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KEY
TO
A SUCCESSFUL AMARRIAGE
BY
ALFA ISAH ABDULGANIU

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DEDICATION
This article work is dedicated to God Almighty, who made this possible.

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ACKNOWLEDGEMENT
This work is dedicated to the creator of the universe, whom made marriage a legal and natural
bliss for mankind.
My appreciation as well goes to my sponsors, Mr&Mrs ALFA ISAH, for their passionate care
and support all through.
I sincerely appreciate everyone else whom it actually not possible for me to mention
individually.
May the Almighty be with us all (Ameen).

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ABSTRACT
This book is titled "KEY TO SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE".
It was published in a order to address the current situation
of marriage conflicts / misunderstanding, in other to reduce the rate of "Divorce" in our society.
In as much as marriage is a natural phenomenon, it is actually of great importance we discuss
about how to get progress in marriage, the challenges, the do's and the don't in order to achieve
a healthy and successful marriage life.

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CHAPTER ONE
In this chapter, shall briefly introduce to us the topic of discussion, which is comparatively the
title of this masterpiece (Book) called key to successful marriage.
Just as marriage is a known term and act which is universally practiced and cherished for its
uniqueness and natural enchantment. It has sprunged up many thoughts to be discussed to
ensure it's success in our immediate environment at large not neglecting the current century
sentiment about marriage.
WHAT IS MARRIAGE?
Marriage in a simple term refers to a legal union between both gender (male and a female) a
concluded agreement to live there lives in Holy matrimony.
Deducing from the definition of marriage cited above, it is a thing of duo (Two) agreement
reached to an inclined interest.
Marriage it's self has been in existence for decades from the very first two couples that graced
the planet Earth known as "Adam and Eve" as ordained by God almighty himself.
COMPONENTS OF MARRIAGE
Marriage must consist of the following for it to be termed marriage in proper.
The couple in it's matrimonial meaning refers to the opposite gender whom agreed on a
common interest, emotional feelings, to live there lives and exist as one, irrespective of their
ethnic, religious, tribal, age differences, e t c.
NECESSITY FOR MARRIAGE
Marriage is a natural Force compelling both gender to exist as one in order to achieve
reproduction to enhance continuity of human race and generation.
Marriage brings about companionship, friendship, soulmate, support, and mutual existence of
both gender. Without marriage, of human and generation would have been a thing of history,
because reproduction in this Union is legal. Marriage has no doubt showcases the role of love
and affinity expression to the life of Man.

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BENEFITS OF MARRIAGE TO OUR EXISTENCE
We must agree to a common fact that the uniqueness of marriage is not to be underestimated.
It is therefore necessary to highlight some beautiful benefits of marriage. This is so because, if
this book is to engage and tell him plenty of the benefits of marriage it might take us to another
realm, while it will become almost impossible for us to accomplish the major reasons or topic
of discussion here in this book, which is " key to successful marriage".
Marriage is never in any way discussed without pointing towards this major points highlighted
below. They are:-
(1) Unity
( 2) Peace
( 3) Acceptance
(4) Harmony
(5) Diversification of Culture
Let's shed more light on the points listed above.
(1) Unity:- marriage has potentially been reached, by two abled and understanding adults to
unionize via marriage tie.
This is no doubt that marriage in its practical form has brought about a tangible development
in the society through it's unifying way of existence.
(2) Peace:- marriage brings about peace in its natural term as though rejection would be the
case if there is no peaceful coexistence amongst both party background.
Peace enjoyed in a family, is due to the common interest which both parties involved in the
marriage inclined to which results to a holy Matrimony agreement.
(3) Acceptance:- marriage has acted as a very important key to enhancing acceptance from our
societal norms, culture and tradition, and as well our religious belief, to accept to be in Holy
matrimony.
Majorly, the case of complexion difference is cited as a negative feature, because love has led
the pathway through to marriage concept which did not ascribe races, tribal, and religious
difference to it's common selection consideration.

