Presentation created for a couple retreat about Love, Marriage and Understanding.

1. FSC DC
Pastor Al & Tee Way present:
Strength. Sizzle. Support. Succeed!
Transformation Weekend 2012
Min. Mike and Belinda Brewington

2. Communication
Matt 12:36; We must give an account of every idle word
Prov 18:21; Death and life are in the power of the tongue
The act or process of communicating; facts being
Communicated. The imparting or interchange of
thoughts, opinions, or information by speech, writing, or signs.
Something imparted, interchanged, or transmitted.
The major 3 things that can reek havoc in your marriage is:
1.Money 2. Communication 3. Sex

3. Principles
1. How well you communicate can make or break
your marriage.
2. God wants you to have consistently truthful and
open communication with your spouse.
3. For communication within a marriage to be
effective, you must reserve time and energy for
your spouse.
4. You can foster positive communication in your
marriage by using basic communication skills:
expressing, listening and responding.

4. Object Lesson:
Listening Principal #4
A. Write a grocery list of 8 items. Be specific ie.
instead of writing “milk”, write “½ gallon of 2%
milk”.
B. Stand back to back with your spouse.
C. Wives read your list aloud once, no repeats.
Husbands do the same.
D. With no help from each other, write down what you
heard.

5. Object Lesson:
Listening Principal #4, cont.
E. Make a new list of 8 items. Be specific.
F. Stand face to face with your spouse.
G. Wives read your list aloud, you can repeat the item if
necessary. Also, husbands you can ask questions.
Husbands do the same.

6. Expressing and Responding
SENDER: Step One
Listen to your inner self.
Determine what it is you think feel,
or need.
Choose carefully the words gestures,
and emotions that will accurately
reflect the message you wish to send.

7. RECEIVER: Step Two
Put aside your thoughts and feelings.
Listen to and observe the words,
body language, and feelings of the
other person.
Rephrase in your own words what
you think the sender is trying to say.

8. SENDER: Step Three
Affirm that you indeed said what
you meant and that your message
was received accurately.
Clarify, rephrase or add to your
message.

9. Intimacy
Eph 5:25-33; Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loves the church….wives
respect your husband.
A close, familiar, and usually affectionate or loving personal
relationship with another person.
Intimacy does not mean sexual intercourse
It means is:
Communicating Being sensitive to each other
Talking Caressing
Listening Embracing
Holding Hands Saying I Love You

10. True intimacy comes only when you seek God
as a couple and let Him knit your hearts
together.
You can grow spiritual intimacy in your
marriage by regularly praying and studying the
Bible together.
Never allow anyone to occupy that intimate
place in your heart, that place is for your
spouse only.

11. Romance
1 Corn 6:20; …..Glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.
1 Corn 7:2,5; ….Do not deny yourselves to each other…
Characterized by a preoccupation with love or by the idealizing of love
or one's beloved. Displaying or expressing love or strong affection.
1. God is pleased when you make Love to your spouse.
2. Make sure you appeal to all five senses. Song of Solomon 1
Smell Hearing
Taste Touch
Sight
3. Apply passionate words.
4. Be sure to use visual and sensual communication.
Visions of You
By: C.J. Walker

12. Love
Letter
Exercise

13. May
I Have
This Dance?
Let’s Sizzle!