Snippets of info on life management from various accumulated sources

1. Lifebook
By Gus Cerro
A Guide to successful
outcomes
“anything is possible”

2. Lifebook
R.E.S.P.E.C.T
Responsibility = Between stimulus & response there is a space.
Respect, Honour, Loyalty, Integrity, Humility
Education = Education is what remains after one has forgotten what one has learned in school
Character, Personality, Knowledge, Wisdom, Innovation
Skill = Skill is developed through environment.
Creativity/Self-expression, Enjoyment, Imagination, Talent
Passion = You can’t love what you do you need to be addicted.
Culture, Love, Empathy, Modesty, Desire
Excellence = Holding yourself to a higher standard.
Standards, Presentation, Performance, Attitude, Consistency
Commitment = When you start something finish it.
Work Ethic, Grit, Substance, Diligence, Destiny, Ambition
Team = Together everyone achieves more.
Trust, Unity, Connection, Relationships, Cooperation
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3. Lifebook
I pledge to understand that;
• Success is not something you pursue; it is something you become via the process.
• I will learn from my mistakes.
• I will work everyday to improve my emotional, physical, mental & spiritual intelligence.
• I will educate myself everyday
• I will find ways to motivate my drive and passion.
• I will persevere until I reach my destination.
• I will work twice as hard and twice as smart as everyone else.
• I will strengthen my strengths and work harder on my weakness.
• I will be a role model.
• I will always show leadership qualities through my behavior and actions .
• I will take responsibility and ownership for everything.
• I will respect my peers.
• I will ensure that I am a positive member of society who contributes towards the overall
success of the many.
• I will always do my best, in whatever I apply myself.
• I will not be afraid to take risks.
• I will show my creativity and confidence through my vulnerability.
• I will be inquisitive and ask questions.
• I will demand the highest standards from myself my teachers & those I associate with.
• I understand that I only have one chance to make a good first impression.

4. Mission Statement
Success is a process. The process requires, knowledge, skill and desire, these are the
intersection of conductive habits. It also requires an understanding of the word success
and what it means to you. There are so many “successful” people who lived miserable
lives. Our aim is to study success in all its forms.
Life itself is in constant change and learning how to learn through critical thought
processes is a way of life that never ends, as Albert Einstein so eloquently quoted
“Education is what remains after one has forgotten what one has learned in school”
The greatest gift you will receive is the ability to learn, not to memorise. Learning is the
process of developing certain habits which allow you to seek the positives in every
situation. It allows you to solve problems and find solutions.
In this book you will be introduced to tools and ideas, advice, quotes and systems
necessary to help you accomplish what you want. It won’t be easy, nothing ever worth
doing is ever easy. However in many cases hard work when one does what they love is
never a matter of pain but a journey of discovery. Those willing to push the boundaries,
to strive for constant improvement will develop the skills in life that can make the
difference between an ordinary life and an exceptional life. For many the activity that
inspires you is the vehicle to a balanced life.
This book is only a guide to assist you to develop your skills in all aspects of life. The
information within has been accumulated from many years of research. It is up to you to
decide if the information can assist you to improve your performance in and around all
areas of your life. Remember the obstacle is the way forward, as it is in any venture,
failure is a constant. You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink, this is the
choice you need to make. So face your future with certainty that you will fail over and
over again and that is why you will succeed.
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5. Table of contents
“Always evolving”
Disclaimer* The information in this document has been collected from various sources. The
Seven Habits is derived from Steven Covey’s book “The 7 habits of highly effective people”.
This document is not to be reproduced for anything other than personal use.
Pursuing a conscious mind.
• Chapter 1 - The 7 Habits
• Chapter 2 - Finding your life purpose
• Chapter 3 - Mentors sharing their systems
• Chapter 4 - The Process
• Chapter 5 - Leadership
• Chapter 6 - Belief systems

6. Chapter 1 - The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People
by Steven R Covey
The 7 habits represent a model for human growth. These habits are based on life's governing
principles and will help us to understand the laws of human nature and how we can use
these habits to become successful in our personal lives. They will assist us to understand
what makes us do the things we do and how we can control our own minds to help us in our
daily endeavours. Whether it be school, work, play or relationships we will learn how to
prioritise putting the most important aspects of your life first. Family, Health, Relationships
and overall well being and state of mind. These habits are highly effective in helping us to
achieve our goals. The Seven Habits are:
1 Be Pro Active
2 Start with the end in Mind
3 Put first things first.
4 Think win win
5 Listen first to understand and then to be understood
6 Synergize
7 Sharpen the saw
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7. Habit 1. Be Proactive
Your life doesn't just "happen." Whether you know it or not, it is carefully designed by you. The
choices, after all, are yours. You choose happiness. You choose sadness. You choose decisiveness.
You choose ambivalence. You choose success. You choose failure. You choose courage. You choose
fear. Just remember that every moment, every situation, provides a new choice. And in doing so, it
gives you a perfect opportunity to do things differently to produce more positive results. If you do
not develop your own philosophy, you will ultimately adopt someone else's.
Being proactive is about taking responsibility for your life. You can't keep blaming everything on
others your parents or grandparents. Proactive people recognize that they are "response-able."
They don't blame genetics, circumstances, conditions, or conditioning for their behavior. They know
they choose their behavior. Reactive people, on the other hand, are often affected by their physical
environment. They find external sources to blame for their behavior. If the weather is good, they
feel good. If it isn't, it affects their attitude and performance, and they blame the weather. All these
external forces act as stimuli that we respond to. Between the stimulus and the response is your
greatest power, you have the freedom to choose your response. One of the most important things
you choose is what you say. Your language is a good indicator of how you see yourself. A proactive
person uses proactive language I can, I will, I prefer, etc. A reactive person uses reactive language-
yes but, I can't, I must, if only. Reactive people believe they are not responsible for what they say
and do they have no choice.
Instead of reacting to or worrying about conditions over which they have little or no control,
proactive people focus their time and energy on things they can control. The problems, challenges,
and opportunities we face fall into two areas; Circle of Concern and Circle of Influence.
Proactive people focus their efforts on their Circle of Influence. They work on the things they can do
something about: health, problems at work or school. Reactive people focus their efforts in the
Circle of Concern--things over which they have little or no control: the national debt, terrorism, the
weather. Gaining an awareness of the areas in which we expend our energies in is a giant step in
becoming proactive.
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8. HABIT 2: BEGIN WITH THE END IN
MIND
So, what do you want to be when you
grow up? That question may appear a
little trite but think about it for a
moment. Are you right now on your
way to who you want to be, what you
dream of becoming, doing what you
need to do? Be honest. Sometimes
people find themselves achieving
victories that are empty successes that
have come at the expense of things
that were far more valuable to them. If
your ladder is not leaning against the
right wall, every step you take gets you
to the wrong place faster.
Habit 2 is based on imagination, the
ability to envision in your mind what
you cannot at present see with your
eyes. It is based on the principle that
all things are created twice. There is a
mental (first) creation, and a physical
(second) creation. The physical
creation follows the mental, just as a
building follows a blueprint. If you
don't make a conscious effort to
visualize who you are and what you
want in life, then you empower other
people and circumstances to shape
you and your life by default. It's about
connecting again with your own
uniqueness and then defining the
personal, moral, and ethical guidelines
within which you can most happily
express and fulfil yourself. Begin with
the End in Mind means to begin each
day, task, or project with a clear vision
of your desired direction and
destination, and then continue by
flexing your proactive muscles to make
things happen.
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9. HABIT 3: PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST
To live a more balanced existence, you have to recognize that not doing
everything that comes along is okay. There's no need to overextend yourself. All it
takes is realizing that it's all right to say no when necessary and then focus on
your highest priorities.
Habit 1 says, "You're in charge. You're the creator." Being proactive is about
choice. Habit 2 is the first, or mental, creation. Beginning with the End in Mind is
about vision. Habit 3 is the second creation, the physical creation. This habit is
where Habits 1 and 2 come together. It happens day in and day out, moment-by-
moment. It deals with many of the questions addressed in the field of time
management. But that's not all it's about. Habit 3 is about life management as
well, your purpose, values, roles, and priorities. What are "first things?" First
things are those things you, personally, find of most worth. If you put first things
first, you are organizing and managing time and events according to the personal
priorities you established in Habit 2.
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10. HABIT 4: THINK WIN-WIN
Think Win-Win isn't about being nice, nor is it a quick-fix technique. It is a character-based
code for human interaction and collaboration. Most of us learn to base our self-worth on
comparisons and competition. We think about succeeding in terms of someone else failing
that is, if I win, you lose; or if you win, I lose. Life becomes a zero-sum game. There is only so
much pie to go around, and if you get a big piece, there is less for me; it's not fair, and I'm
going to make sure you don't get anymore. We all play the game, but how much fun is it
really? Win-win sees life as a cooperative arena, not a competitive one. Win-win is a frame
of mind and heart that constantly seeks mutual benefit in all human interactions. Win-win
means agreements or solutions are mutually beneficial and satisfying. It is having an
abundance mentality where everyone wins.