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(4) Diversification of culture:- marriage diligently brings an Hausa man, and an Ebira lady
together to be in holy matrimony otherwise known as marriage irrespective of their different
cultural belief.
Others include:-
1. Beginning
“Marriage is the beginning the beginning of the family andnd is a life-long commitment.
Marriage is the beginning—the beginning of the family—and is a life-long commitment. It also
provides an opportunity to grow in selflessness as you serve your wife and children.
Marriage is more than a physical union; it is also a spiritual and emotional union.
2. Oneness
When a man and woman get married, the “two become one.” Marriage is a bond like no other.
It gives us a life partner, a teammate, as we move through the challenges of life together.
3. Purity
Marriage is designed for purity. We face temptation nearly every minute and from all
directions. The bond of marriage gives us the support to defeat temptation by engaging in deep,
satisfying love—a love that gives to, and receives from, our mate physically, emotionally, and
spiritually.
4. Parenting
When a marriage produces a child or receives a child through adoption, it is one of life’s
greatest blessings. Roughly 40% of children being raised today are in a home without a father.
The effects of that fact are staggering. Father absence causes increases in mental and behavioral
disorders as well as criminal activity and substance abuse. But when children are raised in a
healthy marriage, they get a front row seat to see and experience the lasting benefits of a strong
family.
5. Love

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Marriage is designed to mirror our Creator’s unconditional love for us. It’s a love that will
always be there and will never leave us or forsake us. When a man and woman love one another
unconditionally, contentment and joy follows.
Limited points about benefits / importance of marriage shall be discussed in this book, because
in a nutshell numerous benefits could have been detailed, in oder to save time and concentrate
on the other various segment yet to be discussed here.
CHAPTER TWO
DRIVING FORCE OF MARRIAGE

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Marriage as an act couldn't have come into existence without a primary driving Force, the
driving Force in this aspect is indeed a common one between the couples.
What is this driving Force?
" LOVE"
Love involves emotions and behaviours characterized by Passion, intimacy, and commitment.
It is usually positive, such phenomenon is what we refer to as "the driving Force for marriage".
BENEFITS OF LOVE
1- Reduction in the rate of visitation to health facilities for medical check-up.
2- Less depression and substance abuse.
3-Lower blood pressure.
4- Natural pain control.
5- Better stress management.
6- Fewer colds.
7-Maintains a healthy heart.
8- It provides companionship, care, and support etc.
MAKING THE RIGHT CHOICE OF SPOUSE
Making the choice for a partner to live one's life with in Holy matrimony, is not what one
should be in hurry to decide, in order to decide with the best of his observations about the
specific spouse he intends to settle down with in order to avoid heartbreak, disappointment,
regret, waste of resources and time value, all crawling around the term " divorce".
Some important criteria to be considered during making choices for spouse.
It is indeed a paramount case, responsible adults to be interested and the happiness of his own,
and raising a family that will grant him Joy other than heart tremor.
It is therefore important to check for the most vital qualities the masculine and the feminine
gender possess, because of them deserves the best.
QUALITIES OF A GOOD SPOUSE
It is obvious every male and female has their own desires.

