This powerpoint was used in a recent presentation to parents at a school by Clinical Psychologist Renee Mill. This topic was requested as parents today want to equip their children to cope better with school and other pressures.

1. BUILDING RESILIENCE IN
YOUR CHILD
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2. Resilience
• Resilience is the ability to bounce back
from adversity.
• Adaptability is the ability to cope well
with change.
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3. Resilience vs Fragility
Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall
Humpty Dumpty had a great fall
All the kings horses & all the kings men
Couldn’t put Humpty together again!
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4. Adequate Reslience
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5. Ideal Reslience
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6. Lifestyle Matters
• Lifestyle choices influence resilience.
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7. Lifestyle Matters
• Exercise: releases hormones which
relax you.
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8. Lifestyle Matters
• Sleep: have sufficient, high quality sleep.
Work with social and biological rhythms.
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9. Lifestyle Matters
• Diet: eat nutritious meals, low GI.
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10. Lifestyle Matters
• Relationships: offer support when needed.
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11. Lifestyle Matters
• Secure family relationships give support.
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12. Lifestyle Matters
• Socialise: having friends assists resilience.
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13. Psychological Tools
• Focus on the present moment with
MINDFULNESS.
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14. Psychological Tools
• Learn optimism with the
3 P’s:
Pessimism
1. Permanent
2. Personal
3. Pervasive
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Optimism
1. Temporary
2. Not Personal
3. Total view is positive

15. Psychological Tools
• Live life according to your authentic self.
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16. Psychological Tools
• Be realistic. Things often go wrong.
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17. Psychological Tools
• You cannot protect your child
from falling but you can teach
your child:
– How to fall
– How to get up
– And what to do with the
scratch
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18. Psychological Tools
• Focus on character rather than personality
(Steven Covey).
– Self-discipline
– Responsibility
– Courage
– Reliability
– Fair play
– Honesty
– Kindness
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19. Psychological Tools
• Embrace challenges. Encourage mastery.
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20. Psychological Tools
• Screen what your children watch, read and
hear. Protect them from real threats.
– Too much too soon
– Inappropriate stimuli
– Predators on the net
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21. Psychological Tools
• Focus on strengths rather than social
values. Bring out the best in your child.
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22. Psychological Tools
• Be flexible.
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23. Psychological Tools
• Meaning: Fill your day with meaning.
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24. Psychological Tools
• Provide wisdom.
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25. Look for the blessings and express
Gratitude.
The Blessing of Unanswered Prayers
Unknown Confederate soldier
I asked for strength that I might achieve;
I was made weak that I might learn
humbly to obey.
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26. Look for the blessings and express
Gratitude.
I asked for health that I might do greater
things;
I was given infirmity that I might do
better things.
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27. Look for the blessings and express
Gratitude.
I asked for riches that I might be happy;
I was given poverty that I might be wise.
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28. Look for the blessings and express
Gratitude.
I asked for power that I might have the
praise of men;
I was given weakness that I might feel
the need of God.
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29. Look for the blessings and express
Gratitude.
I asked for all things that I might enjoy
life;
I was given life that I might enjoy all
things.
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30. Look for the blessings and express
Gratitude.
I got nothing that I asked for,
But everything that I had hoped for.
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31. Look for the blessings and express
Gratitude.
Almost despite myself my unspoken
prayers were answered;
I am, among all men, most richly blessed.
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32. Questions & Answers
• Ask Renee any questions you may have
• Alternatively you can email them to
renee@anxietysolutionscbt.com.
• For ongoing updates, please make sure
you’ve provided us with your email
address.
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