Performers are, surprisingly often, introverts, because performing provides a perfect platform for an introvert. A performance usually involves a structured situation with behavior that is well-rehearsed; furthermore, we can usually perform without those interruptions that force us to freeze or think too quickly, that we encounter in social situations. Many of us even learned that we could pour out our feelings and enthusiasm with a feeling of safety we never found daily life.

1. Can an introvert have an exciting life and survive?
Yes, many do. Many do not.
Performers are, surprisingly often, introverts,
because performing provides a perfect platform for
an introvert. A performance usually involves a
structured situation with behavior that is well-
rehearsed; furthermore, we can usually perform
without those interruptions that force us to freeze or
think too quickly, that we encounter in social
situations. Many of us even learned that we could
pour out our feelings and enthusiasm with a feeling
of safety we never found daily life.
But it’s those unstructured situations we may be forced into between performances that trip us up,
and leave us exhausted, embarrassed, and insecure. Many exciting careers do not involve a
structured performance space. Some adventurous lives require introverts to cope with a constantly
changing environment where skillful responses are required on the spur of the moment. This was
such a challenge for one of my clients that he is now being treated for PTSD as he explores his
introversion and its consequences. He now says of his career, “It was an exciting and adventurous
life, and I wouldn’t have missed it for anything in the world.” But he sadly realizes that his mental
and physical health suffered as a result of his career. His dawning realization that he is an introvert
is helping him to reassess his considerable abilities and to recognize that he could have made
choices that would have helped him cope more successfully with his career.
So the problem is really this: if you have a dream that involves adventure, and, as an introvert, you
have a nervous system and mindset that says, “Slow down and be safe,” you may be in what seems
to be an eternal conflict situation: either you live an adventure that may also affect your health,
long-term, or you sadly put aside a dream, believing you can’t cope with it.
It doesn’t have to be that way. You can live that life, and even educate people around you to respect
your needs as an introvert.
Here are some coping techniques for introverts who want to accept the challenge.
Develop Introvert Pride:
You must have pride in your introversion and recognize the special talents you may have. Only in
this way will you be authentic and honest with people around you, standing up for yourself and who
you are. My client with PTSD now says that even the knowledge that he was an introvert, and that
was an acceptable thing to be, would have helped him with his anxiety throughout his exciting but
exhausting career.
You must learn to say NO:
One introvert client, a 45-year-old woman with a small child, had already had a stroke at that young
age. She was extremely brilliant, skilled and creative; her co-workers turned to her at every
opportunity to bail them out when they got stuck, and she never said “no,” to the extent that she
worked many hours overtime trying to get her own projects done.
Her non-assertiveness was in part due to the fact that she had been raised to believe that being an
introvert was somehow not OK, and she was trying to prove that she was. She was overwhelmed

2. and exhausted much of the time. Learning to say “no” was a high priority in our work together.
Speak up and set boundaries:
One of the consequences of developing introvert pride is that you become willing to let people see
your needs, and you become willing to ask that they honor those needs.
Alyssa was part of a work team where members agreed to hold meetings online, with the documents
they were scrutinizing available on Google Docs. This was in response to a statement by several
members that they didn’t have time to go over e-mail documents in advance of the meeting. Alyssa
realized she would be in a situation where she would be asked to make spontaneous responses to
ideas she was first being shown at the meeting. She asked to have the documents sent to her in
advance, stating that, as an introvert, she wanted that preview to marshal her thoughts. She added
that she could provide much greater value in this way.
Learn to take Mini-vacations:
George Stephanopoulos, well-known TV host and commentator, attributes his ability to live a life in
the spotlight as an introvert to his habit of meditating, taking small meditative breaks during the day
to regain his energy.
My client with PTSD now knows that he should always arrive 15 minutes early for any
appointment or engagement, no matter how delightfully relaxed and social the occasion may be. He
builds these min-vacations into his schedule, giving him time to take that refreshing, quick break.
Narrow down your choices:
The introvert’s tendency to acquire and store a lot of information, from reading and just plain
observing, can result in an overly-busy brain that suggests many options from which to choose. This
can result in great creativity; it can also result in exhausted overwhelm.
Peak performers learn to focus and not get entranced by too many opportunities that are not in the
current game plan. (This is another chance to say “no”: this time, to your own brain.)
Every time you have another bright idea, ask yourself “Is this in the current game plan?” If the
answer is “no,” then you must say “no” to its intrusion.
Educate people around you as to what you need:
Instead of pretending that everything is OK, tell people you need more time to make decisions, to
back off and think a situation through. Assure them you will provide far better responses under
these circumstances. Point out instances where your thoughtfulness and reflecting paid off.
Pick your performance platform:
Introvert entrepreneur Barbara Feders, in love with nature, has created a business she calls Beauty
of the Wild, in which she takes people to the wilderness on trips they would never contemplate by
themselves. There she introduces them to the world she loves, a world in which she shines and can
feel secure.
Not everyone can create a business to his or her temperament, but even in an environment which
you have not structured, you can create your own platform. Prepare your ideas in advance of a team
meeting, ask for five minutes to present them in a coherent fashion, use body language (the uplifted

3. hand that is a “stop” signal) to hold down interruptions until you finish.
It’s your stage: you can own it, furnish it, write the script with confidence … or you can forever be
a bit player in someone else’s life plan.
Lynette Crane is a Minneapolis-based speaker, writer, and coach. She has more than 30 years'
experience in the field of stress and time management and personal growth. Her latest book is The
Confident Introvert, written to help introverts overcome the stress of living in a culture that
idealizes extroversion, so that they can thrive, and not just survive.Visit her website at
http://www.creativelifechanges.com/ to see more in-depth articles and to view her programs.