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In terms of:-
1. Sense of humour
2. Charisma
3. Patience
4. Perseverance
5. Interpersonal skills
In terms of:-
1. Height
2. Complexion
3. Natural endowment
In terms of:-
1. Religious belief
2. Ethnicity
3. Culture
4. Tribe
5. And region.
All these should be well observed, and there should be willingness to be bonded with another
with in Holy matrimony.
WHAT ARE THE QUALITIES OF A GOOD SPOUSE?
First of all, let's look into the qualities of a good husband:-
1- Affection :- a good husband, should be able to give maximum affection required by his wife.
Expression of emotional feelings like:-kissing, embracing, fondness, romantic in nature.
Regardless of their age difference.
2- Independence:- the husband should not be on dependence upon his parents, siblings, and
friends for discharging his duties and responsibilities in his own home.
He should be hardworking forecast was achieving his family goals.
3- leadership:- he is reliable, initiative, and knows how to guide, and lead the family to the right
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Hence, total submission is required from the wife,and the husband is required, to be a role
model to the family.
4- Loyalty:- cheat avoiding after wedding, and maintaining self dignity and that of the family.
5- Trust:- he has the husband should be trustworthy and not an image of mistrust to enable
good understanding thereby strengthening the home.
6- Patience- a special attribute of a person is indeed also wound round Patience and hard
working.
Patience because it is very much noted as a fundamental piece of peaceful coexistence.
He is not required to get angry easily the quality of a good leader.
7- persistence:- he is persistent and consistent, he never stops achieves dream for the family.
Never the type that get discouraged and doesn't give up easily
8:- self control:- should be of self disciplined it is very much pertinent he controls self to avoid
gluttony , drunkenness, idleness, lust, and other vices, that will put his family misery.
9- wisdom:- a good husband able to the sun what right from wrong not an ignorant fool, lieing,
cheating, irresponsible, lazy, should not be his attributes.
It is indeed necessary in brief and concise, so we shall list more points below:-
1. Understanding
2. Compassion
3. Forgiveness
4. Righteousness
5. Justice
6. Respect
7. Contentment
8. Selflessness
9. Godliness
10. Helpfulness
11. Hopefulness

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12. Faithfulness
13. Diligence
14. Kindness
15. Humility
16. support
17. Above all true love.
How To Be A Good Husband
Marriage is not just a legal agreement, but a lifelong commitment marry someone promised
with all your heart and mind will be with spouse cherish your love for or for worse richer or
poorer yes and health as long as you live. The reality is that wedding or marriage vows and not
easy to keep wearing the purported wedding ring and not keeping loyalty in your heart and
mind, deeds is another story.
Marriage is not all about symbols and ceremonies about actions and practices
If you love your wife, you have to show her that you are true a good and a better husband
everyday. yes, 8 easier said than done, but if you know what to do, you can already start setting
your Direction to that goal now if you don't idea, it is important you seek for marriage advices,
consultations, researchers, and practical observations, from people or couples that are already
excelling and their marriage life
For many people, finding a good wife is a blind man’s buff because they don’t know the
qualities of a good wife to search for. It is important to mention that knowing the qualities of a
good wife will guide your search when you are ready to get one.
Women with qualities of a good wife are worthy keepers, and they deserve all the care and
respect because they have the purest intentions for the home.
What does it mean to be a good wife?
One of the reasons why a woman is tagged a good wife is because of her readiness to make the
marriage work. When the couple disagrees, a good wife would follow the lead of her husband
and be receptive to resolving issues amicably.
Also, a good wife understands her husband cannot be perfect, so she does not struggle to mold
him into her perfect model. Rather, she adjusts to his personality and corrects his shortcomings
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A good wife displays qualities that not only help build a home and family but also helps her
project herself as a good human being.
QUALITIES Of A Good Wife
More than aiming to be a good wife, it is also essential to have positive attributes as a person,
which in turn will reflect in your role as a wife. These qualities will keep all your relationships
within the family healthy and balanced.
But if you are unsure what to look for in a good wife specifically, here are 20 qualities of a
good wife that will help you in the search better:
1. Care and compassion
A good wife exhibits both care and compassion. She is sensitive to the family’s needs, and does
her best to provide a solution. She understands when her husband is frustrated, and tries to
make him happy.
Her caring disposition makes sure the family does not lack in any aspect of life.
2. Sensitive of the little things
A good wife is not oblivious to the little things that happen in the home.
For instance, if the husband does something considered to be small, she does not ignore it.
Rather, she warms up lovingly and appreciates him. On the other hand, if the husband is sad
about something in the home, she tries her best to fix it.
3. Spends quality time with her husband
Young Couple in Love Sitting in a Autumn Park Leaning Against a Tree Embracing One
Another
No matter how busy the good wife’s schedule is, she makes time to spend with her husband.
Some women don’t spend time with their husbands using excuses like an extremely busy
schedule. A good wife understands that the quality time spent maintains the spark in the
marriage.
4. Encourages her husband

