon I ever heard.” 1
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10. Thank you,
Dad
An open letter by Angie Frouman
Dear Dad, For the tasty little healthful For the times when you had
These are some of the thoughts treats you brought home for us to put your foot down and
that come to mind as I sit down kids, which we always looked make me toe the line and abide
to write you for Father’s Day. I forward to and enjoyed so by our family rules (now that
hope you know how much I love, much—thank you. I have kids of my own, I know
admire, and appreciate you. For being the one to take how tough that is, and how
For showing me through your me shoe shopping and for not important)—thank you.
example of giving your life in stopping till we found the perfect For believing in me when it
service to others for the past 37 pair—thank you. was time for me to spread my
years, that every sacrifice we make For doctoring all those wings and fly, but I was sure I’d
for Jesus and others is worth scraped knees, splinters, and bungle it—thank you.
it—thank you. maladies of every sort, and for For teaching me how to
For all those times when the dispensing all that extra atten- negotiate the rental contract
outlook was bleak, but you held tion and moral support in the on my first place away from
on and kept trusting Jesus to pull process—thank you. home—thank you.
us through—thank you. For all the amusing and For being a fun and
For making time, despite animated tales of your adventurous grandpa to my
your work deadline that day, childhood—thank you. kids—thank you.
to help me finish my project For the bedtime stories, which For those one-on-one times
for Bible class when I was in were always a high point of my you spent with me, in spite of
the 2nd grade (I still have that day—thank you. your busy schedule and long
booklet!)—thank you. For making me feel safe and to-do lists, which always meant
For not getting impatient secure no matter where in the the world to me—thank you.
over my childish questions world we were, just because you
and nonsensical conversation were there—thank you. Your daughter
starters—thank you. For all the great basketball
For all the memorable trips you and softball games we played Angie Frouman is a member of
took us on and for lugging all our together when those were my the Family International in
extra baggage—thank you. passion—thank you. Mexico. 1
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11. The connection
By Julie Vasquez
God’s idea of prayer is not a ritual, If God is your
but loving and lively communica-
tion between a father and his Father, please
beloved children.
But sad to say, most people call home!
don’t think they can talk to God
like that. Some think they’re not
religious enough, not righteous How do we establish such a
enough, or not spiritual enough. relationship, especially when we
Some think He’s too big, too far feel small and unspiritual and
above them. Some think He’s too unworthy? How do we make that
busy to be concerned about them connection?—Through His Son,
and their problems, which they Jesus.
think must seem awfully petty None of us can really grasp
to Him. Some feel unworthy, not how great and wonderful God contact with. He is the One we can
good enough. Some feel guilty our Father is, because He and approach God through.
or ashamed about things they’ve His Spirit are greater than the If you have prayed to receive
done. Some are even afraid of whole universe. He’s so beyond Jesus as your Savior, you already
Him. If only they understood how our comprehension that He had have that connection. If not, you
differently God sees it! to send us Someone who could can make it right now by sincerely
God wants to have a personal show us His love, Someone we praying a simple prayer like the
relationship with each of us, and could experience, Someone who following:
He wants it to be the deepest, could bring God down to the level Dear Jesus, I believe You are the
most meaningful, most fulfilling of our limited human understand- Son of God and that You died for
and rewarding, most natural part ing. So He sent His Son, Jesus. me. I need Your love to cleanse me
of our lives. Now that’s not to say Jesus lived for thirty-three from my mistakes and wrongdo-
He wants to take away from the years on Earth in human form and ing. I now open the door of my
other relationships and activities experienced the joy and sorrows heart and ask You to please come
that we enjoy and consider impor- that we as humans experience.1 into my life and give me Your gift
tant. To the contrary, He wants to Jesus has been here, so He can of eternal life. Amen.
be a part of all that. He wants to understand us and be the link
make our day-to-day living easier, between us and God. 2 “The Connection” is adapted
He wants to give the things we We can get personal with Jesus. from the booklet Prayer Power
experience greater meaning, and He even told us to ask Him into from Aurora Production, and
He wants to enjoy them with us. In our hearts: “Behold, I stand at the is available from one of the
a word, He wants to make our lives door and knock. If anyone hears addresses on page 2. 1
better. He wants to add a wonder- My voice and opens the door, I
ful new dimension to all that we will come in to him and dine with John 1:1–3,14
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do—the dimension of His loving him, and he with Me.”3 He’s the 1 Timothy 2:5
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presence. One we can have direct, personal 3
Revelation 3:20
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12. W H AT I S G O D L I K E ?
