1. Getting Over Past Hurts
Marla A. Matime
When we are born into this world from our mother’s womb, we come with a
clean slate. There are no emotions that we feel, no love towards anyone, and
no hurt that we have experienced. As we grow, there are stages that has to
take place and this thing we call and know, as life happens and that catapults
us to experience all of the things that comes along with it. When we try to walk
from the stage of crawling, we fall. The more we fall, the more we begin to
strengthen our leg muscles and focus on balancing so eventually, we fall less
and less. When we go through the growing pains of childhood, adolescence,
and young adulthood, we come to realize that along the way we have picked up
some major baggage. We experienced peer pressure to try things that we know
are bad for us. We get into relationships that are toxic to our spiritual growth,
and lastly, we say and do things that we live to regret later on. Many who are
born into a Christian understand that there is a savior who has died for their
sins; however, there are millions of people who do not know that there is
someone that has taken their place on the cross for their sins. It is especially
important for the Christian to be compassionate to those who do not know or
understand fully the price that Christ has paid for all of humanity.
So the question is, how does one get over past hurts? The bible tells us in
Ephesians 4:30-32 that we are to let go of all the things that have caused us to
become bitter, angry or seek to cause wrath onto another person. One thing
that we have to also take into consideration is that hurt people, hurt other
people if they have not checked those particular feelings at the door and
released them from their spirit.
Ephesians4:30-32
30)And grieve not the holy spirit of God, whereby ye are sealed unto the day of
redemption.
31)Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamour and evil speaking, be put
away from you, with all malice:
32)And be ye kind one to another, tender-hearted, forgiving one another, even as
God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.
Prior to this proclamation from Paul to the Ephesians, he lets us know in
verses 26 and 27 that it is ok to be angry, but we have to remember not to sin
in that anger, not allowing for the sun to go down on that anger and not to give

2. room for the devil to come in and cause us to err, making room for regret later
on down the road.
In the gospel of Matthew, he gives account of when Jesus instructs us to “love
your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you and pray
for them which despitefully use and persecute you” (Matt. 5:44) and that “For if
you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you”
(Matt. 6:14). Without truly forgiving those who have hurt us in our past, we
cannot inherit the kingdom of God.
We can do ourselves a whole world of good, if we can truly let go of everything
that has come in to steal our joy whether it was self-inflicted pain and sorrow
or whether it was something that hurt us that was out of our control, such as
another human being. It is especially important for women to let go of hurt,
bitterness, anger, jealousy, envy, etc., due to the fact that we are the creatures
in whom God chose to allow for a seed to be planted in our womb to bring forth
new life.