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One important role of a wife in a man’s life is acting as a source of encouragement and support.
In both good and bad times, one of the qualities of a good wife is to encourage and show her
husband that he is loved. When men experience challenging times, they don’t see their value.
However, a good wife reminds them of the great worth they possess.
5. Respects her husband
A successful marriage thrives on respect. If you are searching for the characteristics of a good
wife, make sure she is respectful.
In addition, a good wife appreciates her husband’s effort, and the husband reciprocates with
respect and love.
6. Puts her family first
If you are thinking of what to look for in a wife, know that a good wife puts her family first.
The family’s needs and wants top her priorities, and she’s not apologetic about it. A good wife
goes the extra mile to ensure her home is comfortable for her husband and kids.
7. Husband’s best friend and lover
A good wife does not cheat because her husband is her one and only lover.
In addition, she could have close friends, but her husband remains her best friend. If there are
any pending issues, she talks first to her husband, who doubles as her best friend.
8. A good problem-solver
In marriage, one of the qualities of a good wife to look for is her willingness and ability to
tackle problems.
A good wife neither leaves all the problems to her husband to solve nor points accusing fingers
at anyone. Instead, she works together with her husband to combat these problems.
9. Treasures teamwork
What makes a good wife is her ability to collaborate and participate as an active team-player.
She does not leave her husband to tackle any issue alone.
Rather, she contributes her quota, and she acknowledges her husband’s effort. A good wife
knows that collaborative efforts keep the marriage intact as everything goes smoothly.

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10. Doesn’t infringe on her husband’s personal space.
A good wife understands that everyone needs their personal space.
When she notices her husband needs some alone time, she respects his decision. She is also
clairvoyant as she knows the right time to warm up to her husband and cheer him up.
11. She is romantic.
Loving Couple Hugging Together Corner In The Room With Hot Air Balloon
When it comes to romance, a good wife knows how to integrate this into her marriage.
She plans surprises and does little things that catch her husband unaware. She is sensitive to
her husband’s needs, and leverages this to make romantic gestures.
12. She avoids pretense
A good wife is always true to herself and her words. She isn’t a copycat.
Although she has mentors and role models, she remains authentic and her true self because
that’s what matters to her husband and her marriage.
13. Communicates effectively
Being a good wife requires the input of effective communication.
When there are issues in the marriage, she tries to keep an open communication instead of
being silent about them. She prevents her husband from guessing as she lays bare her mind and
proffers ways to move forward.
14. Brings out the best in her husband
One of the important attributes of a good wife is her ability to ensure her husband attains his
best potential.
She provides her husband with the commitment and support he needs to conquer grounds. She
knows how powerful her position is in the family, and she uses it to her husband and home’s
advantage.
15. She gives a listening ear.

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One of the traits of a good wife is her ability to give a listening ear because she knows it aids
effective communication.
Hence, instead of just hearing, she listens to understand her husband. When her husband wants
to discuss with her, she keeps all distractions at bay to focus on him.
16. Celebrates her husband’s achievement.
One of the attributes of a good woman is she doesn’t see her husband’s achievement as a means
to compete. Rather, she appreciates him and acknowledges his efforts.
If there are children, she seizes the opportunity to use her husband’s success to motivate them.
17. She is honest
A man can only trust his wife when she has proved to be honest countless times.
Lasting marriages are built on honesty and effective communication. There’s a twist to being
honest; you don’t have to say anything plainly. For instance, if you don’t like his shoes, you
can replace them by getting new pairs.
18. Creative in bed
Generally, men love women who are good in bed and vice-versa.
In fact, for some men, it is one of the important qualities of a good wife in a relationship. A
good woman does research on how to satisfy her husband in bed. So, he doesn’t look outside.
If her husband loves a certain sex style, she masters it and gives him the best in bed.
19. Her spiritual life is top-notch
A good wife takes her spiritual life seriously because she knows it is beneficial to her husband
and home. She prays for her husband and home, and she meditates regularly.
Also, she ensures her husband is doing well spiritually because it helps them bond better in
faith.
20. Remains positive for her husband and home
When things are looking bleak in the home, a good wife knows she has to maintain a positive
attitude for the atmosphere to remain cool.
In addition to remaining positive, she keeps the home in good shape even when it is frustrating.