Some people picture God as an
all-seeing eye carrying around a
big stick, ready to clobber them;
or as a cruel tyrant, some kind of
monster who is trying to frighten
them into hell. But actually, He
is love! He is our loving heavenly
Father who is trying to love
everyone into heaven. He’s so
close, so intimate, so personal,
so loving, so kind, so tender, so
gentle, so concerned—and He’s
waiting with open arms. The
only reason He follows us around
is that He’s hoping we’ll turn
around and meet Him with open
arms.
—David Brandt Berg
Understanding God
You don’t have to understand God in order to love Him. In fact,
no one can ever fully understand God. It’s impossible because, as He
says, His ways are far above our own. “As the heavens are higher than What baby
the earth, so are My ways higher than your ways, and My thoughts
than your thoughts.”1 Forget trying to figure out God! Just accept His or little child
love by faith.
Jesus tried to make it simple. He said, “Unless you are converted and understands all
become as little children, you will by no means enter the kingdom of
heaven.”2 What baby or little child understands all about his mother about his mother
or father, or how he was born, or all about life? Yet he is instinctively
attuned to the most profound thing in the world—love. He feels his or father?
parents’ love and receives it and responds with love.
The Bible tells us that “God is Spirit”3 and “God is love.”4 He’s the
very Spirit of love in your heart. It’s impossible to fully understand
God and His love, but it is possible to receive His love and to love
Him in return. Making a personal connection with the God of love Isaiah 55:9
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is so simple that many people can’t believe it. It’s just a matter of 2
Matthew 18:3
asking in faith and receiving. 3
John 4:24
—David Brandt Berg 1 1 John 4:8
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13. All my friends were
distancing themselves from
their parents, and I felt
compelled to follow suit.
And so, as a child, I had immense love and
respect for him. He was my dad, and I would do
whatever I could to please him if it would get me
just one more minute with him.
But as happens, I grew older. Passing through
my preteen and early teen years was rough. I felt
as though I had to pull away from him, as that
was what kids did at that age. All my friends were
distancing themselves from their parents, and I felt
compelled to follow suit. I’m sure it’s not easy for
parents to watch their kids drift away, but I refused
to see that back then.
I grew older still, and we grew even further apart.
When I got mixed up with the wrong crowd and
got into delinquency and drugs, I pushed my dad
out completely, not wanting to face retribution for
my poor decisions. He might have understood part
NOW I SEE of what was going on, but I didn’t. I was blind to
how my actions hurt him, and I couldn’t see that he
wanted to see me make something of myself simply
By Peter Story because he loved me. That was a concept beyond
my years. All I could see was the world immediately
I have to say that I genuinely admire my around me, selfish people doing selfish things, and
dad. But in saying that, I also have to admit that I thought he was one of them.
wasn’t always an easy thing for me to say. Over the Things got even worse, and eventually I got into
years I’ve come to see more and more how much I trouble with the law for an act of sheer stupidity.
couldn’t see. But rather than admit where I had gone wrong, I let
I was the youngest of three children raised by a these things turn into resentment toward my dad.
single dad. I’m sure it was tough for him, but he Every step he took to try and help me see how I was
didn’t act like it around us. I can see now how wise messing up my life was perceived by me as another
that decision of his was. He had many difficul- step to control me.
ties of his own, but he made sure he remained an When I was 17 and the last of his children still
example of our heavenly Father so we would feel living with him, we had a falling out and I moved
safe and secure. out. He tried to help me see the road I was headed
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14. I had pushed away a
person who loved me
dearly and only wanted to In that time of desperation, about to hit bottom,
I turned to Jesus. When I did, He helped me begin
help me out of love. to see how blind I had been for years. I had pushed
away a person who loved me dearly and only wanted
to help me out of love.
