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the power of your mind
1. “THE POWER OF YOUR MIND”
MODULE 01
PER SONA L DEVELOPMENT A S A TR A INER
BY
VINODINI DE SILVA
NDHRM, INSTITUTE OF PERSONNEL MANAGEMENT
2. I N T R O D U C T I O N
You get the best out of others when you get the best out of yourself.
Harvey S. Firestone
If you want to make changes in your life, you must look to the causes - the way you are
using your mind — the way you are thinking.
You cannot think both negative and positive thoughts at the same time. One or the other
will dominate.
The mind is a creature of habit, so it becomes each individual’s responsibility to make sure
that positive emotions and thoughts constitute the dominating influence in their mind.
3. CHARACTERISTICS OF A
GOOD TRAINER
Empathy: This is the ability to put oneself in the shoes of another.
Honesty: This is the courage to recognize personal strengths and weaknesses
and to be frank about these aspects to the personnel being trained, for their own
benefit.
Patience: This is shown in the willingness to compliment slow progress and
refrain from the anger when mistakes are made.
Pace: This is closely integrated with empathy and patience.
Democracy: This refers to the kind of atmosphere created when learning
takes place.
4. Purpose: This emphasizes the element of tenacity in achieving the
training goals.
An ability to listen: The trainer must hear questions raised by
trainees and understand if the questions reflect other problem, which
are not being mentioned. Maintain eye contact and interest.
Respect for experience: Adults will learn more effectively if respect
is given to the experience and qualifications they can bring to a
situation.
Prestige: A trainer should command the respect of his colleagues in
the organization.
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6. Learn to be accepting of others – good
interpersonal relations
Stop nit-picking yourself – do not
focus too much on your flaws
Be carefree – appreciate and go for
anything you never tried
Be kind – be helpful, be nice and smile
all the time …
Be yourself – just follow your style
GET THE BEST OUT OF YOU
7. T I P S
Enjoy life. Enjoy the robustness and look for the spice in life.
Experience all that you can, keep in regards that life is short!
Repair old relationships once lost, and make your present ones
stronger!
Don't talk behind other people's backs. Remember that everyone was
put on this earth for a reason, and everyone has they're own troubles in
life - even if it does seem that they have an easier life.
9. MIND POWER ROLE IN
ACHIEVING SUCCESS
The mind plays an important role in achieving every success and goal,
minor, everyday goals, or major goals.
To accomplish anything, and to use your mind power, you have to
know exactly what it is you want to do.
In order to focus your mind on a goal, you need a clear and well
defined goal.
10. How do you go about achieving your goals ?
1. First, you have to think and find out what is it that you really want to
accomplish or gain.
2. Then come up with a plan of action – plan using the power of mind.
3. To hold in your mind a clear mental image of your goal needs to be
established using your imagination. You must train your mind to this.
4. Affirmations are another useful mental tool for achieving success. Positive
affirmations sinks into the subconscious mind then affects your behavior
and actions.
11. 5. You need to be able to transmit your thoughts to other people and
persuade them to aid you with your plans.
6. Motivation is another mental and emotional power that you require for
achieving success. To achieve this :
• Think often of your goal
• About its advantages
• About its benefits
• How it will change your life
12. THE POWER OF IMAGINATION
Imagination is the ability to form a mental image of something
that is not perceived through the five senses.
It is the ability of the mind to build mental scenes, objects or
events that do not exist, are not present, or have happened in the past.
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14. Imagination makes it possible to experience a whole world inside the
mind.
It gives the ability to look at any situation from a different point of view,
and to mentally explore the past and the future.
A developed and strong imagination does not make you a daydreamer and
impractical.
It strengthens your creative abilities, and is a great tool for recreating and
remodeling your world and life.
15. DEVELOPING YOUR IMAGINATION
1. Find fifteen minutes every day for the exercises.
2. Visualize something simple that you can believe you can get
3. Visualize your desire clearly, and include in the visualization all the five senses.
4. You might find out it is easier to imagine with some of the senses, and a little
difficult to imagine with the others.
5. Do the same exercise everyday, and you will find that it gradually becomes easier.
6. Sometimes you may find that your mind starts to verbalize about what you are
imagining. Be careful not to replace the imagination with words. The aim is to use
the imagination, not words.
IT CAN LATER HAPPEN IN REAL LIFE – BECAUSE THE
POWER OF YOUR MIND IS SO STRONG!
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17. MY LAST IMAGINATION IS
ABOUT TO BECOME REAL
Going to Africa on a wildlife
safari …
I smelled the earth, I felt the
dust, I felt travelling in an open jeep,
I smelled jungle, I smelled animal
and even animal dung …
I’m on my way to Africa …
18. COMMON PROBLEMS WE
FACE ON A DAILY BASS
Stress – a feature of modern life
Anger – negative emotions causing mental and physical harm
Negative thoughts – more than positive thoughts
Frustration – work-life balance, work issues
All of these bring bad results to our health !