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Above all, one of the qualities of a good wife is knowing that her home has to be a safe place
for the family to grow, play and live.
Hence, she is unrelenting in achieving this. If you are searching for the best wife qualities, the
attributes in this article will guide you in making the right decisions.
When you see a woman you like, hold intelligent conversations around these qualities of a good
wife to provide an insight into the kind of person she is.

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CHAPTER THREE
PROBLEMS IN MARRIAGE
The challenges facing marriages today in this current century, is indeed numerous. We shall
discuss this challenges faced today, in different stages to enhance our knowledge about
challenges already existing marriages are currently facing or what the already planned to exist
marriages may face in order to equip the couples with knowledge of how to sustain their
marriage.
Every couple faces at least a few problems in marriage,so sad, most couples divorce without
knowing that their problems in marriage are actually solvable. Let’s break down the top ten
problems in marriage and how they can be addressed instead of leading to divorce.
According to a 17-year study from Pennsylvania State University published in 2003, the two
leading self-reported divorce reasons among separating American couples are:
● Infidelity
● Incompatibility
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The following made up much smaller but still significant portions:
● Drinking or Drug use
● Grew Apart
● Personality Problems
● Lack of Communication
● Physical or Mental abuse

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● Loss of love
● Drinking or drug use are serious problems and may be reasons to divorce.
Any physical or mental abuse is also a good reason to leave your marriage. At the same time,
the two most common reasons for divorce, infidelity and incompatability, are both fixable
problems.
 Infidelity tears a hole in the fabric of your relationship and your marriage will never be
the same. At the same time, it doesn’t mean your marriage has to be over. Sometimes
people do make mistakes, and many mistakes are repairable. (At the same time, if this
infidelity is part of a repeated pattern of betrayal, that is a good reason for divorce).
Dealing with infidelity and recovering from a trust betrayal requires a strong commitment to
change in the erring spouse and the full support of the other. Power of Two can help you work
through the challenges of rebuilding trust and provide a guide for making sure the behavior
never happens again. Also, infidelity is often the result of other underlying problems in
marriage, and working through one will help resolve the others. It’s possible for a marriage to
come out even stronger!
 Incompatibility is the number two most common reason for divorce. This word
probably describes a bunch of different problems in marriage including growing apart,
feeling distant, loss of love, increasing arguments, and different interests. Many couples
counseling programs will tell you that improving communication is the key to inviting
back intimacy, sharing and love in your marriage. Yet few actually tell you how you’re
supposed to do this! Luckily, communication is a tangible skill that you can learn.
Power of two can help you develop better communication in marriage to get over the
barriers of incompatibility.
Increasing love and intimacy is also possible. If you have committed to someone for a lifetime,
your feelings for each other will fluctuate over that time. Also, you both will change and grow
as people. At the same time, these differences don’t mean that you shouldn’t be married to each
other. Power of Two has an entire library fun, easy activities to increase the warmth and
positivity in your relationship and help you rediscover the daily joy of being in a romantic
partnership.

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Frequently Asked Questions About Problems in Marriage
What are the most common problems in marriages?
Infidelity and compatibility are the most common reasons given for divorce. However both are
potentially fixable problems with the right set of skills.
How can infidelity in a marriage be fixed?
Infidelity tears a hole through a marriage and it isn’t easy to recover when trust is broken.
However it is possible to rebuild trust if the offending party is committed to making a change.
It takes skill from both sides to navigate that process.
How big of a problem is incompatibility in a marriage?
Incompatibility can mean a lot of different things, but usually improved communication is key
to solving the problem. Couples actually can get better at talking and listening. There are
proven techniques for building intimacy, positive and support while speaking more honestly
and openly with each other.qq
COMMON PROBLEMS IN MARRIAGES
● Infidelity
● Sexual differences
● Values and beliefs
● Life stages
● Traumatic situations
● Stress
● Boredom
● Jealousy
● Trying to change each other
● Communication problems
There are many common problems in married life and a lot of them can be avoided, fixed, or
resolved using many different methods and techniques.