I made amends with my father, and I am now
down, but I was determined to hang on to my pride able to look back on those dark experiences and
and be master of my own destiny. No one but me actually be thankful for them, in part because they
would make decisions about how I was going to live. gave me a much deeper respect and love for my
I moved in with some friends and continued dad. Through his example, I learned to appreciate
further down the road I was following. If I had those who lay down their lives for others, simply
thought things were bad before then, it was clear because of love. It was that appreciation that led
that my life was now like a car careening downhill. me, at age 19, to dedicate my life to serving God
In the months that followed, I got into some very and others. Five years later, I’m still finding new
troubling relationships, often didn’t have food to reasons to be thankful for a dad who cared so
eat, found out the true value of my “friends” when much for someone who cared so little for him.
they attempted to take advantage of me in drug I couldn’t see it then, but now I see.
deals, and narrowly escaped jail. I finally saw that
if I didn’t slam on the brakes soon, I was headed Peter Story is a member of the Family
for a big crash. International in Mexico. 1
Unconditional love
In the parable that Jesus told about the
prodigal son,1 do you remember how the
father acted when the boy returned home? Did
he run up and sniff his breath to see if he had
been drinking? Did he comment on how poorly
he had cared for his clothes? Did he criticize
his straggly hair and dirty fingernails? Did he
inquire about the balance left in his check-
ing account? Of course not. He hugged the
boy—the hug of loving acceptance.
—Dr. Bob Pedrick
Luke 15:11–24
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15. FEEDING READING
A godly father...
…bases his life and …teaches his children the Look on the
actions on God’s Word.
Deuteronomy 12:28
Word of God.
Deuteronomy 6:6–7 bright side
…sets a good example. …understands his A SpiritUAL ExErciSE
1 Corinthians 11:1 children’s limits and
sympathizes.
…has strong moral Psalm 103:13–14 Life is seldom problem free, and it seems that
character. many of our problems involve the people closest to
Proverbs 20:7 …treats his children us—family members, co-workers, neighbors, and
gently and lovingly. others with whom we interact on a regular basis. Even
…seeks God’s guidance in Colossians 3:21 if those people aren’t the cause of our problems, they
raising his children. are affected by our reactions to them. If we are in the
Judges 13:8b …corrects his children habit of reacting negatively, that can sour life and
when needed. relationships faster than almost anything else.
…loves his children Proverbs 13:24 One of the secrets to both happiness and success
unconditionally. Proverbs 3:12 with people is to not allow the relatively small prob-
Luke 15:11–24 lems and irritations of daily life to cast large shadows.
…is rewarded in his Helen Keller hit on that truth when she said, “Keep
…provides materially for children. your eyes to the sunshine and you cannot see the
his family. Proverbs 23:24–25 shadows.” The apostle Paul was more specific when
1 Timothy 5:8 3 John 4 he said, “Whatever things are true, whatever things
are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things
…is actively involved in are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things
his children’s education are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is
and moral training. anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.”1
Proverbs 22:6 For the next couple of weeks, why not take a few
Ephesians 6:4 minutes each night to reflect on your day? What were
the high points and low points? Did you thank God
for the highs? How could you have reacted better to
the lows by looking on the bright side? There’s some-
thing to be gained from even the worst situations if
you look for it. By recasting the events of your day in
a more positive light, you condition yourself to react
more positively in the future. 1
Philippians 4:8
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16. Leading Your children need Me, like you do. They need to learn
to include Me in their daily lives. They need to learn
the way
to trust Me when the going is hard. They need to learn
to depend on Me. They need to learn to bring their
problems to Me. They need to learn to pray for others.
They need to learn to listen to My voice, so I can help
FROM JESUS WITH LOVE them make the right choices. Most of all, they need to
learn to love Me and accept My love.
Do you want your children to learn all these things?
They will as they see them in you. The best way to get
your children to go the right way is to lead the way. I
want the best for your children and it is Mine to give,
but you are the channel through which most of My
blessings will flow. How much I am able to work in
your children’s lives depends largely on how much I
am able to work in yours. Love Me with all your heart.
Seek to please Me. Ask Me to lead the way. Follow
closely, and I will do the rest.
