3. THE 5 BIGGEST REASONS WHY NEW HIRES FAIL
Coachability 26%
Emotional Intelligence 23%
Motivation 17%
Temperament 15%
Technical Competence 11%
- Leadership IQ
4. EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE (EI)
• The ability to motivate oneself and persist in the
face of frustrations
• To control impulse and delay gratification
• To regulate one‟s moods and keep distress from
swamping the ability to think
• To empathize and to hope
Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence
6. 5 BASIC EMOTIONAL AND SOCIAL COMPETENCIES
• Self-awareness
• Self-regulation
• Motivation
• Empathy
• Social Skills
7. SELF-AWARENESS
“Knowing what we are feeling in
the moment, and using those
preferences to guide our
decision making; having a
realistic assessment of our own
abilities and a well grounded
sense of self confidence.”
8. SELF-REGULATION
“Handling our emotions so that
they facilitate rather than
interfere with the task at hand;
being conscientious and
delaying gratification to pursue
goals; recovering well from
emotional distress.”
9. MOTIVATION
“Using our deepest preferences
to move and guide us to our
goals; to help us take initiative
and strive to improve; and to
persevere in the face of
setbacks and frustrations.”
10. EMPATHY
“Sensing what people are feeling,
being able to take their
perspective, and cultivating
rapport and attunement with a
broad diversity of people.”
11. SOCIAL SKILLS
“Handling emotions in
relationships well and
accurately reading social
situations and networks;
interacting smoothly; using
these skills to persuade and
lead, negotiate and settle
disputes, for cooperation and
teamwork.”
12. WHAT EI IS NOT….
• Merely “being nice”
• Giving free rein to feelings
• Impacted by gender - there are far
more similarities than differences
• EI capability is not „fixed‟, it
continues to develop as we go
thru life and learn from our
experiences
13. OUR TWO MINDS – ONE THAT FEELS, ONE THAT
THINKS
Emotional Rational Mind
Mind Awareness
Impulsive Thoughtful
Powerful Able to ponder
Sometimes and reflect
Illogical
15. FIRST FEELINGS, SECOND THOUGHTS
• Humans had an emotional brain
long before there was a rational
brain
• As we evolved, the brain
became more complex,
ultimately allowing for learning
and memory
16. FIRST FEELINGS, SECOND THOUGHTS
• The most evolved human brain,
where we are today, allowed for
the addition of nuance to
emotional life
– the ability to have feelings
about our feelings
18. THE TRIPWIRE
• Within the emotional brain lies
the specialist for emotional
matters – the amydgala
• Acts as the storehouse of
emotional memory
20. STRATEGIES FOR BEATING A HIJACKING
1. Use the 6
second rule
2. Use humor or
empathy to
neutralize your
reaction
21. STRATEGIES FOR BEATING A HIJACKING
3. Identify the
cause of
hijacking
4. Identify your
triggers and
use that info
to learn to
prevent the
same
response
22. MULTIPLE INTELLIGENCES
• IQ contributes about 20 % to
the factors that determine life
success
• 80 % of success seems to be
attributable to „other factors‟,
including EI
23. MULTIPLE INTELLIGENCES
• Data suggests that EI can be
as powerful, or more powerful,
than IQ
• In our current world, no
intelligence is more deemed
important than the
interpersonal
24. EI – THE NOT-SO-SECRET CAREER BOOSTER
• People skills are not incidental
to our success; they are
essential
• The great thing about people
skills is that they can be
learned
• All business is a relationship
business
29. QUALITIES HR AND HIRING MANAGERS SEEK:
Candidates who demonstrate they can:
Admit and learn from their mistakes
Keep emotions in check and have thoughtful
discussions on tough issues
Listen as much or more than they talk
Take criticism well
Show grace under pressure
30. BE AWARE
Employers and recruiters are
looking to evaluate the level of
EI you will bring into the
workplace.
- Rosemary Haefner, VP of Human Resources at Career
Builder
31. CAREER BUILDER SAYS
“…survey of 2600 employers showed
that 61% are more likely to promote
workers with high Emotional
Intelligence over candidates with
high IQ.”
-Marcia Robinson
32. CAREER BUILDER SAYS
“…when it‟s down to you or another
candidate for a promotion or new
job, dynamic interpersonal skills
will set you apart.”
- Marcia Robinson
33. INTERVIEW STRATEGY
Know that almost every question asked in
an interview is designed to test your
character and not your expertise.
Behavioral Interview questions are a great
opportunity to showcase your EI –
choose examples to share which will
highlight your ability to stay cool under
pressure, respond with compassion, etc.
34. INTERVIEW STRATEGY
Prepare answers to behavioral based
questions prior to an interview.
Script out responses that contain a
specific situation, what you did in
response to the situation (details
please), and how the issue was resolved.