A person or organization that approaches conflicts with a win-win attitude possesses three
vital character traits:
Þ Integrity: sticking with your true feelings, values, and commitments
Þ Maturity: expressing your ideas and feelings with courage and consideration for the ideas
and feelings of others
Þ Abundance Mentality: believing there is plenty for everyone
Many people think in terms of either/or: either you're nice or you're tough. Win-win
requires that you be both. It is a balancing act between courage and consideration. To go for
win-win, you not only have to be empathic, but you also have to be confident. You not only
have to be considerate and sensitive, you also have to be brave. To do that, to achieve that
balance between courage and consideration is the essence of real maturity and is
fundamental to win-win.
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11. HABIT 5: SEEK FIRST TO UNDERSTAND, THEN TO BE UNDERSTOOD
Communication is the most important skill in life. You spend years learning how to read and
write, and years learning how to speak. But what about listening? What training have you
had that enables you to listen so you really, deeply understand another human being?
Probably none, right?
If you're like most people, you probably seek first to be understood; you want to get your
point across. And in doing so, you may ignore the other person completely, pretend that
you're listening, selectively hear only certain parts of the conversation or attentively focus
on only the words being said, but miss the meaning entirely. So why does this happen?
Because most people listen with the intent to reply, not to understand. You listen to
yourself as you prepare in your mind what you are going to say, the questions you are going
to ask, etc. You filter everything you hear through your life experiences, your frame of
reference. You check what you hear against your autobiography and see how it measures
up. And consequently, you decide prematurely what the other person means before he/she
finishes communicating. Do any of the following sound familiar?
"Oh, I know just how you feel. I felt the same way." "I had that same thing happen to me."
"Let me tell you what I did in a similar situation."
Because you so often listen autobiographically, you tend to respond in one of four ways:
Evaluating:- You judge and then either agree or disagree.
Probing:- You ask questions from your own frame of reference.
Advising:- You give counsel, advice, and solutions to problems.
Interpreting:- You analyse others' motives and behaviour's based on your own experiences.
You might be saying, "Hey, now wait a minute. I'm just trying to relate to the person by
drawing on my own experiences. Is that so bad?" In some situations, autobiographical
responses may be appropriate, such as when another person specifically asks for help from
your point of view or when there is already a very high level of trust in the relationship.
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12. HABIT 6: SYNERGIZE
To put it simply, synergy means "two heads are better than one."
Synergize is the habit of creative cooperation. It is teamwork, open-
mindedness, and the adventure of finding new solutions to old
problems. But it doesn't just happen on its own. It's a process, and
through that process, people bring all their personal experience and
expertise to the table. Together, they can produce far better results
that they could individually. Synergy lets us discover jointly things
we are much less likely to discover by ourselves. It is the idea that
the whole is greater than the sum of the parts. One plus one equals
three, or six, or sixty--you name it.
When people begin to interact together genuinely, and they're open
to each other's influence, they begin to gain new insight. The
capability of inventing new approaches is increased exponentially
because of differences.
Valuing differences is what really drives synergy. Do you truly value
the mental, emotional, and psychological differences among
people? Or do you wish everyone would just agree with you so you
could all get along? Many people mistake uniformity for unity;
sameness for oneness. One word--boring! Differences should be
strengths, not weaknesses. They add zest to life.
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13. HABIT 7: SHARPEN THE SAW
Sharpen the Saw means preserving and enhancing the greatest asset you have - you. It
means having a balanced program for self-renewal in the four areas of your life: physical,
social/emotional, mental, and spiritual. Here are some examples of activities:
Ø Physical:- Beneficial eating, exercising, and resting.
Ø Social/Emotional:- Making social and meaningful connections with others.
Ø Mental:- Learning, reading, writing, and teaching.
Ø Spiritual:- Spending time in nature, expanding spiritual self through meditation,
music, art, prayer, or service.
As you renew yourself in each of the four areas, you create growth and change in your
life. Sharpen the Saw keeps you fresh so you can continue to practice the other six
habits. You increase your capacity to produce and handle the challenges around you.
Without this renewal, the body becomes weak, the mind mechanical, the emotions raw,
the spirit insensitive, and the person selfish. Not a pretty picture, is it?
Feeling good doesn't just happen. Living a life in balance means taking the necessary
time to renew yourself. It's all up to you. You can renew yourself through relaxation. Or
you can totally burn yourself out by overdoing everything. You can pamper yourself
mentally and spiritually. Or you can go through life oblivious to your well-being. You can
experience vibrant energy. Or you can procrastinate and miss out on the benefits of good
health and exercise. You can revitalize yourself and face a new day in peace and
harmony. Or you can wake up in the morning full of apathy because your get-up-and-go
has got-up-and-gone. Just remember that every day provides a new opportunity for
renewal--a new opportunity to recharge yourself instead of hitting the wall. All it takes is
desire, knowledge, and skill.

14. Chapter 2
Find your life purpose?
To live a life based on principles should be your main goal. Principles create the values that
you and your family live by. Love, respect, loyalty, trust are all governing natural laws. Focus
on your inner core the things you can control. Try not to live a life based on needs, needs
do not bring happiness. You may not find your purpose straight away. But through exposure
to many opportunities allows you to experience new things. Here are eight forms to
consider for living a world class life:
1. World-class inner life.
Your outer world, who you are and the quality of your life, is 100 percent determined by
your inner world. Your inner world consists of your peace of mind, the quality of your
thinking and living authentically. Are you living your true values or doing things based out of
fear and worry? Your inner world determines your self worth and how connected you are
to your core. Your inner world requires the right attitude.
2. World-class health.
Your health is a very important part of wealth. If you don’t have your health, you have
nothing. At the end of your life, the things you now perceive as the big things might be the
little things. When we are young, we will compromise our health for wealth, but when we
are old we will gladly sacrifice all of our wealth for just a little bit of health. It’s extremely
important to put health first, if you really want a world class life. We take our health for
granted until we lose it, then we spend all our waking time trying to get it back. Those who
don’t make time for exercise and eating well must eventually make time for illness.
3. World-class family life.
Having loved ones around you, and being able to see your family whenever you choose, is a
crucial part of success. The greatest support system in the world is good family and friends.
You can’t be careless here, you need great relationships and those who make you better.
Remember, you can’t change your family, and trying to do so will cause you endless stress
and frustration. Love them and appreciate them for who they are.
4. World-class profession/career.
The attitude you bring to your days determine your destiny and it's extremely hard to carry
a great attitude when you don't enjoy what you do. Be patient and figure out your
strengths. Purposefully choosing (or creating) your ideal profession is crucial to a world-
class life. When you love what you do, you’ll never work a day in your life. It's important
to get to the end of your career knowing you gave your best. Yes, unexpected
circumstances do happen but you are in control of your own future through the choices you
make. Life is not easy nor promised, but it's how you adapt and adjust that determines
what happens next. Never settle.
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15. 5. World-class financial freedom.
Less than 5 percent of our society will be financially stable by age 65. Money is extremely
important and makes the world go round. It also gives you one of the most important
aspects of a world-class life “freedom”.
Money allows you the choices to do what you want, when you want, wherever you want,
so you can live on your own terms. What’s your game plan to assure a financially free
future?
6. World-class circle of genius.
You become who you spend the most time with. Are the people you’re associating with
holding you to higher standards and challenging you? If you spend time with people who
are playing at a world class level, you drastically increase your chances of doing the same.
Their ways of being will rub off on you. You’ll adapt their philosophies and perspectives.
Start surrounding yourself with people whose lives you want to emulate. Keep company
with those who are thinking and acting at an extraordinary level.
7. World-class experiences.
Ultimately, life is an adventure. Experiences and
memories are what separate the elite lives from the
mediocre. What's the point of doing something if
you’re not having fun? Spend time with nature,
sharpen your saw, prioritise that which matters most
to you.
8. World-class impact and legacy.
The worthiest aim of life is service to the world around us. How much difference are you
making in the world around you? Are you adding consistent value that improves the lives of
others?
Generosity the key that unlocks happiness. There is no greater feeling than when you help
or give to others, asking for nothing back. Whether it is a compliment or a small gift, do
something nice for somebody every day.
I challenge you not to postpone your life. Most say “when I have more time I will take time
for myself” but the reality is life waits for no one. Don't postpone travel or chasing your
dreams. Nobody knows when their time is up, so make the most of it by focusing on these
eight forms of real wealth.
“What the mind can conceive and believe, the mind will achieve”
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16. The 10 areas of life
Exercise in Conscious engineering.
To live a full life we need to look at all the areas of our lives to ensure that we not only
succeed in our careers but more importantly in all aspects of life. Our Mind, Hearts,
relationships and bodies all need attention. Work out how much time and effort you
emphasise on your personal growth areas and categories of your life and rate yourself from
1-10 then work on each area as you see fit.
For example rate your relationship with your parents and siblings, do you give them the
attention they deserve. Do you hug them everyday, do you help around the house including
cleaning your room. Do you discuss the things you learned at school.
Do you read everyday, without reading you will not be able to go far in life. What kind of
books should you read? There are many different types but all will most likely give you
knowledge of some kind. You may want to read an autobiography of one of your favourite
players or sports stars. Success leaves tracks and reading their stories will give you hints
and tips on what they may have done to reach the level they are at.
Your personal health is very important, today food is not what it used to be. Corporations
that manufacture foods care little about nutrition and your well being so you must make an
effort to learn about what is good for you and what will make you sick.
Have a good look at each area of your life as listed on the following page, rate where you
think you are and then work out how you are going to improve each area, don’t just think
about. Use the workbook area of this diary to plan and set goals for the future. As we
learned in the first part of the book start with the end in mind which is the mental creation.
