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Paul Tevis explores how empathy – the ability to understand others' needs and ensure that they know that you understand them – is what Charles Duhigg calls a "keystone habit", a behavior change that unlocks other cascading behavior changes. He tries demystify what empathy is and give simple tools to enhance the practice of empathy. Filmed at qconsf.com.
Paul Tevis is a trainer, facilitator, and collaboration specialist at AppFolio in Santa Barbara, CA. His passion is helping people and organizations become the best possible versions of themselves.
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22. “A keystone species is an
organism that helps define an
entire ecosystem. Without its
keystone species, the ecosystem
would be dramatically different
or cease to exist altogether.”
National Geographic Society
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24. Empathy is a Keystone
Habit
Paul Tevis
@ptevis
AppFolio
25. The presence or absence
of empathy determines
whether or not a human
ecosystem can flourish
26. Developing the habit of
empathy can make you a
keystone contributor in
your organization
36. Raise your hand if your job
would be easier if you
were better at...
building trust.
37. Raise your hand if your job
would be easier if you
were better at...
influencing others.
38. Raise your hand if your job
would be easier if you
were better at...
enabling collaboration.
39. Raise your hand if your job
would be easier if you
were better at...
working with conflict.
40. Research has shown that
perspective-taking helps with:
● Creativity
● Interpersonal conflict
● Bias and stereotype reduction
● Relationships & social bonds
92. Ways to ask for reactions:
● How was it to hear that?
93. Ways to ask for reactions:
● How was it to hear that?
● How does that land with you?
94. Ways to ask for reactions:
● How was it to hear that?
● How does that land with you?
● What does that bring up for you?
95. Ways to ask for reactions:
● How was it to hear that?
● How does that land with you?
● What does that bring up for you?
● I’m wondering if that was hard to
hear...
97. Treat Feelings as Data
Listen at Level 2 (At least)
Notice Your Judgements
Ask “Where’s That From?”
Help Others Empty Their Cup
Know & Disclose
Ask for Reactions
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