Dr. Louise Stanger, Robyn Cruze, and Lori Jean Glass deliver the keynote presentation at the Innovations in Recovery Conference in Dallas, TX.

1. Thank you!
Family Food Love
Lori Jean Glass
Executive Director of
Clinical Operations Five
Sisters Ranch
CRC, CPC, CBC
Dr. Louise Stanger
Ed.D, LCSW, CIP,
CDWF-Candidate
Robyn Cruze
National Recovery
Advocate Eating Recovery
Center

2. Family…

3. • Turn to your neighbor
• Introduce Yourself
• Say one or two words
that pop in your head
when you say the word
FAMILY.
Greeting…

4. To All of You

5. To Be Courageous

6. To Engage in The Conversation

7. What do your clients do?

8. Non Linear - Collaborative
Importance of Understanding The Narrative

9. Family Mapping

10. Our Work gets Messy

11. Live with Possibility

12. The Work Is Not Done

13. Relationship with Food …
It’s all about Relationships…

14. Food…

15. Culture Body Ideal…

16. Diet mentality: “The Paleo diet is the only way for me.”
I’ll get fat if I eat what my body asks me to eat.”
“If I eat sugar I won’t be able to stop.”
“If I loose control of my food, I’ll become addicted to food
like I did substance.”
“I’ll be judged if I eat what I want.”
Can you think of any other beliefs?
Additional Belief Obstacles…

17. How do we form our relationship to food?
Family
Peers
Media
The Relationship with Food…

18. Rebuilding a Relationship with
Your Body and The Food You Put in It
The Body Conversation
™
1. Listen
2. Connect
3. Respond

19. The Body Conversation ™ --
1. Listen:
Rebuilding the foundation.
A safety structure to explore our
relationship.

20. Time and portions
No “good”/”bad” foods
Can you hear your body
signals?

21. The Body Conversation ™ (Cont’d)
2. Connect:
Taking queues from body signals
and responding thoughtfully and
considerately.
Learning to communicate

22. 3. Respond:
Deepening the connection with
your body. Listening, honoring
and loving for optimum
health.
A new inspired relationship
The Body Conversation ™ (Cont’d)

23. Connection
Connection to food is the connection to life
Connection of life is the connection to others
Connection to intimacy and love
Positive Loop of Recovery
Connection to Love…

24. Love…

25. Living
Wound
Pain-body
Learn to Tolerate
and Manage
“Self Management”
Origin:
Attachment
Addiction
Trauma
Experiences:
Process Addictions
Addictions
Protest Behavior
Secretive Behavior
Anxious
Frozen
Depressed
Fearful
Not Enough
Invisible
Feel
Self-Awareness
Self-Care
Social Awareness
Relational Wounded Cycle…Family – Food - Love
Relational
Alignment

26. The Cake! The Pain…
Original Wound… “Origin”

27. • Obsessive …
experience is the deep desire to be in a relationship or the fantasy of
falling in love (from feeling the un-met longing)
Clinging – Obsessing
• Avoidance …
experience is not letting anyone too close. Close is uncomfortable - pulls you
out of the relationship -escape
(from the feeling of engulfment)
Avoiding – Hiding
How we love… adaptation to attachment wound
• Ambivalent …
experience keeps you in and out of relationship. Questioning
everything… unable to decide (from the feeling of un-met
longing and engulfment)
Push - Pull
How we “attach” with the wound

28. Avoidant Attachment
Anxious Energy
Un-Met Longing
Binge Eating - Bulimia
Anxiety Disorder
Love Addiction
Codependency
Alcoholism – Drug Addiction
Work . Work . Work
Tolerance for High Risk Behavior
1.
2.
3.

29. Anxious Attachment
Avoidant Energy
Engulfment
Food Restricting
Love Avoidance
Depression
Pills / Drug Addiction
Sex/ Porn Addiction
Cutting
Secretive Behavior
1.
2.
3.

30. Anxious/Avoidant Attachment
Ambivalent Energy
Sex AND Love Addiction
Depression AND Anxiety
Food Restricting AND Bingeing
Borderline Personality Disorder
Alcohol/Drug Addiction
Smoking
FREEZE
Not Knowing
1.
2.
3.
1.
2.
1.
2.

31. Healing the “Love”…
Understand the “phases”…
Relational Realities
Understand the “phases”…
Relational Realities

32. Ours
TheirsMine

33. Honeymoon…

34. Come Together…

35. Settling…

36. Celebration…

37. What to do?
• Attachment Work
Family mapping
Understand messages…
Understand Patterns
• Be the Good Student
of Self
Identify Core Belief,
Original Wound, Painbody
• Self-Efficacy
Apply systems:
Listen, Connect,Respond/
Think, Feel Do

38. Don't think Control,
think Connect
(Get Curious)
Don’t think Rules,
think Equations
If you do this… this is will happen
(Accountability)
Don’t think Lecture,
think LAB
(Experiential)

39.
“When our mind thinks
in alignment with how
our heart feels and we
have the courage to
take proper action
with our feet – we have
achieved a verticality
t h a t i s h e a l t h y ,
responsible, and results
in finding our true self.”
Lori Jean Glass
Copyright 2016 Lori Jean Glass LLC

40. Thank you!
Lori Jean Glass
Executive Director of
Clinical Operations
Five Sisters Ranch
CRC, CPC, CBC
Dr. Louise Stanger
Ed.D, LCSW, CIP,
CDWF-Candidate
Robyn Cruze
MA., National Recovery
Advocate Eating Recovery
Center