Come up with ideas, write them down follow through.
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17. The 10 areas of life
Next step rate then write down a note that may help you improve on each of these areas in your life. What
steps can you begin to take to improve each area. Use a diary or a note book if you need more space.
1 Relationships - With your parents and siblings, Grandparents, coaches and teachers.
2 Friendship - who are your 5 closest friends and how can you connect with them better.
3 Adventures travel and play.
4 My environment home, school, belongings.
5 Health and fitness , exercise and eating habits.
6 intellectual knowledge , reading and learning about the world, things you may not learn at school,
finances. Nature or science. Biology and self improvement.
7 Your skills , in respect to the things you love to do or aspire to become.
8 Spiritual growth, connection with the world nature are you kind and connected to all living things, do
you practise peace and mindfulness empathy.
9 Education - Reading and writing, solving problems, innovating and creating or inventing.
10 Personal - down time, relaxation sleep and meditation.
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18. Chapter 3 – Mentors sharing their systems
The Four Pillars by Alan Davidson Socceroo Hall off fame
1. The Mind - The first and crucial aspect of any type of success is conditioning ones mindset.
Without the necessary tools that mental strength provides there is little chance of achieving
greatness. Without a healthy level of confidence anyone will find it hard to compete in an ultra
competitive industry such as football. Work on skills to enhance confidence, such as body language
and the right attitude (emotional state) towards what and how we do things. Coping mechanism,
learning to deal with failure and disappointment becoming a competitor not a victim. Do not lay
blame on things this is surely the worst disempowering notion. Forgive, forget and move on.
Practice mindfulness through meditation to improve your concentration. Players/people who are
controlled by situations or circumstances are victims of external influences and or concerns.
“Outside in or outwardly motivated” Are you the type that has an excuse for everything, are you
the one who blames everyone else for your problems (the majority) Are you controlled by that
which you have no control over. Competitors are players/people who are able to stay in control of
their thinking, tension, technique, game plan, in key competitive opportunities. (emotional state)
Competitors convert a great percentage of opportunities (the minority). They don’t lay blame!
Competitors operate on an inside out approach, they focus on things they can influence, they look
within to solve any problem and focus on that which they can control. Competitors have a strong
desire to win constantly. Success is a discipline. But above all have a winning mindset, accept that
everything is a competition and strive to win at all times.
2. Passion – To love, to desire is what drives internal motivation. Loving what you do is great and
may motivate you from time to time, but the reality is one needs to be addicted to what they love.
This requires immersion in what one is learning to master. In life there is a difference between what
one wants to be and what one wants to do. Being happy, healthy, successful, rich etc. will
undoubtedly be dictated by what one wants to do. In order to achieve what you want to be, you
need to do what you love. You cannot be in love with the “idea “of being, it has to come from deep
within. Your motivation to succeed must be stronger than your need to feel comfortable, stronger
than any kind of fear that may stop you from moving forward.
3. Hard Work - Without a hard work ethic you will not achieve anything. If you want something you
need to go get it and be willing to sacrifice, to face failure, disappointment and yet continue to push
and push yourself to your limit until you think you cannot push anymore and then you push some
more. To become an overnight success requires years and years of hard work. While everyone else
is resting your working, while your friends are partying your working. Always consider hard as
normal, expect hard. Work happy.
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19. 4. Goals - Once an individual has a specific goal or vision you need a plan. A strategy is
needed to achieve your objective. How will you reach your intended target? Once you
know your goals we formulate how to achieve key milestones by setting time lines.
“targets”. Having drive without purpose is the best way to get anywhere but your
destination! If the dominoes are set up properly only a small amount of effort is required
to start a chain reaction (momentum). With each small step you achieve you are rewarding
yourself therefore the struggle becomes a total pleasure. You cannot build a strong house
without a plan, without a plan there is no foundation. A tree without roots will soon blow
over. Take the Chinese bamboo tree for example. When the seed is planted you see
NOTHING for four years. Then it grows to approximately 100 feet in a matter of days and is
capable of withstanding a hurricane. Goals are not a one time thing, it requires constant
review you will find as you grow your goals may change. Keep your goals in a journal . Do
not trust your memory write things down that you feel is important.
Alan Davidson is recognised as one of Australia's best ever footballers, inducted into the
team of the century he made 54 appearances for the Socceroos and had an illustrious
career which include stints in England with Arsenal, Nottingham Forrest and Pahang in
Malaysia.
Allen’s son Jason is a professional footballer. Jason was part of the Successful Socceroo
squad that won the Asian Cup and was a key member of the Socceroo squad that played in
the Brazil World Cup finals.
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20. BRUCE LEE’S 6 PRINCIPLES
Know Your Why
As it has been said, if you can produce a powerful reason why you want to achieve your goal in life
and then keep it in mind you can endure almost any how. For Bruce, he clearly laid out his reasons
why; citing his passion for martial arts, his conviction to help other people, his desire to improve
the lives of his loved ones, and his deep calling to share a part of himself with the world.
Do What You Are Passionate About
Bruce made it clear that he was not doing this for “the sole objective of making money,” but he
was passionate about his goals. You see, when we work for something that we are passionate
about, something that truly makes us come alive; not only are we willing to work 7 days a week,
365 days a year for it (which dramatically improves our chances at becoming successful), but it
also gives us a sense of great purpose, and this is deeply satisfying for us, something that money
could never buy.
There Is A Power Within Us Greater Than Our Circumstances
So often we limit ourselves by thinking logically about our circumstances or situation, and this
discourages us. I mean imagine you are living in a basement, like Bruce was, and then you make
the claim that you are going to change the world. It is one of the most irrational things you could
do. But rather than thinking rationally, Bruce had come to learn that he had an incredible power
within him that could lift him out of his circumstances. You can call this force, willpower, spiritual
force (as Bruce did), determination, or whatever you like, but it clearly exists and has been
demonstrated time and time again by various personalities throughout history. Recognizing that
you can access it, will help you overcome that which is seemingly “impossible”.

21. Montaigne On 24 Life
Lessons She’s Learned
In Her 24 Years
I’d like to start with the caveat that these are
lessons relevant to ME and MYSELF and I am
addressing the lessons that have come to mean
something to me. They may not be true at all for
you. I am NOT a qualified Advice ologist and so
please take all of this with a grain of salt. Gracias.
Life Lesson One.
It is both reasonable and necessary to have
personal boundaries for yourself as regards work,
relationships, or anything else. A graciously but
firmly and clearly conveyed “no” is a holy,
healthy thing.
Life Lesson Two.
Your physical energy is a vital asset and it is
important that you take its preservation and
reservation seriously. If you don’t have energy
you can’t put your best effort into the things that
matter in your life. It’s better to miss out on a
few opportunities that require your labor or
energy if it means you have the energy to really
show up for the things that matter. Knowing your
“no” comes in handy here. See Lesson One.
Life Lesson Three.
Often people who cast judgment or aspersions
on certain things you do or like or feel etc are
projecting or trying to deflect the vulnerable
feeling that the subject fills them with. While it is
perfectly reasonable to feel hurt when someone
is being nasty to you – and you ought to allow
yourself to feel that hurt – also don’t forget that
someone else probably made them feel as bad as
they’re making you feel, and with that awareness
you have the power to break the chain of hurt.
Life Lesson Four.
Empathy will be required of you when it feels
impossible to empathize. But it is possible to
learn how to do it. It will take a lot of time and a
lot of inner work to accomplish though
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22. Life Lesson Five.
Having free time is an immense privilege. Do not take it for granted. And that doesn’t mean fill your
free time with things to do always! Just be grateful. Don’t forget that there are people out there who
would kill for a moment to just sit and think or do nothing or have some leisure. There are people
out there who must work their asses off to survive and don’t have the time to rest or work on skills
they want to develop or just enjoy themselves. Free time is gold.
Life Lesson Six.
Your romantic relationships will never be simple. Ever. Be suspicious if they are simple. Life is messy
and people don’t slot perfectly into each other. Let go of the expectation that any relationship can
ever come together smoothly or seamlessly.
Life Lesson Seven.
Life is best lived fueled by the fire of curiosity. If you have it, don’t let anyone stop you from using it.
Life Lesson Eight.
Everything in moderation. Work hard but rest and recover to a degree commensurate with the work.
Be social and maintain relationships but carve out time for yourself.
Life Lesson Nine.
Your feelings about things are ever-evolving. Bad feelings always pass, as do good ones. Nothing is
permanent. The thought can be dejecting, but what keeps you around is deciding what it is you’re
living for, the things that give you meaning. Make sure you are available to evaluate and re-evaluate
what your values are, and what you can do to live by them.
Life Lesson Ten.
Being kind, open, and compassionate can be vulnerable, but it’s worth it.

23. Life Lesson Eleven.
Boundaries prevent you from being taken advantage of, if you do choose to be kind, open and
compassionate.
Life Lesson Twelve.
Certain things that come naturally to you don’t come naturally to other people. Sometimes you will feel
impatient or not understand why they can’t operate in the way you do but again, try to exercise empathy
and patience. Everyone is different.
Life Lesson Thirteen.