35. REFERENCES
Recruiters may ask your references about
your EI – it would be a good idea to give
them a heads up to expect that type of
question, remind them of a time when
you were especially effective at ……
40. EMPATHY
Awareness of other‟s feelings, needs and
concerns
• Understanding others
• Service orientation
• Leveraging diversity
• Political awareness
41. SOCIAL SKILLS
Adeptness at inducing desirable
responses in others
• Influence
• Communication
• Leadership
• Building bonds
• Collaboration and cooperation
42. “TO BE SUCCESSFUL IN A JOB HUNT….
…you will not only need to demonstrate
an association between what the
employer wants…., you will need to be
able to tell your story in a way that
makes it obvious you have the
emotional intelligence /emotional
quotient to get the job done.”
- Career Collective Community
43. FEEDBACK FROM THOSE WHO HAVE ‘LANDED’
Your search may change you
forever……..in very good ways!
45. “There is opportunity for those in
transition to utilize transition to
develop life skills which will …..add
immediate value to growing
organizations and communities in
the emerging future.”
- Emotional Intelligence for the Job Seeker
46. THE GOOD NEWS FOR US…
“…studies that have tracked people‟s
level of EI through the years show
that people get better and better in
these capabilities as they grow
more adept at handling their own
emotions and impulses; at
motivating themselves, and honing
their empathy and social
adroitness.
47. THE GOOD NEWS FOR US…
There is an old-
fashioned word for
this growth in
emotional
intelligence:
maturity.”
Daniel Goleman, Working with Emotional
Intelligence
48. SOURCES
Emotional Intelligence, Daniel Goleman
Working with Emotional Intelligence, Daniel Goleman
www.righteverywhere.com/Career/CareerArticles.aspx?ArticleID=11386 –
Predicting Success: Emotional Intelligence
http://inlandnet.org/emotional-intelligence-job-seeker - Emotional
Intelligence for the Job Seeker
www.rjcassociate.net/pub054.Ink.php - Emotional Intelligence: The not-so-
secret career booster
http://thehiringsite.careerbuilder.com/2011/08/18/surveys-employers-value-
emotional-intelligence
http://www.thegladiator.info/articles/simmons-hsayss.phtml - HOW SHARP
ARE YOUR SOFT SKILLS?, By Kathy Simmons
49. SOURCES
http://www.nextcareer.info/emotional-intelligence - An emotionally
intelligent career transition, by Mitch McCrimmon
www.businessweek.com/print/managing/content/mar2009/ca20090327_8600
41.htm
http://lawsonwilliams.wordpress.com/2011/07/14/emotional-intelligence-in-
leadership
http://www.keppiecareers.com/2011/01/03/how-to-find-a-job-in-2011-pay-
attention-to-emotional-intelligence
LeadershipIQ.com – Hiring for Attitude
www.ideamarketers.com/library/prinarticle.cfm?articleid=27757
Hrrp://fernandotarnogol.com/career-tips/improve-emotional-intelligence-
job-intervieew-eq/
Hiring in general is tremendously expensive for employers. Hiring the wrong person and having to manage them out of the business is far, far worse. Increasingly, organizations are seeking to know more about candidates under consideration. Once you are into the interview process, you are considered to have the necessary skills to do the job. That is a given. Now the focus is on your ‘fit’ with the organization and part of that fit is how well you manage yourself and your emotions in the workplace. Strengthening your Emotional Intelligence skills is one piece of the job search toolbox that you can use to provide that additional 10% that causes you to be the candidate of choice at the end of the interview process.
Daniel Goleman’s work is the basis of most of this information today. He is credited with publicizing the concept of EI with his book published in 1995. While the concept of EI is not new in the world of psychology and research, it’s only been within the last 15 years or so that the concept has been widely utilized by the business community. All of us here probably know someone who is very intelligent from an IQ perspective yet seems to have no common sense or ability to successfully interact with others. Are there any fans of The Big Band Theory in the room??
In the book Working with Emotional Intelligence, Daniel Goleman lays out an emotional competence framework..He states that our Emotional Intelligence determines our potential for learning the practical skills that are based on it’s five elements.Our Emotional Competence shows how much of that potential we have translated into on-the-job performance.Someone high in EI doesn’t guarantee a person will have learned the emotional competencies that matter for work; it means only that they have the potential to learn them.In one analysis, emotional competencies were found to be twice as important in contributing to excellence as pure intellect and expertise.
Because the emotional brain is the root from which the rational brain grew, the emotional centers have immense power to influence the functioning of the rest of the brain.Mans brain has evolved over time, with the more primitive parts of the brain being the brain stem and the lower sections. As we have evolved, the brain became larger and more complex, growing over and around the primitive parts of the brain. Point out the amygdala area.
