2. self development month
FIRST
IMPRESSIONS
Resonating:
Internals order Externals
Num 13:33 ...and we were in our own sight as grasshoppers, and so we were in
their sight.

3. self development month
FIRST
IMPRESSIONS
Some fundamentals:
How Approachable U R?
Prov 18:24 A man who has friends must himself be friendly.
Prov 18:19 A brother offended is harder to win than a strong city.

4. self development month
Approachable Body Talk
:smile
:relaxed body
:eye contact & nodding
happy, pleased, interested, approachable
Prov 15:13 A merry heart makes a cheerful countenance.
Prov 17:22 A merry heart does good, like medicine, But a broken spirit dries the
bones.
Is 61:3...beauty for ashes, The oil of joy for mourning, The garment of praise for
the spirit of heaviness.

5. self development month
Approachable Risk
:open posture
:create space for others to join
:appearing similar to others
:adapt to the social environment
minimise fear of rejection & obstacles
Jn 21:7-12...that disciple whom Jesus loved said to Peter, "It is the Lord!" Now when Simon
Peter heard that it was the Lord, he put on his outer garment (for he had removed it), and
plunged into the sea. But the other disciples came in the little boat (for they were not far
from land, but about two hundred cubits), dragging the net with fish. Then, as soon as
they had come to land, they saw a fire of coals there, and fish laid on it, and bread. Jesus
said to them, "Bring some of the fish which you have just caught." Simon Peter went up
and dragged the net to land, full of large fish, one hundred and fifty-three; and although
there were so many, the net was not broken. Jesus said to them, "Come and eat breakfast."

6. self development month
Approachable Fit
:dress sense
:create space for others to join
:appearing similar to others
:adapt to the social environment
affirming, making others comfortable about
themselves, you are like them & safe
1Cor 9: 19-23 For though I am free from all men, I have made myself a servant to all, that I
might win the more; and to the Jews I became as a Jew, that I might win Jews; to those who
are under the law, as under the law, that I might win those who are under the law; to those
who are without law, as without law (not being without law toward God, but under law
toward Christ), that I might win those who are without law; to the weak I became as weak,
that I might win the weak. I have become all things to all men, that I might by all means
save some. Now this I do for the gospel's sake, that I may be partaker of it with you.

7. self development month
Approachable Appearance
:looking appropriate and fitting in
:personal grooming, clean & neat, HOT
:personal style reflects individuality &
awareness of the world around you
:confidence & pursuit of excellence
health conscious, respect yourself, make
an effort to be pleasing to others, care
1Kings 10:4-5 When the queen of Sheba had seen all the wisdom of Solomon, the
house that he had built, the food on his table, the seating of his servants, the
service of his waiters and their apparel, his cupbearers, and his entryway by which
he went up to the house of the LORD, there was no more spirit in her.

8. self development month
Approachable Mood
:enthusiasm
-presence
-passion
-positive
-confidence
your mood changes people
Gen 21:6 And Sarah said, "God has made me laugh, and all who hear will laugh
with me."

10. self development month
FIRST
IMPRESSIONS
Some fundamentals:
Showing Interest
Acts 14:8-10 And in Lystra a certain man without strength in his feet was sitting,
a cripple from his mother's womb, who had never walked. This man heard Paul
speaking. Paul, observing him intently and seeing that he had faith to be healed,
said with a loud voice, "Stand up straight on your feet!" And he leaped and walked.

11. self development month
Interest: Physical Focus
:leaning toward them
:smiling
:nodding
core social benefit that we all seek & react
to is feeling appreciated and understood.
Prov 20:5 Counsel in the heart of man is like deep water, But a man of
understanding will draw it out.
1Jn 4:19 We love Him because He first loved us.

12. self development month
Interest: Eye Contact
:less - means less interested
:more - uncomfortable or threatened
:match eye contact
business triangle
Matt 6:22-23 "Your eyes are windows into your body. If you open your eyes wide
in wonder and belief, your body fills up with light. If you live squinty-eyed in
greed and distrust, your body is a dank cellar. If you pull the blinds on your
windows, what a dark life you will have!

13. self development month
Interest: Name
:cocktail party effect: your name
:you communicate that you:
-cared, registered, remembered
:match eye contact
breaks through all your perceptual filters &
grabs your attention
Rev 3:5 He who overcomes shall be clothed in white garments, and I will not blot
out his name from the Book of Life; but I will confess his name before My Father
and before His angels.

14. self development month
Interest: Asking & Listening
:ask open questions instead of
closed questions - ask others about
themselves that include facts,
feelings & opinions
:listen actively & not as if you’re listening to
a pre-recorded telephone message while
checking your e-mails/pretend listening
Jn 21:17 He said to him the third time, "Simon, son of Jonah, do you love Me?"
Peter was grieved because He said to him the third time, "Do you love Me?" And he
said to Him, "Lord, You know all things; You know that I love You." Jesus said to
him, "Feed My sheep.

15. self development month
Interest: Responding
:how are you, really?
respond with honest feelings & emotions -
briefly!!!
Jn 21:17 He said to him the third time, "Simon, son of Jonah, do you love Me?"
Peter was grieved because He said to him the third time, "Do you love Me?" And he
said to Him, "Lord, You know all things; You know that I love You." Jesus said to
him, "Feed My sheep.