You have the right to be individualistic and to style yourself as such but never forget that you are a citizen
of a world full of other human beings with dignity and the same fundamental desires as you – your needs
and wants are no more important than theirs, and you should exercise humility, respect and grace
accordingly.
Life Lesson Fourteen.
It is human to think and think long. Presence is (justifiably) valorised in many wellness communities and is
indeed an important part of maintaining a healthy mind, but don’t judge yourself too much if you find
yourself unable in a given moment to keep a clear mind and not get caught up in some train of thought.
Thinking, stress and worrying leads to problem-solving which is good. By the same token, it is good to try
to draw the line before you amble into monkey mind and drown in your emotions.
Life Lesson Fifteen.
You can do things because they are fun, and not for any other reason. You can do things for their own
sake. If everything becomes a puzzle to solve, when you run out of puzzles to solve, you’re going to be
looking straight into the void, which is a place you and I know is terrifying, lonely, and empty.
Life Lesson Sixteen.
Solitude is essential to a healthy mind. It is essential to creative thought. It is essential to knowing
yourself. Be available for solitude.
Life Lesson Seventeen.
Present standards for beauty were created by advertising companies trying to sell you their products. The
body image issues of people the world round are not necessary, were not built into the human psyche,
but have been engineered by the drive for profit. It is perfectly okay to engage with the consumer culture
economy has created but know that you are beautiful just as you are. You will ultimately be much better
off and much more resilient if you try to internalise that kind of self-belief.
Life Lesson Eighteen.
A sense of humour goes a super long way. Sometimes things are so terrible that all you can do is laugh
and that is a valid way to deal with things.
Life Lesson Nineteen.
Everything Brene Brown has ever said is good and you should regularly return to her wisdom and
research.
Life Lesson Twenty.
There are different friends for different seasons and different interests and different emotional tenors.
There will never be one person, not even a romantic life partner, who will be able to fulfil your every
need and want. It takes a village to be loved and whole.
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24. Life Twenty One.
Most worthwhile things in life require a great amount of sunk costs. Things often keep increasing in
their goodness after you’ve gotten past their toughest bits. This includes conflict or tension in
relationships.
Life Twenty Two.
I’m going to reinforce the idea of humility: being able to take guilt or the state of being wrong,
acknowledging and living with it, and then being able to concede that you’re wrong and apologise for
being defensive/offensive without proper cause is actual magic. It is tough, scary magic, but it’s
magic. Being able to do that is also a good litmus test when you’re going through conflict with
someone. If they respond with equal mercy and forgiveness to your concession, they’re probably
keepers for life. If they respond with sanctimony or try to milk more guilt out of you, you should
probably take a step back from that relationship.
Life Twenty Three.
Looking up at the stars at night, no matter how concealed they are by the light of a dirty city, never
gets old.
Life Twenty Four.
Life is terrible and wonderful, and it is terrible because it is wonderful, and it is wonderful because it
is terrible.
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25. Self Education
Any problem we may face in life, someone has already dealt with before us and written a book on it.
If we want to start our own company, someone has written a book on that. If we want to overcome
our depression, someone has written a book on that. If we want to overcome poverty, someone has
written a book on that. If we want to understand the power of the mind, someone has written a book
on that.
Bruce is a man who understood the power of reading and self education well. In fact, at age 32, his
personal library is said to have contained well over 2500 books, Amongst this impressive list, included
famous readings on the power of the imagination, like Think and grow rich, The power of positive
thinking and As a man Thinketh amongst others. And judging by his impassioned letter regarding the
use of his imagination to create a better life for himself, these certainly had a massive influence on
him.
Uncompromising Self Confidence
Confidence is not what most people think. Confidence is the uncompromising belief and
commitment that regardless of what obstacles we may face in life, and no matter how many times
we might fail, nothing and no one is going to be able to stop us from achieving our goal. Bruce had
this uncompromising confidence in himself, and made up his mind, that even though he might be
living in a basement right now, and even though he might meet with temporary failure, he will never
quit. And he will do whatever is required to achieve his goals.
Act
All the reading, self educating, and positive thinking in the world, means nothing without taking
positive action. If you want to create change, get busy. As Bruce himself once said, “Balance your
thoughts with action. If you spend too much time thinking about a thing, you’ll never get it done.”
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26. Arnold Schwarzenegger
5 secret keys for success!
1. Find your vision and follow it
That’s step one according to Schwarzenegger. Set out what you’re after, what your goal is and chase it. If
you lack a vision, you’ll just be drifting around feeling lost and unhappy. Schwarzenegger illustrates this
with his own rocky start, growing up in the aftermath of the Second World War in Austria, which lost the
war alongside with Germany. He wanted to escape and find a better life but didn’t have a clue where to
begin.
One day, he watched a documentary in school about America. That was it that was his dream destination.
But the big question remained: how would he get there in times when no one had money to travel? Then
a moment came that changed his life. He got his hands on a bodybuilding magazine and met a guy called
Reg Park on the cover. “I read the article as fast as I could, learning about how he grew up in Leeds in
England, poor and how he trained five hours a day, every single day and trained and trained and trained
so then he finally became Mr. Great Britain. He then became Mr. Universe, and then he won a second
Mr. Universe title and a third Mr. Universe title and then suddenly, he landed in Rome in Cinecitta doing
Hercules movies. As I read, I became more and more certain I had that vision very clearly laid out. To be a
champion on that same stage where he won the Mr. Universe, and then to move to America, then get
into movies. From that moment on, everything that I did, no matter how hard I had to work or how much
I had to struggle, it didn’t matter because I knew what the purpose was, and I found my passion.
Always discover your vision and the rest will follow.”
2. Never think small, think big
When determining your vision and goals, don’t be afraid to be ambitious. As Schwarzenegger puts it: “My
second rule is never ever thinking small. You must go and shoot for the stars. I didn’t just think about
being in movies, no I wanted to be a movie star. I wanted to have above the title billing. I wanted to
become the highest paid entertainer, I basically wanted to be another John Wayne. What’s wrong with
that? Never think small, think big.”
3. Ignore the naysayers
Okay, so you’ve laid down your vision for the future. You’ve set the bar high and see it big. Naturally
you’ll meet people that will tell you it’ll never happen, that you might just forget about your unrealistic
dreams It has happened to Schwarzenegger too, when he got into bodybuilding and wanted to become a
movie star: “When I met those agents and managers, their reaction was, oh Arnold, that is so funny. You
want to be what, a leading man? Oh come on, I mean look first let’s start with your body. You’re gigantic,
you’re like a monster. And then your accent, oh it gives me the chills just listening to your German
bullshit, come on now. Have you ever seen an international movie star with a German accent? It doesn’t
happen, forget about that. Then your name, what is it, Schwartzen, Schnitzel or something like that?
People are going to storm the theatre and the movie houses because Schwartzenschnitzel is starring in a
movie. Oh yeah, I can see that already. Imagine that, everywhere I turned they said no, it won’t happen,
it’s not going to happen and forget about it.” Luckily, he didn’t listen. On the contrary, it pushed him even
more. He started taking acting classes, English classes, accent removal classes, you name it. Then it
happened, he got a small part in a TV show. One small part led to another and finally he got the big break
as Conan the Barbarian. “And you know what was so interesting about it was the director said that at the
press conference if we wouldn’t have had Schwarzenegger with those muscles, we would have had to
build one. When I did Terminator, James Cameron said the I’ll be back line became one of the most
famous movie lines in history because of Arnold’s crazy accent because he sounded like a machine! So as
you see, everything that the naysayers said was a liability became an asset. Ignore the naysayers.”
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27. 4. Work your ass off
The fourth rule may not be the most fun one, but it’s indispensable: work your ass
off. “You never want to fail because you didn’t work hard enough. And it doesn’t
matter in what area you’re in. No pain, no gain.” If you think you’re working hard,
keep in mind Arnold’s schedule when he arrived in the US: “I trained five hours a day
every day and I was managing a construction business, I was a bricklayer and I went
to college also. I took acting classes from eight o’clock at night to 12 o’clock midnight,
every day I did that. Work your butt off, that’s what I always believe no matter what
you do, work, work, work.”
5. Don’t just take, give something back
It’s okay to be focused on your personal development, but don’t forget about people
around you. Aim for the stars and share your success with others. As Schwarzenegger
puts it: “Tear down that mirror that makes you always look at yourself and you will
be able to look beyond that mirror and you will see the millions and millions of
people that need your help. Therefore I try to take every opportunity that occurred
to give something back. I started training Special Olympians, I started after school
programs for the most vulnerable children, for inner-city children to make them be
able to say no to drugs, no to gangs, and no to violence. We all can create change
whether it is in our neighbourhood or in our local schools cause the bottom line is it
is up to us. Have a vision, think big, ignore the naysayers, work your ass off, and give
back and change the world. Because if not us, who? If not now, when?

28. Chapter 4 - The Process
There is a distinct process in achieving goals. The elements below are pre requisite but it is
important to realise that ultimately you must have a deep internal drive as well as support
from those who love you in order to reach your full potential.
GOALS are key to achievement and can be defined in the following categories:
PERSONAL - CAREER - FINANCIAL - EDUCATION - RELATIONSHIP
These six main attributes are what feeds your development through the process.
These elements require you to improve and develop the four main intelligences. As we
discussed in our earlier segment habit 2 to start with the mental creation “The end in mind”.