When impulsive feelings override the rational, the amygdala has reacted instantly, sending a message of crisis, capturing and driving much of the brain, including the rational mind
If you have ever found yourself wondering why you said or did something normally out of character for you, or simply couldn’t think straight, you’ve been hijacked.It’s happened to all of us, usually at most inopportune times!!Because transition is an extremely unsettling time, you may more at risk than normal for being hijacked. It’s best to know yourself and know when you are most vulnerable.
Most important is knowing when you are most vulnerable – Self Awareness
You may have heard that EI is 80% of the factors that determine life success. That statement stems from someone doing the math attributing 20% of success to IQ. Other factors can be things such as quality of education, experiences one has been exposed to, something as fundamental as nutrition.
All of us mix IQ and EQ in varying degrees.Still, of the two, EI adds far more of the qualities that make us more fully human
Distribute first handout – How sharp are your soft skills?
When I first read these questions I laughed. I asked myself how I wanted to answer versus what I would really do…Give them a few minutes to score their responses.Read thru the questions and specify the “correct” or most EI response.Most of these seem pretty obvious on paper, but think about a time when you were overwhelmed – can you see some of these things happening? Pass out second handout.
This information is a sort of guide to remind you of where you want your behavior to be. Use at your discretion.
We are all in transition or search mode, and we’re doing everything we can to attract the attention of recruiters. So, how do we prepare ourselves as we network around town and rehearse for interviews?
It’s up to us as applicants to ‘connect-the-dots’ for those interviewing us….how our prior experiences can be applied to their needs.
You are the most important piece of this puzzle. You can and will meet the challenge of locating a new position. But, anytime you can add additional tools to your toolbox, it’s worth doing so.Earlier I mentioned that there are 5 basic emotional and social competencies associated with EI. Next we’ll review them in the context of a job search.
Now we’ll discuss the Emotional Competence Framework, specifically around job search.Emotional Awareness - recognizing one’s emotions and their effectsAccurate Self-assessment – Knowing one’s strengths and limitsSelf-confidence – A strong sense of one’s self-worth and capabilitiesIt’s all about choiceWe can fight new realities or learn to identify them, increasing our ability to adapt, learn, change and growHelps the job seeker to sense and be directed in ways that will bring in new information and provide new approachesKnow that uncertainty is the ultimate emotional saboteur
Self-Control – Keeping disruptive emotions and impulses in checkTrustworthiness – Maintaining standards of honesty and integrityConscientiousness – Taking responsibility for personal performanceAdaptability – Flexibility in handling changeInnovation – Being comfortable with novel ideas, approaches, and new informationThe imperative to earn a living can obscure objectivity and the ability to be open to new directions and alternativesLearn to ‘let go’ and ‘let something new come’. Remember all of those times when you were able to demonstrate self-regulation and congratulate yourself. That skill seems to be becoming rare.
Achievement drive: striving to improve or meet a standard of excellentCommitment: Aligning with the goals of the group or organizationInitiative: Readiness to act on opportunitiesOptimism: Persistence in pursuing goals despite obstacles and setbacks.Suggestions:Utilize self-awareness and re-frame thoughts that downgrade your abilitiesLearn from each experience to help you succeed in the nextLearn to ‘catch’ and dismiss negative self talkFocus on what you want to say once you’ve landed and are looking backHold your own value close to your heartCatch yourself when taking it personally, bring yourself back to your own inherent worth and dignity – continue to move forward
Empathizing with others DOES NOT MEAN AGREEING WITH THEMUnderstanding others: Sensing others’ feeling and perspectives, and taking an active interest in their concernsService orientation: Anticipating, recognizing, and meeting customers’ needsLeveraging diversity: Cultivating opportunities through different kinds of peoplePolitical awareness: Reading a group’s emotional currents and power relationshipsSuggestion:The ability to build empathy begins with Number One - you.Be kind to yourself.Reliance on others and the need to build relationships in order to be successful in the job search is a high level opportunity for the job seeker
Influence: using effective tactics for persuasion – craft your interview preparation to the organization and it’s cultureCommunication: Listening openly and sending convincing messages – for en effective give and take, register emotional cues and adjust your messageLeadership: Inspiring and guiding others – sharing information from the heart speaks to othersBuilding bonds: Nurturing instrumental relationships – especially mutually beneficial to both parties, also, rapport hinges on empathy and usually occurs in the course of a conversation, or not.Collaboration and cooperation: Working with others toward shared goalsA recruiter friend of mine told me it’s critical for job seekers to get out and interact with others regularly. He has interviewed people who were inept socially simply because they were spending too much time alone.
People who have successfully navigated a search may find themselves behaving differently after they’ve landed: They may be more open to helping othersThink out of the box when it comes to considering candidatesBe more responsive to requests for assistance or informationThey have learned to value the reliance that we humans have on each otherThese are competencies that will enhance and advance.