1. AWARENESS OF SELF AND
OTHERS AND THE
DEVELOPMENT OF INTERPERSONAL
COMPETENCE
Nama : Faeqal Hafidh Muhammad Asfian
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3. Self- Awareness
Those who knows Self-awareness
especially the High level one, They
understand how their own value,
beliefs and subjective theories
influence what they see and do.
Awareness offers them the
percentage or possibilities of taking
account of known biases to
reappraise first impression and ways
to behave
4. Argyris ( 1982 )
ESPOUSED
THEORY
Many of us are not as self-aware as we think.
Argyris has theory that self-aware acquire
through socialization and there are two kinds
of theory for dealing with others.
5. Theories
ESPOUSED THEORY
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The Values and Beliefs
The first reflect the values and beliefs that are the highest in our
mind and that we support/belief ( Theory that we believe in ).
We usually understand of consciousness of the espoused
theory something that we respect and reflect of the values and
beliefs.
THEORY IN USE
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Reflects the Values and Beliefs
Reflects the Values and Beliefs that are actually underpin of our
behaviour. The theories are usually products of a prolonged
period of social conditioning and we are often unaware of the
influence of our behaviour.
6. We are more effective at reading
behaviour and constructing courses of
action when we fully understand
between our espoused theory of social
interaction and theory in use.
We need to be aware of any lack of
compatibilities between espoused
theory and theories in use. It’s our
Theory in use ( Habit ) that underpins
how we interact with others. In order to
raise our awareness of how our theory
in use influences the way we manage
our interaction
T h e o r y i n U s e
Awareness
7. We need to observe our self
in action. We can do this by
reflecting on patterns of
past behaviour and
monitoring how we behave
in the here-
and-now.
First
We also need to be open
and responsive to feedback
from others.
Second
However, what we can do to develop a greater sense of self-awareness, One need to examine how factors such as
values, beliefs, needs and attitude can affect the way we red behaviour and construct course of action
Awareness
8. Awareness of Other
The way we perceive others is influenced by the way we selectively attend to some
aspect and ignore some of the others within the situation. Whether it’s understanding
their personality, giving them the attention that they need, aware of the factor of
influence. Our approach to perceiving others affects both our reading of their behav-
iour and the way we behave towards them.
Reading the Behaviour of others
Reading Others
Everyone is different and we need to acknowledge that, people use different
frameworks or perspective for perceiving others, and those people have different
thoughts about us. Understanding more about their values, beliefs, needs, attitude
and mood states will help us realize how they think of us or perceive us.
Awareness of how others perceive us
Aware Of Others
9. Self-presentation
First
Self defeating beliefs
which can land a huge
impact within our head,
mentally. People who
believe that something
is so hard to do they
give up before trying.
Second
The lack sense of
agency and being
passivity. It may related
to low esteem and
negative beliefs about
one’s own value which
block motivation.
Third
This all will lead into
Cognitive deficit, failing
to control and recognize
the situation one is in.
Which cause nothing but
failure because in our
head we already decide.
Fourth
Re-examining our past
behaviour to identify
where we manage to
take control can
sometime help us.
Motivation and Hope is
what you search for.
How to escape from such a Dilemma?
An alternative approach is to challenge the assumption of helplessness of being Passivity by taking an action,
behaving in a new way and reflecting on outcome. This can provide with new answer about our ability to influence
outcome, and to challenge that helpless side of us that we always have.
10. DEVELOPING
How do you develop self –awareness?
Developing greater self-awareness
The more we aware of our value, beliefs and attitude
as well as impact and assumptions that we make
about ourselves, others and situation.
Furnham (1990) notes that individuals who are high
self-monitors’ appear to be better able to regulate their
presentation of self to fit with what they perceive to be
a desirable and appropriate pattern of behaviour than
people who are low self-monitors.
11. Wicklund ( 1975 )
Subjective self-awareness refers to our awareness of the sensations associated with doing a task.
When trying to ride a bike for the first time we may be so involved in maintaining our balance that
we give little thought to how we appear to others or to ourselves.
Example
Subjective
If, however, we notice that there are other people observing us we may begin to think about what they
are thinking about us and how they are evaluating our performance. This is an example of objective
self-awareness. It is an awareness of ourselves as objects in our own eyes and the eyes of others.
Example
Objective
12. Observing ourselves interacting with
people be it is an imagination or as a
past.
Out Of Body
Experience
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02
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How do you attempt to help?
Do you understand the whole plot in the
conversation before giving opinion or
straight out say what a person should do.
What makes you behave in this way?
Realize for what you’re doing something and
what makes you want to do it for what
purpose and for what reason.
Give some thought to outcomes.
Consider the effect of what you have done
whether it’s an unfortunate outcomes or the
repercussion of your doings.
Monitoring how we behave in the here-and-now
13. Another example of where opening a second channel may be
helpful is when you meet somebody for the first time.
Monitor yourself to ensure that you not
only seek out information that
confirms your first impression but also
that you pay particular attention
to behaviour that does not fit.
Resist accepting this first impression as
fact.
Tell yourself to regard the Image as a
working hypothesis and actively seek out
additional information that will test it.
What information have you used to form
this impression?
What is your first impression of the other
person?
Think about the point of view of the other
person on you be it your worth/value
Think First
14. Reflecting on Patterns of Past Behaviour
Another way of improving our objective self-awareness is to
reflect on our past experience in order to identify habitual,
and possibly unconscious, ways of behaving
Reflecting on patterns of past behaviour
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many of us find it difficult to accept feedback, it can be an
invaluable source of information about the effectiveness of
our performance when relating to others.
Being open and responsive to feedback from others
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Mention has already been made of the possibilities for
monitoring our own behaviour in the here-and-now and for
reflecting on previous episodes of behaviour.
Developing interpersonal skills
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