Habit three put first things first is the physical creation that requires you to experience many
of the elements above. With a core set of principles in your life that govern your actions and
thoughts your personality and character grows. The more knowledge you attain the higher
your level of intelligence. The four main intelligences are:
Emotional intelligence Þ Spiritual intelligence Þ Physical intelligence Þ Mental intelligence
Each one is intertwined with your overall success. The process is what you will need to
experience before you get there. Should you achieve your goal then you will need to set new
goals all the time. Remember that it is the journey that will fill you with the attributes of
KNOWLEDGE, SKILL, and DESIRE to achieve your goals, everyone must pay the price for there
are no shortcuts.
“The elevator to success is broken, you must take the stairs”
RESEARCH
SIMULATION
BEING PRO ACTIVE
TAKING RISK
HARD WORK
DISCIPLINE
READING
STUDY
FUN
KNOWLEDGE
SKILL
DESIRE
PERSERVERANCE
WISDOM
HABITS
LISTENING
WATCHING
PAIN
DISSAPOINTMENT
FAILURE
SORROW
LONELINESS
MISTAKES
SACRIFICE
LOSING
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29. The Process - Paying the price
The road to success, learn the process of developing into what you dream.
For every action there is an equal amount of reaction. We can achieve nothing without paying
the price. To be successful in your craft you need to be prepared to sacrifice and work hard.
Here are some points which will help you to understand the nature of how things work in your
personal lives.
• We must understand that we must control ourselves emotionally as well as intellectually
that we literally become what we constantly think about. (attitude)
• We must control our thoughts if we are to control our minds. (Mental strength)
• Your limitations are usually self-imposed if you say you can’t your right if you say you can
your right. (speak in the language of empowerment – what you say defines you)
• You must learn to rise amongst narrow minded pettiness and prejudices. (Your associations
and environment – controlling the ego within & choosing your response)
• As you sow so shall ye reap, what you put in you will ultimately get out. (Your Work ethic)
• You must use all your courage to force yourself to think positively on your own problems.
(Personal Responsibility own it!)
• To set your goals and find all possible solutions to the problems associated with reaching
your goals. In doing so you will find that there are no problems only solutions. (A strategy)
• You must refuse to believe that there are any circumstances to defeat you in the
accomplishment of your goals. (Perseverance, resilience – accepting that failure is the
path to success)
• You must learn, not to lay blame on others. Focus on your circle of influence not your circle
of concern. (The power within and what you can control)
• Immerse yourself in your dreams. (Visualise Success)
Daily habits need to be formed and practised. Train your
brain for success. You will become what you think about.
Use this manual or a notepad, write down the things
which you want to remember. Learn to listen, It is a skill,
listen to understand and then to be understood.
Always have courage, concentrate on your goal every day.
When you wake up every morning focus on your goals not
your problems. Take action, ideas ‘goals are worthless
unless we act on them’. Start from where you are today
and begin to develop new habits. If you place a ladder on
the wrong wall you will get to the wrong place faster.
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30. Daily habits need to be formed and practised.
• Train your brain for success. You will become what you think about.
• Use this manual or a notepad, write down the things which you want to remember.
• Learn to listen, It is a skill, listen to understand and then to be understood.
• Always have courage.
• Concentrate on your goal every day.
• When you wake up every morning focus on your goals not your problems.
• Take action, ideas ‘goals are worthless unless we act on them’.
• Start from where you are today and begin to develop new habits.
• If you place a ladder on the wrong wall you will get to the wrong place faster.
• Stress and anxiety will effect you if you are operating outside your comfort zone/the
level of your experience or training. You cannot progress unless you are willing to
go beyond your comfort zone.
• Embrace fear do not avoid it.
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31. The Mind is the key to everything.
Study to understand how your brain works? Your emotions are all chemical reactions. The 5
main chemicals are:
q Dopamine – Highly addictive, feeling of accomplishment, example: sugar triggers dopamine.
q Serotonin – The leadership chemical pride, status, confidence.
q Oxytocin – Feeling of love, trust, friendship. Triggered by touch.
q Endorphins – Mask physical pain, defence mechanism.
q Cortisol – Flight or fight response, defence mechanism aimed at keeping us alive in
dangerous situations. Draws blood away from organs to arms and legs. Stress causes
cortisol production and can lead to weakening of the immune system.
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Affirmation
I will always use positive words, words that empower me. I will
not say can’t or try. I understand that words from others cannot
affect me unless I allow them to. When I do I give away my power.
I take 100% responsibility for everything. I will focus on reasons
why I can and not why I can’t. I will focus on empowering words.

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Future planning – Things to consider as you reach adulthood.
• What kind of income do you need to be comfortable?
• What kind of life will you live? Paycheck to paycheck or a life of comfort able to pay
your bills, plan for emergencies, travel, healthcare, material goods?
• Where do you plan to be 5-10-20 years from now? How will you get there? What sort
of education will you need?
• Will you give up your time for money?
• How much VALUE will you bring to the market. You get paid for your value, not your
time.
• Will you do what you love for work?
• Unskilled labor does not and never will pay well. Minimum wage? It’s a ladder!
• Save/invest 30% of all your money!
• Pay yourself first!
• Where do you want to live what will it cost?
• Your income will be based on your education level, academic, networking, street
smarts, problem solving, finance knowledge, accounting and investing.
• How much % from your income do you need to save for emergencies and how much to
invest to safeguard or replace your income.
• When and if children come what kind of education do you want for them and what will
it cost?
• Cost of childcare can you live off a single income with children comfortably?
• What kind of life do you want to live, on your terms or will you succumb to societal
norms, this means will you design the life you want or fall into the trap of what society
expects, i.e. 9-5 job work forty years retire.
OR
• Do you want to make a big difference in your contribution towards your family, your
community and the planet.
• Are you consciously aware of the damage we are doing to the planet, what are you
doing to fix it? What measures can you take today to improve our only home?
Which one of these people do you want to be?
Employee, gives up time for money, 30% tax
Specialist/Sole trader/Small business Business Owner 500 + employees
Up to 50% Tax 20% Tax
Investor/ Money works for you
0% Tax

33. The Four Speeds
With any venture be it sports, business or the arts there are four distinct speeds that we
need to master, these are:
These are:
Þ Angular speed- movement, teamwork, support, this represents the ability to work
together.
Þ Process speed - Thought process, decision making this is the ability to solve problems
effectively.
Þ Pocket speed - Hitting the target in space and time this relates to skill.
Þ Gradient speed- Learning speed, how quickly we can attain knowledge.
These are relevant not only to football but in all facets of life.
Maslow's triangle of human needs
These are the 5 levels of human needs, the first is physiological these are ,food, sleep and
the basic necessities with which we need to survive. The second level represents safety, a
roof over our heads and security. Third is our emotional needs such as relationships and
family. The fourth represents our accomplishments that lead to self esteem and confidence.
The last is the hardest to attain which is self actualisation a person who is at this level is
unstoppable. Our goal in life is to achieve self actualisation.
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34. Having a winning mentality also requires the ability to manage losing. When winning
matters your attitude changes and therefore you must always strive to win but not at the
expense of improving. It’s like saying you can pay for something to get what you want,
however its much better to earn something because it will always have a greater value.
Are you Lucky or unlucky? If you believe you are lucky, situations you can control will lead
to successful outcomes up to 75% of the time, simply because you convince your mind that
luck which doesn’t really exist is on your side! This has been based on research through
social experiments.
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Here are Michael Jordan 7 Rules
of Success:
1. Failure is the path of success
2. Have a vision
3. Practice makes a man perfect
4. Be one of the best
5. Stop making excuses
6. Be positive
7. Be Different

35. What is a loser?
• Sees a problem in every opportunity.
• Is a poor judge of the choices he/she makes.
• They see negativity in positivity.
• They see scarcity in abundance.
• They look for failure as an outcome to justify their lack of attention.
• They think others are lucky for their achievements to abscond with their inept ability to
achieving anything of significance.
• Passes the buck.
• They are low on the fuel of self esteem.
• They lack confidence to achieve anything of significance.
• Sees themselves as victims rather than competitors.
• Blames others for their failures.
• Uses antagonistic phrases: A loser lives the life of antagonism. They use statements like,
“It’s not my job,” or “I’m not responsible for that” to discern their negativity.
• Cuts losses quickly.
• Squanders time with watching too much television rather than engaging on meaningful
actions.
• Strives for instant gratification.
• Follows celebrities and plays the lottery with the hope of striking rich.
• Seeks approval from others rather than approval from the inner self.
• Refuses to think and act on their own behalf.
• Is easily influenced by others and yields to others the ability to create an opinion of their
own.
• Doesn’t know what they want from life.
• A loser is a dream buster armed with a weapon of negativity and excuses.
• Losers give up when things get hard.
• They do not persevere.
• Sheds responsibility at every opportunity.
• Lacks self discipline.
• Is emotionally unintelligent/weak/cannot control temper emotions.
• Is self centered and self absorbed.
• Blames the world for their situation.
• Thinks everything is unfair.
• Picks the wrong friends/role models.
• Has no production capacity.
• Is not prepared to look after the goose to get the golden eggs!
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36. What is a winner?
• Winners have the right attitude.
• Winners are willing to pay the price.
• Winners make a personal commitment.
• Winners have a hard work ethic.
• Winners are willing to contribute to the team/team effort.