19. •Pain of any kind
•Heart disease
•Digestive problems
•Sleep problems
•Diabetes
•Depression
•Weight problems
•Auto immune diseases
•Skin conditions, such as eczema
Many health problems are caused or made worse by
stress, including:
20. Cognitive Symptoms
•Memory problems
•Inability to concentrate
•Poor judgment
•Seeing only the negative
•Anxious or racing thoughts
•Constant worrying
Emotional Symptoms
•Moodiness
•Irritability or short temper
•Agitation, inability to relax
•Feeling overwhelmed
•Sense of loneliness and isolation
•Depression or general unhappiness
21. Physical Symptoms
•Aches and pains
•Diarrhea or constipation
•Nausea, dizziness
•Chest pain, rapid heartbeat
•Loss of sex drive
•Frequent colds
Behavioral Symptoms
•Eating more or less
•Sleeping too much or too little
•Isolating yourself from others
•Procrastinating or neglecting responsibilities
•Using alcohol, cigarettes, or drugs to relax
•Nervous habits (e.g. nail biting, pacing)
22. You are responsible for your thinking.
Change your thinking and life will improve
But, what thoughts do you change?
• Your troublesome thoughts about a
situation can easily be found in your self-
talk. Self-talk is that inner running dialogue
you have with yourself.
• It is what you tell yourself about life's
situations.
YOU ARE WHAT YOU THINK
23. All of us have an "Inner Observer" who comments on what we do.
(negative voice drains energy)
Worry can make a small problem big. (change your mind and attitude
and look at the problem and make it positive)
To change your attitude, change your mind. (what am I thinking, what
am I asking myself ?)
24. DUALITY OF THE HUMAN
MIND
Dualism is closely associated with the thought of René Descartes
(1641), which holds that the mind is a nonphysical--and therefore, non-
spatial--substance.
Descartes clearly identified the mind with consciousness and self-
awareness and distinguished this from the brain as the seat of
intelligence.
Hence, he was the first to formulate the mind–body problem
in the form in which it exists today.
25. MIND – BODY
CONNECTIONS
Body-mind is an approach to understanding the relationship between the human body and
mind in which they are seen as a single integrated unit. It attempts to address the mind-body
problem and is in contrast to the traditions of mind-body dualism and dualism.
In the fields of psychology, therapy and alternative medicine body-mind implies that:
The body, mind, emotions, and spirit are dynamically interrelated.
Experience, including physical stress, emotional injury, and pleasures are stored in the body's
cells which in turn affects one's reactions to stimuli.
26. EQUATE OR COMPARE WITH
SENSE OF WELL-BEING
Focus on what you have rather than what you do not have
Have choices and options in life rather than one single expectation
27. THOUGHT DRIVES
FEELINGS
Seven Steps to Develop Awareness of Emotions and Thoughts
1. Select a triggering situation to process – make a list of upsetting feelings or anger
2. Centre yourself with slow deep breaths – imagine yourself in a safe place
3. Identify and feel your emotions and feelings – what am I feeling right now ?
4. Feel and notice the location of any sense in the body
5. Accept your feelings and be confident you can handle your emotions
6. Identify what you tell yourself in your mind that is triggering any
painful emotions
7. Connect empathically to understand and validate your emotions
28. YOUR THOUGHTS ARE RESPONSIBLE
FOR YOUR EMOTIONS
Your feelings or emotions come from your thinking.
This doesn’t mean that if you tell yourself everything is fine and you
have no problems, then you will feel fine and your problems will
disappear.
“thinking positively,” telling yourself to cheer up, or fondly dwelling
on comfortable images that everything is wonderful.
WE ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR OUR OWN FEELINGS …
29. LESSONS FOR THE
CORPORATE WORLD
Today’s organizations pay more attention on ATTITUDES rather
than qualifications and experience when hiring hew staff.
30. THOUGHTS ARE NOT REAL
Did you ever realize that everything going on in your mind -- every thought, feeling,
sensation, everything you are aware of -- is in fact happening only in your private internal
world? Your thoughts appear only to you, and are not being heard by anyone else
whatsoever.
What makes a thought feel real is the attention we bring to it. We make a thought into a
solid object by focusing on it and relating to it as if it is an event happening in the world
somewhere.
And so the next time that a thought appears before you, within your awareness,
remember that it is not real in the sense that it has some solid form or exists somewhere
outside of you.
31. AVOID NEGATIVE SPIRAL
EFFECT AND SELF-TALK
The more the mind focuses on something the more it gets involved –
analyzing or justifying.
Just let it go –
• do not criticize yourself
• Do not doubt your abilities
• Do not fear future events
• Do not put yourself down
• Do not have expectation of failure
32. DISTORTED THINKING
Distorted thinking is exaggerated or irrational thought patterns.