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Take a look at the most common marital problems faced by married couples, and learn how to
tackle these marriage problems before they cause irreparable damage in your relationship.
1. Infidelity
Infidelity is one of the most common marriage problems in relationships. It includes cheating
and having emotional affairs.
Other instances that are included in infidelity are one-night stands, physical infidelity, internet
relationships as well as long and short-term affairs. Infidelity occurs in a relationship for many
different reasons; it is a common problem and one that various couples are struggling to find a
solution to.
2. Sexual differences
Physical intimacy is indispensable in a long term relationship but it’s also the root cause of one
of the most common marriage problems of all times, sexual problems. Sexual problems can
occur in a relationship for several reasons paving way for subsequently more marriage
problems.
The most common sexual problem within a marriage is a loss of libido. A lot of people are
under the impression that only women experience issues with libido, but men also experience
the same.
In other instances, sexual problems can be due to the sexual preferences of a spouse. One person
in the relationship may prefer different sexual things than the other spouse which can make the
other spouse uncomfortable.
3. Values and beliefs
Certainly, there will be differences and disagreements within a marriage, but some differences
are too major to ignore, such as core values and beliefs. One spouse may have one religion and
the other may have a different belief.
This may give rise to an emotional chasm among other common marriage problems.
As you may have guessed, this could cause major trouble down the line when one spouse gets
tired of doing things separately, such as going to different places of worship.
Such marriage problems are extremely common in cross-cultural marriages. Other differences
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These include the way children are reared and the things they were taught during their
childhood, such as the definition of right and wrong.
Since everyone does not grow up with the same belief systems, morals, and goals, there is a lot
of room for debate and conflict within the relationship.
4. Life stages
Many people do not consider their life stages when it comes to a relationship.
In some instances, marriage issues occur simply because both spouses have outgrown each
other and want more out of life from someone else.
This is a common issue among married couples who have a significant age gap whether is it an
older man and younger woman or older woman and younger man.
Personalities change with time and couples might not remain as compatible as they once might
have been. Couples with an age difference, who are in different phases of life face this common
marriage problem.
5. Traumatic situations
When couples go through traumatic incidences, it just adds more challenge in their married life
problems.
Traumatic situations are other problems that couples may experience. A lot of traumatic events
that occur are life-changing.
For some married couples, these traumatic situations become problems because one spouse
does not know how to handle the situation at hand.
One spouse may not know or understand how to function without the other due to them being
in the hospital or on bed rest. In other situations, one spouse may require around-the-clock care,
causing them to be solely dependent on the other spouse.
Sometimes, the pressure is too great and the responsibility is too much to deal with, so the
relationship spirals downward until it comes to a complete end.
Watch this video talking about the different reasons why a marriage can fall apart:
6. Stress
Stress is a common marriage problem that most couples will face at least once within their
relationship. Stress within a relationship can be caused by many different situations and
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Financial problems can stem from a spouse losing their job or being demoted at their job. Stress
from family can include children, problems with their family, or the spouse’s family. Stress is
triggered by many different things.
How stress is managed and handled could create more stress.
7. Boredom
Boredom is an underrated but serious marital problem.
With time some spouses become bored with their relationship. They may get tired of the things
that occur within the relationship. In this situation, it comes down to being bored with the
relationship because it has become predictable. A couple may do the same thing every day for
many years without change or without a spark.
A spark usually consists of doing spontaneous things from time to time. If a relationship lacks
spontaneous activities, there is good chance boredom will become a problem.
8. Jealousy
Jealousy is another common marriage problem that causes a marriage to turn sour. If you have
an overly jealous partner, being with them and around them can become a challenge.
Jealousy is good for any relationship to an extent, as long as it is not a person being overly
jealous. Such individuals will be overbearing: they may question who you are talking to on the
phone, why you are talking to them, how you know them and how long you have known them,
etc.
Having a spouse that is overly jealous can put a strain on the relationship; a lot of stress will
eventually end such a relationship.
9. Trying to change each other
This common relationship problem occurs when couples overstep their partner’s personal
boundaries in an attempt to mold their beliefs.
It does happen that such disregard for your partner’s boundaries might happen by mistake; the
extent of retaliation from the spouse that is being attacked is usually pacified in time.
10. Communication problems
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Communication encompasses both verbal and non-verbal cues, which is why even if you have
known someone for a long period of time, a slight change in the facial expression or any other
form of body language can be perceived incorrectly.
Men and women communicate very differently and can fall in a habitat of improper
communication, and if such relationship issues are allowed to fester in a marriage, then the
sanctity of marriage is definitely at stake.
Healthy communication is the foundation for success in marriage.
11. Lack of attention
Humans are social creatures and are avid seekers of attention from others around them,
especially those who are closest to them.
Every marriage overtime suffers a common relationship problem ‘lack of attention’ where a
couple, intentionally or unintentionally, redirects their attention to other aspects of their lives.
This changes the chemistry of marriage, which instigates one or the spouse to act out and
overreact. This problem in marriage, if not dealt with appropriately, can then spiral out of
control.
12. Financial issues
Nothing can break a marriage faster than money. No matter if you are opening a joint account
or handling your finances separately, you are bound to encounter financial problems in your
marriage. It is important to openly discuss any financial issues together as a couple.
13. Lack of appreciation
A lack of gratitude, recognition, and acknowledgment of your spouse’s contribution to your
relationship is a common marriage problem.
Your inability to appreciate your spouse can be detrimental to your relationship.
14. Technology and social media
The emerging dangers of social media on marriage and family are becoming very imminent.
With a rapid increase in our interaction and obsession with technology and social platforms,
we are moving further away from healthy face-to-face communication.
We are losing ourselves in a virtual world and forgetting to love other people and things around
us. Such fixation has quickly become a common marriage problem.