• Winners work on relationships.
• Winners take personal responsibility.
• A winner leads by example.
• Winners always listen and learn.
• Winners discusses opportunities.
• Winners look for solutions.
• Winners admit mistakes.
• Winners repeat successful behaviour.
• Winners have a plan.
• Winners set goals to win.
• Winners practises goal setting on a daily basis.
• Winners stick to fundamentals that work.
• Winners look to multiply.
• Winners look to other winners.
• Winners choose to win.
• Winning becomes a habit.
• A winner needs adversity.
• Winners look to strengthen weakness.
• Winners concentrates on their power.
• Winners are eager to win.
• Winners make commitments.
• Winners say I’m good.
• Winners are always part of the answer.
• A winner sees its possible.
• A winner finds a better way.
• A winner has positive body language.
• Winners appreciates their own abilities.
• A winner never sacrifices values to win.
• A winner judges by standards of excellence.
• Winners are sensitive to the atmosphere around them.
• A winner is the master of their own destiny.
• A winner goes the extra mile.
• A winner thinks and focuses on the positives in every situation good or bad.
• A winner is humble.
• A winner knows life is an infinite game
“The prize and the price are usually equals, welcome adversity as a friend and ally, for it
polishes the metal of the wise and the strong, adversity erodes the will of the weak and the
self indulgent, you can be your own best friend or your worst enemy”
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37. Daily Reminder’s
Ø Success is the realisation of a worthy ideal!
Ø You must believe that your goals are attainable!
Ø You are shaped by the events that happen to you but you can choose the outcome!
Ø Don’t let those events effect you in a negative way!
Ø You can choose how it will impact you!
Ø Question everything!
Ø Goals, strategies, knowledge, Sacrifice, hard work, actions and above all the right attitude will
help shape the events in your life to help you succeed!
Ø You become what you constantly think about! You manifest your thoughts!
Ø Visualise your success every day and take action!
Ø Focus on the positives don’t dwell on the negatives!
Ø Have a thirst for knowledge, Learn everyday, find your why, your purpose!
Ø Read 30 minutes everyday!
Ø Exercise every day!
Ø Make sport a major part of your life!
Ø Practice empathy and gratefulness constantly!
Ø Don’t assume anything!
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What type of learner are you?
Visual-Spatial - think in terms of physical space, as do architects and sailors. Very aware of
their environments. They like to draw, do jigsaw puzzles, read maps, daydream. They can be
taught through drawings, verbal and physical imagery. Tools include models, graphics, charts,
photographs, drawings, 3-D modelling, video, videoconferencing, television, multimedia,
texts with pictures/charts/graphs.
Bodily-kinesthetic - use the body effectively, like a dancer or a surgeon. Keen sense of body
awareness. They like movement, making things, touching. They communicate well through
body language and be taught through physical activity, hands-on learning, acting out, role
playing. Tools include equipment and real objects.
Musical - show sensitivity to rhythm and sound. They love music, but they are also sensitive
to sounds in their environments. They may study better with music in the background. They
can be taught by turning lessons into lyrics, speaking rhythmically, tapping out time. Tools
include musical instruments, music, radio, stereo, CD-ROM, multimedia.
Interpersonal - understanding, interacting with others. These students learn through
interaction. They have many friends, empathy for others, street smarts. They can be taught
through group activities, seminars, dialogues. Tools include the telephone, audio
conferencing, time and attention from the instructor, video conferencing, writing, computer
conferencing, E-mail.
Intrapersonal - understanding one's own interests, goals. These learners tend to shy away
from others. They're in tune with their inner feelings; they have wisdom, intuition and
motivation, as well as a strong will, confidence and opinions. They can be taught through
independent study and introspection. Tools include books, creative materials, diaries, privacy
and time. They are the most independent of the learners.
Linguistic - using words effectively. These learners have highly developed auditory skills and
often think in words. They like reading, playing word games, making up poetry or stories.
They can be taught by encouraging them to say and see words, read books together. Tools
include computers, games, multimedia, books, tape recorders, and lecture.
Logical -Mathematical - reasoning, calculating. Think conceptually, abstractly and are able to
see and explore patterns and relationships. They like to experiment, solve puzzles, ask
cosmic questions. They can be taught through logic games, investigations, mysteries. They
need to learn and form concepts before they can deal with details.
Work out which of the above best represents you. Discuss this with
your parents and teachers.
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40. Tips
Create a vision board. Find pictures and quotes that inspire you. Paste them on
your bedroom wall, place post it notes on your mirror call it the accountability
mirror. Make it the first thing you see when you wake up and the last thing before
you go to sleep. Immerse yourself in your future aspirations, your heroes and role
models. Live the dream, sleep the dream, eat the dream.
It’s the lifestyle, the people, the friends, the enemies, the pain, the sacrifice, the
loneliness, the pleasure, the adventure, the excitement, the travel. Be grateful for
all of it, make a difference, leave this world in a better place than you inherited.
Jim Rohn Principles of the seasons
1.Learn how to handle the winters. (when times are tough)
2.Learn how to take advantage of the spring, (when things are going well)
3 Learn how to protect your crops all summer, as soon as you plant your garden so
the bugs and weeds won’t take it. All values must be defended.
4 Learn how to reap in the fall/harvest without complaint, take full responsibility
for what happens to you. Its not what happens to you its what you do with what
happens to you.
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41. Chapter 5 - Leadership
Leadership can be hard to define and it means different things to different people. In the
transformational leadership model, leaders set direction and help themselves and others to
do the right thing to move forward. To do this they create an inspiring vision, and then
motivate and inspire others to reach that vision.
Character builds leaders, what is a leader? Is it?
· Someone who yells at everyone?
· Someone who shouts abuse when others make mistakes?
· Someone who blames everyone else when things don’t work or mistakes are made?
· Someone who has more ability than others (The best player, smartest person)?
· The captain?
· Someone who expects everyone else to do their work for them?
· Someone who teases/criticises others?
· The person with the loudest voice?
· Someone who is appointed leader?
Or is it?
· Someone who is always looking out for others?
· Someone who stands up for or defends the weak?
· Someone who puts others before themselves?
· Someone that leads by example, i:e works hard, polite, friendly to all, a sportsman?
· Someone who is morally just and stands for what is right
“Everyone needs to be a leader, a leader means being responsible - RESPONSE ABLE”
4 main traits of leadership, Good Character
· Someone who cares about you.
· Someone who is fair.
· Someone who believes in you.
· Someone who expects excellence.
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42. 38 Leadership Principles by Ryan
Holiday
• A Leader Reads — In his 2103 letter to shareholders, Warren Buffett explained that a single
book, The Intelligent Investor, written by his mentor Benjamin Graham was, “of all the
investments I ever made…[it] was the best.” Leaders read. Truman supposedly said, “Not all
readers are leaders, but all leaders are readers.” Generalizations are usually worthless, but you
can pretty much take this one to the bank.
• A Leader is Always Composed —“The first qualification of a general is a cool head,” Napoleon
once said. Remaining cool-headed in times of crisis and adversity is one of the most critical skills.
The worst that can happen is not the event itself but the event and you losing your cool.
• A Leader Places the Mission Above Themselves — During World War II, General George
Marshall, winner of the Nobel Peace Prize for the Marshall Plan, was practically offered the
command of the troops on D-Day. Yet he told President Roosevelt: “The decision is yours, Mr.
President; my wishes have nothing to do with the matter.” It came to be that Eisenhower was
selected because FDR preferred to have Marshall with him in Washington. Marshall’s fame as a
general was diminished for this selfless decision but his reputation as a leader was cemented for
all time. And proof that he was a class act came after, when asked to write the order announcing
Eisenhower to the position to the Allied leadership, Marshall did so in longhand first and mailed a
copy of it to Eisenhower along with a note congratulating him and suggesting he keep the
document as a memento.
• A Leader is Generous — You can always recognize a leader by their generosity towards others,
particularly the people who work for and with them. Jason Fried, the founder and CEO of
Basecamp has said that he has practically run out of perks to give to his team. From $5,000
annual vacation stipends to 4-day workweeks in the summer, these gestures have kept his team
happy and comfortable (and also happy to be why very few people ever leave the company).
When Basecamp does well, its employees do well…and the reverse is also true, which is why
leaders must be generous.
• A Leader is Humble — Right before he destroyed his own billion-dollar company, Ty Warner,
creator of Beanie Babies, overrode the objections of one of his employees and bragged, “I could
put the Ty heart on manure, and they’d buy it!” A leader benches the ego. A leader never
believes they have the Midas touch.
• A Leader Stays Sober — Success, money and power can intoxicate a leader. What is required is
those moments is sobriety and a refusal to indulge. One look at Angela Merkel, one of the most
powerful women on the planet is revealing. She is plain and modest—one writer said
that unpretentiousness is Merkel’s main weapon—unlike most world leaders intoxicated with
position. Charisma is a crutch. Competence and rationality is a requirement.
• A Leader Does The Right Thing, Even If It Holds Them Back — John Boyd, a strategist and leader
who revolutionized the way war strategy is taught, would ask the promising young acolytes under
him: “To be or to do? Which way will you go?” As a warrior against bureaucracy in the Pentagon,
Boyd knew that telling the truth often held you back from getting promotions, that declining to
rubberstamp bad ideas created enemies. He wanted his young officers to do the right thing, even
if it held them back. Because if they didn’t, who would?
