Ten Tips for a Happier Teenager

1. 4 PARENTS WITH TEENS
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4. How to form a better attitude in your teenage child
When its not pretty on the home front and you really want to change things here are a proven list of
actions that can bring your child to a new level of openness and engagement with you.
First, Soften the Blow
Ease into the new way of communicating with your teen by giving them gifts to show that you care
about how they cope in their day.
Add candles, create inspiration ( a lamp in the hallway), new bathroom décor, little things that will
help them to feel better. It is something to make a positive comment on and together you can
identify how your moods can be altered by these little things. Let them identify how they can be
motivated by their environment and it is their choice to keep making positive changes
Learn to make small daily choices that will transform their life.
Be involved and take daily action to build on their dream. In talking about, purchasing and working
things out together to show you support their dreams and aspirations helps them to feel confident
in themselves. They might tell us that they don’t want to share, nevertheless, showing Interest in
their dreams and ideas is affirmation that they matter. But be careful that they don’t turn it into a
space invaded thing. Always talk politely and respectfully as though they are your equal and you will
always get the best out of them, as long as you don’t dismiss their ideas. When you get that chance,
gently add your perspective and allow them to reason in your midst so they feel that you are a part
of their sacred decision making process.
Talk to them about unconditional love, using qualities and admiring good qualities in others.
Identify negative actions from other people or news and discuss why it has a dead end effect
A key to a happier life is contained in your dreams and so we need to keep aware of each others
aspirations and the developments toward those aspirations
If it feels like it is impossible to get your child to be open about their thoughts and dreams or if they
don’t seem to be want to unlock with information, then its time to not only be gentle and open in
your communication but over a period of time, affirm that you are making a conscious effort to
develop a good connection with them. Be persistent. Once a day, positively and subtly say one thing
that has a significantly good meaning eg “ I am really looking forward to seeing your life and what
you choose in the future.” That gives her/him energy and support to dream their dreams and feel
reinforced. They will be more inclined to be open with you if you are interested and let it be known.
If they push you over the edge and you lose your temper and you respond negatively, its then up to
you to eventually acknowledge if your behaviour was moody or irrational. Make them understand
that they are not the problem but their behaviour was. As difficult as they are, try to get them to
understand your thinking and your resolve. Get them to understand you, and that you are sorry for
the action that may have upset them. Always be humble enough to admit if your behaviour was
inappropriate and they will learn from you and then they will do the same. You can do this and keep

5. your dignity and it leaves them with not much of an argument against you. Otherwise it can go on
and on and become a useless aggressive rant from them against you, which just tires you out.
By breaking it down you are once again adding value to them and you as having importance
And that does empower you as a group. Open communication does flow more easily as you have
allowed them permission to be honest about their feelings. Let them vent up to a point. Once they
have got that load off, there will be a relief and then they can conjure up positive actions with their
newfound energy instead of remaining bottled up and resentful.
This will propel you out of an unfulfilling existence and them also. Communication is freedom when
people are open in a constructive way with each other. Even when you know the difficulties of life
are not going to stop. It makes life much easier when you can share with each other with a
constructive attitude.
If people around you are not open then just utilise this knowledge in your daily life with friends and
other significant people. Once you have identified that communication is an asset and being locked
down or oppressing your feelings does nothing but limit your opportunities then you have
successfully mastered the first stage of becoming your own life coach.
Look at the other things that limit your motivation. Your loved ones and family might just be stuck
in a rut themselves, and their way of responding to you, might not even be really anything to do
with you. They might need to take the time to get to know you better, and if you feel you will get
the right response then tell them. Its worth telling people if they are able to listen openly and even
if they dont understand you can help them adjust to your needs, and express what you need. Dont
stop. reinforce at different times until the message has sunk in. Teenagers and young people need
to feel good about themselves and its up to the people around them to make them feel noticed.
noticed in all the ways they are managing and every little bit helps them top grow stronger aand
feel good. If its not happening at home, then surround yourself with people who help your
personal self empowerment.
Don’t waste time with mucky thoughts and interactions
- Find your personal inspiration.
- Rediscover and identify what has motivated you in the past.
- Learn to equip yourself with the tools to become your own personal coachand learn to rely on
your own motivation. You have the dreams and the power to do anything.

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