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15. Trust issues
Now, this common marriage trouble can rot your marriage from the inside, leaving no chance
of restoring your relationship.
The idea of trust in a marriage is still very conventional and, at times, puts too much strain on
a marriage when the doubt starts to seep into a relationship.
16. Selfish behavior
Even though selfishness can be easily dealt with by making minor changes in your attitude
towards your spouse, it is still considered as a very common marriage problem.
17. Anger issues
Losing your temper, shouting or screaming in rage, and causing physical harm to yourself or
your spouse is sadly a common marriage problem.
With increasing stress due to internal and external factors and in a fit of rage, we might be
unable to control our anger, and an outburst towards our loved ones can be very harmful to a
relationship.
If anger is an issue you struggle with consider talking with a counselor to learn coping skills to
help keep anger at bay so that it doesn’t affect your relationship.
18. Keeping score
When anger gets the best of us in a marriage a very common reaction is to be vengeful or seek
retribution from your spouse.
19. Lying
Lying as a common marriage problem isn’t only restricted to infidelity or selfishness, it also
compromises of white lies about day to day things. These lies are many times used to save face
and not let your spouse get the high ground.
Couples might lie to each other about the difficulties or problems they might be facing at work
or in other social scenarios, such marriage problems burden a relationship, and when things get
out of hand, it can very much wreck a marriage.
20. Unrealistic expectations

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To some extent, we all agree with the notion that marriage is forever, but still, we fail to put in
the time and effort to understand our partners before getting married.
We draw our inspirations of a perfect marriage from stories that we have heard or from people
that we know without even questioning if both of us want the same things in life or not.
A mismatch between a couple about the future outlook of a relationship creates a lot of room
for a build-up of unrealistic expectations from our partner.
Note:-These expectations, when not fulfilled, breeds resentment, disappointments and
pushes marriage down a path from where there might be no recovery.
PROFOUND SOLUTIONS TO SOME MAJOR CHALLENGES FACING
MARRIAGES TODAY IN OUR SOCIETY.
10 Strategies to Help Solve Your Marriage Problems.
Many good marriages slip into crisis because we don’t or won’t believe how much work it
takes to keep relationships healthy and thriving. It’s just like when you stop investing in the
house you are living in. It will easily fall into disrepair. Think back to when you first started to
pursue your wife. It required commitment, hard work, and imagination. If winning her required
that back then, why does it surprise us when neglect creates marriage problems after we walk
down the aisle? She wouldn’t have married you if you took her for granted. Why risk
everything now?
There are many good strategies if you want to restore your marriage. We suggest these 10
strategies to help solve your marriage problems.
1. Surround yourselves with people in healthy relationships.
Some of those negative patterns may have involved friends. Surround yourself with people
who value marriage and where there’s widespread support for making yours work.
2. Chose to love.
“Love is as much a choice as it is an emotion. ”Love may have come easy when it was brand
new. Love is as much a choice as it is an emotion. Choice is an act of maturity and it has a
much better track record than emotion left to make its way on its own.