• A Leader Is Objective — The Samurai swordsman Miyamoto Musashi has stressed the difference
between perceiving and observing. The perceiving eye is weak, he wrote, the observing eye is
strong. Why? Because leadership requires objectivity and seeing things as they are. It requires us
to put aside how our emotions cloud our thinking with fear or brimming overconfidence and see
how the situation truly is.
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43. A Leader Thinks Long Term — Jeff Bezos, the Amazon founder and CEO explained the importance of
long term thinking two decades ago in his 1997 letter to shareholders. As he said, “We believe that a
fundamental measure of our success will be the shareholder value we create over the long term.” For
companies—as is the case for individuals—there are always pressures to be myopic and narrow in our
focus and vision. Bezos, unlike most business leaders, refused to play that game. As he explained,
Amazon will always focus on the long term, “rather than short-term profitability considerations or short-
term Wall Street reactions.” He understood that the real value lies in thinking decades ahead. His maxim
for business opportunities is also relevant here: “Focus on the things that don’t change.”
A Leader Seizes Opportunities — Leaders don’t wait around for things to happen. Leaders aren’t given
their position on a silver platter. No, leaders seize opportunities, no matter how small or disguised those
opportunities may be. Think of Amelia Earhart who wanted to be a great aviator. But it was the 1920s,
and there were not many opportunities. When a donor was willing to fund the first female transatlantic
flight it had a number of insane conditions: She wouldn’t get to fly the plane. There would be a male
pilot and co-pilot—they would be paid, she wouldn’t. You know what she said to that offer? She
said yes and turned it into something. Less than five years later she was the first woman to fly solo
nonstop across the Atlantic and became, rightly, one of the most famous and respected people in the
world.
A Leader Actively Seeks Criticism — Dwight D. Eisenhower, one of the best commanders of the last
century has put his views on the necessity of criticism in this way: “I have no sympathy with anyone,
whatever his station, who will not brook criticism. We are here to get the best possible results.” As a
leader you understand that in any endeavor there is no room for ego — you answer only to results. And
your job is to plan how to achieve those. You actively submit your plans to feedback and criticism—that’s
how they get better.
A Leader Sets Rules for Themselves and Their People — Coach Bill Walsh says that “like water, many
decent individuals will seek lower ground if left to their own inclinations.” What we need to block these
inclinations is rules. Little ones that we can follow to make us better. This is why relying on rules,
constraints and systems is important.
A Leader Gets the Big Things Right — There’s the old Benjamin Franklin line about being a penny wise
but a pound foolish. It’s the same thing with leadership. Most people get the little things right and the
big things wrong—and then wonder why they don’t get much done.
A Leader is Prepared for Setbacks — The great Roman Emperor and Stoic philosopher Marcus Aurelius
put it this way: “The art of living is more like wrestling than dancing, because an artful life requires being
prepared to meet and withstand sudden and unexpected attacks.”
A Leader Has Courage— Eleanor Roosevelt wrote that “You gain strength, courage and confidence by
every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I have
lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ …You must do the thing you think
you cannot do.” Her husband’s affairs and his capricious ego. The early death of her beloved father.
Being sent away to boarding school. The long wars her country fought in. A life of often thankless public
service. Eleanor was not fearless—she just persevered through these things despite that fear.
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44. A Leader Knows How to Prioritize — Another great lesson from Eisenhower in his decision matrix that
helps separate and distinguish immediate tasks from important ones. It asks you to group your tasks into
a 2×2 grid deciding whether a task is either important or not and whether it is urgent. Most of us are
distracted by what’s happening right now—even though it doesn’t matter—and as a result neglect what
is critical but far in the future.
A Leader Makes Things Better— Chris Hadfield, the astronaut, reminds us that there is “no problem so
bad that we can’t make it worse” (and panicking often a way to do that). Yet how many of us have had
bosses we didn’t want to keep informed about problems because if we did, they’d only make solving
them harder? Leaders have to be a source of good energy and solutions. They can’t make hard things
harder—they need to make hard things easier for their employees or followers. That’s the job.
A Leader Cultivates Their Will — When Antonio Pigafetta, the assistant to Magellan on his trip around
the world, reflected on his boss’s greatest and most admirable skill, what do you think he said? It had
nothing to do with sailing. The secret to his success, Pigafetta said, was Magellan’s ability to endure
hunger better than the other men. There are far more failures in the world due to a collapse of will than
there will ever be from objectively conclusive external events.
A Leader Keeps the Morale High — There is a well-known remark from Napoleon: “The moral is to the
physical as three to one.” Or in a more modern take, how Colin Powell put it: “Perpetual optimism is a
force multiplier.” Optimism and high morale multiply the effectiveness of everything else—it is why they
are key levers that need to be considered in any operation.
A Leader Is Not Passionate — A young basketball player named Lewis Alcindor Jr., who won three
national championships with John Wooden at UCLA, used one word to describe the style of his famous
coach: “dispassionate.” As in not passionate. Wooden wasn’t about rah-rah speeches or screaming from
the sidelines. He saw those extra emotions as a burden. Instead, his philosophy was about being in
control and doing your job and never being “passion’s slave.” The player who learned that lesson from
Wooden would later change his name to one you remember better: Kareem Abdul-Jabbar.
A Leader Knows How to Manage and Delegate — When Eisenhower entered the White House for the
first time as president and walked into the Executive Mansion, his chief usher handed him two letters
marked “Confidential and Secret” that had been sent to him earlier in the day. Eisenhower’s reaction
was swift: “Never bring me a sealed envelope,” he said firmly. “That’s what I have a staff for.” As his
chief of staff later put it, “The president does the most important things. I do the next most important
things.”
A Leader is Rarely Caught Off Guard — General Matthew Ridgway had the following motto behind his
desk: “The only inexcusable offense in a commanding officer is to be surprised.” As a leader, your job is
to see the bigger picture and the potential perturbations in what you set out to do. Things never go
according to plan—be ready and on guard for whatever comes your way.
A Leader Is A Learner— As one biographer would observe of Genghis Khan, “At no single, crucial
moment in his life did he suddenly acquire his genius at warfare, his ability to inspire the loyalty of his
followers, or his unprecedented skill for organizing on a global scale. These derived not from epiphanic
enlightenment or formal schooling but from a persistent cycle of pragmatic learning, experimental
adaptation and constant revision driven by his uniquely disciplined mind and focused will.”
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45. A Leader Is Always Ready for Chaos — As the legendary coach Phil Jackson would explain, “Once I had
the Bulls practice in silence; on another occasion I made them scrimmage with the lights out. Not
because I want to make their lives miserable but because I want to prepare them for the inevitable
chaos that occurs the minute they step onto a basketball court.”
A Leader Knows How To Manage (Themselves and Others) — John DeLorean was a brilliant engineer
but a poor manager (of people and himself). One executive described his management style as “chasing
colored balloons”—he was constantly distracted and abandoning one project for another. It’s just not
enough to be smart or right or a genius. It’s gratifying to be the micromanaging egotistical boss at the
center of everything—but that’s not how organizations grow and succeed. That’s not how you can grow
as a leader either.
A Leader Has a Guiding Philosophy — Seahawks coach Pete Carroll is known for his ‘Win forever
philosophy—the winning mindset he aims to instill in his staff and players. Similarly, the great coach
Wooden has his own ”Pyramid of Success.” (In fact, Pete Carroll was inspired by Wooden to create his
own philosophy of winning.) These philosophies and frameworks are critical as they codify the principles
and rules by which a team will make decisions and operate on a day-to-day basis. If you don’t have a
philosophy, how do you expect to know what to do in tough situations? Or when things are confusing or
complicated? Being reactive is never a position of strength. It is not a position a leader should find
themselves in.
A Leader Is Driven — Roger Bannister, the first person to run a mile under four minutes knew a thing or
two about that philosophy and summed it up as: “The man who can drive himself further once the effort
gets painful is the man who will win.” The leader is the driver of the organization. They have to have the
ambition, the motivation—to change the world, to be successful, to win—that the rest of the
organization defers to. Without a driven leader, the cause has no engine.
A Leader Sets The Why — What was Hillary Clinton’s big mistake? It wasn’t declining to campaign in this
state or that one, it wasn’t her email server. It was that she had no real compelling reason why she was
running for president. She just sort of wanted it. No one tries hard or dedicates themselves to a cause
without a strong why, without a deep, emotional resonance with the purpose of the organization. A
leader has to find their why and they have to build it into their company, business or campaign from day
one.
A Leader Looks for Themselves — Samuel Zemurray’s line—per the excellent Rich Cohen was “Never
trust the report.” He went to South America or Boston or wherever the business was being done and
saw the situation for himself. He wanted first hand knowledge so as a leader he could make the right
decisions. A leader can’t simply accept whatever trickles up from below them—they have to see for
themselves. Not all the time—but most of the time.
A Leader Sets High Standards — Football coach Bill Walsh took the 49ers from the worst team in the
league to Super Bowl champions in just three years. How? He created a culture of excellence and
instilled what he called his “Standard of Performance.” That is: How to practice. How to dress. How to
hold the ball. Where to be on a play down to the very inch. Which skills mattered for each position. He
knew that by upholding these standards, ”the score would take care of itself”.
