Raise your self esteem, Better Self esteem

1. Healthy Relationships
Start With Yourself
 When you are happy with yourself and
confident, others will be drawn to you
 We all have talents, strengths and parts of our
personality that are great
 We all have things we want to work on – no one
is perfect
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2. Healthy Relationships
Start With Yourself
 It’s good to see yourself in a positive way
 Thinking negatively about yourself can make
you feel upset.
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3. Why is it important to have a good
self-concept, and how is it achieved?
 When your self-concept improves, your
personality and performance improves.
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4. Self-concept
Self-concept is the act of respecting yourself.
 You must be aware of both your strengths and
your weaknesses.
 You must believe in yourself and accept yourself.
 As your self-concept increases, there will be less
and less that you have to prove to yourself.
 A person with a positive self-concept is pleasant,
secure, and content.
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5. Positive Self-Concept
Having a positive self-concept is the most
important factor toward success.
 By believing in yourself, you will gain the respect of
your peers.
 As a leader, to gain the respect of others, you must
first be able to prove worthiness to yourself.
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6. A positive self-concept has rewards.
 More confidence
 Trust in ideas, skills, knowledge
 The ability to capitalize on opportunities
 Using mistakes as a learning experience
 Being a more dynamic and interesting
person
 Becoming more focused on bigger goals
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7. A positive self-concept has rewards.
 Being more emotionally secure
 The ability to control your personal
future--creating circumstances instead
of following circumstances
 The ability to cope with success
 A positive feeling for others
 Being able to handle challenges
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8. Ingredients of a positive self-concept
Self-confidence is being secure with your
abilities and the opportunity to face new
challenges.
Self-determination involves motivation
from within.
 Motivation is the energy that allows you to
meet new challenges. To be self-determined
is to be in charge of your fate.
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9. Ingredients of a positive self-concept
 Self-responsibility is the ability to accept
consequences for any effort, good, bad, or other.
To be self-responsible, you must be
resilient, or have the ability to
bounce back.
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10. External factors that affect self-concept
 Family
 Relationships
 School
 Work
 Social activities
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11. Relationships and Self-Concept
 Contacts outside of family provide a network
of past, present, and future relationships.
 Relationships exert certain influences on self-
concept, either consciously or unconsciously.
 The friends you choose reflect your level of
self-concept.
 Friendships sometimes mirror yourself in
feelings, thoughts, likes, or dislikes.
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12. Work and Self-Concept
 The world of work provides you with the opportunity
to display self-concept.
 Companies desire people with a high self-concept
because they possess more tools.
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13. Internal factors that affect self-concept
Fear is one of the basic emotions.
 It is caused by an overwhelming
anticipation or awareness of danger.
Doubt is the state of questioning your
ability to learn, think creatively,
accomplish, and succeed.
Anxiety is having an uncomfortable
feeling or uneasiness about a solution
or event. “butterflies”
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14. How to develop a positive self-concept?
Accept yourself as you are - restore and
nurture a healthy self-concept.
Have a genuine desire to change.
Create the proper environment to allow
for the desire to grow.
Establish goals – there is a direct
relationship between goals and self-
concept.
Take action.
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15. Accept yourself as you are – you can only
control the future not the past
Practices in developing a healthy self-concept
 accepting limitations
 making a list of talents
 making decisions for
yourself
 not procrastinating
 finding a mentor
 dressing successfully and
using positive language
 always learning and
accepting new challenges
 choosing friends and
associates carefully
 learning from successful
failures
 going the extra mile
 finishing every job that is
started
 believing in yourself and
doing good for others
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16. Create the proper environment to
allow for the desire to grow
 Attitude is a state of mind with respect to
feelings, beliefs, or outlook (positive or
negative) on an event.
 As the attitude stays positive, desire can be
maintained.
 Be aware of attitudes of those with whom you
associate.
 You determine your own attitude.
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17. Establish Goals
 A person must develop a purpose or direction through
the establishment of goals.
 Goals are usually categorized into short, medium, and
long term.
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18. Establish Goals
Setting goals includes these steps:
 Define the goal.
 Establish a time frame - short, medium, or long term.
 Make an agenda. List the steps involved in reaching the
goal and test the possible obstacles.
 Be realistic in goal setting.
 Evaluate to check progress.
 Adjust and be flexible after evaluation.
 Reward when the goal is reached.
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19. Take ActionWithout action, all you have are good
intentions.
Action is sometimes the hardest step to
achieve because it requires both
physical and mental energy.
When you take action you become
vulnerable to both external and
internal factors that affect self-concept.
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20. Six primary characteristics of people
with a positive self-concept.
 They have a positive orientation – “Falling down
doesn’t mean failure, staying down does”
 They are able to cope with life’s problems
 They are able to deal with emotions.
 They are able to help others and accept help
themselves.
 They are able to accept people as individuals
 They are able to exhibit a variety of self-confident
behaviors.
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