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3. Act as if your spouse’s happiness is more important than your own.
Putting our spouse first nurtures trust, gratitude, generosity, and affection. It can also lead to
physical intimacy.
4. Put the relationship ahead of everything, including your children.
It’s unfortunate, but time has a way of eating away at our priorities. “You’re the most important
thing in my life” gives way to “my work… the family business…the children… my aging
parents… even golf, football or drinking…” Marriages don’t work well when our partner plays
second fiddle to anything – even the children. It’s a fact – the happiest kids are those with
parents who love one-another best.
5. Start over from scratch.
Ask her out. Make sure you remember why you did the first time and build from there. When
did you last talk for hours, hold hands at a movie, or give her a kiss when she wasn’t expecting
it? Get silly about one-another. If you don’t feel like it, do it anyway- then you’ll remember
why.
6. Stop taking one-another for granted.
Say “thank you” for that cup of coffee. Celebrate obscure anniversaries. Tell her how much it
means to you that she cooks a great meal – or vice versa. Notice the haircut. Ask her out. Clean
her car. Pay attention to the little things and act like someone who values the relationship.
7. Pray for your spouse.
Chances are you launched your marriage with both promises and prayers. Pray for your spouse,
and ask for guidance as you pledge to make the kind of effort that simply won’t float without
turning to God every day.
8. Get counseling.
You say you can’t afford it? Believe us, it’s cheaper than divorce. Most counseling simply
involves a few sessions to get the communication flowing again. For guys, a willingness to talk
in that context sends a huge, positive message to your spouse.
9. Follow the counseling with an action plan.

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Just like a personal fitness program, counseling comes with homework and an action plan over
time. Draw up the plan, ask friends you trust to help hold you accountable, then follow through.
When both spouses take responsibility, anything is possible.
10. Change the patterns.
Do you always come home angry? Then stop the car a block away and pray about it first or do
whatever else it takes to change your attitude. Does she always nag you when you leave dirty
clothes on the floor? Try getting changed in a different room and initiate a new reflex. Do you
always fight about discipline? Try agreeing with her decisions and supporting her 100% – you
may find the kids act better because you’re not fighting. You’ve heard the old joke:
Patient: “Doctor, it hurts when I do that…”
Doctor: “Well, don’t do that anymore.”
Summary of common solutions to marriage problems
1-cease pride
It is indeed very much important for every meal a husband our father spread in all of the actions
This is indeed number one factor that kills no more relationships when the head of the home
who is supposed to by the goal setter the role model is indeed full of pride.
This singular act it's difficult for him to accept airport except to make a peaceful resolution is
indeed a factor of destruction
2- Dont listening to friend's illicit mindset of deceit
This is where you continue to listen to the impact of negative stories which never existed in
their homes I want to do this they can't allow this to happen and they are gone and you tend to
take their word for it to run your home it is indeed a fast way of breaking a relationship
3- be positive:- positive mind is indeed an inclined mindset for o positive results
4- Don't be a wrestler in your home: turning your spouse into a punching bag.
They had to be pampered, loved, and cared for.
5- pleading guilty after a misunderstanding does not make you a weak man.
Be patient courageous hopefully thoughtful to make your own marriage work

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It is your call, you work for it, the pleasure and graces are all yours.
I'm wishing you a successful marriage lifetime experience.