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46. A Leader Kills Their Pride — “Whom the gods wish to destroy,” Cyril Connolly wrote, “they first call
promising.” As a leader, you cannot let pride lead you astray. You must remind yourself everyday how
much work is left to be done, not how much you have done. You must remember that humility is the
antidote to pride.
A Leader Is Patient — Robert Greene, the bestselling author of 48 Laws of Power, published his first
book at age 39. It didn’t hit the New York Times Bestseller list until more than a decade later. When you
get impatient, think about Robert’s journey. Think about a head coach who spent 20 years as an
assistant for dozens of teams before they got their shot. Remind yourself that the next level might
require waiting that long, that you need to be patient. That things take time. Things that rush into this
world are often rushed right out. Play the long game.
A Leader Doesn’t Assume They Know Everything— “It is impossible to learn that which one thinks one
already knows,” Epictetus says. When a leader lets their ego tell them that they have arrived and figured
it all out, it prevents them from learning and it leads to mistake. A leader must be like Socrates—willing
to admit how little they know and dedicate themselves to exposing and addressing this ignorance
wherever it is.
A Leader Is Pragmatic — When the mogul Sam Zemurray, at the time still a relatively unknown
entrepreneur, was told he couldn’t build a bridge he desperately needed because government officials
had been bribed by competitors to make bridges illegal—Zemurray had his engineers build two long
piers instead. And in between which reached out far into the center of the river, they strung a temporary
pontoon that could be assembled and deployed to connect them in a matter of hours. Railroads ran
down each side of the riverbank, going in opposite direction. When his competitor complained,
Zemurray laughed and replied: “Why, that’s no bridge. It’s just a couple of little old wharfs. ”A leader
knows that there are many ways to get from point A to point B. Don’t worry about the “right” way,
worry about the right way. This is how leaders get things done.
A Leader Knows How to Say ‘No’ — A leader pursues what the philosopher Seneca refers to
as euthymia—the tranquility of knowing what you are after and not being distracted by others. You
accomplish this by having an honest conversation with yourself and understanding your priorities. And
rejecting all the rest. Learning how to say no is one of leadership’s most essential tenets.
A Leader Keeps an Inner Scorecard — Just because you won doesn’t mean you deserved to. A leader
needs to forget other people’s validation and external markers of success. Warren Buffett has advised
keeping an inner scorecard versus the external one. Your potential, the absolute best you’re capable
of—that’s the metric to measure yourself against.
A Leader Persists — A leader knows that an obstacle standing in their way isn’t going anywhere on its
own. They’re not going to outthink it or out create it with some world-changing epiphany. You’ve got to
look at it and the people around you, who have begun their inevitable chorus of doubts and excuses, and
say, as Margaret Thatcher famously did: “You turn if you want to. The lady’s not for turning.” A leader
knows that genius often really is just persistence in disguise.
A Leader Uses What’s Around Them — Booker T. Washington’s story is inspiring and remarkable, only
sixteen years old, hearing about a school in Virginia, Washington traveled 500 miles, often on foot, and
sleeping under a raised sidewalk along the way to make it there. He showed up without a
recommendation or even an appointment. Without waiting, he picked up a broom and swept the room
immaculately clean, impressing a teacher who remarked “I guess you will do to enter this institution.” He
would later on become one of America’s most prominent civil rights leaders and someone worth
studying and emulating. As one of his favorite lessons go, “Cast down your bucket where you are.”
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47. Tips - Become a Hacker
If you want to be the best at what you do you must know your craft inside out.
• Talent = Environment + Hard work + Attitude + Grit + Personality.
• Know your craft – in depth, what’s required to succeed other than hard work. You must be a
game hacker/disruptor and revolutionize what you do as an individual what is your point
of difference. Are you a sheep or the shepherd?
• Ability is learned – skill is only possible when you can achieve what you can visualize and
what you can master. The more time you spend on your own perfecting your technique
the greater the ability to be imaginative/creative on the field.
• Research it – success leaves tracks other have shown the way, copy it and then take it
further, make it your own be a game hacker!
• Study it. Tactical elements, defending, systems, know the games dynamics and what are the
causes for successful outcomes. Can you combine your individual talent with that of 10
other players and how can you use this knowledge to change the flow of a team.
• Sell yourself – Perception of success, body language, image, attitude, leadership qualities.
Learn to speak in the language of empowerment. Do not speak in negative intonations
always look to be the positive leader people will respect. Bring out the best in others.
• Results – achievement’s, create a detailed resume. Statistics, match reports, video your
games. Collate your history into a sellable package, create a website and socials.
• Put it out there – Remain humble but don’t be afraid to promote your achievements. Notify
the right people, local newspapers, agents, clubs and coaches, look for opportunities.
• Expect the unexpected – have contingency plans, injuries, recovery, medical personnel who
can help you recover quicker, better, see a nutritionist, sports psychologists to help your
performances. It’s up to you to take advantage of it.
• What makes you different? What sets you apart; sometimes the smallest thing can be so
glaringly obvious such as leadership qualities, body language and work ethic/confidence.
• Meet with people, talk to current players and ask questions, experience different
environments. Try everything don’t be shy! Expose yourself to things, people, events and
experiences. Travel often and pay attention, be in the moment.
• Learn to meditate, control the monkey mind, the thinker in your head which will only focus
on the past or the future.
• Winning matters - All that matters is that we won NO all that matters is how we won.
• Stay humble, over confidence will be your down fall. Always be respectful and a team
player.
• Pay attention to your image, grooming, how you dress. You only have one chance at a good
first impression.
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48. Chapter 6 - Belief systems?
How beliefs are formed
The beliefs you hold about life, yourself and people is what’s responsible for who you are,
how you behave and who you will become.
“We form our beliefs for a variety of subjective, personal, emotional, and psychological
reasons in the context of environments created by family, friends, colleagues, culture, and
society at large; after forming our beliefs we then defend, justify, and rationalize them with a
host of intellectual reasons, cogent arguments, and rational explanations. Our perceptions”
The Seed
The belief formation process starts when a seed is implemented in the person's mind. This
seed could be a small remark made by an authoritative person, an advice given by a close
friend or even a phrase you heard from a complete stranger. In many cases fear drives people
to make assumptions. Fear and uncertainty allows people to manipulate your beliefs by
blaming certain stereo types by unwarranted factors that are created by and large by biased
misinformation and mainstream media pushing specific agendas. Actions can also cause
people to develop a specific belief. Violence, hatred or on the opposite scale love and
empathy that is shown through acts not words.
Examples of how words can affect how you think:
"Sam is really arrogant"
"You don’t know how hard it was to pass that exam"
"It’s too hard to become a footballer”
These are perfect examples of seeds. They only become
beliefs if you put meaning to them, Once you bump into a
seed it will settle into your mind whether you want it or
not. At this point the belief is not formed yet but as you
experience different situations that water the seed it will
grow and become a solid belief. For example a failure to
get selected followed by, “perhaps this is not for you
from a family member or friend”
Perhaps you’ve had a traumatic event like your parents separating, you may develop the
subconscious belief that you are not wanted by one of your parents which leads to a lack of
self worth. Every time something happens to you your subconscious belief makes you a
victim of every situation.
One way to condition your belief is by using failure as a launching pad as opposed to a set
back. Once you create this belief system in your head you will have the power to overcome
hurdles, fears and disappointments.
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49. How to prevent the formation of false beliefs
In order to make sure your belief system stays clean you must learn how to recognize seeds
early enough then challenge them before they become stronger. You must learn to read your
omens and question everything. (critical thought) Some will make sense others won’t, open
your mind and before you form an opinion make sure you understand what it is your opinion
is about otherwise it is just ignorance. Don’t be a sheep and blindly follow the flock. This
requires critical thought, a natural curiosity and courage. It requires knowledge and an
absolute necessity to research and understand what it is that you may want to discuss.
Keep monitoring the words and phrases that are delivered to your mind by the people
around you and as soon as you find a seed being implemented start challenging it.
Challenging a seed involves becoming conscious of it, not taking it into account before solid
evidence is provided and making sure you are not collecting biased clues.
Another way to develop a positive mindset is to associate yourself with the right people who
have empowering and positive beliefs. You can use the same process to challenge beliefs
that were already formed but its much easier to challenge a seed before it turns into a solid
belief than to challenge a belief that solidified long ago.
Mental constructs are all that we see, hear, feel and taste working towards creating your
beliefs. By thinking critically, in other words asking questions and chasing facts will allow You
to develop your own paradigm. If you do not spend time on yourself you will inevitably be
exposed to the beliefs, customs and cultures of others. You will inherit other peoples
ideology which may not be relevant in todays society where information is abundant. In fact
in todays world ignorance is no longer forced upon us, ignorance is a choice.

50. Kerwin Rae
Business coach Kerwin Rae explains his 3 steps to change
your mindset.
Step 1: Be aware and very conscious of the suggestions
that you’re giving yourself on a moment by moment basis.
Step 2: Create your own personal creed. Write down and
define the auto-suggestions you want to play on repeat to
create new behaviours and manifest your new reality.
Have it on display and read it every day – as often as
possible.
Step 3: Keep repeating your new auto-suggestions to
yourself, over and over and over until they have a level of
stickiness and momentum that becomes your new
programming, and as a result your behaviour naturally
changes.
As a natural consequence of that you will experience a
new reality and the right mindset for success.
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