Movement and drive comes from tension. Tensions come from differences. We need more tension if we want to move farther and faster, go where we haven't gone before. Everything changes. We change where we are going, what we are doing, how we are working, and the only thing we can rely on are relationships - the people who share the journey with us. In our relationships, we prefer harmony to tension. We want to work with people we like, people like us. Unfortunately, that leads to mediocrity and boredom. How do we make a difference with intention? How do lead with or in tension? How can we square the circle of working in strong relationships with people whom (or whose perspective) we don't like? In this talk, you'll reflect on and decide how you want to show up and make progress - or lead towards progress - in these difficult and ambiguous times.