If you do not check it, it can lead to psychopathological states, especially
depression and anxiety.
Cognitive distortions are thoughts that cause individuals to perceive reality
inaccurately.
These thinking patterns often reinforce negative thoughts or emotions.
Cognitive distortions tend to interfere with the way a person perceives an event.
• Burns’ 1989 book, The Feeling Good Handbook presented information on these
thought patterns along with a proposal of how to eliminate them.
33. 10 DISTORTED THINKING PA TTER NS
All-Or-Nothing Thinking – You see things in black-and-white categories. If your
performance falls short of perfect, you see yourself as a total failure.
Overgeneralization – You see a single negative event as a never-ending pattern of
defeat.
Mental Filter – You pick out a single negative defeat and dwell on it exclusively so
that your vision of reality becomes darkened, like the drop of ink that colors the
entire beaker of water.
Disqualifying the positive – You dismiss positive experiences by insisting they
“don’t count” for some reason or other. In this way you can maintain a
negative belief that is contradicted by your everyday experiences.
34. Jumping to conclusions – You make a negative interpretation even though there are no definite
facts that convincingly support your conclusion.
A. Mind reading. You arbitrarily conclude that someone is reacting negatively to you, and you
don’t bother to check this out.
B. The fortune teller error. You anticipate that things will turn out badly, and you feel convinced
that your prediction is an already-established fact.
Magnification (Catastrophizing) or Minimization– You exaggerate the importance of things (such
as your goof-up or someone else’s achievement), or you inappropriately shrink things until they
appear tiny (your own desirable qualities or the other fellow’s imperfections). This is also called
the “binocular trick.”
35. Emotional Reasoning – You assume that your negative emotions necessarily reflect the way
things really are: “I feel it, therefore it must be true.
Should Statements – You try to motivate yourself with shoulds and shouldn’ts, as if you had to
be whipped and punished before you could be expected to do anything. “Musts” and “oughts”
are also offenders. The emotional consequence is guilt. When you direct should statements
toward others, you feel anger, frustration, and resentment.
Labeling and Mislabeling – This is an extreme form of overgeneralization. Instead of describing
your error, you attach a negative label to yourself: “I’m a loser.” When someone else’s behavior
rubs you the wrong way, you attach a negative label to him: “He’s a goddam louse.” Mislabeling
involves describing an event with language that is highly colored and emotionally loaded.
Personalization – You see yourself as the cause of some negative external event which in fact
you were not primarily responsible for.
36. The older you are the less creative or
innovative you get
Leave innovation and creativity to the young
blood and give them the opportunity and
empower them
Seniors should act as project mentors nor
project leaders
Seniors should not be measured by their
success but the success of their second line
MODERN THINKING OF
ORGANIZATIONS
37. MIND CONTROL
Identify your negative thoughts – blaming/shaming yourself
Stop the negative thought immediately – say “this morning is rough but the
day will get better”
Pay attention to your vocabulary – I’ll never get this right, I always mess up
Remove only negative words – terrible, disaster
Turn the bad into good – when one
Door closes another opens …
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39. THE POWER OF THE
SUBCONSCIOUS MIND
There are two types of people :
• Magnetized – full of confidence and faith – born to succeed and win
• Demagnetized – full of fear and doubt – what if I fail ?
40. THE DUALITY OF THE MIND
Success in whatever we do requires an understanding of both parts of the
mind:
• The conscious mind
• The subconscious mind
The conscious mind is what you are using right now, and the part of the mind we
use when we are in a fully alert state of consciousness. Activities of the conscious
mind are closely correlated with left hemisphere brain functions which include
things like:
Critical Thinking Reasoning Analysis Logical Thinking
41. The subconscious mind is our inborn “bio-computer” that runs the
show behind the scenes.
Perhaps the most important thing to understand about the
subconscious mind is it operates exactly like a hard drive of a computer.
The computer accepts information non-critically and simply supports
the programs found on the hard drive indiscriminately.
If you enter into a computer information like, “the world is flat,” “the
sky is green and the grass is blue,” or any other thought like this, the
computer simply accepts it and believes it to be true.
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43. THE POWER OF SUGGESTIONS
Make suggestions made to the mind positive and not negative.
Autosuggestion are positive words and sentences used repeatedly
to change your perception. It is a self-development method used to
create new, positive beliefs about yourself as well as an effective
method for ending bad habits. Autosuggestions works by placing
ideas into your subconscious and making it believe they are true.
44. Hetero-suggestion is that which is given by one or more persons
to another; it may be given verbally or mentally.
This is simply another way of saying that'' two heads are better
than one" or "let us put our heads together."
45. GET YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS MIND
TO WORK FOR YOU
4 steps –
Ask for
what you
want with
no doubt
Have faith
and believe
that you
will get it
Visualize
that you
have
already got
it
Now enjoy
the feeling
of having
it